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(320, 2, '2017-06-08 01:56:27', '2017-06-07 23:56:27', '&nbsp;\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">How our Inevitable </span></span></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><b>Fear of Life </b></span></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">prevents us from commitment</span></span></span></span></span></h1>\n<div><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\">\n</b>\n<h3><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\">Commitment &amp; Intimacy</b></h3>\n</div>\n<div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">Commitment in a relationship is not just hard for men, it is for everyone. When I say commitment, I\'m not just talking about getting married, being in a monogamous relationship, buying a house, having a dog and kids together. It has to do with commitment to yourself and to </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>life</b></span></span><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">itself. It\'s being intimate with your partner on a profound level that few people achieve, yet everyone has the capacity.</span></span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> Whether your Christian, Muslim, Jewish, Buddhist, Atheist or Agnostic and you\'ve read the Bible or the Qu r’an a hundred times or that you believe in reincarnation or none of the above. No one REALLY knows for a fact what happens when we die. You can believe all you want, but you\'ll never be able to be 100% sure of the outcome. The only thing we are actually sure of is that we are born, we live and then we die. That is one of the reasons that people are afraid of </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">truly</span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">living. </span></span></span></span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\">Fear of Life</span></span></b></span></span></h3>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> True commitment to life is investing your entire self to making the most of the few years we have on Earth. It\'s feeling joy, sadness, anger, passion, love, having a good taste of what life has to offer us. You could think that it\'s an easy task to achieve for most, but think again. Since we only have one life to live that we are sure of, we could imagine that we would all want to be happy and enjoy it to the fullest. What most people don\'t want to admit in enjoying life to its fullest is that it comes with a huge risk...</span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">you lose it all </span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">when death comes knocking at your door. That\'s a hard feat for anyone to accept and go through. </span></span></span></span></span>\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\n</span></span></span></span></span>\n\n<hr />\n\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\n</span></span></span></span></span>\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-e4uXLJHSc70/UVNZA_H4_vI/AAAAAAAAAGo/J-F1fb-kAVI/s1600/557333_10152091522870015_18081991_n.jpg\"><img src=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-e4uXLJHSc70/UVNZA_H4_vI/AAAAAAAAAGo/J-F1fb-kAVI/s320/557333_10152091522870015_18081991_n.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"240\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\n</span></span></span></span></span>\n\n</div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\n\n<hr />\n\n</div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\">Commitment to your partner</span></span></b></span></span></h3>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> What does commitment to your partner have to do with death or our fear of life? Commitment to a relationship is putting effort and hard work into building something with that person. These «  team projects  » that you co-create with your lover bring lots of joy, sometimes disappointments and at the end you feel a sense of accomplishment. You grow closer, more intimate and your feelings deepen for one another. The love you have for yourself, your partner and potentially your kids create a sense of fulfilment. Knowing that you may never know or feel that sensation again can be quite scary. It\'s quite understandable not to want to lose such a thing, </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">so better to never have it at all</span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">. Therefore, people escape from commitment to a partner not so much because of the hardships it sometimes entails, but of the happiness it can make us feel. </span></span></span></span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>How can I overcome this?</b></span></span></span></h3>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> Some may want to know how you get passed your fear of life and commit to yourself, your partner and life! Unfortunately, there is no easy answer, because we all have to go through and passed our anxiety of death in our own way. Each of us has </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">chosen </span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">a path to take and we have to live with the good and the bad of each of the situations.</span></span></span></span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\n\n<hr />\n\n</div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></span></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-family: Times;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-2ADTVyZkc7Q/UVNZGcQGBjI/AAAAAAAAAG0/uL2iXRxLPYU/s1600/428164_10150743830001800_515151799_11579975_441050559_n.jpg\"><img src=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-2ADTVyZkc7Q/UVNZGcQGBjI/AAAAAAAAAG0/uL2iXRxLPYU/s320/428164_10150743830001800_515151799_11579975_441050559_n.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"243\" border=\"0\" /></a></span></span></span>\n<span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">\n</span></span>\n\n<hr />\n\n<span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">\n</span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\n\n<hr />\n\n</div>\n<div style=\"color: black; font-size: x-large; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\n</div>\n</div>\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\n\n<style type=\"text/css\">\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br />	/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />	   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br /></style>\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\n</label>\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\n<div style=\"position: absolute; left: -5000px;\"><input tabindex=\"-1\" name=\"b_b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d_fd88d57b31\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"clear\"><input id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe\" class=\"button\" name=\"subscribe\" type=\"submit\" value=\"Subscribe\" /></div>\n</div>\n</form></div>\n<script type=\'text/javascript\' src=\'//s3.amazonaws.com/downloads.mailchimp.com/js/mc-validate.js\'></script><script type=\'text/javascript\'>(function($) {window.fnames = new Array(); window.ftypes = new Array();fnames[0]=\'EMAIL\';ftypes[0]=\'email\';fnames[1]=\'FNAME\';ftypes[1]=\'text\';fnames[2]=\'LNAME\';ftypes[2]=\'text\';}(jQuery));var $mcj = jQuery.noConflict(true);</script>\n<!--End mc_embed_signup-->', 'Why it\'s Hard to TRULY Commit to our Relationships', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '63-autosave-v1', '', '', '2017-06-08 01:56:27', '2017-06-07 23:56:27', '', 63, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/63-autosave-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
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(323, 2, '2017-06-08 01:58:35', '2017-06-07 23:58:35', '&nbsp;\r\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">How our Inevitable </span></span></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><b>Fear of Life </b></span></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">prevents us from commitment</span></span></span></span></span></h1>\r\n<div><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\">\r\n</b>\r\n<h3><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\">Commitment &amp; Intimacy</b></h3>\r\n</div>\r\n<div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">Commitment in a relationship is not just hard for men, it is for everyone. When I say commitment, I\'m not just talking about getting married, being in a monogamous relationship, buying a house, having a dog and kids together. It has to do with commitment to yourself and to </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>life </b></span></span><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">itself. It\'s being intimate with your partner on a profound level that few people achieve, yet everyone has the capacity.</span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> Whether your Christian, Muslim, Jewish, Buddhist, Atheist or Agnostic and you\'ve read the Bible or the Qu r’an a hundred times or that you believe in reincarnation or none of the above. No one REALLY knows for a fact what happens when we die. You can believe all you want, but you\'ll never be able to be 100% sure of the outcome. The only thing we are actually sure of is that we are born, we live and then we die. That is one of the reasons that people are afraid of </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">truly </span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">living. </span></span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\">Fear of Life</span></span></b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> True commitment to life is investing your entire self to making the most of the few years we have on Earth. It\'s feeling joy, sadness, anger, passion, love, having a good taste of what life has to offer us. You could think that it\'s an easy task to achieve for most, but think again. Since we only have one life to live that we are sure of, we could imagine that we would all want to be happy and enjoy it to the fullest. What most people don\'t want to admit in enjoying life to its fullest is that it comes with a huge risk...</span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">you lose it all </span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">when death comes knocking at your door. That\'s a hard feat for anyone to accept and go through. </span></span></span></span></span>\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\r\n</span></span></span></span></span>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\r\n</span></span></span></span></span>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-e4uXLJHSc70/UVNZA_H4_vI/AAAAAAAAAGo/J-F1fb-kAVI/s1600/557333_10152091522870015_18081991_n.jpg\"><img src=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-e4uXLJHSc70/UVNZA_H4_vI/AAAAAAAAAGo/J-F1fb-kAVI/s320/557333_10152091522870015_18081991_n.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"240\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\r\n</span></span></span></span></span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\">Commitment to your partner</span></span></b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> What does commitment to your partner have to do with death or our fear of life? Commitment to a relationship is putting effort and hard work into building something with that person. These «  team projects  » that you co-create with your lover bring lots of joy, sometimes disappointments and at the end you feel a sense of accomplishment. You grow closer, more intimate and your feelings deepen for one another. The love you have for yourself, your partner and potentially your kids create a sense of fulfilment. Knowing that you may never know or feel that sensation again can be quite scary. It\'s quite understandable not to want to lose such a thing, </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">so better to never have it at all</span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">. Therefore, people escape from commitment to a partner not so much because of the hardships it sometimes entails, but of the happiness it can make us feel. </span></span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>How can I overcome this?</b></span></span></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> Some may want to know how you get passed your fear of life and commit to yourself, your partner and life! Unfortunately, there is no easy answer, because we all have to go through and passed our anxiety of death in our own way. Each of us has </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">chosen </span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">a path to take and we have to live with the good and the bad of each of the situations.</span></span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-family: Times;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-2ADTVyZkc7Q/UVNZGcQGBjI/AAAAAAAAAG0/uL2iXRxLPYU/s1600/428164_10150743830001800_515151799_11579975_441050559_n.jpg\"><img src=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-2ADTVyZkc7Q/UVNZGcQGBjI/AAAAAAAAAG0/uL2iXRxLPYU/s320/428164_10150743830001800_515151799_11579975_441050559_n.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"243\" border=\"0\" /></a></span></span></span>\r\n<span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">\r\n</span></span>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">\r\n</span></span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; 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(324, 2, '2017-06-08 02:02:02', '2017-06-08 00:02:02', '<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\">How they intertwine together!</span></h4>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<div><!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt;   Normal  0  0  1  381  2176  18  4  2672  11.1282     &lt;![endif]--><!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt;   0      0  0   &lt;![endif]--> <!--StartFragment-->\n<div style=\"line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"> <span style=\"font-size: large;\">We all have patterns in our romantic relationships, which have variable impacts on our lives. They often change due to our personal development so they can better serve our needs according to our beliefs, experiences and values related to our perception of love. In other words, they are modifiable in order to protect us and help us grow as individuals. When patterns are unhealthy, they usually make us feel unhappy, lonely, mixed up, rejected and get us into problematic relationships We therefore find ourselves in a vicious cycle of bad choices when it comes to our love life with feelings of disappointment which subsequently affect us.</span></span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> Healthy patterns enable us to personally grow in our couple and the unhealthy ones are trying to protect us maladaptively. The latter are paradoxically comfortable in spite of the many problems they generate, because we can predict them and generate a sense of security. Changing patterns, all different circumstances put aside, causes anxiety for everyone. The feeling of anguish, when it comes to love, decreases motivation to modify patterns. Some people however are capable of changing them, which enables them to grow in the relationships they maintain.</span></span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-0veTlRi6hGg/UQmBPtvuKqI/AAAAAAAAAFI/xyfF-aKplDY/s1600/305103_247437601975108_135306759854860_827389_573023551_n.jpg\"><img src=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-0veTlRi6hGg/UQmBPtvuKqI/AAAAAAAAAFI/xyfF-aKplDY/s320/305103_247437601975108_135306759854860_827389_573023551_n.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"213\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; text-indent: 36px; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\">Romantic patterns begin as soon as we meet another person for the first time In order to answer our pre-established criteria, we make a selection of whom we seduce and who is allowed to flirt with us. When we start to reflect on the people we choose to seduce and those we avoid, one can detect patterns of seduction. It is not rare to flirt with people who we feel at ease with , even if they aren’t always our first choice. We seldom approach individuals who  intimidate us or we do not feel equal to , because we assume, we will be rejected and inevitably hurt. We thus avoid changing our romantic patterns, in spite of the difficulties they create, in order to stay in our comfort zone. </span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\">  </span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\">   In short, when we find ourselves in an unhealthy pattern, we avoid situations where we feel discomfort, fear or ill at ease, However, when we allow ourselves to live moments and situations of seduction that provoke more anxiety, we discover new aspects of ourselves and unexplored relationships are now possible. Awkwardness and missteps should not discourage us because they are part of the process towards change and growth  as a person. Eventually, we find our middle ground and it allows us to become more natural and fluid in being who we are. The next time you find yourselves in a context of flirting, choose the person you are really interested in and approach the ones that intimidate you.</span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\">Dare to take chances and be happily surprised! </span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></span></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\n</div>\n<div></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></span></div>\n<!--EndFragment--></div>', 'Relationship patterns and seduction', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '65-autosave-v1', '', '', '2017-06-08 02:02:02', '2017-06-08 00:02:02', '', 65, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/65-autosave-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(325, 2, '2017-06-08 02:02:56', '2017-06-08 00:02:56', '', 'seduction', '', 'inherit', 'open', 'closed', '', 'performance-sexuelle-2', '', '', '2017-06-08 02:03:12', '2017-06-08 00:03:12', '', 65, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2013/01/Performance-sexuelle-2.jpg', 0, 'attachment', 'image/jpeg', 0),
