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(308, 2, '2017-06-08 01:11:08', '2017-06-07 23:11:08', '<br /><h4 style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: large\"><b>Two Very Different Types of Intimacy*</b></span></span></h4><div align=\"CENTER\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: large\"><b><br /></b></span></span></div><div align=\"CENTER\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\"><b>Intimacy and couple\'s dynamic</b></span></span></h3><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\">Every couple is unique in the way they are intimate with each other. It is determined by each partner\'s individual experience and need for intimacy with their lover and also the dynamic that develops during the relationship.  As we get to know each other better, we either appreciate the parts they are self-disclosing or find out things that we would have preferred not to know. This is where the couple dynamic with intimacy starts to form itself. When someone is self-disclosing to their partner, there is an inevitable reaction on both ends. The first reaction comes from the partner receiving the self-disclosure, which can be either acceptance or rejection of the new element that is being introduced. The second counter-reaction comes from the person that self-discloses, who then evaluates if it was a good or bad idea to share this intimate information with their lover. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\"><b>Reciprocal Intimacy</b></span></span></h3><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\">This type of intimacy is what our society tends to promote in the media and amongst friends and family. It is the safe form of intimacy where we only self-disclose personal information that we know our partner will accept and not reject us (sexual fantasies, seducing in a different manner, proposing a new sexual style, etc.). We also expect the other to reciprocate immediately after wards, so we don\'t put ourselves in too much of a vulnerable position with them.</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\"> Sounds great at first glance. No one gets hurt, we don\'t have to be too vulnerable and it feels like an equal relationship; in other words SAFE. We also call this type of intimacy “other validated intimacy”, which means you are searching for validation from the other when you self-disclose. We can\'t BE who we truly are unless our partner accepts us that way. Hence, we hide behind this false image of who we are so that we don\'t feel rejected. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\">On the other hand we can easily see how in the long run this can become problematic. If we are only willing to divulge as much information as your partner is willing to accept with open arms, it comes to a point where the couple stagnates in their growth as individuals. If we are only willing to talk about issues that won\'t make us potentially feel rejection or hurt our partner, it leads to major conflicts in the couple    never being addressed.</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\"><br /></span></span></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\"><br /></span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\"><br /></span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\">For example, sex hasn\'t been the best lately, but we don\'t tell our partner to avoid hurting their feelings. On the same front, we don\'t try to change the sexual dynamic because we are afraid we\'ll be judged by our partner of our sexual preferences. We are afraid they\'ll reject us, laugh at us, or even humiliate us. This path inevitably leads to sexual boredom and a decrease in sexual desire for one or both partners, because everyone wants to play <span style=\"color: black\"><u>SAFE</u></span><span style=\"color: black\">in the couple</span>. Safety is not what creates sexual desire and erotism. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\"><b>Self-Validated Intimacy</b></span></span></h3><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\">This form of intimacy is hard and requires a lot of self-soothing. It only takes one partner to be this way for it to work. This type allows a person to be vulnerable in front of their partner, show who they actually are sexually; quirks, issues, weirdness and funkiness included, without looking for approval and validation from the other. People who are capable of self-validated intimacy know who they are and  proud of themselves. In the face of rejection they are capable of self-soothing and accept the differences between them and their partner. When they have something difficult to say to their partner, they can deal with the reaction and the distance it causes. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\">Rejecting or being rejected is difficult for everyone, especially when it comes from a partner. It is a part of us or them that is not loved. It forces us to face the fact that we are not entirely lovable, sexy or competent lovers in all regards. People who validate themselves from others on most aspects have a really hard time with rejection. When they need to reject or feel rejected on one element of who they are, they generalize it to their whole person. They lack the capacity to self-sooth and confront themselves. They don\'t perceive it as an opportunity to grow as a person, but as a threat to their identity.</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sexologist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div></div></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\"><b>READ MORE&nbsp; ON: <u>Sexual Intimacy &amp; Sexual Desire</u></b></span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\"><u><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\" target=\"_blank\">Redefine your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality Part 1</a></u></span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\"><u><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html\" target=\"_blank\">How Intimacy Affects Sexual Desire Part 3</a></u></span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\"><u><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\">The 4 Points of Balance Part 4</a></u></span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-decoration: none\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-decoration: none\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-decoration: none\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-decoration: none\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;text-decoration: none\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\"><b>Other related articles:</b></span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-decoration: none\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\"><u><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/03/why-its-hard-to-truly-commit-to-our.html\" target=\"_blank\">Why It\'s Truly Hard to Commit to Our Relationships</a></u></span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-decoration: none\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\"><u><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\" target=\"_blank\">Emotional Gridlock</a></u></span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\"><u><span style=\"color: black\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none\"><span style=\"font-style: normal\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\" target=\"_blank\">A Lack of Sexual Desire is Good for Your Couple!</a></span></span></span></u></span></span></div><h3 align=\"JUSTIFY\" style=\"font-weight: normal;text-decoration: none\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: medium\"><span style=\"color: black\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none\"><span style=\"font-style: normal\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\" target=\"_blank\">Couple’s Communication Issues or Unable to Tolerate Intimacy?</a></span></span></span></span></span></h3><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-style: normal;font-weight: normal;text-decoration: none\"><br class=\"Apple-interchange-newline\" /><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;font-size: xx-small\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span><br /><br /></div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n<link href=\"//cdn-images.mailchimp.com/embedcode/classic-10_7.css\" rel=\"stylesheet\" type=\"text/css\">\r\n<style type=\"text/css\">\r\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; 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(309, 2, '2017-06-08 01:11:46', '2017-06-07 23:11:46', '&nbsp;\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b>Two Very Different Types of Intimacy*</b></span></span></h4>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b> </b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Intimacy and couple\'s dynamic</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Every couple is unique in the way they are intimate with each other. It is determined by each partner\'s individual experience and need for intimacy with their lover and also the dynamic that develops during the relationship. As we get to know each other better, we either appreciate the parts they are self-disclosing or find out things that we would have preferred not to know. This is where the couple dynamic with intimacy starts to form itself. When someone is self-disclosing to their partner, there is an inevitable reaction on both ends. The first reaction comes from the partner receiving the self-disclosure, which can be either acceptance or rejection of the new element that is being introduced. The second counter-reaction comes from the person that self-discloses, who then evaluates if it was a good or bad idea to share this intimate information with their lover. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Reciprocal Intimacy</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">This type of intimacy is what our society tends to promote in the media and amongst friends and family. It is the safe form of intimacy where we only self-disclose personal information that we know our partner will accept and not reject us (sexual fantasies, seducing in a different manner, proposing a new sexual style, etc.). We also expect the other to reciprocate immediately after wards, so we don\'t put ourselves in too much of a vulnerable position with them.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> Sounds great at first glance. No one gets hurt, we don\'t have to be too vulnerable and it feels like an equal relationship; in other words SAFE. We also call this type of intimacy “other validated intimacy”, which means you are searching for validation from the other when you self-disclose. We can\'t BE who we truly are unless our partner accepts us that way. Hence, we hide behind this false image of who we are so that we don\'t feel rejected. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">On the other hand we can easily see how in the long run this can become problematic. If we are only willing to divulge as much information as your partner is willing to accept with open arms, it comes to a point where the couple stagnates in their growth as individuals. If we are only willing to talk about issues that won\'t make us potentially feel rejection or hurt our partner, it leads to major conflicts in the couple never being addressed.