(327, 2, '2017-06-08 02:06:12', '2017-06-08 00:06:12', '&nbsp;\n<h3><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><b>A Normal phase in Your Sexual Development</b></span></h3>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> Sexual desire is a feeling which pushes us towards the other so that we can answer our sexual needs. People’s sex drive is activated by various factors such as  feelings of love, pleasure, masculinity, femininity, physical features, personality, etc. There is a certain evolution that exists with sexual desire that is also influenced by age and also the length of time that a couple has been together. The majority of couples start with a high level of sexual desire which solidifies the bond between the partners. This period of time is often categorized as very passionate and filled with extremely good sex. Thereafter, attachment between partners is formed, which reinforces a sense of security in the couple. It is not unusual to find a sex life stuck in a routine at this point of the relationship. In fact, a great majority of couples are in a rut when it comes to sex and one or both partners have lost their sexual desire for their lover. This phase is completely normal and to some extent desirable in a couple. </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> This phase is a test, which couples must endure for the growth of the couple leading to better sex. It’s inevitable that we will eventually have learned every single sexual advance and technique our partner uses to seduce and arouse us. Moreover, sexual desire is seldom high when you can predict the sexual behaviors of your partner and the manner with which he or she initiates sex. It is thus necessary to become creative and reinvent yourself sexually with our lover. How to get out of a sex rut when you’re under the impression that you have already tried everything? </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><b>Recognize your couple’s dynamic</b></span></h3>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> First off, we should recognize that we can tend to take for granted our partner when it comes to sex. For example, asking our partner if he or she wants to have a sexual relationship right before going to sleep while your lying down on the bed, without having seduced them during the evening, doesn’t show that you’ve put a great deal of interest and effort for it. Various reasons explain our lack of creativity in our sex lives. We tend to be shy or awkward, afraid that the other will reject us or look ridiculous, etc. This consequently diminishes our self-esteem when it comes to our capacity to seduce and turn on our partner. We thus prefer to put the least effort possible to avoid getting hurt in the process. For example, a person who would use her or his major assets to seduce their partner and receives as an answer: “I don’t want to tonight!”. will be much more disappointed than the person who does nothing but ask for a sexual relationship right before they go to sleep. </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> Couples who will succeed in overcoming this inevitable hardship have some characteristics to help them out. Primarily, it is necessary to be ready to take chances and to get out of our comfort zone. To be able to develop our sexual maturity, it is necessary to leave the things we do best behind and to tolerate a certain discomfort even though we will probably find some obstacles on the way. It is necessary to learn how to accept our discomfort, our awkwardness and to dare to be truly naked, in the figurative and nonfigurative sense of the term, vis-a-vis our partner. It thus requires that we integrate a higher level of intimacy which is necessarily anxiety-provoking. If one agrees to show his or her true sexual self with a partner by exposing all our sexual preferences, fantasies and our most profound sexual desires, it is necessary to tolerate that our other half will not necessarily share the same pleasures.</span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><b>Getting out of our comfort zone</b></span></h3>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> It requires however to understand that the introduction of innovation into our sex lives is always unilateral. Sometimes, we must push the comfort zone of our partner to reach a more mature sexuality. On the other hand, that does not mean that we must force our partner with sexual activities that he or she does not want to undertake. One must understand that the changes we bring in our sexual scenarios requires a certain effort and that we should not accept that our partner decides to stagnate in his or her sexual development. Each partner plays the crucial role of constantly pushing their own limits and comfort level when it comes to their sexuality and that of their partner. If not, it is inevitable that the quality of sex in the couple will decrease and sexual desire will disappear. </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><b>A bit of advice!</b></span></h3>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> To conclude, here are three short phrases summarizing the preceding elements:</span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> 1. If one does not <b>GO</b> after what they want, they’ll never have it.</span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> 2. If one never asks, the answer will always be“<b>NO</b>”.</span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> 3. If you do not step forward, you’ll always remain in the same place.</span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> W</span>hen you do not have any more sexual desire for your partner, s<span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\">eize the opportunity that arises in front of you to grow and become more mature sexually</span>!<span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\">\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></div>\n</div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>', 'A lack of sexual desire is good for your couple!', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '66-autosave-v1', '', '', '2017-06-08 02:06:12', '2017-06-08 00:06:12', '', 66, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/66-autosave-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
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(330, 2, '2017-06-08 02:09:36', '2017-06-08 00:09:36', '<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">Real Intimacy is hard for everyone</span></span></h1>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 14px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 14px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> We tend to assume that in couples with a high frequency of arguments that there is a lack of communication. It’s actually wrong to think that way, as it is impossible for 2 people in any kind of a relationship of not communicating. We communicate verbally, but most of our communication is actually done non verbally. Messages are rarely miscommunicated between a couple but rather it’s the message from the partner that is hard to accept. Partners who constantly seek to improve the communication in the couple are actually trying to get the message they would like to hear because they have a hard time believing what the other person is truly communicating. Typically, we’ll get one partner or both nagging the other one, so that they eventually get what they want to hear. These couples or individuals lack the capacity to really be intimate with one another. People who are capable of tolerating the intimacy needed in a long term relationship can appreciate the similarities they have with their lover, but also the differences. It is inevitable that we will find the latter in all couples who have been together for a long time. Most often we will find persisting conflicts about money, sex, the education of the kids, personal values and chores around the house.</span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 17.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: large;\">Differences in your couple Make you Grow</span></h3>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> Couples tend to avoid taboo subjects because they don’t want to face the irreconcilable conflicts. This dynamic inevitably creates superficial disagreements between couples, which don’t allow the partners to grow as people and lovers. It is entirely normal for couples to face conflicts of interest one day or the other. The important is not what the differences are or how many, but how we decide to deal with them. Conflicts between couples can serve the partners as a way to learn and better understand each other and themselves. This is the hard part of being in a couple, but down the line it brings couples to strengthen their bond and love between them. </span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 17.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 17.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: large;\">Repeating Patterns</span></h3>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> People are willing to go to great lengths to avoid the real problems in their couple. They’ll put the blame on their partner, justify their actions by all kinds of rationalization pretend to act with good intentions or play dumbfounded, when they actually aren’t. Each of theses strategies and others are the perfect way to push the real conflict aside. On the other hand, sooner or later, the same problems arise and the couple feel as though their differences will never be reconciled. Surprisingly, this dynamic becomes in certain ways comfortable. For most, it’s actually easier to argue perpetually than to accept the reality they face. Our partners are different from us in the way they think, their values, opinions, attitudes, behaviours and beliefs. As simple as this concept might seem, in reality it’s quite difficult to live with these differences and truly accept them. Especially, when they have a direct effect on us, such as our sexual styles and preferences.</span></span>\n<span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\">\n</span></span><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\">\n</span></span>\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-5nPwsIU8iM0/UNR8Udu71SI/AAAAAAAAAD0/CK563bVmOPI/s1600/images.jpeg\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><img src=\"http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-5nPwsIU8iM0/UNR8Udu71SI/AAAAAAAAAD0/CK563bVmOPI/s1600/images.jpeg\" border=\"0\" /></span></a></div>\n<span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\">\n</span></span><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\">\n</span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 17.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> Conflicts in couples are inevitable, but must be dealt with adequately. It’s important to know ourselves well and have good self-esteem, while being firm with our positions yet still be flexible when it comes to a tense subject. People who have a hard time with intimacy are either very rigid in their interactions because, their partners’ differences are seen as threats to their identity (beliefs, opinions, values, etc.) or people are easily influenced by their negating their own identity and therefore avoid creating divergences with their lovers’.</span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 17.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: large;\">Beware of Compromise</span></h3>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> It often happens that couple’s conflicts aren\'t settled within the first discussion. In fact, that allows each partner to reflect on the other’s opinion to discuss it another time. Compromise always lets one or both partner’s with a sour taste in their mouth, because you have to comply with the other one’s demands. It is much better to find a consensus that both partners desire. Therefore, it’s important to be flexible in our opinions, values and beliefs without feeling threatened in our solid identity. If you can’t find a consensus then you have to find a way that you can tolerate it.</span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 17.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> Finally, when a couple faces these hardships, it’s important that they deal with the intimacy that is developing between each other. To do so, we must accept that our partner is different from us, which is easier said than done. We must tolerate the anxiety provoked by the conflicts by staying firm to our convictions, yet taking the time to consider the other’s opinion while confronting ourselves to arrive at a consensus rather than a compromise. It is not the differences and similarities that determine a couple’s success, but rather how we deal with them and the perception we have of our lover in the process. </span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 17.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 17.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\">\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\n</div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> </span></div>', 'Couple’s Communication Issues or Unable to Tolerate Intimacy?', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '67-autosave-v1', '', '', '2017-06-08 02:09:36', '2017-06-08 00:09:36', '', 67, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/67-autosave-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
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(335, 2, '2017-06-08 02:13:41', '2017-06-08 00:13:41', '<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\">Laws of the Body*</span></h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>\r\n\r\n<!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt; Normal 0 0 1 821 4683 39 9 5751 11.1282 &lt;![endif]--><!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt; 0 0 0 &lt;![endif]--> <!--StartFragment-->\r\n<h3><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"><b>Mind and Body Are One</b></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify; text-indent: 35.4pt;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">Although, it seems that our society has separated the mind from the body as two separate entities, sexuality, the body and the mind are inseparable. Some people tend to advocate that the brain is the biggest sexual organ of the human being. That is a half-truth since the brain is actually part of the body.  According to the «Sexocorporel», mind and body are interdependent of each other because one always affects the other. Feelings are felt through the body not our heads. This concept is called mind/body where our bodily movements (breathing, gestures, postures, etc.) have an impact on our mind (emotions, beliefs, self-esteem, sexual fantasies, etc.) The laws of the body which consist of muscle tension, our speed and the space we use, can help us on different levels of our sexuality. More specifically, the functions of the three laws of the body allow us to modulate our sexual arousal, augment our sexual pleasure, expand our sexual imagination and change our perception about sex. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify; text-indent: 35.4pt;\"></div>\r\n<h3><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"><b>Sexual Arousal &amp; Sexual Pleasure</b></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">   First and foremost, it’s important that we make the distinction between sexual arousal and sexual pleasure. The former is the physiological response our bodies have when we are stimulated sexually (touching, hugging, caressing, kissing, masturbating, etc.). Men will have an erection while women will lubricate. On the other hand, sexual pleasure is how we feel about the experience whether it be good or bad. It is absolutely possible to be sexually aroused, yet feel no pleasure during a sexual activity. Even though, we are in love with our partner and are capable of having an orgasm, our subjective experience might not be as pleasurable as we would like. It’s not rare to find people who get cramps during sex, which diminishes the enjoyment of our sex life. Fortunately, we can heighten our pleasure with the three laws of the body, if we know how to explore their potential.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<h3><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">Muscular Tension</span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">     Our muscular tensions play a crucial role when it comes to our sexual arousal. For the human body to get aroused there needs to be a certain amount of muscular tension in the area of the genitals. The buttocks, p</span><span lang=\"FR-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">ubococcygeus</span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"> (PC), abdominal and pelvic muscles are the most solicited during our sexual activities. The contraction and relaxation of theses muscles augment the blood towards our genitals which increases sexual arousal and makes us reach orgasm. It’s important to consider that our muscles can be hyper-contracted which can create cramps or too relaxed which becomes unpleasant as the sexual tension is not released.  </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-IC0xr3U7oj8/ULvqNNSG74I/AAAAAAAAADA/E2yI-Q3XtcU/s1600/slide_212102_745697_free.jpg\"><img src=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-IC0xr3U7oj8/ULvqNNSG74I/AAAAAAAAADA/E2yI-Q3XtcU/s320/slide_212102_745697_free.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"232\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 19px;\">    The movements of the upper body such as shoulder, neck, back, and pectoral muscles access the emotional part of us. When we laugh, cry, feel joy, pleasure, etc. there is inevitably a contraction and relaxation (movement) of those muscles. When it comes to sexual pleasure the same principal comes into play. As our sexual arousal increases so do our muscular tensions in our entire body. Therefore to access even more sexual pleasure we can create more fluidity by moving our upper body in different directions to feel the various sensations during a sexual activity.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"><b>Speed of our Movements</b></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">     The speed of our movements also plays an important role in the sexual arousal and pleasure. When we slow down our bodies’ movements we are more aware of the diverse sensations of touching our partner. Futhermore, slowness allows us to relax our muscles and feel more sexual pleasure. Increasing the speed of our movements will inevitably make our muscles contract more, which escalates our sexual arousal so that we may reach orgasm. Hence, by playing with various speeds during sex we can modulate our sexual arousal to then increase our sexual pleasure and feel every different sensation that our bodies are capable of providing us.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"><b>Inner &amp; Outer Space of the Body</b></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b></b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">    We can divide the space of our body into 2 types of category: inner and outer. The former is related to the style of breathing that we use. A deep, slow &amp; abdominal breath will relax our muscles and allow to better feel our body. This relaxation will cause our movements to be slower and amplify our sexual pleasure. On the other hand, a short, rapid and thoracic breath will generate sexual arousal by contracting our muscles and increasing our speed.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">   The space that we use outside of our body is the expression of our movements such as arms, legs, neck, pelvis, hips, etc. Movement is how the body feels pleasure. It would be hard to imagine someone feeling extreme pleasure in an immobilized state of his or her body. The more space we use with our body, the more our muscles contract and relax to provoke the movement. We are then capable of feeling numerous sensations that we would feel in a more limited space. Consequently, the more sensation we feel by diffusing our sexual pleasure throughout the entire body, the less we can concentrate in one particular area. Therefore, when we limit the movement we can concentrate our sexual arousal towards the genitals for example and have an orgasm. Once again, increasing and decreasing the space we utilize during our sexual activity will allow us to explore our sexual arousal and pleasure in different ways. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">Just Have Fun!</span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 19px;\">  In conclusion, it’s important to remember that sexual arousal and sexual pleasure aren’t opposites. People can feel both at the same time. What is important is to find balance between these two concepts so that we can enjoy our sexual activities to the fullest. Therefore, enjoy exploring the three laws of the body and all areas of your sex life in various ways as to modulate your sexual arousal to make it last longer and heighten your sexual pleasure to enjoy even more. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 19px;\">\r\n</span><span style=\"font-size: 19px;\">\r\n</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;\">* Inspired by the Sexocorporel approach</span></div>\r\n<!--EndFragment-->\r\n\r\n</div>', 'Sex, The Body and Your Mind', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '68-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-08 02:13:41', '2017-06-08 00:13:41', '', 68, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/68-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
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The way<big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big> <big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big>you <big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big>will manage that difference will have a tremendous impact on each partner’s desire and the pleasure you will get out of sex. Ch<big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big>anging our <big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big>relationship patterns is a hard thing to do. 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text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><iframe class=\"YOUTUBE-iframe-video\" src=\"http://www.youtube.com/embed/_RV1zy4LDO0?feature=player_embedded\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/_RV1zy4LDO0/default.jpg?sqp=CLzPm6gF&amp;rs=AOn4CLCyaC1vbEt_C4lQBUp_qRniILxYEw\"></iframe></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\">\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" /></div>\r\n</form></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Handle your relationship\'s conflict differently by viewing your partner and yourself in a more healthy manner.</h4>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">How do you handle differences?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Do you tend to avoid conflicts?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Do you argue a lot with your spouse, but nothing get\'s resolved?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Are you manipulative or easily change your mind, but regret it afterward?</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video18\">Do you really want to change?</a></h3>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; 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(341, 2, '2017-06-22 16:46:45', '2017-06-22 14:46:45', '<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/nice-guy-syndrome.html#video1\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Nice Guy &amp; THE Friend Zone</span></a></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montral.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/nice-guy-syndrome.html#video2\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Nice Guy &amp; Lack of Honesty</span></a></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montral.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/nice-guy-syndrome.html#video3\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Nice Guy &amp; Sexual Difficulty</span></a></div>\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\n<div>\n<div>\n<h2></h2>\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=1c8ad4cc63\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"novalidate\" target=\"_blank\">\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\n<h2></h2>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: \'verdana\'; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\">Have you been stuck in the friend zone for too long? 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(343, 2, '2017-06-22 16:49:31', '2017-06-22 14:49:31', '<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/maintaining-sexual-desire-in-longterm.html#video10\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Phases of Sexual Desire in a Couple</span></a></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/maintaining-sexual-desire-in-longterm.html#video11\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Low sexual desire: A normal and desirable outcome</span></a></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/maintaining-sexual-desire-in-longterm.html#video12\">Importance of intimacy for your sexual desire</a></span></div>\n<span style=\"font-size: large;\">Have you ever asked yourself if it was normal to lose your sexual desire towards your partner after a certain time? Could you believe that it is even <b>desirable</b> for your relationships? Learn in this webseries how to get past this obstacle that can be a very delicate situation for many couples.</span>\n<h2></h2>\n&nbsp;\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"novalidate\" target=\"_blank\">\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\n</label>\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\n<div style=\"left: -5000px; 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text-align: center;\">\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/_34brvOTBXA/default.jpg?sqp=CJD8qKQF&amp;rs=AOn4CLDLmArMM9Ms_V7P8eqeMr5qIsTxAg\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/_34brvOTBXA?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/_34brvOTBXA?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\n</div>\n&nbsp;\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\">\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" />\n<input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"VH4H5YSDR8Y36\" />\n<input alt=\"PayPal - The safer, easier way to pay online!\" name=\"submit\" src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/btn/btn_buynow_SM.gif\" type=\"image\" />\n<img src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/scr/pixel.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" border=\"0\" /> 3 videos for 10$</div>\n</form></div>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Intimacy is your capacity to be authentic and have integrity. Also a great source of sexual desire in long term relationships.</h4>\n&nbsp;\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Are you truly intimate with your partner?</div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Can you tolerate the discomfort of intimacy?</div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Would you be able to share your most intimate thoughts and fantasies with your partner?</div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\n\nAre you willing to admit to yourself and your partner that your sex life just isn\'t that satisfying?\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sexologist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></div>\n</div>', 'Webserie 03: Maintaining Sexual Desire in Long Term Relationships', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '42-autosave-v1', '', '', '2017-06-22 16:49:31', '2017-06-22 14:49:31', '', 42, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/42-autosave-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(345, 2, '2017-06-22 16:53:09', '2017-06-22 14:53:09', '<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/10/webseries-art-of-seduction.html#video7\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Seduction &amp; body language</span></a></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/10/webseries-art-of-seduction.html#video8\">Sexual &amp; Affectionate Seduction</a></span></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/10/webseries-art-of-seduction.html#video9\">Masculinity &amp; Femininity: Keys to Flirting</a></span></div>\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=1c8ad4cc63\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\n<h2></h2>\n<span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: \'verdana\'; font-weight: normal; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\">These 3 videos on seduction will capture the importance of body language to increases your flirting potential. They will establish the differences between affectionate and sexual seduction, which is important to distinguish depending on the need you want to be fulfilled. Furthermore, reflections on masculinity &amp; femininity will help you understand the essence of flirting.</span>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: justify;\"></h2>\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\n</label>\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\n<div style=\"left: -5000px; position: absolute;\"><input tabindex=\"-1\" name=\"b_b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d_1c8ad4cc63\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"clear\"><input id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe\" class=\"button\" name=\"subscribe\" type=\"submit\" value=\"Subscribe\" /></div>\n</div>\n</form></div>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: left;\"></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: left;\"></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: left;\"></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: left;\"></div>\n&nbsp;\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video7\">Seduction &amp; body language</a></h2>\n</div>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"320\" height=\"266\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/heywpSUDOnY/default.jpg?sqp=CNyYuaIF&amp;rs=AOn4CLCxjGy33A8U2vrDf9jiEMphrc-7FA\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/heywpSUDOnY?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/heywpSUDOnY?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\n<h4>Learn how to flirt with your body language and the importance of keeping seduction in your couple</h4>\nHow do you use your body to seduce a partner?\nAre you afraid of being rejected?\nDo you still flirt and seduce your partner?\nWhat type of flirting turns you on?\n<input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"RWDSCPTUH69LN\" />\n\n</div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video8\">Sexual &amp; 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Femininity: Keys to Flirting</a></h2>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"320\" height=\"266\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/7-bzoso8f6Q/default.jpg?sqp=COCfuaIF&amp;rs=AOn4CLAFq80EE8cyYcVQlY5AxY_csXDUEg\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/7-bzoso8f6Q?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/7-bzoso8f6Q?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\n</div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\n<h4>The way you feel about being a man and a woman influences your capacity to flirt</h4>\nWhat makes you feel manly?\nWhat does it take to be a woman, not a girl?\nWhat are your feminine and masculine traits?\nWho gets to decide those criteria\'s anyways?\n<input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"RWDSCPTUH69LN\" />\n<input alt=\"PayPal - The safer, easier way to pay online!\" name=\"submit\" src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/btn/btn_buynow_SM.gif\" type=\"image\" />\n<img src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/scr/pixel.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" border=\"0\" /> 3 videos on seduction\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-size: medium; 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(350, 2, '2017-06-22 16:58:56', '2017-06-22 14:58:56', '<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video0\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Introductory Video to the Program</span></a>\n<u></u>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video1\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Sexual Desire, Arousal &amp; Pleasure</span></a></div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video2\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Pleasure &amp; space</span></a></div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video3\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Speed &amp; Muscle Tension</span></a>\n<u></u></div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video4\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Sexual Mode of Arousal Part 1</span></a></div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video4\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Sexual Mode of Arousal Part 2</span></a></div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video6\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Sexual Fluidity</span></a>\n<u></u></div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video7\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Rapid Ejaculation: Generalized Speed</span></a></div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video7\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Rapid Ejaculation: Deep anxieties</span></a></div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video7\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Rapid Ejaculation: Sexual Presence</span></a>\n<u></u></div>\n<div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video10\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Fragile Masculinity &amp; Conclusion</span></a></div>\n<div></div>\n&nbsp;\n<div></div>\n</div>\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\n\n<style type=\"text/css\">\n #mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br /> /* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />    We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br /></style>\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=1c8ad4cc63\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\n<h2></h2>\n<h2></h2>\n<h2></h2>\n<h2></h2>\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> </label><input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label><input id=\"mce-FNAME\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label><input id=\"mce-LNAME\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\n<div><input tabindex=\"-1\" name=\"b_b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d_1c8ad4cc63\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"clear\">\n\n<input id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe\" class=\"button\" name=\"subscribe\" type=\"submit\" value=\"Subscribe\" />\n\n&nbsp;\n\n</div>\n</div>\n</form></div>\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video0\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">INTRODUCTION TO PROGRAM</span></a></h2>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/vi/5ih-YrnrgV8/0.jpg\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/5ih-YrnrgV8?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/5ih-YrnrgV8?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\n<div></div>\n<div><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\">&nbsp;\n\n</form></div>\n<div></div>\n<h3>PART 1</h3>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video1\"></a></h3>\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video1\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video1\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Sexual Desire, Arousal &amp; Pleasure</span></a></h2>\n<div><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video1\"> </a></div>\n<div class=\"separator\"></div>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/rxQ3C-12ANE/default.jpg?sqp=CPj3kKUF&amp;rs=AOn4CLCM8zosm_Mf1A52THpkYpUN0mYTNg\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/rxQ3C-12ANE?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/rxQ3C-12ANE?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<div><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\"></form></div>\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video2\"></a></h3>\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video2\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video2\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Pleasure &amp; Space</span></a></h2>\n<div class=\"separator\"></div>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/1ofVgWX2vX8/default.jpg?sqp=CPj3kKUF&amp;rs=AOn4CLD7KbYpf0PXE50KsU5FKupiOm6y3g\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/1ofVgWX2vX8?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/1ofVgWX2vX8?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\n<div></div>\n<div><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\"><input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" /> <input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"2FG78R8DNUYGC\" /></form></div>\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video3\"></a></h3>\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video3\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video3\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Speed &amp; 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text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/ZbKdu1hV2ro/default.jpg?sqp=COCTm6UF&amp;rs=AOn4CLC7ZPYlyMaNN7AXxODBXZhXXmCzjA\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/ZbKdu1hV2ro?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/ZbKdu1hV2ro?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\n<div></div>\n<div><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\"><input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" /> <input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"2FG78R8DNUYGC\" /></form></div>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video6\"></a></h3>\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video6\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video6\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Sexual Fluidity</span></a></h2>\n<div></div>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/3v0brHySK1A/default.jpg?sqp=CLSRm6UF&amp;rs=AOn4CLBBVpm9nH10Zv_OXWAt_QwyP0b7VQ\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/3v0brHySK1A?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/3v0brHySK1A?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\n<div></div>\n<div><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\"></form>\n<h3>PART 3</h3>\n</div>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video7\"></a></h3>\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video7\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video7\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Rapid Ejaculation: Generalized Speediness</span></a></h2>\n<div class=\"separator\"></div>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/5NwPclhU77E/default.jpg?sqp=CKT6kKUF&amp;rs=AOn4CLDKmhMQlGQ1gpwITEfjzi3I7F85pQ\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/5NwPclhU77E?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/5NwPclhU77E?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\n<div></div>\n<div><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\"><input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" /> <input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"2FG78R8DNUYGC\" /></form></div>\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video8\"></a></h3>\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video8\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video8\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video7\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Rapid Ejaculation: Deep Anxieties</span></a></h2>\n<div class=\"separator\"></div>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; 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(359, 2, '2017-06-29 18:14:34', '2017-06-29 16:14:34', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2016/08/there-is-no-such-thing-as-a-lack-of-communication.html\"><strong>mind-map</strong></a> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back an old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4> How to increase our emotional maturity?</h4>\r\nWhen you are faced with a conflict try to act in a <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\"><strong>collaborative manner</strong></a>. If you feel that what you are saying or doing isn\'t helping the dialogue:\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Take a step back and breathe</li>\r\n 	<li>Reflect on what the other is trying to tell you</li>\r\n 	<li>Add something that will make the conversation progress and not digress</li>\r\n 	<li>Remain calm and listen to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Try not to argue or poke holes in what they are saying</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t change the subject, bring up old wounds or be mean to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t be selfish and see yourself as the victim</li>\r\n 	<li>Avoid trying to WIN the argument, you\'ll both be losers at the end anyway if you do that</li>\r\n 	<li>Be respectful and apologize when you feel that you were in the wrong</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t pout or act like a child, be a mature adult</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"> <img class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-374\" src=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2017/06/sex-therapist-montreal--300x169.jpg\" alt=\"sex therapist montreal\" width=\"300\" height=\"169\" /></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like these? 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(362, 2, '2017-06-27 01:33:45', '2017-06-26 23:33:45', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <strong>mind-map</strong> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person.', 'Emotional intelligence and emotional maturity', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '359-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-27 01:33:45', '2017-06-26 23:33:45', '', 359, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/359-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0);