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">For example, sex hasn\'t been the best lately, but we don\'t tell our partner to avoid hurting their feelings. On the same front, we don\'t try to change the sexual dynamic because we are afraid we\'ll be judged by our partner of our sexual preferences. We are afraid they\'ll reject us, laugh at us, or even humiliate us. This path inevitably leads to sexual boredom and a decrease in sexual desire for one or both partners, because everyone wants to play <span style=\"color: black;\"><u>SAFE</u></span><span style=\"color: black;\">in the couple</span>. Safety is not what creates sexual desire and erotism. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Self-Validated Intimacy</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">This form of intimacy is hard and requires a lot of self-soothing. It only takes one partner to be this way for it to work. This type allows a person to be vulnerable in front of their partner, show who they actually are sexually; quirks, issues, weirdness and funkiness included, without looking for approval and validation from the other. People who are capable of self-validated intimacy know who they are and proud of themselves. In the face of rejection they are capable of self-soothing and accept the differences between them and their partner. When they have something difficult to say to their partner, they can deal with the reaction and the distance it causes. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Rejecting or being rejected is difficult for everyone, especially when it comes from a partner. It is a part of us or them that is not loved. It forces us to face the fact that we are not entirely lovable, sexy or competent lovers in all regards. People who validate themselves from others on most aspects have a really hard time with rejection. When they need to reject or feel rejected on one element of who they are, they generalize it to their whole person. They lack the capacity to self-sooth and confront themselves. They don\'t perceive it as an opportunity to grow as a person, but as a threat to their identity.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>READ MORE  ON: <u>Sexual Intimacy &amp; Sexual Desire</u></b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Redefine your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality Part 1</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How Intimacy Affects Sexual Desire Part 3</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The 4 Points of Balance Part 4</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Other related articles:</b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/03/why-its-hard-to-truly-commit-to-our.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Why It\'s Truly Hard to Commit to Our Relationships</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Emotional Gridlock</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">A Lack of Sexual Desire is Good for Your Couple!</a></span></span></span></u></span></span></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Couple’s Communication Issues or Unable to Tolerate Intimacy?</a></span></span></span></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n\r\n<style type=\"text/css\">\r\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br />\r\n	/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />\r\n	   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br />\r\n</style>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"position: absolute; 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(310, 2, '2017-06-08 01:38:20', '2017-06-07 23:38:20', '&nbsp;\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b>Two Very Different Types of Intimacy*</b></span></span></h4>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b> </b></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Intimacy and couple\'s dynamic</b></span></span></h3>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Every couple is unique in the way they are intimate with each other. It is determined by each partner\'s individual experience and need for intimacy with their lover and also the dynamic that develops during the relationship. As we get to know each other better, we either appreciate the parts they are self-disclosing or find out things that we would have preferred not to know. This is where the couple dynamic with intimacy starts to form itself. When someone is self-disclosing to their partner, there is an inevitable reaction on both ends. The first reaction comes from the partner receiving the self-disclosure, which can be either acceptance or rejection of the new element that is being introduced. The second counter-reaction comes from the person that self-discloses, who then evaluates if it was a good or bad idea to share this intimate information with their lover. </span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Reciprocal Intimacy</b></span></span></h3>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">This type of intimacy is what our society tends to promote in the media and amongst friends and family. It is the safe form of intimacy where we only self-disclose personal information that we know our partner will accept and not reject us (sexual fantasies, seducing in a different manner, proposing a new sexual style, etc.). We also expect the other to reciprocate immediately afterwards, so we don\'t put ourselves in too much of a vulnerable position with them.</span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> Sounds great at first glance. No one gets hurt, we don\'t have to be too vulnerable and it feels like an equal relationship; in other words SAFE. We also call this type of intimacy “other validated intimacy”, which means you are searching for validation from the other when you self-disclose. We can\'t BE who we truly are unless our partner accepts us that way. Hence, we hide behind this false image of who we are so that we don\'t feel rejected. </span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">On the other hand, we can easily see how in the long run this can become problematic. If we are only willing to divulge as much information as your partner is willing to accept with open arms, it comes to a point where the couple stagnates in their growth as individuals. If we are only willing to talk about issues that won\'t make us potentially feel rejection or hurt our partner, it leads to major conflicts in the couple never being addressed.</span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">For example, sex hasn\'t been the best lately, but we don\'t tell our partner to avoid hurting their feelings. On the same front, we don\'t try to change the sexual dynamic because we are afraid we\'ll be judged by our partner of our sexual preferences. We are afraid they\'ll reject us, laugh at us, or even humiliate us. This path inevitably leads to sexual boredom and a decrease in sexual desire for one or both partners, because everyone wants to play <span style=\"color: black;\"><u>SAFE</u></span><span style=\"color: black;\">in the couple</span>. Safety is not what creates sexual desire and erotism. </span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Self-Validated Intimacy</b></span></span></h3>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">This form of intimacy is hard and requires a lot of self-soothing. It only takes one partner to be this way for it to work. This type allows a person to be vulnerable in front of their partner, show who they actually are sexually; quirks, issues, weirdness and funkiness included, without looking for approval and validation from the other. People who are capable of self-validated intimacy know who they are and proud of themselves. In the face of rejection they are capable of self-soothing and accept the differences between them and their partner. When they have something difficult to say to their partner, they can deal with the reaction and the distance it causes. </span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Rejecting or being rejected is difficult for everyone, especially when it comes from a partner. It is a part of us or them that is not loved. It forces us to face the fact that we are not entirely lovable, sexy or competent lovers in all regards. People who validate themselves from others on most aspects have a really hard time with rejection. When they need to reject or feel rejected on one element of who they are, they generalize it to their whole person. They lack the capacity to self-sooth and confront themselves. They don\'t perceive it as an opportunity to grow as a person, but as a threat to their identity.</span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\n</div>\n</div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>READ MORE  ON: <u>Sexual Intimacy &amp; Sexual Desire</u></b></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Redefine your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality Part 1</a></u></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How Intimacy Affects Sexual Desire Part 3</a></u></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The 4 Points of Balance Part 4</a></u></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Other related articles:</b></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/03/why-its-hard-to-truly-commit-to-our.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Why It\'s Truly Hard to Commit to Our Relationships</a></u></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Emotional Gridlock</a></u></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">A Lack of Sexual Desire is Good for Your Couple!</a></span></span></span></u></span></span></div>\n<h3 style=\"font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Couple’s Communication Issues or Unable to Tolerate Intimacy?</a></span></span></span></span></span></h3>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-style: normal; 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(311, 2, '2017-06-08 01:39:05', '2017-06-07 23:39:05', '&nbsp;\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b>Two Very Different Types of Intimacy*</b></span></span></h4>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b> </b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Intimacy and couple\'s dynamic</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Every couple is unique in the way they are intimate with each other. It is determined by each partner\'s individual experience and need for intimacy with their lover and also the dynamic that develops during the relationship. As we get to know each other better, we either appreciate the parts they are self-disclosing or find out things that we would have preferred not to know. This is where the couple dynamic with intimacy starts to form itself. When someone is self-disclosing to their partner, there is an inevitable reaction on both ends. The first reaction comes from the partner receiving the self-disclosure, which can be either acceptance or rejection of the new element that is being introduced. The second counter-reaction comes from the person that self-discloses, who then evaluates if it was a good or bad idea to share this intimate information with their lover. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Reciprocal Intimacy</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">This type of intimacy is what our society tends to promote in the media and amongst friends and family. It is the safe form of intimacy where we only self-disclose personal information that we know our partner will accept and not reject us (sexual fantasies, seducing in a different manner, proposing a new sexual style, etc.). We also expect the other to reciprocate immediately afterwards, so we don\'t put ourselves in too much of a vulnerable position with them.