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(363, 2, '2017-06-29 15:47:46', '2017-06-29 13:47:46', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <strong>mind-map</strong> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back and old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;', 'Emotional intelligence and emotional maturity', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '359-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-29 15:47:46', '2017-06-29 13:47:46', '', 359, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/359-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(365, 2, '2017-06-29 15:58:00', '2017-06-29 13:58:00', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <strong>mind-map</strong> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back and old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4></h4>\r\n&nbsp;', 'Emotional intelligence and emotional maturity', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '359-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-29 15:58:00', '2017-06-29 13:58:00', '', 359, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/359-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(366, 2, '2017-06-29 18:14:34', '2017-06-29 16:14:34', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <strong>mind-map</strong> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back and old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4> How to increase our emotional maturity?</h4>\r\nWhen you are faced with a conflict try to act in a <strong>collaborative manner</strong>. If you feel that what you are saying or doing isn\'t helping the dialogue:\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Take a step back and breathe</li>\r\n 	<li>Reflect on what the other is trying to tell you</li>\r\n 	<li>Add something that will make the conversation progress and not digress</li>\r\n 	<li>Remain calm and listen to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Try not to argue or poke holes in what they are saying</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t change the subject, bring up old wounds or be mean to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t be selfish and see yourself as the victim</li>\r\n 	<li>Avoid trying to WIN the argument, you\'ll both be losers at the end anyway if you do that</li>\r\n 	<li>Be respectful and apologize when you feel that you were in the wrong</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t pout or act like a child, be an mature adult</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;', 'Emotional intelligence and emotional maturity', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '359-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-29 18:14:34', '2017-06-29 16:14:34', '', 359, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/359-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(367, 2, '2017-08-04 16:00:59', '2017-08-04 14:00:59', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2016/08/there-is-no-such-thing-as-a-lack-of-communication.html\"><strong>mind-map</strong></a> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back an old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4> How to increase our emotional maturity?</h4>\r\nWhen you are faced with a conflict try to act in a <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\"><strong>collaborative manner</strong></a>. If you feel that what you are saying or doing isn\'t helping the dialogue:\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Take a step back and breathe</li>\r\n 	<li>Reflect on what the other is trying to tell you</li>\r\n 	<li>Add something that will make the conversation progress and not digress</li>\r\n 	<li>Remain calm and listen to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Try not to argue or poke holes in what they are saying</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t change the subject, bring up old wounds or be mean to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t be selfish and see yourself as the victim</li>\r\n 	<li>Avoid trying to WIN the argument, you\'ll both be losers at the end anyway if you do that</li>\r\n 	<li>Be respectful and apologize when you feel that you were in the wrong</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t pout or act like a child, be a mature adult</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"> <img class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-374\" src=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2017/06/sex-therapist-montreal--300x169.jpg\" alt=\"sex therapist montreal\" width=\"300\" height=\"169\" /></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like these? 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(368, 2, '2017-06-29 18:17:39', '2017-06-29 16:17:39', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2016/08/there-is-no-such-thing-as-a-lack-of-communication.html\"><strong>mind-map</strong></a> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back and old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4> How to increase our emotional maturity?</h4>\r\nWhen you are faced with a conflict try to act in a <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\"><strong>collaborative manner</strong></a>. If you feel that what you are saying or doing isn\'t helping the dialogue:\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Take a step back and breathe</li>\r\n 	<li>Reflect on what the other is trying to tell you</li>\r\n 	<li>Add something that will make the conversation progress and not digress</li>\r\n 	<li>Remain calm and listen to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Try not to argue or poke holes in what they are saying</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t change the subject, bring up old wounds or be mean to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t be selfish and see yourself as the victim</li>\r\n 	<li>Avoid trying to WIN the argument, you\'ll both be losers at the end anyway if you do that</li>\r\n 	<li>Be respectful and apologize when you feel that you were in the wrong</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t pout or act like a child, be a mature adult</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;', 'Emotional intelligence and emotional maturity', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '359-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-29 18:17:39', '2017-06-29 16:17:39', '', 359, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/359-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(369, 2, '2017-06-29 18:25:19', '2017-06-29 16:25:19', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2016/08/there-is-no-such-thing-as-a-lack-of-communication.html\"><strong>mind-map</strong></a> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back and old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4> How to increase our emotional maturity?</h4>\r\nWhen you are faced with a conflict try to act in a <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\"><strong>collaborative manner</strong></a>. If you feel that what you are saying or doing isn\'t helping the dialogue:\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Take a step back and breathe</li>\r\n 	<li>Reflect on what the other is trying to tell you</li>\r\n 	<li>Add something that will make the conversation progress and not digress</li>\r\n 	<li>Remain calm and listen to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Try not to argue or poke holes in what they are saying</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t change the subject, bring up old wounds or be mean to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t be selfish and see yourself as the victim</li>\r\n 	<li>Avoid trying to WIN the argument, you\'ll both be losers at the end anyway if you do that</li>\r\n 	<li>Be respectful and apologize when you feel that you were in the wrong</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t pout or act like a child, be a mature adult</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2016/11/francois.jpg\"><img src=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2016/11/francois-278x300.jpg\" width=\"185\" height=\"200\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like these? 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(375, 2, '2017-08-04 16:01:29', '2017-08-04 14:01:29', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2016/08/there-is-no-such-thing-as-a-lack-of-communication.html\"><strong>mind-map</strong></a> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back an old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4> How to increase our emotional maturity?</h4>\r\nWhen you are faced with a conflict try to act in a <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\"><strong>collaborative manner</strong></a>. If you feel that what you are saying or doing isn\'t helping the dialogue:\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Take a step back and breathe</li>\r\n 	<li>Reflect on what the other is trying to tell you</li>\r\n 	<li>Add something that will make the conversation progress and not digress</li>\r\n 	<li>Remain calm and listen to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Try not to argue or poke holes in what they are saying</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t change the subject, bring up old wounds or be mean to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t be selfish and see yourself as the victim</li>\r\n 	<li>Avoid trying to WIN the argument, you\'ll both be losers at the end anyway if you do that</li>\r\n 	<li>Be respectful and apologize when you feel that you were in the wrong</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t pout or act like a child, be a mature adult</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"> <img class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-374\" src=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2017/06/sex-therapist-montreal--300x169.jpg\" alt=\"sex therapist montreal\" width=\"300\" height=\"169\" /></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like these? 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(372, 2, '2017-07-19 19:59:56', '2017-07-19 17:59:56', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2016/08/there-is-no-such-thing-as-a-lack-of-communication.html\"><strong>mind-map</strong></a> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back an old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4> How to increase our emotional maturity?</h4>\r\nWhen you are faced with a conflict try to act in a <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\"><strong>collaborative manner</strong></a>. If you feel that what you are saying or doing isn\'t helping the dialogue:\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Take a step back and breathe</li>\r\n 	<li>Reflect on what the other is trying to tell you</li>\r\n 	<li>Add something that will make the conversation progress and not digress</li>\r\n 	<li>Remain calm and listen to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Try not to argue or poke holes in what they are saying</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t change the subject, bring up old wounds or be mean to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t be selfish and see yourself as the victim</li>\r\n 	<li>Avoid trying to WIN the argument, you\'ll both be losers at the end anyway if you do that</li>\r\n 	<li>Be respectful and apologize when you feel that you were in the wrong</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t pout or act like a child, be a mature adult</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2016/11/francois-278x300.jpg\"><img class=\"alignnone\" src=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2016/11/francois-278x300.jpg\" alt=\"sex therapist montreal\" width=\"185\" height=\"200\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like these? 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(376, 2, '2017-08-07 14:59:33', '2017-08-07 12:59:33', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2016/08/there-is-no-such-thing-as-a-lack-of-communication.html\"><strong>mind-map</strong></a> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<img class=\"aligncenter wp-image-364 size-medium\" src=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2017/06/emotional-intelligence-maturiy-300x190.jpg\" alt=\"emotional intelligence\" width=\"300\" height=\"190\" />\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back an old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4> How to increase our emotional maturity?</h4>\r\nWhen you are faced with a conflict try to act in a <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\"><strong>collaborative manner</strong></a>. If you feel that what you are saying or doing isn\'t helping the dialogue:\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Take a step back and breathe</li>\r\n 	<li>Reflect on what the other is trying to tell you</li>\r\n 	<li>Add something that will make the conversation progress and not digress</li>\r\n 	<li>Remain calm and listen to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Try not to argue or poke holes in what they are saying</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t change the subject, bring up old wounds or be mean to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t be selfish and see yourself as the victim</li>\r\n 	<li>Avoid trying to WIN the argument, you\'ll both be losers at the end anyway if you do that</li>\r\n 	<li>Be respectful and apologize when you feel that you were in the wrong</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t pout or act like a child, be a mature adult</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"> <img class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-374\" src=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2017/06/sex-therapist-montreal--300x169.jpg\" alt=\"sex therapist montreal\" width=\"300\" height=\"169\" /></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like these? 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(389, 2, '2017-09-29 23:41:24', '2017-09-29 21:41:24', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2016/08/there-is-no-such-thing-as-a-lack-of-communication.html\"><strong>mind-map</strong></a> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back an old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4> How to increase our emotional maturity?</h4>\r\nWhen you are faced with a conflict try to act in a <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\"><strong>collaborative manner</strong></a>. If you feel that what you are saying or doing isn\'t helping the dialogue:\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Take a step back and breathe</li>\r\n 	<li>Reflect on what the other is trying to tell you</li>\r\n 	<li>Add something that will make the conversation progress and not digress</li>\r\n 	<li>Remain calm and listen to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Try not to argue or poke holes in what they are saying</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t change the subject, bring up old wounds or be mean to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t be selfish and see yourself as the victim</li>\r\n 	<li>Avoid trying to WIN the argument, you\'ll both be losers at the end anyway if you do that</li>\r\n 	<li>Be respectful and apologize when you feel that you were in the wrong</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t pout or act like a child, be a mature adult</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"> <img class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-374\" src=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2017/06/sex-therapist-montreal--300x169.jpg\" alt=\"sex therapist montreal\" width=\"300\" height=\"169\" /></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like these? 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(377, 2, '2017-08-07 15:00:38', '2017-08-07 13:00:39', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2016/08/there-is-no-such-thing-as-a-lack-of-communication.html\"><strong>mind-map</strong></a> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n[caption id=\"attachment_364\" align=\"aligncenter\" width=\"300\"]<img class=\"wp-image-364 size-medium\" src=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2017/06/emotional-intelligence-maturiy-300x190.jpg\" alt=\"emotional intelligence\" width=\"300\" height=\"190\" /> How intelligent are you? Which intelligence do you have?[/caption]\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back an old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4> How to increase our emotional maturity?</h4>\r\nWhen you are faced with a conflict try to act in a <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\"><strong>collaborative manner</strong></a>. If you feel that what you are saying or doing isn\'t helping the dialogue:\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Take a step back and breathe</li>\r\n 	<li>Reflect on what the other is trying to tell you</li>\r\n 	<li>Add something that will make the conversation progress and not digress</li>\r\n 	<li>Remain calm and listen to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Try not to argue or poke holes in what they are saying</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t change the subject, bring up old wounds or be mean to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t be selfish and see yourself as the victim</li>\r\n 	<li>Avoid trying to WIN the argument, you\'ll both be losers at the end anyway if you do that</li>\r\n 	<li>Be respectful and apologize when you feel that you were in the wrong</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t pout or act like a child, be a mature adult</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"> <img class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-374\" src=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2017/06/sex-therapist-montreal--300x169.jpg\" alt=\"sex therapist montreal\" width=\"300\" height=\"169\" /></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like these? 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(382, 2, '2017-09-29 20:34:14', '2017-09-29 18:34:14', '<h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Honey...I just don\'t understand you!</span></h2>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h3>Everyone says it, nobody gets its!</h3>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">How many times have you said or heard couples or even therapists saying how communication in a relationship is key? A million times I suppose. <b>What if I told you communication is rarely if not ever the problem people face in relationships. </b>Would you be surprised? Confused? Intrigued? Angry?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Saying it isn\'t the problem</h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">People have no issues communicating what they want,  even if they don\'t verbally say it out loud. Have you ever heard that communication passes mainly by body language and not verbal words? Communication without body language would be bland, boring and barely comprehensible.  Well, our capacity to read each other through body language is our ability to <b>mind-map each other</b>.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">It is a skill we all develop at the age of four years old in a spontaneous manner and it becomes mature at the age of eleven. It is our primal instincts to interpret and understand other people through body language, their tone of voice and their attitudes.  So even if your partner isn\'t verbally saying things, <b>you are still strongly capable of determining what their desires or intentions might be. </b></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Now, I am not saying we can mind read, but we have a lot of clues as to our spouse\'s moods of the moment. If we didn\'t have this skill, we would never have sex, flirting would be absolutely impossible and you would never be able to have any type of connection with other people.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>Here are a couple of examples you might relate to:</b></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">1) Your spouse comes back from work and you feel that they are upset. Just image how that would look like without them even saying a word.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">2) Your partner is feeling flirtatious and they would like to have sex with you. Again, without saying anything, they are able to transmit to you their intentions and desires. What does that look to you if you picture it?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">3) You are at a family dinner and they say something embarrassing or inappropriate and you want to communicate to them to quit it, without saying a peep. How would you go along doing it?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Are you starting to catch my drift? Well, that is also your capacity to mind-map. We also have an ability to predict where people are going with what they are saying, even though it is written down. <b>Now I could give you some bogus explanation on human evolution and how it was used to save our butts from predators, but that is not important. </b>What is significant is that you have the ability to mind-map.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">So what am I suppose to do with this mind-mapping ability you say?</h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">It is pretty simple. STOP PRETENDING YOU DON\'T HAVE IT! So many couples come into my office saying that they don\'t understand each other and they lack communication skills or that they don\'t communicate. <b>That\'s when I have to refrain myself from having a little smile knowing full well that it isn\'t the case, yet they want to implement that idea in the therapy</b>. That is another mind-mapping ability called <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2016/08/pretending-to-have-communication-issues.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">implanting false beliefs.</a> Which we will get to in another article.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\nMost people don\'t want their spouse to know that they can actually mind-map them. It allows them to pretend they don\'t know what the other wants or that they don\'t understand them when in reality they do. This serves many purposes in relationships that tend to be destructive. <b>When we pretend that we don\'t understand our partner\'s desires and intentions it gives us excuses to avoid doing things that we don\'t want to do.</b> Like having sex! Being nice or emotionally available for them.\r\n\r\nHave you ever kissed your partner wanting to show them you wanted to heat things up and get funky? Then only to receive those duck kisses that let you hang dry (the situation can also be reversed). That is when the partner later says: I didn\'t understand that you wanted sex, it wasn\'t clear! This allows avoiding the <b>\"I don\'t want sex with you\"</b> discussion and putting the blame on the other person for not communicating properly what they wanted. <b>If you had to choose between telling your partner you don\'t desire them or arguing about how you both communicate. Which one would you choose? Most people would take the latter option.</b>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>Mind-mapping also plays a huge role during sex. This sets the mood and tone of your sexual relationship that you are about to have. The way you kiss, touch and what you do will be determined by mind-mapping. Rethink about your last sexual encounter. <b>How did you know when to move on from kissing to touching genitals? How did you know it was time to penetrate or have oral sex? Have you ever felt that your partner wasn\'t that into it or really was hot for you? If you are capable of understanding the flow and movement of sexual activities, then you can mind-map. </b>Not that anyone doesn\'t have the ability anyways! Now, are you still going to pretend that your spouse and yourself don\'t communicate well?</div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"> Understanding, just disagreeing</h3>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>When people come in therapy saying they have \"communication issues\"; what they are really saying is: I don\'t agree with you and I want you to change your mind ASAP. Sometimes, they want the therapist to change their lover\'s mind. It is easier saying that we don\'t understand each other when in reality we perceive things differently from our spouse. <b>We have difficulty in our relationships when we are faced with a partner who doesn\'t want the same things as us.</b> We can take it personally and feel unimportant to them. It can break our perception of who they are as a person. It doesn\'t validate our point of view, which obliges us to confront them. It confronts us to make tough life decisions that we may not want to deal with.</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Can we not agree to disagree?</h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>Nope, you may not! When it comes to negotiating our values, our principles, and our integrity, we cannot agree to disagree. <b>You are faced with constant dilemmas in a relationship where you have to choose between what you want and what your partner wants which more often than not, will not necessarily be the same.</b> You cannot have sex and not have it at the same time. You cannot spend money and save it for later. You cannot clean the house and not clean it. You cannot go to your in-laws at the same time that you stay at home.</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>When we tend to disagree on numerous things in relationships, that\'s when the infamous \"communication issues\" start to arise. Sex, cleaning, in-laws, money and educating the kids are the general subjects we argue the most about. Others are also possible. They touch our most profound values and integrity, which no one wants to lose.</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">How to get out of this never-ending cycle?</h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>Like I said earlier: \"STOP PRETENDING YOU DON\'T HAVE MIND-MAPPING ABILITIES\". <b>This will allow you and your partner to stop arguing about something that doesn\'t exist and discuss the real issues at hand.</b> Be honest about what you want and the fact that you know what your partner wants, but that you just don\'t want to give it to them. This will end the none sense bickering about the \"I already told you this before\" and the \"how come you still don\'t understand\". <b>Take into consideration that you are not the only one who has made sacrifices in the relationship.</b> That all your needs and desires will not and cannot all be answered. Stop avoiding the hard truths of your relationship and have the conversation with your partner. You will only appreciate each other more for being fully honest about who you are and what you want.</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>This can lead you to separation, but mostly it makes you a better person by being more understanding which tends to bring people closer not further apart. Knowing you can mind-map and that you are being mind-map changes the game in a relationship. It is up to you to decide how you want to play from now on.</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<u>Did you like this article? Don\'t hesitate to share it on FACEBOOK &amp; TWITTER</u>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Next article</h4>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: start;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2016/08/pretending-to-have-communication-issues.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">\r\n</a><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2016/08/pretending-to-have-communication-issues.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Pretending to have communication issues: Types of mind-mapping</a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: start;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: start;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2016/08/getting-beyond-communication-issues.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Getting Beyond Communication Issues: How Mind-Mapping Makes Your Relationship and Sex Better</a></div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\"><img src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" height=\"200\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like these? 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(415, 2, '2017-10-20 03:00:19', '2017-10-20 01:00:19', '<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><b>Overcoming The Fear of Rejection*</b></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">No one likes to be rejected, especially by someone we care deeply about and that their opinion of us sometimes exceeds our own. In the dynamic of the <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><b><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">H</span></b><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">igh <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (<b>HDP</b>) and <b>L</b>ow <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (<b>LDP</b>)</span></span></a> both partners feel rejected, but in different ways and for different reasons. This perpetual fear of rejection drives many couples’ dynamics and turns their <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">alliance into an unhealthy one</a>. Our sense of worth comes primarily from other people’s perception of us and the more important they are to us the more impact they have on us.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>The LDP Controls The HDP Sense of Worth</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Since the LDP controls sex in every way, shape and form, they tend to control how the HDP feels about themselves as well. Since most couples use <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\">other validated intimacy</a>, it is hard for the HDP to feel good about themselves and have the perception that they are desirable, when they are constantly rejected. When someone’s been rejected multiple times for sex, it\'s not uncommon to start thinking that there might be something wrong with them. When our sense of worth is based on what other people and most importantly our spouse thinks, then rejection is hard to deal with.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">The doubt that the HDP feels about themselves makes them even less attractive. We\'ve all heard before that confidence is what makes someone attractive. Well, the rule still applies in long term committed relationships. So the HDP that has their self worth based on their spouses perception of them, rather than their own tend to be undesirable, because they act the part. When you don\'t feel confident; your way of being, of flirting and seducing demonstrates your lack thereof. HDP\'s start to want sex, not because they really truly have sexual desire for their partner, but because they want the other person to tell them their desirable. If you look at this situation more closely, the HDP is asking his LDP spouse to find them desirable and attractive when they can\'t even feel and see it for themselves.<b> It\'s a vicious cycle of undesirability</b></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>\r\nGetting Out of This Rut</b>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">This is where the hard work begins! In a relationship, where there probably isn\'t any <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">collaborative alliance</a>, there is Normal Marital Sadism and you are faced with <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\">emotional gridlock</a>, the first thing that tends to come to mind is to call it quits and leave the relationship. Thing is...you\'ve put so much time and commitment in it that you don\'t just want to throw it all away. Also, you are going to face the same issues eventually in your next relationship anyway.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">It\'s at this point that you need to work on your <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\">emotional balance</a>, if you want to get through this. First, you need to start feeling and acting in a desirable way. Stop the blaming and confront yourself about your own short-comings and insecurities. Put some effort into the relationship and notice where you have been slacking off. Reinvent yourself, be spontaneous and adventurous at how you are going to be with your partner and yourself. Get a life of your own, go out, try new things and start building your confidence through experiences other than with your spouse (non-sexual ones). It\'s important not to perceive this as taking a break or avoiding the issue. It\'s a time of self-reflection where you build yourself and get to know who you truly are and who you want to be. Motivate and inspire yourself, it makes a person attractive and desirable. Lastly, stop taking things so personally! Some of it might be more about your partner than yourself. If it is about you then take a stand and become a better person, by seeing it as constructive criticism, even when it\'s not said that way.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\nRome wasn\'t built in a day and neither will your self-esteem and sense of <b>self-</b><b>worth</b>. You need to learn to tolerate pain, anxiety, fear and frustration to grow and become a mature adult in a healthy relationship.\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>READ NEXT CHAPTER</b></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/i-dont-want-sex.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><b>I Don\'t Want Sex : </b>What Should I Do?</span></a></div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n\r\n<style type=\"text/css\">\r\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br />	/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />	   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br /></style>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"position: absolute; left: -5000px;\"><input tabindex=\"-1\" name=\"b_b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d_fd88d57b31\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"clear\"><input id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe\" class=\"button\" name=\"subscribe\" type=\"submit\" value=\"Subscribe\" /></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</form></div>\r\n<script type=\'text/javascript\' src=\'//s3.amazonaws.com/downloads.mailchimp.com/js/mc-validate.js\'></script><script type=\'text/javascript\'>(function($) {window.fnames = new Array(); window.ftypes = new Array();fnames[0]=\'EMAIL\';ftypes[0]=\'email\';fnames[1]=\'FNAME\';ftypes[1]=\'text\';fnames[2]=\'LNAME\';ftypes[2]=\'text\';}(jQuery));var $mcj = jQuery.noConflict(true);</script>\r\n<!--End mc_embed_signup-->', 'Getting Yourself Together: Promotes Sexual Desire!', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '53-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-10-20 03:00:19', '2017-10-20 01:00:19', '', 53, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/10/53-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(387, 2, '2017-09-29 20:53:10', '2017-09-29 18:53:10', '<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\">How they intertwine together!</span></h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>\r\n\r\n<!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt; Normal 0 0 1 381 2176 18 4 2672 11.1282 &lt;![endif]--><!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt; 0 0 0 &lt;![endif]--> <!--StartFragment-->\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"> <span style=\"font-size: large;\">We all have patterns in our romantic relationships, which have variable impacts on our lives. They often change due to our personal development so they can better serve our needs according to our beliefs, experiences and values related to our perception of love. In other words, they are modifiable in order to protect us and help us grow as individuals. When patterns are unhealthy, they usually make us feel unhappy, lonely, mixed up, rejected and get us into problematic relationships We therefore find ourselves in a vicious cycle of bad choices when it comes to our love life with feelings of disappointment which subsequently affect us.</span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> Healthy patterns enable us to personally grow in our couple and the unhealthy ones are trying to protect us maladaptively. The latter are paradoxically comfortable in spite of the many problems they generate, because we can predict them and generate a sense of security. Changing patterns, all different circumstances put aside, causes anxiety for everyone. The feeling of anguish, when it comes to love, decreases motivation to modify patterns. Some people however are capable of changing them, which enables them to grow in the relationships they maintain.</span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-0veTlRi6hGg/UQmBPtvuKqI/AAAAAAAAAFI/xyfF-aKplDY/s1600/305103_247437601975108_135306759854860_827389_573023551_n.jpg\"><img src=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-0veTlRi6hGg/UQmBPtvuKqI/AAAAAAAAAFI/xyfF-aKplDY/s320/305103_247437601975108_135306759854860_827389_573023551_n.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"213\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; text-indent: 36px; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\">Romantic patterns begin as soon as we meet another person for the first time In order to answer our pre-established criteria, we make a selection of whom we seduce and who is allowed to flirt with us. When we start to reflect on the people we choose to seduce and those we avoid, one can detect patterns of seduction. It is not rare to flirt with people who we feel at ease with , even if they aren’t always our first choice. We seldom approach individuals who  intimidate us or we do not feel equal to , because we assume, we will be rejected and inevitably hurt. We thus avoid changing our romantic patterns, in spite of the difficulties they create, in order to stay in our comfort zone. </span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\">  </span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\">   In short, when we find ourselves in an unhealthy pattern, we avoid situations where we feel discomfort, fear or ill at ease, However, when we allow ourselves to live moments and situations of seduction that provoke more anxiety, we discover new aspects of ourselves and unexplored relationships are now possible. Awkwardness and missteps should not discourage us because they are part of the process towards change and growth  as a person. Eventually, we find our middle ground and it allows us to become more natural and fluid in being who we are. The next time you find yourselves in a context of flirting, choose the person you are really interested in and approach the ones that intimidate you.</span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\">Dare to take chances and be happily surprised! </span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<!--EndFragment-->\r\n\r\n</div>', 'Relationship patterns and seduction', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '65-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-09-29 20:53:10', '2017-09-29 18:53:10', '', 65, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/09/65-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0);
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(395, 2, '2017-09-30 00:13:55', '2017-09-29 22:13:55', '<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\">\r\n<h2><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Complexity of Our Relationship and The Influence on Our Sexual Desire</b></span></h2>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">For a long time, humans have tried to understand the mysteries of sexuality and more specifically how to create sexual desire in men and in women. There have been many debates, experiences, research, theories and hypotheses that came forth from the subject. To this day, there is still no consensus because the process of sexual desire is complex, variable, individual and also relational.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">The relationship aspect is probably what makes sexual desire in humans the more volatile and unpredictable. It has the capacity to create a very strong desire or it can completely and utterly shut it down. It is also for this reason that brings couples to <b><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/contact/\">consult a sex therapist in therapy</a>,</b> for difficulty with the level of sexual desire in men and in women. It is actually one of the most difficult issues to treat, but not impossible.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for-your-couple.html\">Sexual desire issues are common in relationships for either one or both partners and even a positive thing!</a> Although it is normal, it doesn\'t make things easier to handle. In fact, contrary to the other categories (physiological and emotional), relational sexual desire follows a linear path. On top of that, it is often associated with one or more of the other types of desires that we described in the previous article. Let us start by describing the different types of sexual desire in the relationship category.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\">\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Sexual desire related to relationship dynamics</b></span></h3>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u>Passion Phase</u></span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u> </u></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">The beginning of a relationship is often a mixed spiral of euphoria, passion and novelty that instantly creates in a person sexual desire towards their partner. This step in a relationship is normally satisfying when it comes to sex because both partners feel desirable, desired and desire towards each other. The smallest amount of stimulation or thought that comes from the other person creates sexual arousal and a desire to have sexual activities with that person. It is a desire primarily based on the exploration of the other person which for many cultivates their adventurous and creative side of sexuality.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u>Romantic &amp; sexual desire</u></span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u> </u></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">The second step can quickly happen when both partners fall in love for each other and emotional aspects start to play in the sexual desire. This sexual desire is characterised by the presence of love between partners. They start to know more things about each other and they share a form of intimacy that feels unique to them. A form of admiration starts to settle in which energy motivates and creates sexual desire between the spouses. This drive is often more affectionate, mixed in with sexual and sensual aspects. This desire can be motivated by the want of making a family together and to get closer on an emotional level. At this phase, we tend to find a sexual desire of emotional fusion with the other. This creates the feeling of being unique in the other persons eyes during sex and especially when there is penetration (vaginal, oral or anal). This phase lasts 1 to 3 years, but rarely longer.