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> Sounds great at first glance. No one gets hurt, we don\'t have to be too vulnerable and it feels like an equal relationship; in other words SAFE. We also call this type of intimacy “other validated intimacy”, which means you are searching for validation from the other when you self-disclose. We can\'t BE who we truly are unless our partner accepts us that way. Hence, we hide behind this false image of who we are so that we don\'t feel rejected. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">On the other hand, we can easily see how in the long run this can become problematic. If we are only willing to divulge as much information as your partner is willing to accept with open arms, it comes to a point where the couple stagnates in their growth as individuals. If we are only willing to talk about issues that won\'t make us potentially feel rejection or hurt our partner, it leads to major conflicts in the couple never being addressed.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">For example, sex hasn\'t been the best lately, but we don\'t tell our partner to avoid hurting their feelings. On the same front, we don\'t try to change the sexual dynamic because we are afraid we\'ll be judged by our partner of our sexual preferences. We are afraid they\'ll reject us, laugh at us, or even humiliate us. This path inevitably leads to sexual boredom and a decrease in sexual desire for one or both partners, because everyone wants to play <span style=\"color: black;\"><u>SAFE</u></span><span style=\"color: black;\">in the couple</span>. Safety is not what creates sexual desire and erotism. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Self-Validated Intimacy</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">This form of intimacy is hard and requires a lot of self-soothing. It only takes one partner to be this way for it to work. This type allows a person to be vulnerable in front of their partner, show who they actually are sexually; quirks, issues, weirdness and funkiness included, without looking for approval and validation from the other. People who are capable of self-validated intimacy know who they are and proud of themselves. In the face of rejection they are capable of self-soothing and accept the differences between them and their partner. When they have something difficult to say to their partner, they can deal with the reaction and the distance it causes. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Rejecting or being rejected is difficult for everyone, especially when it comes from a partner. It is a part of us or them that is not loved. It forces us to face the fact that we are not entirely lovable, sexy or competent lovers in all regards. People who validate themselves from others on most aspects have a really hard time with rejection. When they need to reject or feel rejected on one element of who they are, they generalize it to their whole person. They lack the capacity to self-sooth and confront themselves. They don\'t perceive it as an opportunity to grow as a person, but as a threat to their identity.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>READ MORE  ON: <u>Sexual Intimacy &amp; Sexual Desire</u></b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Redefine your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality Part 1</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How Intimacy Affects Sexual Desire Part 3</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The 4 Points of Balance Part 4</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Other related articles:</b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/03/why-its-hard-to-truly-commit-to-our.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Why It\'s Truly Hard to Commit to Our Relationships</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Emotional Gridlock</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">A Lack of Sexual Desire is Good for Your Couple!</a></span></span></span></u></span></span></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Couple’s Communication Issues or Unable to Tolerate Intimacy?</a></span></span></span></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n\r\n<style type=\"text/css\">\r\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br />	/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />	   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br /></style>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"position: absolute; 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(313, 2, '2017-06-08 01:43:30', '2017-06-07 23:43:30', '&nbsp;\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b>Two Very Different Types of Intimacy*</b></span></span></h4>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b> </b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Intimacy and couple\'s dynamic</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Every couple is unique in the way they are intimate with each other. It is determined by each partner\'s individual experience and need for intimacy with their lover and also the dynamic that develops during the relationship. As we get to know each other better, we either appreciate the parts they are self-disclosing or find out things that we would have preferred not to know. This is where the couple dynamic with intimacy starts to form itself. When someone is self-disclosing to their partner, there is an inevitable reaction on both ends. The first reaction comes from the partner receiving the self-disclosure, which can be either acceptance or rejection of the new element that is being introduced. The second counter-reaction comes from the person that self-discloses, who then evaluates if it was a good or bad idea to share this intimate information with their lover. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Reciprocal Intimacy</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">This type of intimacy is what our society tends to promote in the media and amongst friends and family. It is the safe form of intimacy where we only self-disclose personal information that we know our partner will accept and not reject us (sexual fantasies, seducing in a different manner, proposing a new sexual style, etc.). We also expect the other to reciprocate immediately afterwards, so we don\'t put ourselves in too much of a vulnerable position with them.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> Sounds great at first glance. No one gets hurt, we don\'t have to be too vulnerable and it feels like an equal relationship; in other words SAFE. We also call this type of intimacy “other validated intimacy”, which means you are searching for validation from the other when you self-disclose. We can\'t BE who we truly are unless our partner accepts us that way. Hence, we hide behind this false image of who we are so that we don\'t feel rejected. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">On the other hand, we can easily see how in the long run this can become problematic. If we are only willing to divulge as much information as your partner is willing to accept with open arms, it comes to a point where the couple stagnates in their growth as individuals. If we are only willing to talk about issues that won\'t make us potentially feel rejection or hurt our partner, it leads to major conflicts in the couple never being addressed.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">For example, sex hasn\'t been the best lately, but we don\'t tell our partner to avoid hurting their feelings. On the same front, we don\'t try to change the sexual dynamic because we are afraid we\'ll be judged by our partner of our sexual preferences. We are afraid they\'ll reject us, laugh at us, or even humiliate us. This path inevitably leads to sexual boredom and a decrease in sexual desire for one or both partners, because everyone wants to play <span style=\"color: black;\"><u>SAFE</u></span><span style=\"color: black;\">in the couple</span>. Safety is not what creates sexual desire and erotism. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Self-Validated Intimacy</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">This form of intimacy is hard and requires a lot of self-soothing. It only takes one partner to be this way for it to work. This type allows a person to be vulnerable in front of their partner, show who they actually are sexually; quirks, issues, weirdness and funkiness included, without looking for approval and validation from the other. People who are capable of self-validated intimacy know who they are and proud of themselves. In the face of rejection they are capable of self-soothing and accept the differences between them and their partner. When they have something difficult to say to their partner, they can deal with the reaction and the distance it causes. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Rejecting or being rejected is difficult for everyone, especially when it comes from a partner. It is a part of us or them that is not loved. It forces us to face the fact that we are not entirely lovable, sexy or competent lovers in all regards. People who validate themselves from others on most aspects have a really hard time with rejection. When they need to reject or feel rejected on one element of who they are, they generalize it to their whole person. They lack the capacity to self-sooth and confront themselves. They don\'t perceive it as an opportunity to grow as a person, but as a threat to their identity.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>READ MORE  ON: <u>Sexual Intimacy &amp; Sexual Desire</u></b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Redefine your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality Part 1</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How Intimacy Affects Sexual Desire Part 3</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The 4 Points of Balance Part 4</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Other related articles:</b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/03/why-its-hard-to-truly-commit-to-our.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Why It\'s Truly Hard to Commit to Our Relationships</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Emotional Gridlock</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">A Lack of Sexual Desire is Good for Your Couple!</a></span></span></span></u></span></span></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Couple’s Communication Issues or Unable to Tolerate Intimacy?</a></span></span></span></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-style: normal; 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(314, 2, '2017-06-08 01:44:11', '2017-06-07 23:44:11', '&nbsp;\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b>Two Very Different Types of Intimacy*</b></span></span></h4>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b> </b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Intimacy and couple\'s dynamic</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Every couple is unique in the way they are intimate with each other. It is determined by each partner\'s individual experience and need for intimacy with their lover and also the dynamic that develops during the relationship. As we get to know each other better, we either appreciate the parts they are self-disclosing or find out things that we would have preferred not to know. This is where the couple dynamic with intimacy starts to form itself. When someone is self-disclosing to their partner, there is an inevitable reaction on both ends. The first reaction comes from the partner receiving the self-disclosure, which can be either acceptance or rejection of the new element that is being introduced. The second counter-reaction comes from the person that self-discloses, who then evaluates if it was a good or bad idea to share this intimate information with their lover. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Reciprocal Intimacy</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">This type of intimacy is what our society tends to promote in the media and amongst friends and family. It is the safe form of intimacy where we only self-disclose personal information that we know our partner will accept and not reject us (sexual fantasies, seducing in a different manner, proposing a new sexual style, etc.). We also expect the other to reciprocate immediately afterwards, so we don\'t put ourselves in too much of a vulnerable position with them.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> Sounds great at first glance. No one gets hurt, we don\'t have to be too vulnerable and it feels like an equal relationship; in other words SAFE. We also call this type of intimacy “other validated intimacy”, which means you are searching for validation from the other when you self-disclose. We can\'t BE who we truly are unless our partner accepts us that way. Hence, we hide behind this false image of who we are so that we don\'t feel rejected. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">On the other hand, we can easily see how in the long run this can become problematic. If we are only willing to divulge as much information as your partner is willing to accept with open arms, it comes to a point where the couple stagnates in their growth as individuals. If we are only willing to talk about issues that won\'t make us potentially feel rejection or hurt our partner, it leads to major conflicts in the couple never being addressed.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">For example, sex hasn\'t been the best lately, but we don\'t tell our partner to avoid hurting their feelings. On the same front, we don\'t try to change the sexual dynamic because we are afraid we\'ll be judged by our partner of our sexual preferences. We are afraid they\'ll reject us, laugh at us, or even humiliate us. This path inevitably leads to sexual boredom and a decrease in sexual desire for one or both partners, because everyone wants to play <span style=\"color: black;\"><u>SAFE</u></span><span style=\"color: black;\">in the couple</span>. Safety is not what creates sexual desire and erotism. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Self-Validated Intimacy</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">This form of intimacy is hard and requires a lot of self-soothing. It only takes one partner to be this way for it to work. This type allows a person to be vulnerable in front of their partner, show who they actually are sexually; quirks, issues, weirdness and funkiness included, without looking for approval and validation from the other. People who are capable of self-validated intimacy know who they are and proud of themselves. In the face of rejection they are capable of self-soothing and accept the differences between them and their partner. When they have something difficult to say to their partner, they can deal with the reaction and the distance it causes. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Rejecting or being rejected is difficult for everyone, especially when it comes from a partner. It is a part of us or them that is not loved. It forces us to face the fact that we are not entirely lovable, sexy or competent lovers in all regards. People who validate themselves from others on most aspects have a really hard time with rejection. When they need to reject or feel rejected on one element of who they are, they generalize it to their whole person. They lack the capacity to self-sooth and confront themselves. They don\'t perceive it as an opportunity to grow as a person, but as a threat to their identity.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>READ MORE  ON: <u>Sexual Intimacy &amp; Sexual Desire</u></b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Redefine your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality Part 1</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How Intimacy Affects Sexual Desire Part 3</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The 4 Points of Balance Part 4</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Other related articles:</b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/03/why-its-hard-to-truly-commit-to-our.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Why It\'s Truly Hard to Commit to Our Relationships</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Emotional Gridlock</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">A Lack of Sexual Desire is Good for Your Couple!</a></span></span></span></u></span></span></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Couple’s Communication Issues or Unable to Tolerate Intimacy?</a></span></span></span></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n\r\n<style type=\"text/css\">\r\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br />	/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />	   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br /></style>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"position: absolute; 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(315, 2, '2017-06-08 01:49:39', '2017-06-07 23:49:39', '&nbsp;\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b>Redefine Your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality*</b></span></span></h4>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Intimacy and its Multiple Definitions</b></span></span></h3>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">The concept has been defined in a multitude of different ways. Sometimes, it is used to describe two or more people having sexual activities together (e.g. «My husband and I were having an intimate moment last night»). It can also refer to someones nudity or private sexual activities such as masturbation (e.g. «I need my intimacy when I am changing in my room». «Masturbation is an intimate moment with ourselves»). It can even refer to genitalia (e.g. «Those are my intimate parts»). </span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">What all of these have in common is </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">self-disclosure </span></u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">or lack thereof. When we share a part of ourselves with another person we are self-disclosing who we are. There are various types and degrees of intimacy such as emotional, sexual, professional, etc. We can show our naked body, divulge sexual fantasies dreams preferences and also share our feelings towards another person. For most people, </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">sexual intimacy </span></u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">is the hardest subject to disclose to someone else. Our sexuality is at the core of our personality as it shows our deepest fears, our strengths and vulnerability to truly demonstrate who we are as a person. </span></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>What Intimacy is <u>NOT</u>!</b></span></span></h3>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">There is a misconception in our society that intimacy is </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">always </span></u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">fun, romantic and loving between partners. This is untrue! The more we get to know our partner, we start realizing that they do not only have good qualities and strengths, but also limits, quirks, vulnerabilities, emotional issues and sexual issues, etc. As much as we would want to believe that we love each and every part of our partner, we don\'t. Well, not in a long term relationship anyway. In fact, in short-term relationships we can\'t really know our partner because we haven\'t been with them long enough. We project and imagine who this person is, without knowing who they truly are in </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">reality</span></u><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">. </span></span></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">Over </span></span><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">the course of a relationship, people will change as well. We are not static and immobile as people. We think, we evolve and change our minds. We change our minds as a matter of fact quite frequently. Therefore, intimacy is not only sharing a special moment where partners connect on a </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">positive </span></u><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">and </span></span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">profound </span></u><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">level. It\'s also getting to know our partner on levels that we don\'t necessarily appreciate, agree with or that validate our own perception of sex. Intimacy is also telling our partner when sex wasn\'t that good or that we don\'t desire them sexually anymore or we don\'t appreciate the way they touch and seduce us. </span></span></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Unavoidable Conflicts</b></span></span></h3>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">It is inevitable that we will find differences in the long run between ourselves and our partner. Sometimes these differences are just annoying; we can also hate them, find them to be a nuisance which interferes with our happiness in the couple and even reconsider if we still want to be with this person. It\'s impossible to find a partner that we get along with on everything we share together. Our sexual preferences, the type of sex we want, our sexual fantasies, the way we flirt and initiate sex may not align perfectly with our partners sexuality. </span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">This will inevitably bring conflicts in our relationships, which brings us to the </span><span style=\"color: #0084d1;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">choice to go through or avoid it entirely.</a></span></span><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">This is where intimacy comes into play in couples. People who don\'t have a strong «</span><span style=\"color: #0084d1;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"background: transparent;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">4 points of balance</a></span></span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"background: transparent;\">» </span></span></u></span><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">will perceive differences as threats to the stability of their couple. Partners will start avoiding self-disclosure to prevent feelings of rejection from the other partner or avoid hurting them. </span></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\n\n<hr />\n\n</div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\n<a style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 16pt; line-height: 24px;\" href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a><a style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\" href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">l</a>\n\n</div>\n</div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\n\n<hr />\n\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>\n</b></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>READ MORE : </b></span></span>\n\n</div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Two Very Different Types of Intimacy Part 2</a></u></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How Intimacy Affects Sexual Desire Part 3</a></u></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The 4 Points of Balance Part 4</a></u></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\n\n<hr />\n\n</div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Other related articles:</b></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/03/why-its-hard-to-truly-commit-to-our.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Why It\'s Truly Hard to Commit to Our Relationships</a></u></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Emotional Gridlock</a></u></span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">A Lack of Sexual Desire is Good for Your Couple!</a></span></span></span></u></span></span></div>\n<h3 style=\"font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Couple’s Communication Issues or Unable to Tolerate Intimacy?</a></span></span></span></span></span></h3>\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\n\n<style type=\"text/css\">\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br />\n	/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />\n	   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br />\n</style>\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\n</label>\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\n<div style=\"position: absolute; 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(316, 2, '2017-06-08 01:49:41', '2017-06-07 23:49:41', '&nbsp;\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b>Redefine Your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality*</b></span></span></h4>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Intimacy and its Multiple Definitions</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">The concept has been defined in a multitude of different ways. Sometimes, it is used to describe two or more people having sexual activities together (e.g. «My husband and I were having an intimate moment last night»). It can also refer to someones nudity or private sexual activities such as masturbation (e.g. «I need my intimacy when I am changing in my room». «Masturbation is an intimate moment with ourselves»). It can even refer to genitalia (e.g. «Those are my intimate parts»). </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">What all of these have in common is </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">self-disclosure </span></u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">or lack thereof. When we share a part of ourselves with another person we are self-disclosing who we are. There are various types and degrees of intimacy such as emotional, sexual, professional, etc. We can show our naked body, divulge sexual fantasies dreams preferences and also share our feelings towards another person. For most people, </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">sexual intimacy </span></u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">is the hardest subject to disclose to someone else. Our sexuality is at the core of our personality as it shows our deepest fears, our strengths and vulnerability to truly demonstrate who we are as a person. </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>What Intimacy is <u>NOT</u>!</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">There is a misconception in our society that intimacy is </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">always </span></u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">fun, romantic and loving between partners. This is untrue! The more we get to know our partner, we start realizing that they do not only have good qualities and strengths, but also limits, quirks, vulnerabilities, emotional issues and sexual issues, etc. As much as we would want to believe that we love each and every part of our partner, we don\'t. Well, not in a long term relationship anyway. In fact, in short-term relationships we can\'t really know our partner because we haven\'t been with them long enough. We project and imagine who this person is, without knowing who they truly are in </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">reality</span></u><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">. </span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">Over </span></span><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">the course of a relationship, people will change as well. We are not static and immobile as people. We think, we evolve and change our minds. We change our minds as a matter of fact quite frequently. Therefore, intimacy is not only sharing a special moment where partners connect on a </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">positive </span></u><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">and </span></span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">profound </span></u><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">level. It\'s also getting to know our partner on levels that we don\'t necessarily appreciate, agree with or that validate our own perception of sex. Intimacy is also telling our partner when sex wasn\'t that good or that we don\'t desire them sexually anymore or we don\'t appreciate the way they touch and seduce us. </span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Unavoidable Conflicts</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">It is inevitable that we will find differences in the long run between ourselves and our partner. Sometimes these differences are just annoying; we can also hate them, find them to be a nuisance which interferes with our happiness in the couple and even reconsider if we still want to be with this person. It\'s impossible to find a partner that we get along with on everything we share together. Our sexual preferences, the type of sex we want, our sexual fantasies, the way we flirt and initiate sex may not align perfectly with our partners sexuality. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">This will inevitably bring conflicts in our relationships, which brings us to the </span><span style=\"color: #0084d1;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">choice to go through or avoid it entirely.</a></span></span><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">This is where intimacy comes into play in couples. People who don\'t have a strong «</span><span style=\"color: #0084d1;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"background: transparent;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">4 points of balance</a></span></span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"background: transparent;\">» </span></span></u></span><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">will perceive differences as threats to the stability of their couple. Partners will start avoiding self-disclosure to prevent feelings of rejection from the other partner or avoid hurting them. </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<a style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 16pt; line-height: 24px;\" href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a><a style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\" href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">l</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>\r\n</b></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>READ MORE : </b></span></span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Two Very Different Types of Intimacy Part 2</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How Intimacy Affects Sexual Desire Part 3</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The 4 Points of Balance Part 4</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Other related articles:</b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/03/why-its-hard-to-truly-commit-to-our.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Why It\'s Truly Hard to Commit to Our Relationships</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Emotional Gridlock</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">A Lack of Sexual Desire is Good for Your Couple!</a></span></span></span></u></span></span></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Couple’s Communication Issues or Unable to Tolerate Intimacy?</a></span></span></span></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n\r\n<style type=\"text/css\">\r\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br />\r\n	/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />\r\n	   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br />\r\n</style>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"position: absolute; 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(318, 2, '2017-06-08 01:51:30', '2017-06-07 23:51:30', '&nbsp;\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b>Redefine Your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality*</b></span></span></h4>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Intimacy and its Multiple Definitions</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">The concept has been defined in a multitude of different ways. Sometimes, it is used to describe two or more people having sexual activities together (e.g. «My husband and I were having an intimate moment last night»). It can also refer to someones nudity or private sexual activities such as masturbation (e.g. «I need my intimacy when I am changing in my room». «Masturbation is an intimate moment with ourselves»). It can even refer to genitalia (e.g. «Those are my intimate parts»). </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">What all of these have in common is </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">self-disclosure </span></u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">or lack thereof. When we share a part of ourselves with another person we are self-disclosing who we are. There are various types and degrees of intimacy such as emotional, sexual, professional, etc. We can show our naked body, divulge sexual fantasies dreams preferences and also share our feelings towards another person. For most people, </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">sexual intimacy </span></u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">is the hardest subject to disclose to someone else. Our sexuality is at the core of our personality as it shows our deepest fears, our strengths and vulnerability to truly demonstrate who we are as a person. </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>What Intimacy is <u>NOT</u>!