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u>Attachment Phase</u></span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u> </u></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">If a couple is capable of developing feelings of attachment and commitment towards each other, they move on to the next phase of sexual desire. This type of desire has often lost its sexual component and it is replaced with a profound sense of reciprocity and affection. We know our partner better, which also entails knowing the less admirable and desirable traits they have. This weighs heavily on the sexual desire that we have towards them in a negative way. Therefore, there is a decrease in sexual creativity in the couple, a routine is constructed, we start taking our partner for granted, we don\'t seduce them anymore, sensuality and eroticism disappears. This is especially common in couples who start having children. Unfortunately for some, the length of this phase makes it hard for them to overcome it once the family situation has become more stable.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Generally, much frustration, <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/getting-yourself-together-promotes-sexual-desire.html\"><span style=\"color: #00dcff;\">repetitive conflicts</span> and <span style=\"color: #00dcff;\">rejection</span></a> has created a distance on the sexual aspect of the relationship between the partners. Major differences are made apparent between them, which makes it hard to have sexual desire towards each other. The <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire-between-partners-in-a-couple.html\">difference between the levels of sexual desire</a></span> is something that also comes to be more problematic. This is where we notice that there is a <span style=\"background-color: white;\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/getting-yourself-together-promotes-sexual-desire.html\"><b>HDP</b> (<b>H</b>igh <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner)</a></span></span> and a <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/i-dont-want-sex.html\"><b>LDP</b> (<b>L</b>ow <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner)</a></span>. This dynamic of difference between the levels of sexual desire will test <span style=\"color: #00dcff;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\">the alliance that the couple has built</a></span> during their years of the relationship.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u>Self-Validated Desire phase</u></span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u> </u></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">This fourth and last phase of sexual desire is a tough patch to get through, as it requires work on ourselves and the couple. Many couples decide to stagnate at the previous phase of attachment and the lovers will stay unsatisfied on the sexual level. Others will consider terminating their relationship to solve their sexual and relational difficulties. Some may choose infidelity to satisfy their sexual needs that their partner can\'t or won\'t answer. There are others who choose to have an open relationship where one or both partners have sex with other people. The two last options don\'t truly resolve the dilemmas in the couple. Learn how to get pass this normal phase of your relationship.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Next article:</b></span></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"color: black; font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-indent: 0px;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/03/different-types-of-sexual-desire-part-iii.html\">How to Achieve Self-Validated Sexual Desire</a> </span>\r\n<span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">\r\n</span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">\r\n</span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\"><img src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" height=\"200\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like theses? 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(396, 2, '2017-09-30 00:14:24', '2017-09-29 22:14:24', '<h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">One giant leap backwards for female sexuality...</span></h2>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h3>Women are perceived as the problem</h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\nThere exist numerous reasons as to why a person would have a lower sexual desire in a relationship. They are actually multiple in most cases and they necessitate a variety of interventions to find a solution to the situation. For a long time now, we have categorized women as the partner who loses sexual desire (libido) in a couple because men are the high desire partners due to their hormones, more specifically testosterone. We tend to notice that in sexologist offices we find as many men being the low desire partner in the couple. In fact, we even see many gay couples where either one or both partner has a lower sexual desire.\r\n\r\nFor some reason, we continue to perceive women as the gender who loses sexual desire or has less than men as a general rule in long term relationships. The reason why men and women lose their sexual desire does tend to differ though. What we are noticing more in female sexuality is a lack of interest for sexual activity, not because they have deregulated hormones or neurotransmitters or that women just have less sexual drive than men, but it is because they are sexually bored with their partner\'s. Women seek variety, spontaneity, newness, a sense of adventure and exploration and a context to their sex life, as well as a<a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/09/webserie-02-sexual-presence-sexual-performance.html\"> sexual connection</a> (not necessarily an emotional one, but a sexual one)\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">When we are with the same partner for many years, it is only <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/webserie-03-maintaining-sexual-desire-in-long-term-relationships.html\">natural and normal to have a decrease in sexual desire</a>, if our sexuality is redundant, routine, predictable and with a lack of effort from both partners. A decrease in sexual desire is often not the problem, but more of a symptom of our <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\">sexual and relationship dynamic</a> that needs to be worked at.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">For what reason this new medication won\'t help the majority of <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/03/womens-fierce-sexuality.html\">women who have a decrease in sexual desire?</a> The simple answer is: it doesn\'t take care of the cause, buy only the symptoms. By taking this pill, that has important side effects, will only give false hope to couples that should be analysing their relationship dynamic and their sexual satisfaction. The medication might have an impact for a certain time where the motivation to have sex will increase, but the couple\'s sex life will remain the same. Therefore, the problem will most likely resurface in a short amount of time. No medication can help boring sex for a prolonged period of time in long term relationships.What about female Viagra?</h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\nToo often, one of the partners, most of the time women, perceive sex with their partner as an obligation of the relationship to maintain the couple or to avoid conflicts. After giving and receiving multiple times <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire-between-partners-in-a-couple.html\">pity sex</a>, it is inevitable that the sex life of the couple will deteriorate and the relationship will also take a hard hit.\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Video about female Viagra (French)</h4>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\r\n\r\n<iframe src=\"https://www.youtube.com/embed/sk8tg5i0GCw\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"></iframe>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<h3>Does this medication apply to certain women at least?</h3>\r\n<div>The short answer is yes...but with the following criteria:</div>\r\n<div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; font-size: medium; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n<ul style=\"font-style: normal;\">\r\n 	<li>Stable relationship for at least a year with a man (exclusions of lesbian couples)</li>\r\n 	<li>Loss of sexual desire must have been obtained during the relationship</li>\r\n 	<li>Complete loss of sexual desire (no erotic dreams or fantasies, no desire to masturbate)</li>\r\n 	<li>Sexual response must be functional capacity to lubricate and reach orgasm following stimulation</li>\r\n 	<li>+ 18 years old but not year having menopause</li>\r\n 	<li>Not be pregnant or breast feeding</li>\r\n 	<li>No psychotherapy in the last 3 months</li>\r\n 	<li>No medication related to mood disorders</li>\r\n 	<li>No suicidal thought ever in life</li>\r\n 	<li>No relationship difficulties</li>\r\n 	<li>Good reaction from partner about the decrease in sexual desire</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<div style=\"font-style: normal;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-style: normal;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">These criteria are not about the medication that will be released in October, but of the research that studied the medication Although, we can clearly see that this medication was aimed a very few women with a particular profile with this difficulty.</div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-style: normal;\"></div>\r\n<div>\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Therefore, this pill might <i>«potentially» </i>help certain women and couples in dealing with this<a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for-your-couple.html\"> sexual difficulty that we find in the majority of relationships</a>, if and only if, the cause for the decrease in sexual desire is related to a deregulation of neurotransmitters in the female partner.</div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-style: normal;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<h3 style=\"font-style: normal;\">Finally!</h3>\r\n<div style=\"font-style: normal;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">If you or your partner is having a decrease or lack of sexual desire, take the time to really analyse your situation and determine if you need help from a sexologist &amp; psychotherapist or the medication or a combination of both.</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><b>Francois Renaud M.A.</b></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><b>Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist Montreal</b></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-style: normal;\"></div>\r\n</div>', 'Female Viagra: Addyi', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '31-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-09-30 00:14:24', '2017-09-29 22:14:24', '', 31, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/09/31-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(399, 2, '2017-10-14 02:13:25', '2017-10-14 00:13:25', '<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Tools to have a satisfying sex life</span></h2>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h3>Typical reaction to sexual problems</h3>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Most couple therapies will focus to a certain degree on giving the tools to react productively to a sexual difficulty. A lot of the times, the couple comes in with one of them being the \"patient\" and the other will be tagging along. Sometimes, the partners agree on those positions initially given and other times it is a point of conflict between them.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Who really has a problem?</h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Frequently the person who tags along during the therapy has strongly reacted to the problem by feeling culpable and blame themselves for it. For example, a man will have difficulty with his erection and the partner will think that they are either unattractive or incompetent in bed. This puts pressure on the partner to reassure their spouse\'s low self-esteem. Inevitably, this creates performance anxiety for the next sexual encounter which diminishes sexual arousal and pleasure, thus perpetuating a vicious cycle.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">The person who tags along can also have frustration towards the designated \"patient\". If one partner has lower sexual desire than the other, this builds up over time as their sexual needs are not met as they wish. Often, the initial reaction of blaming oneself turns towards the other when the situation doesn\'t change. <b>Unfortunately, these negative reactions only hinder the issue further down more difficulties.</b></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Co-constructing a sexual problem</h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>When couples perceive sexual issues as sporadic and temporary in time, this can reduce the factors that maintain the problem in the first place.  </b>A defeatist attitude or dramatizing the sexual difficulty generally increases the problem. The partners don\'t see each other as collaborating but combative.  One\'s behavior creates a bad reaction in the other, especially in emotionally fused couples.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">For many people, sexuality is an aspect of their life where they are fragile and vulnerable. When there is a sexual issue that doesn\'t rub their ego the right way by feeling incompetent and less desirable; it generates a reaction that threatens the well-being of the relationship.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li><b>How do you feel when your partner isn\'t as sexually aroused as you want them to be?</b></li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<b>\r\n</b>\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li><b>How do you react when the other refuses your sexual advances?</b></li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<b>\r\n</b>\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li><b>Do you believe that sex should be natural and simple?</b></li>\r\n</ul>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2016/11/Keep-2Bcalm-2Band-2Bsex.png\"><img src=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2016/11/Keep-2Bcalm-2Band-2Bsex-257x300.png\" width=\"274\" height=\"320\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li><b>How do you perceive sexual issues in a relationship?</b></li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<b>\r\n</b>\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li><b>How important do you consider sexuality when evaluating the satisfaction of your relationship?</b></li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<b>\r\n</b>\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li><b>Do you consider yourself responsible for your partner\'s sexual pleasure?</b></li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<b>\r\n</b>\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li><b>Who is responsible for YOUR sexual pleasure during sex?</b></li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>The answers that you give to the questions above strongly correlate with your reaction to sexual difficulties. People who take sexual problems as a personal attack or blame the other for the issue only fuel the problem.</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h3>Productively managing sexual difficulties</h3>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>We try to understand OUR part of responsibility in the issue, without taking all the blame or devaluing ourselves.</li>\r\n 	<li>We ask questions to our partner about their perception and how they feel about the situation.</li>\r\n 	<li>We manage our emotions and reflect on what the other person tells us.</li>\r\n 	<li>We maintain an open and HONEST discussion about the issue.</li>\r\n 	<li>We collaborate together rather than attack each other in our insecurities and fears.</li>\r\n 	<li>We talk about it with lightness and humour by seeing it as an opportunity to make our relationship and sexuality better.</li>\r\n 	<li>We consult a health care professional such as a sexologist &amp; psychotherapist when we aren\'t capable of dealing with the issue ourselves.</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n<div></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2016/11/francois.jpg\"><img src=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2016/11/francois-278x300.jpg\" width=\"185\" height=\"200\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like these? 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(406, 2, '2017-10-25 21:59:36', '2017-10-25 19:59:36', '<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\">I Feel More Emotionally Mature Than my Partner</h1>\r\nIn many instances in a relationship, we can feel that one of us is more emotionally mature than the other person. In couple\'s therapy, we actually get that a lot. One of the partners seems more stable and has his s**t together while the other seems distraught and dysfunctional. This can last for many years where one partner takes care of the other on numerous aspects of the relationship.\r\n<h2>Typical examples of different levels of maturity</h2>\r\n<h4>Case #1: The organizer and disorganized couple</h4>\r\nPartner one is really organized. So much so, that they do and plan everything from the cooking to the cleaning and getting the kids ready. They make all the appointments and gets everyone lined up with their schedule. They are balanced and always ready to serve others. They have little time for themselves, but that is okay because they don\'t need it. They are made strong and they impress their friends and family with the devotion and motivation to do it all.\r\n\r\nTheir partner, on the other hand, is always forgetting things and getting mixed up. They don\'t really know what to do with the kids or organize any type of social gathering. They are social people and can be the life of the party, but when it comes to planing they are nowhere to be seen. When they do try to help out or plan something, it tends to be a disappointment. They can also be needy towards their partner when it comes to sex and they tend to want it a lot.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4>Case #2: The rational and emotional partners</h4>\r\nOne partner is extremely emotional and the other is rational/intellectual. The latter is frequently calm and zen while the former cannot manage their emotions. The emotional partner wants the other to open up about their feelings and talk about themselves so they can share intimacy together. They need their partner to comfort and reassure them on a constant basis. The rational one feels the partner is a minefield of frustrations, sadness, and warmth all at the same time. They always feel like they are walking on eggshells and they are not unhappy with the relationship except for the emotional instability of their partner.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4>Case #3: The sex craving and the prude</h4>\r\nOne partner is really open about sex and the other is more prudish. They can\'t seem to find a common ground on what each of them wants in sex. One is very curious and adventurous as they want to try lots of things in sex such as positions and practices to playing with sex toys. The more prudish partner is considered shy or stuck up. They like emotional and romantic sex and not much else. The open partner is <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire-between-partners-in-a-couple.html\"><strong>always ready for sex at any given time and any opportunity that their spouse is potentially willing to have sex</strong></a>, they will jump on the occasion.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h3>Which couple are you?</h3>\r\nYou may recognize yourself in one of these couples or have your own variation of dynamic where you feel or your lover feels more mature than you do. The thing is that <strong>neither of you is more mature than the other</strong>. As a rule of thumb, partners in a long-term relationship tend to have the same emotional maturity. The balance in the relationship is kept by having one partner being the emotionally unbalanced person. This dynamic is called burrowed functioning*.\r\n<h4>Burrowed functioning</h4>\r\nAs we learn and explore our relationship we tend to develop systems with our partner. They help us cope with our insecurities and short-comings and vice-versa. This is called <strong>burrowed functioning</strong>, where the couple functions when one partner is, in appearance, more stable while the other tends to depend on the other. The partner who looks more mature <strong>needs their partner to be dysfunctional</strong> so that they can actually function.\r\n\r\nWe tend to see this a lot in therapy, where the partner who has more difficulty starts to grow and this destabilizes the more \"mature\" partner. They are <strong>used to having this one-up position in the relationship</strong> and now that they have lost it, they start questioning their role. They don\'t have their points of reference anymore and they start struggling with their self. They don\'t have the validation they once used to have and their worth as a person has diminished.