</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">There is a misconception in our society that intimacy is </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">always </span></u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">fun, romantic and loving between partners. This is untrue! The more we get to know our partner, we start realizing that they do not only have good qualities and strengths, but also limits, quirks, vulnerabilities, emotional issues and sexual issues, etc. As much as we would want to believe that we love each and every part of our partner, we don\'t. Well, not in a long term relationship anyway. In fact, in short-term relationships we can\'t really know our partner because we haven\'t been with them long enough. We project and imagine who this person is, without knowing who they truly are in </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">reality</span></u><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">. </span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">Over </span></span><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">the course of a relationship, people will change as well. We are not static and immobile as people. We think, we evolve and change our minds. We change our minds as a matter of fact quite frequently. Therefore, intimacy is not only sharing a special moment where partners connect on a </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">positive </span></u><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">and </span></span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">profound </span></u><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">level. It\'s also getting to know our partner on levels that we don\'t necessarily appreciate, agree with or that validate our own perception of sex. Intimacy is also telling our partner when sex wasn\'t that good or that we don\'t desire them sexually anymore or we don\'t appreciate the way they touch and seduce us. </span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Unavoidable Conflicts</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">It is inevitable that we will find differences in the long run between ourselves and our partner. Sometimes these differences are just annoying; we can also hate them, find them to be a nuisance which interferes with our happiness in the couple and even reconsider if we still want to be with this person. It\'s impossible to find a partner that we get along with on everything we share together. Our sexual preferences, the type of sex we want, our sexual fantasies, the way we flirt and initiate sex may not align perfectly with our partners sexuality. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">This will inevitably bring conflicts in our relationships, which brings us to the </span><span style=\"color: #0084d1;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">choice to go through or avoid it entirely.</a></span></span><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">This is where intimacy comes into play in couples. People who don\'t have a strong «</span><span style=\"color: #0084d1;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"background: transparent;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">4 points of balance</a></span></span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"background: transparent;\">» </span></span></u></span><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">will perceive differences as threats to the stability of their couple. Partners will start avoiding self-disclosure to prevent feelings of rejection from the other partner or avoid hurting them. </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<a style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 16pt; line-height: 24px;\" href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a><a style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\" href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">l</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>\r\n</b></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>READ MORE : </b></span></span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Two Very Different Types of Intimacy Part 2</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How Intimacy Affects Sexual Desire Part 3</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; 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text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Couple’s Communication Issues or Unable to Tolerate Intimacy?</a></span></span></span></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n\r\n<style type=\"text/css\">\r\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br />	/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />	   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br /></style>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"position: absolute; 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(321, 2, '2017-06-08 01:56:58', '2017-06-07 23:56:58', '&nbsp;\r\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">How our Inevitable </span></span></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><b>Fear of Life </b></span></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">prevents us from commitment</span></span></span></span></span></h1>\r\n<div><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\">\r\n</b>\r\n<h3><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\">Commitment &amp; Intimacy</b></h3>\r\n</div>\r\n<div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">Commitment in a relationship is not just hard for men, it is for everyone. When I say commitment, I\'m not just talking about getting married, being in a monogamous relationship, buying a house, having a dog and kids together. It has to do with commitment to yourself and to </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>life </b></span></span><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">itself. It\'s being intimate with your partner on a profound level that few people achieve, yet everyone has the capacity.</span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> Whether your Christian, Muslim, Jewish, Buddhist, Atheist or Agnostic and you\'ve read the Bible or the Qu r’an a hundred times or that you believe in reincarnation or none of the above. No one REALLY knows for a fact what happens when we die. You can believe all you want, but you\'ll never be able to be 100% sure of the outcome. The only thing we are actually sure of is that we are born, we live and then we die. That is one of the reasons that people are afraid of </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">truly </span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">living. </span></span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\">Fear of Life</span></span></b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> True commitment to life is investing your entire self to making the most of the few years we have on Earth. It\'s feeling joy, sadness, anger, passion, love, having a good taste of what life has to offer us. You could think that it\'s an easy task to achieve for most, but think again. Since we only have one life to live that we are sure of, we could imagine that we would all want to be happy and enjoy it to the fullest. What most people don\'t want to admit in enjoying life to its fullest is that it comes with a huge risk...</span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">you lose it all </span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">when death comes knocking at your door. That\'s a hard feat for anyone to accept and go through. </span></span></span></span></span>\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\r\n</span></span></span></span></span>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\r\n</span></span></span></span></span>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-e4uXLJHSc70/UVNZA_H4_vI/AAAAAAAAAGo/J-F1fb-kAVI/s1600/557333_10152091522870015_18081991_n.jpg\"><img src=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-e4uXLJHSc70/UVNZA_H4_vI/AAAAAAAAAGo/J-F1fb-kAVI/s320/557333_10152091522870015_18081991_n.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"240\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\r\n</span></span></span></span></span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\">Commitment to your partner</span></span></b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> What does commitment to your partner have to do with death or our fear of life? Commitment to a relationship is putting effort and hard work into building something with that person. These «  team projects  » that you co-create with your lover bring lots of joy, sometimes disappointments and at the end you feel a sense of accomplishment. You grow closer, more intimate and your feelings deepen for one another. The love you have for yourself, your partner and potentially your kids create a sense of fulfilment. Knowing that you may never know or feel that sensation again can be quite scary. It\'s quite understandable not to want to lose such a thing, </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">so better to never have it at all</span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">. Therefore, people escape from commitment to a partner not so much because of the hardships it sometimes entails, but of the happiness it can make us feel. </span></span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>How can I overcome this?</b></span></span></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> Some may want to know how you get passed your fear of life and commit to yourself, your partner and life! Unfortunately, there is no easy answer, because we all have to go through and passed our anxiety of death in our own way. Each of us has </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">chosen </span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">a path to take and we have to live with the good and the bad of each of the situations.</span></span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-family: Times;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-2ADTVyZkc7Q/UVNZGcQGBjI/AAAAAAAAAG0/uL2iXRxLPYU/s1600/428164_10150743830001800_515151799_11579975_441050559_n.jpg\"><img src=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-2ADTVyZkc7Q/UVNZGcQGBjI/AAAAAAAAAG0/uL2iXRxLPYU/s320/428164_10150743830001800_515151799_11579975_441050559_n.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"243\" border=\"0\" /></a></span></span></span>\r\n<span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">\r\n</span></span>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">\r\n</span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; 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(319, 2, '2017-06-08 01:54:07', '2017-06-07 23:54:07', '&nbsp;\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">How our Inevitable </span></span></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><b>Fear of Life</b></span></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">prevents us from commitment</span></span></span></span></span></h4>\r\n<div><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\">\r\n</b>\r\n<h3><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\">Commitment &amp; Intimacy</b></h3>\r\n</div>\r\n<div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">Commitment in a relationship is not just hard for men, it is for everyone. When I say commitment, I\'m not just talking about getting married, being in a monogamous relationship, buying a house, having a dog and kids together. It has to do with commitment to yourself and to </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>life</b></span></span><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">itself. It\'s being intimate with your partner on a profound level that few people achieve, yet everyone has the capacity.</span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> Whether your Christian, Muslim, Jewish, Buddhist, Atheist or Agnostic and you\'ve read the Bible or the Qu r’an a hundred times or that you believe in reincarnation or none of the above. No one REALLY knows for a fact what happens when we die. You can believe all you want, but you\'ll never be able to be 100% sure of the outcome. The only thing we are actually sure of is that we are born, we live and then we die. That is one of the reasons that people are afraid of </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">truly</span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">living. </span></span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\">Fear of Life</span></span></b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> True commitment to life is investing your entire self to making the most of the few years we have on Earth. It\'s feeling joy, sadness, anger, passion, love, having a good taste of what life has to offer us. You could think that it\'s an easy task to achieve for most, but think again. Since we only have one life to live that we are sure of, we could imagine that we would all want to be happy and enjoy it to the fullest. What most people don\'t want to admit in enjoying life to its fullest is that it comes with a huge risk...</span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">you lose it all</span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">when death comes knocking at your door. That\'s a hard feat for anyone to accept and go through. </span></span></span></span></span>\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\r\n</span></span></span></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\r\n</span></span></span></span></span>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-e4uXLJHSc70/UVNZA_H4_vI/AAAAAAAAAGo/J-F1fb-kAVI/s1600/557333_10152091522870015_18081991_n.jpg\"><img src=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-e4uXLJHSc70/UVNZA_H4_vI/AAAAAAAAAGo/J-F1fb-kAVI/s320/557333_10152091522870015_18081991_n.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"240\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\r\n</span></span></span></span></span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\">Commitment to your partner</span></span></b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> What does commitment to your partner have to do with death or our fear of life? Commitment to a relationship is putting effort and hard work into building something with that person. These «  team projects  » that you co-create with your lover bring lots of joy, sometimes disappointments and at the end you feel a sense of accomplishment. You grow closer, more intimate and your feelings deepen for one another. The love you have for yourself, your partner and potentially your kids create a sense of fulfillment. Knowing that you may never know or feel that sensation again can be quite scary. It\'s quite understandable not to want to lose such a thing, </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">so better to never have it at all</span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">. Therefore, people escape from commitment to a partner not so much because of the hardships it sometimes entails, but of the happiness it can make us feel. </span></span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>How can I overcome this?</b></span></span></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> Some may want to know how you get passed your fear of life and commit to yourself, your partner and life! Unfortunately, there is no easy answer, because we all have to go through and passed our anxiety of death in our own way. Each of us has </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">chosen</span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">a path to take and we have to live with the good and the bad of each of the situations.</span></span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-family: Times;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-2ADTVyZkc7Q/UVNZGcQGBjI/AAAAAAAAAG0/uL2iXRxLPYU/s1600/428164_10150743830001800_515151799_11579975_441050559_n.jpg\"><img src=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-2ADTVyZkc7Q/UVNZGcQGBjI/AAAAAAAAAG0/uL2iXRxLPYU/s320/428164_10150743830001800_515151799_11579975_441050559_n.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"243\" border=\"0\" /></a></span></span></span>\r\n<span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">\r\n</span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">\r\n</span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Interested in knowing more about commitment, intimacy and our fear of life: Read on these books from which this text was inspired from.</span></span></span>\r\n<span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">\r\n</span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-size: x-large; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/ressources_livres\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Intimacy and desire – David Schnarch</a></span></span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: x-large; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-decoration: none;\">\r\n<div style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"color: blue;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><a href=\"http://www.bioenergeticspress.com/browseproducts/Fear-of-Life-%28Alexander-Lowen--MD%29.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Fear of life – Alexander Lowen</a></span></span></span></span></span>\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"color: blue;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">\r\n</span></span></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"color: blue;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">\r\n</span></span></span></span>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Watch this inspirational video:</span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-size: x-large; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-decoration: none;\">\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify; text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">\r\n</span></span></span>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">\r\n</span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Do you want to be more intimate with you partner and establish a profound commitment with yourself, your partner and life.</span></span></span></span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-size: x-large; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-size: x-large; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">Visit the workshop description on </span></span></span></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/atelier\">Intimacy and desire</a> and subscribe</span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; 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(320, 2, '2017-06-08 01:56:27', '2017-06-07 23:56:27', '&nbsp;\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">How our Inevitable </span></span></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><b>Fear of Life </b></span></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">prevents us from commitment</span></span></span></span></span></h1>\n<div><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\">\n</b>\n<h3><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\">Commitment &amp; Intimacy</b></h3>\n</div>\n<div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">Commitment in a relationship is not just hard for men, it is for everyone. When I say commitment, I\'m not just talking about getting married, being in a monogamous relationship, buying a house, having a dog and kids together. It has to do with commitment to yourself and to </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>life</b></span></span><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">itself. It\'s being intimate with your partner on a profound level that few people achieve, yet everyone has the capacity.</span></span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> Whether your Christian, Muslim, Jewish, Buddhist, Atheist or Agnostic and you\'ve read the Bible or the Qu r’an a hundred times or that you believe in reincarnation or none of the above. No one REALLY knows for a fact what happens when we die. You can believe all you want, but you\'ll never be able to be 100% sure of the outcome. The only thing we are actually sure of is that we are born, we live and then we die. That is one of the reasons that people are afraid of </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">truly</span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">living. </span></span></span></span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\">Fear of Life</span></span></b></span></span></h3>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> True commitment to life is investing your entire self to making the most of the few years we have on Earth. It\'s feeling joy, sadness, anger, passion, love, having a good taste of what life has to offer us. You could think that it\'s an easy task to achieve for most, but think again. Since we only have one life to live that we are sure of, we could imagine that we would all want to be happy and enjoy it to the fullest. What most people don\'t want to admit in enjoying life to its fullest is that it comes with a huge risk...</span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">you lose it all </span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">when death comes knocking at your door. That\'s a hard feat for anyone to accept and go through. </span></span></span></span></span>\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\n</span></span></span></span></span>\n\n<hr />\n\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\n</span></span></span></span></span>\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-e4uXLJHSc70/UVNZA_H4_vI/AAAAAAAAAGo/J-F1fb-kAVI/s1600/557333_10152091522870015_18081991_n.jpg\"><img src=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-e4uXLJHSc70/UVNZA_H4_vI/AAAAAAAAAGo/J-F1fb-kAVI/s320/557333_10152091522870015_18081991_n.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"240\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\n</span></span></span></span></span>\n\n</div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\n\n<hr />\n\n</div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\">Commitment to your partner</span></span></b></span></span></h3>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> What does commitment to your partner have to do with death or our fear of life? Commitment to a relationship is putting effort and hard work into building something with that person. These «  team projects  » that you co-create with your lover bring lots of joy, sometimes disappointments and at the end you feel a sense of accomplishment. You grow closer, more intimate and your feelings deepen for one another. The love you have for yourself, your partner and potentially your kids create a sense of fulfilment. Knowing that you may never know or feel that sensation again can be quite scary. It\'s quite understandable not to want to lose such a thing, </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">so better to never have it at all</span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">. Therefore, people escape from commitment to a partner not so much because of the hardships it sometimes entails, but of the happiness it can make us feel. </span></span></span></span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>How can I overcome this?