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4>How does it play out?</h4>\r\nLet\'s go back to our previous examples that we talked about earlier. The <strong>partner who is organized</strong> isn\'t needed anymore when their lover starts to be less dependant on them. They gained a lot of recognition from others and their spouse about being very reliant and dependable. Secretly, they feel that people would not like them if they were not needed. They keep people in this dynamic so they can feed on it, all the while complaining about their partner\'s lack of initiative.\r\n\r\nThe <strong>rational/emotional relationship</strong> is destabilized when one of them changes the dynamic. If the rational partner starts to be more emotional and opens up, it tends to create discomfort for their partner. They are so used to having an intellectual and rational partner that this new version of their spouse isn\'t natural. They chose this partner because it <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\"><strong>allowed them to hide their own incapabilities of being intimate on a profound level</strong></a>. They had a barrier that protected them all along. The opposite is also possible whereas the more emotional partner who constantly sought to be reassured doesn\'t need their partner to do so, the rational partner loses his role of the protector/comforter in the relationship and is scared that they will find someone better.\r\n\r\nSexual differences in couples also play a huge role in burrowed functioning. If the partner who is more sexually oriented stops demanding sex and loses interest in the partner who has never really been that interested in sex, it creates anxiety. The <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/i-dont-want-sex.html\">low desire partner</a> starts to feel undesired. They felt validated that their partner wanted them so badly. They could find it annoying or feel the pressure, but once those things are gone, you are left with another symptom. If my partner doesn\'t desire me as much, will they leave me? It is very comforting to know that your partner desires you.\r\n\r\nIf the more prudish partner becomes more sexually active, the sex craving partner loses his position as the sexual one (<a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/getting-yourself-together-promotes-sexual-desire.html\">high desire partner</a>). They are not the teacher or the leader of sex but become a follower. This is a position they are normally not comfortable with. They liked having a position of authority and would always be in their comfort zone because they took the sexual dynamic where they wanted it to go. When the other partner takes charge, they have to be in elements they are not used to or are unknown to them.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>Getting out of a dysfunctional relationship</h2>\r\nAre you willing to see your partner as an equal to yourself? Can you see yourself as an equal to them? How much value do you attribute to your partner\'s perception of yourself? Are you willing to be less dependent on your role in the relationship?\r\n\r\nThese questions are fundamental if you want to change in your relationship. If you are not willing to put the effort to better yourself and confront your own insecurities, the chances of making a better relationship are slim. Take into account how you act and behave with your partner by realizing how you benefit from the current dynamic. Truly ask yourself if you are ready to let go of those advantages and accept a new model in your dynamic that will allow you to GROW with your partner. Rather than STAGNATE in a routine of frustration and conflict.\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<img class=\"size-medium wp-image-2856 alignleft\" src=\"http://montreal.lesexologue.ca/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2017/07/IMG_0199-e1500512222567-300x169.jpg\" alt=\"sexologue montreal\" width=\"300\" height=\"169\" />\r\n<h5><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a></h5>\r\n<h6>Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist Montreal</h6>\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/therapie/couple-therapy/\">Specialized in couple\'s and sex therapy</a>\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/about/\">About the author</a>\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n* Concept created by David Schnarch in his book: Intimacy and Desire', 'I Function Because my Partner is Dysfunctional', '', 'publish', 'open', 'open', '', 'function-partner-dysfunctional', '', '', '2017-10-30 14:57:50', '2017-10-30 13:57:50', '', 0, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/?p=406', 0, 'post', '', 0),
(407, 2, '2017-10-16 20:29:28', '2017-10-16 18:29:28', '<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\">I feel more emotionally mature than my partner</h1>\r\n<h2></h2>', 'I function because my partner is dysfunctional', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '406-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-10-16 20:29:28', '2017-10-16 18:29:28', '', 406, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/10/406-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(408, 2, '2017-10-16 20:52:30', '2017-10-16 18:52:30', '<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\">I feel more emotionally mature than my partner</h1>\r\nIn many instances in a relationship, we can feel that one of us is more emotionally mature than the other person. In couple\'s therapy, we actually get that a lot. One of the partners seems more stable and has his s**t together while the other seems distraught and unbalanced. This can last for many years where one partner takes care of the other on numerous aspects of the relationship.\r\n<h2>Typical examples of different levels of maturity</h2>\r\n<h4>Case #1: The organizer and disorganized couple</h4>\r\nPartner one is really organized. So much that they do and plan everything from the cooking to the cleaning and getting the kids ready. They make all the appointments and get\'s everyone lined up with their schedule. They are balanced and always ready to serve others. They have little time for themselves, but that is okay because they don\'t need it. They are made strong and they impress their friends and family with the devotion and motivation to do it all.\r\n\r\nTheir partner, on the other hand, is always forgetting things and getting mixed up. They don\'t really know what to do with the kids or organize any type of social gathering. They are social people and can be the life of the party, but when it comes to planing they are nowhere to be seen. When they do try to help out or plan something, it tends to be a disappointment. They can also be needy towards their partner when it comes to sex and they tend to want it a lot.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4>Case #2: The rational and emotional partners</h4>\r\nOne partner is extremely emotional and the other is rational. One is frequently calm and zen while the other one cannot manage their emotions. The emotional partner wants the other to open up about their feelings and talk about themselves so they can share intimacy together. The rational one feels the partner is a minefield of frustrations, sadness, and warmth all at the same time. They always feel like they are walking on eggshells and they are not unhappy with the relationship except for their emotionally unstable partner.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4>Case #3: The sex craving and the prude</h4>\r\nOne partner is really open about sex and the other is more prudish. They can\'t seem to find a common ground on what each of them wants in sex. One is very curious and adventurous as they want to try lots of things in sex such as positions and practices to playing with sex toys. The more prudish partner is considered shy or stuck up. They like emotional and romantic sex and not much else. The open partner is always ready for sex at any given time and any opportunity that their spouse is potentially willing to have sex they will jump on it.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;', 'I function because my partner is dysfunctional', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '406-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-10-16 20:52:30', '2017-10-16 18:52:30', '', 406, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/10/406-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(409, 2, '2017-10-16 20:59:08', '2017-10-16 18:59:08', '<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\">I feel more emotionally mature than my partner</h1>\r\nIn many instances in a relationship, we can feel that one of us is more emotionally mature than the other person. In couple\'s therapy, we actually get that a lot. One of the partners seems more stable and has his s**t together while the other seems distraught and unbalanced. This can last for many years where one partner takes care of the other on numerous aspects of the relationship.\r\n<h2>Typical examples of different levels of maturity</h2>\r\n<h4>Case #1: The organizer and disorganized couple</h4>\r\nPartner one is really organized. So much that they do and plan everything from the cooking to the cleaning and getting the kids ready. They make all the appointments and get\'s everyone lined up with their schedule. They are balanced and always ready to serve others. They have little time for themselves, but that is okay because they don\'t need it. They are made strong and they impress their friends and family with the devotion and motivation to do it all.\r\n\r\nTheir partner, on the other hand, is always forgetting things and getting mixed up. They don\'t really know what to do with the kids or organize any type of social gathering. They are social people and can be the life of the party, but when it comes to planing they are nowhere to be seen. When they do try to help out or plan something, it tends to be a disappointment. They can also be needy towards their partner when it comes to sex and they tend to want it a lot.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4>Case #2: The rational and emotional partners</h4>\r\nOne partner is extremely emotional and the other is rational. One is frequently calm and zen while the other one cannot manage their emotions. The emotional partner wants the other to open up about their feelings and talk about themselves so they can share intimacy together. They need their partner to comfort and reassure them on a constant basis. The rational one feels the partner is a minefield of frustrations, sadness, and warmth all at the same time. They always feel like they are walking on eggshells and they are not unhappy with the relationship except for their emotionally unstable partner.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4>Case #3: The sex craving and the prude</h4>\r\nOne partner is really open about sex and the other is more prudish. They can\'t seem to find a common ground on what each of them wants in sex. One is very curious and adventurous as they want to try lots of things in sex such as positions and practices to playing with sex toys. The more prudish partner is considered shy or stuck up. They like emotional and romantic sex and not much else. The open partner is always ready for sex at any given time and any opportunity that their spouse is potentially willing to have sex they will jump on it.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h3>Which couple are you?</h3>\r\nYou may recognize yourself in one of these couples or have your own variation of dynamic where you feel or your lover feels more mature than you do. The thing is that neither of you is more mature than the other. As a rule of thumb, partners in a long-term relationship tend to have the same emotional maturity.', 'I function because my partner is dysfunctional', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '406-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-10-16 20:59:08', '2017-10-16 18:59:08', '', 406, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/10/406-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0);
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(410, 2, '2017-10-17 15:55:29', '2017-10-17 13:55:29', '<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\">I feel more emotionally mature than my partner</h1>\r\nIn many instances in a relationship, we can feel that one of us is more emotionally mature than the other person. In couple\'s therapy, we actually get that a lot. One of the partners seems more stable and has his s**t together while the other seems distraught and unbalanced. This can last for many years where one partner takes care of the other on numerous aspects of the relationship.\r\n<h2>Typical examples of different levels of maturity</h2>\r\n<h4>Case #1: The organizer and disorganized couple</h4>\r\nPartner one is really organized. So much that they do and plan everything from the cooking to the cleaning and getting the kids ready. They make all the appointments and get\'s everyone lined up with their schedule. They are balanced and always ready to serve others. They have little time for themselves, but that is okay because they don\'t need it. They are made strong and they impress their friends and family with the devotion and motivation to do it all.\r\n\r\nTheir partner, on the other hand, is always forgetting things and getting mixed up. They don\'t really know what to do with the kids or organize any type of social gathering. They are social people and can be the life of the party, but when it comes to planing they are nowhere to be seen. When they do try to help out or plan something, it tends to be a disappointment. They can also be needy towards their partner when it comes to sex and they tend to want it a lot.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4>Case #2: The rational and emotional partners</h4>\r\nOne partner is extremely emotional and the other is rational. One is frequently calm and zen while the other one cannot manage their emotions. The emotional partner wants the other to open up about their feelings and talk about themselves so they can share intimacy together. They need their partner to comfort and reassure them on a constant basis. The rational one feels the partner is a minefield of frustrations, sadness, and warmth all at the same time. They always feel like they are walking on eggshells and they are not unhappy with the relationship except for their emotionally unstable partner.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4>Case #3: The sex craving and the prude</h4>\r\nOne partner is really open about sex and the other is more prudish. They can\'t seem to find a common ground on what each of them wants in sex. One is very curious and adventurous as they want to try lots of things in sex such as positions and practices to playing with sex toys. The more prudish partner is considered shy or stuck up. They like emotional and romantic sex and not much else. The open partner is always ready for sex at any given time and any opportunity that their spouse is potentially willing to have sex they will jump on it.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h3>Which couple are you?</h3>\r\nYou may recognize yourself in one of these couples or have your own variation of dynamic where you feel or your lover feels more mature than you do. The thing is that neither of you is more mature than the other. As a rule of thumb, partners in a long-term relationship tend to have the same emotional maturity.\r\n<h4>Burrowed functioning</h4>\r\nAs we learn and explore our relationship we tend to develop systems with our partner. They help us cope our insecurities and short-comings and vice-versa. This is called <strong>burrowed functioning</strong>, where the couple functions when one partner is, in appearance, more stable while the other tends to depend on the other. The partner who looks more mature needs their partner to be dysfunctional so that they can actually function.\r\n\r\nWe tend to see this a lot in therapy, where the partner who has more difficulty starts to grow and this destabilizes the more mature partner. They are used to having this one-up position in the relationship and now that they have lost it, they start questioning their role. They don\'t have their points of reference anymore and they start struggling with their self. They don\'t have the validation they once use to have and their worth as a person has diminished.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4>How does it play out?</h4>\r\nLet\'s go back to our previous examples that we talked about earlier. The partner who is organized isn\'t needed anymore when their lover starts to be less dependant on them. They gained a lot of recognition from others and sometimes their spouse about being very reliant and dependable. Secretly, they feel that people would not like them if they were not needed. They keep people in this dynamic so they can feed on it, all the while complaining about their partner\'s lack of initiative.\r\n\r\nThe rational/emotional relationship is destabilized when one of them changes the dynamic. If the rational partners starts to be more emotional and opens up, it tends to create discomfort for their partner. They are so used to having an intellectual and rational partner that this new version of their spouse isn\'t natural. They choose this partner because it allowed them to hide their own incapabilities of being intimate on a profound level. They had a barrier that protected them all along. The opposite is also possible whereas the more emotional partner who constantly sought to be reassured doesn\'t need their partner to do so, the rational partner loses his role of the protector in the relationship and is scared that they will find someone better.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;', 'I function because my partner is dysfunctional', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '406-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-10-17 15:55:29', '2017-10-17 13:55:29', '', 406, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/10/406-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(411, 2, '2017-10-17 17:01:17', '2017-10-17 15:01:17', '<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\">I feel more emotionally mature than my partner</h1>\r\nIn many instances in a relationship, we can feel that one of us is more emotionally mature than the other person. In couple\'s therapy, we actually get that a lot. One of the partners seems more stable and has his s**t together while the other seems distraught and unbalanced. This can last for many years where one partner takes care of the other on numerous aspects of the relationship.\r\n<h2>Typical examples of different levels of maturity</h2>\r\n<h4>Case #1: The organizer and disorganized couple</h4>\r\nPartner one is really organized. So much that they do and plan everything from the cooking to the cleaning and getting the kids ready. They make all the appointments and get\'s everyone lined up with their schedule. They are balanced and always ready to serve others. They have little time for themselves, but that is okay because they don\'t need it. They are made strong and they impress their friends and family with the devotion and motivation to do it all.\r\n\r\nTheir partner, on the other hand, is always forgetting things and getting mixed up. They don\'t really know what to do with the kids or organize any type of social gathering. They are social people and can be the life of the party, but when it comes to planing they are nowhere to be seen. When they do try to help out or plan something, it tends to be a disappointment. They can also be needy towards their partner when it comes to sex and they tend to want it a lot.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4>Case #2: The rational and emotional partners</h4>\r\nOne partner is extremely emotional and the other is rational. One is frequently calm and zen while the other one cannot manage their emotions. The emotional partner wants the other to open up about their feelings and talk about themselves so they can share intimacy together. They need their partner to comfort and reassure them on a constant basis. The rational one feels the partner is a minefield of frustrations, sadness, and warmth all at the same time. They always feel like they are walking on eggshells and they are not unhappy with the relationship except for their emotionally unstable partner.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4>Case #3: The sex craving and the prude</h4>\r\nOne partner is really open about sex and the other is more prudish. They can\'t seem to find a common ground on what each of them wants in sex. One is very curious and adventurous as they want to try lots of things in sex such as positions and practices to playing with sex toys. The more prudish partner is considered shy or stuck up. They like emotional and romantic sex and not much else. The open partner is always ready for sex at any given time and any opportunity that their spouse is potentially willing to have sex they will jump on it.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h3>Which couple are you?</h3>\r\nYou may recognize yourself in one of these couples or have your own variation of dynamic where you feel or your lover feels more mature than you do. The thing is that neither of you is more mature than the other. As a rule of thumb, partners in a long-term relationship tend to have the same emotional maturity.\r\n<h4>Burrowed functioning</h4>\r\nAs we learn and explore our relationship we tend to develop systems with our partner. They help us cope our insecurities and short-comings and vice-versa. This is called <strong>burrowed functioning</strong>, where the couple functions when one partner is, in appearance, more stable while the other tends to depend on the other. The partner who looks more mature needs their partner to be dysfunctional so that they can actually function.\r\n\r\nWe tend to see this a lot in therapy, where the partner who has more difficulty starts to grow and this destabilizes the more mature partner. They are used to having this one-up position in the relationship and now that they have lost it, they start questioning their role. They don\'t have their points of reference anymore and they start struggling with their self. They don\'t have the validation they once use to have and their worth as a person has diminished.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4>How does it play out?</h4>\r\nLet\'s go back to our previous examples that we talked about earlier. The partner who is organized isn\'t needed anymore when their lover starts to be less dependant on them. They gained a lot of recognition from others and sometimes their spouse about being very reliant and dependable. Secretly, they feel that people would not like them if they were not needed. They keep people in this dynamic so they can feed on it, all the while complaining about their partner\'s lack of initiative.\r\n\r\nThe rational/emotional relationship is destabilized when one of them changes the dynamic. If the rational partners starts to be more emotional and opens up, it tends to create discomfort for their partner. They are so used to having an intellectual and rational partner that this new version of their spouse isn\'t natural. They choose this partner because it allowed them to hide their own incapabilities of being intimate on a profound level. They had a barrier that protected them all along. The opposite is also possible whereas the more emotional partner who constantly sought to be reassured doesn\'t need their partner to do so, the rational partner loses his role of the protector in the relationship and is scared that they will find someone better.\r\n\r\nSexual differences in couples also play a huge rule with burrowed functioning. If the partner who is more sexually oriented stops demanding sex and loses interest in the partner who has never really be that interested in sex, it creates anxiety. The low desire partner starts to feel undesired. They felt validated that they partner wanted them so badly. They could find it annoying or feel the pressure, but once those things are gone, you are left with another symptom. If my partner doesn\'t desire me as much, will they leave me? It is very comforting to know that your partner desires you.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;', 'I function because my partner is dysfunctional', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '406-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-10-17 17:01:17', '2017-10-17 15:01:17', '', 406, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/10/406-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(414, 2, '2017-10-20 03:00:10', '2017-10-20 01:00:10', '<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">How to Construct and Maintain it</span></b></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\" align=\"center\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Once you’ve figured your </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">type of alliance</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">, it is important to understand that it <b>only takes one partner</b> to change it so that it becomes collaborative.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">What Is a Collaborative Alliance?</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">      A collaborative alliance works out and reinforces our </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">4 points of balance</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">. This type of alliance requires that you see your couple as a team and that you are prepared to confront yourself and your partner when the time comes when they are not holding up to the collaborative alliance. It is the capacity for each individual to evaluate and self-criticize by taking your responsibility by promoting honesty with yourself and to your partner. </span></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Ingredients to a Good Collaborative Alliance</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify; text-indent: -18.0pt;\"></div>\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\"> </span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt; text-indent: -18pt;\">Taking the time to self-confront about our implication in the dynamic of the couple and your sexuality</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Not to distort the truth or retain information to manipulate our partner</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Being completely honest with our partner, even if it is at our disadvantage or difficult</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Maintain the alliance even though our partner is not</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Not letting our emotions take the best of us and focusing on what needs to be done</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Reconstructing the alliance is more important than the fact that you lost it</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Understand the reasons why and when we lose the alliance</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Confront our partner when they have dropped the alliance, by remaining open to our contribution to the loss of it</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">A collaborative alliance tests your integrity</span></li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n\r\n</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     A collaborative alliance is not a reflex most people will have in a conflict, because it isn’t always advantageous and comfortable to maintain it. Although, it does show our capacity to remain loyal and our level of integrity towards our partner and ourselves. It is based on a profound friendship that obliges us to become better people and become a better partner. It allows us to surpass our biggest obstacles and build a strong foundation for a couple. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     It is hard to keep a collaborative alliance, because it requires us to question ourselves at a profound level (</span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">solid-flexible self</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">). This reflection can cause an identity crisis where we must redefine ourselves without losing our integrity. It obliges us to make very difficult decisions that determine the nature of our relationship and our future with our spouse. A collaborative alliance throws us in a very uncomfortable zone where it is necessary to confront the question of: do we want to be in this relationship. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Collaborative alliance and our sex lives</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">      It is also present or absent from our sex life. If a person is paying attention to other things during sex and remains in that state, this person has dropped the alliance. If the other partner ignores the missing connexion, it is possible that they have a collusive alliance to avoid getting into a conflict or maybe there wasn’t even an alliance to begin with. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     In a collaborative alliance, we are ready to push our level of sexual maturity to develop our erotism and maximize the intimacy we share with our partner. One dares more in sexual behaviours, because we consider our couple and our sex life to be more important than our limitations and difficulties. We take a decision to be more mature sexually and truly enjoy what sex we can have with our lover. We value ourselves and inhibitions fall to make room for our most erotic self and reach our full potential. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Our emotions make us lose our collaborative alliance</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     To often we let ourselves drop the alliance due to our emotions. When we feel discomfort, uncomfortable, nervous, many will just to cope out and go into one of the </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">other types of alliances</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">. We can let our emotions dictate our behaviours and the future of our relationships. If we were to always base our decisions on our emotions, we wouldn’t go very far in life, because at every bad emotion we might feel, we would come back to our original place. We must learn to self-sooth our emotions and face our limits to be able to reach our full capacity.</span>\r\n<span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sexologist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><u><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Also read:</span></u></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/unhealthy-couple-dynamics.html\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">Normal Marital Sadism: </span></b></a></span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Learn How to Hate Your Lover</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Emotional Gridlock:</span></b></a><b> </b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">The Underlying Issues in Couples</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Series of articles on sexual intimacy</span></b></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;', 'Construct a healthier couple’s dynamic', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '50-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-10-20 03:00:10', '2017-10-20 01:00:10', '', 50, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/10/50-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(419, 2, '2017-10-20 03:02:51', '2017-10-20 01:02:51', '&nbsp;\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b>How Intimacy Effects Our Sexual Desire*</b></span></span></h4>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b> </b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">When our relationship is based on <span style=\"color: #0084d1;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">other validated intimacy</a></span>, we inevitably hit an obstacle in our sexual maturity. If we are only willing to self-disclose a part of ourselves to our partner we\'re limiting the level of intimacy the couple can share. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Limiting our sexual maturity</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: #0084d1;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Sexual desire</a></span> in a long-term relationship can be affected by a number of elements in the dynamic of a couple. First and foremost sexual desire stays alive in couples who are capable of reinventing themselves, trying new things, experimenting sexual fantasies and introducing a different dynamic in their sex lives. It\'s also people who are not afraid to look silly, laugh and can tolerate sexual awkwardness. When our couple uses other validated intimacy, we\'re afraid to do any of those things because they might bring rejection or judgment on the part of the partner, which other validated couples avoid at all cost because that hurts.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Avoid stagnation</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Consequently, we find couples who have stagnated in their capacity to mature sexually and a routine is instated. Nothing kills sexual desire more than being able to predict every aspect of how we are going to have sex with someone. Sexual desire exudes when there is adventure, newness, surprise and strong emotions. Routine sex is good to make you feel comfortable and loved, but it lacks the capacity to excite and bring desire towards our partners. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Admire to desire</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Another aspect that impacts sexual desire is our capacity to tolerate vulnerabilities in ourselves and in our partner. A component of sexual desire is admiration towards the other. If there is a lack thereof, then little desire can exist between two people. How can couples be vulnerable in front of each other by admitting their mistakes, showing their issues and faults without killing the admiration they have for each other? </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Admitting our limits takes a lot of personal strength which is admirable in itself, but there is still a step further people need to go through. After putting ourselves in that vulnerable state, it\'s important to learn from it and grow as a human being and a partner. When we witness our lover struggling at becoming a better person, we can take pride and admire being with such a man or woman. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Get your sex appeal on!</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: #0084d1;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/relationship-patterns-and-seduction.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Seduction </a></span>is also an element that impacts sexual desire in couples. Most long-term couples tend to take for granted their partner after a while and they don\'t feel the need to seduce and flirt anymore. Seducing our partner is required if we want to keep the flames of passion between each other. Flirting allows the couple to have fun, laugh, play and sexualize their encounters, which grants the promise of sex in the near future. If we don\'t play the game, we can\'t expect to win the prize! </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">The downside of seducing our partner is that they may end up not wanting sex at the end, which can leave one partner frustrated or rejected at having put so much effort. People who <span style=\"background: transparent;\">cultivate </span>other validated intimacy will withdraw from flirting to avoid getting hurt again. Couples who are capable of validating themselves will try again and see it as a challenge to woo their partner next time. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Hence, intimacy is intricately related to the level of sexual desire that will be shared between partners. We need to heighten our intimacy by cultivating our sexual development, seducing our partner and growing as a person! </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>READ MORE  ON: <u>Sexual Intimacy &amp; Sexual Desire</u></b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Redefine your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality Part 1</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Two Very Different Types of Intimacy Part 2</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The 4 Points of Balance Part 4</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Other related articles:</b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/03/why-its-hard-to-truly-commit-to-our.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Why It\'s Truly Hard to Commit to Our Relationships</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Emotional Gridlock</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">A Lack of Sexual Desire is Good for Your Couple!</a></span></span></span></u></span></span></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Couple’s Communication Issues or Unable to Tolerate Intimacy?</a></span></span></span></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n\r\n<style type=\"text/css\">\r\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br />	/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />	   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br /></style>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"position: absolute; 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padding: 0px;\">We will need to add each other to the chosen program to be able to connect on the day of the session.</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"margin: 0px 0px 0.25em; padding: 0px;\">At the time and date scheduled, I will send you a request to start the video session.</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n</div>\r\n<h3 style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; margin: 0px;\"></h3>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<b>\r\n</b><b>\r\n</b>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-tSMxUj3S4QM/VOs9zpUm1cI/AAAAAAAAAk0/RsbQvgi7gbI/s1600/online%2Bconsultation.jpg\"><img src=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-tSMxUj3S4QM/VOs9zpUm1cI/AAAAAAAAAk0/RsbQvgi7gbI/s1600/online%2Bconsultation.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"177\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n<b> </b>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<b>\r\n</b><b>\r\n</b><b>\r\n</b><b></b>\r\n<a name=\"more\"></a><b>\r\n</b><b>\r\n</b>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<h3 style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; margin: 0px;\">Method of payment: E-transfer Interac</h3>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">It is possible to pay by email bank transfer</div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"> This requires that you log into your Internet bank account and send a fund transfer of the amount of 100$  at the following email address:</div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\">\r\n<div style=\"color: #575757;\"><a style=\"color: #4d469c; text-decoration: none;\" href=\"mailto:sexologue.f.renaud@gmail.com\"><b>sexologue.f.renaud@gmail.com</b></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"color: #575757;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">\r\n\r\nYou can follow the procedure depending on your bank:\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://www.desjardins.com/ca/personal/accounts-services/ways-to-bank/online/transfer-money-between-accounts/index.jsp\">Caisse Desjardins</a>\r\n\r\n<span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\"><a href=\"http://www.scotiabank.com/ca/en/0,,2820,00.html\">Scotia Bank</a></span>\r\n\r\n<a href=\"https://www.bmo.com/pccgprefix/olb/help-centre/en/my-payments/e-transfers/send-transfer.html\">BMO<span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\"> Bank</span></a>\r\n<span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\">\r\n</span><a href=\"http://www.tdcanadatrust.com/products-services/banking/electronic-banking/ways-to-send-money/email-transfer.jsp\"><span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\">TD</span><span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\"> Bank</span></a>\r\n<span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\">\r\n</span><a href=\"https://www.cibc.com/ca/student-life/products/email-money-transfer.html\"><span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\">CIBC</span><span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\"> Bank</span></a>\r\n<span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\">\r\n</span><a href=\"http://www.rbcroyalbank.com/products/deposits/interac-e-transfer.html\"><span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\">RBC</span><span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\"> Bank</span></a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">You are required to pay before the session that we have established together. If you have any other questions, don\'t hesitate to <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/contact\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">contact me</a>.</div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h3><b>To learn more about the <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/01/therapeutic-process-with-a-sex-therapist.html\">process and unfolding of a session</a> with a sex therapist or sexologist </b></h3>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"></div>', 'Procedure for a webcam session', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '55-revision-v1', '', '', '2020-10-12 03:05:44', '2020-10-12 01:05:44', '', 55, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2020/10/55-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0);