</b></span></span></span></h3>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> Some may want to know how you get passed your fear of life and commit to yourself, your partner and life! Unfortunately, there is no easy answer, because we all have to go through and passed our anxiety of death in our own way. Each of us has </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">chosen </span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">a path to take and we have to live with the good and the bad of each of the situations.</span></span></span></span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\n\n<hr />\n\n</div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></span></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-family: Times;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-2ADTVyZkc7Q/UVNZGcQGBjI/AAAAAAAAAG0/uL2iXRxLPYU/s1600/428164_10150743830001800_515151799_11579975_441050559_n.jpg\"><img src=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-2ADTVyZkc7Q/UVNZGcQGBjI/AAAAAAAAAG0/uL2iXRxLPYU/s320/428164_10150743830001800_515151799_11579975_441050559_n.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"243\" border=\"0\" /></a></span></span></span>\n<span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">\n</span></span>\n\n<hr />\n\n<span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">\n</span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\n\n<hr />\n\n</div>\n<div style=\"color: black; font-size: x-large; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\n</div>\n</div>\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\n\n<style type=\"text/css\">\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br />	/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />	   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br /></style>\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\n</label>\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\n<div style=\"position: absolute; left: -5000px;\"><input tabindex=\"-1\" name=\"b_b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d_fd88d57b31\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"clear\"><input id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe\" class=\"button\" name=\"subscribe\" type=\"submit\" value=\"Subscribe\" /></div>\n</div>\n</form></div>\n<script type=\'text/javascript\' src=\'//s3.amazonaws.com/downloads.mailchimp.com/js/mc-validate.js\'></script><script type=\'text/javascript\'>(function($) {window.fnames = new Array(); window.ftypes = new Array();fnames[0]=\'EMAIL\';ftypes[0]=\'email\';fnames[1]=\'FNAME\';ftypes[1]=\'text\';fnames[2]=\'LNAME\';ftypes[2]=\'text\';}(jQuery));var $mcj = jQuery.noConflict(true);</script>\n<!--End mc_embed_signup-->', 'Why it\'s Hard to TRULY Commit to our Relationships', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '63-autosave-v1', '', '', '2017-06-08 01:56:27', '2017-06-07 23:56:27', '', 63, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/63-autosave-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
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(323, 2, '2017-06-08 01:58:35', '2017-06-07 23:58:35', '&nbsp;\r\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">How our Inevitable </span></span></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><b>Fear of Life </b></span></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">prevents us from commitment</span></span></span></span></span></h1>\r\n<div><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\">\r\n</b>\r\n<h3><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\">Commitment &amp; Intimacy</b></h3>\r\n</div>\r\n<div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">Commitment in a relationship is not just hard for men, it is for everyone. When I say commitment, I\'m not just talking about getting married, being in a monogamous relationship, buying a house, having a dog and kids together. It has to do with commitment to yourself and to </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>life </b></span></span><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">itself. It\'s being intimate with your partner on a profound level that few people achieve, yet everyone has the capacity.</span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> Whether your Christian, Muslim, Jewish, Buddhist, Atheist or Agnostic and you\'ve read the Bible or the Qu r’an a hundred times or that you believe in reincarnation or none of the above. No one REALLY knows for a fact what happens when we die. You can believe all you want, but you\'ll never be able to be 100% sure of the outcome. The only thing we are actually sure of is that we are born, we live and then we die. That is one of the reasons that people are afraid of </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">truly </span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">living. </span></span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\">Fear of Life</span></span></b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> True commitment to life is investing your entire self to making the most of the few years we have on Earth. It\'s feeling joy, sadness, anger, passion, love, having a good taste of what life has to offer us. You could think that it\'s an easy task to achieve for most, but think again. Since we only have one life to live that we are sure of, we could imagine that we would all want to be happy and enjoy it to the fullest. What most people don\'t want to admit in enjoying life to its fullest is that it comes with a huge risk...</span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">you lose it all </span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">when death comes knocking at your door. That\'s a hard feat for anyone to accept and go through. </span></span></span></span></span>\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\r\n</span></span></span></span></span>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\r\n</span></span></span></span></span>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-e4uXLJHSc70/UVNZA_H4_vI/AAAAAAAAAGo/J-F1fb-kAVI/s1600/557333_10152091522870015_18081991_n.jpg\"><img src=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-e4uXLJHSc70/UVNZA_H4_vI/AAAAAAAAAGo/J-F1fb-kAVI/s320/557333_10152091522870015_18081991_n.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"240\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\r\n</span></span></span></span></span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\">Commitment to your partner</span></span></b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> What does commitment to your partner have to do with death or our fear of life? Commitment to a relationship is putting effort and hard work into building something with that person. These «  team projects  » that you co-create with your lover bring lots of joy, sometimes disappointments and at the end you feel a sense of accomplishment. You grow closer, more intimate and your feelings deepen for one another. The love you have for yourself, your partner and potentially your kids create a sense of fulfilment. Knowing that you may never know or feel that sensation again can be quite scary. It\'s quite understandable not to want to lose such a thing, </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">so better to never have it at all</span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">. Therefore, people escape from commitment to a partner not so much because of the hardships it sometimes entails, but of the happiness it can make us feel. </span></span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>How can I overcome this?</b></span></span></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> Some may want to know how you get passed your fear of life and commit to yourself, your partner and life! Unfortunately, there is no easy answer, because we all have to go through and passed our anxiety of death in our own way. Each of us has </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">chosen </span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">a path to take and we have to live with the good and the bad of each of the situations.</span></span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-family: Times;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-2ADTVyZkc7Q/UVNZGcQGBjI/AAAAAAAAAG0/uL2iXRxLPYU/s1600/428164_10150743830001800_515151799_11579975_441050559_n.jpg\"><img src=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-2ADTVyZkc7Q/UVNZGcQGBjI/AAAAAAAAAG0/uL2iXRxLPYU/s320/428164_10150743830001800_515151799_11579975_441050559_n.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"243\" border=\"0\" /></a></span></span></span>\r\n<span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">\r\n</span></span>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">\r\n</span></span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; 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(324, 2, '2017-06-08 02:02:02', '2017-06-08 00:02:02', '<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\">How they intertwine together!</span></h4>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<div><!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt;   Normal  0  0  1  381  2176  18  4  2672  11.1282     &lt;![endif]--><!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt;   0      0  0   &lt;![endif]--> <!--StartFragment-->\n<div style=\"line-height: 150%; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"> <span style=\"font-size: large;\">We all have patterns in our romantic relationships, which have variable impacts on our lives. They often change due to our personal development so they can better serve our needs according to our beliefs, experiences and values related to our perception of love. In other words, they are modifiable in order to protect us and help us grow as individuals. When patterns are unhealthy, they usually make us feel unhappy, lonely, mixed up, rejected and get us into problematic relationships We therefore find ourselves in a vicious cycle of bad choices when it comes to our love life with feelings of disappointment which subsequently affect us.</span></span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> Healthy patterns enable us to personally grow in our couple and the unhealthy ones are trying to protect us maladaptively. The latter are paradoxically comfortable in spite of the many problems they generate, because we can predict them and generate a sense of security. Changing patterns, all different circumstances put aside, causes anxiety for everyone. The feeling of anguish, when it comes to love, decreases motivation to modify patterns. Some people however are capable of changing them, which enables them to grow in the relationships they maintain.</span></span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-0veTlRi6hGg/UQmBPtvuKqI/AAAAAAAAAFI/xyfF-aKplDY/s1600/305103_247437601975108_135306759854860_827389_573023551_n.jpg\"><img src=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-0veTlRi6hGg/UQmBPtvuKqI/AAAAAAAAAFI/xyfF-aKplDY/s320/305103_247437601975108_135306759854860_827389_573023551_n.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"213\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; text-indent: 36px; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\">Romantic patterns begin as soon as we meet another person for the first time In order to answer our pre-established criteria, we make a selection of whom we seduce and who is allowed to flirt with us. When we start to reflect on the people we choose to seduce and those we avoid, one can detect patterns of seduction. It is not rare to flirt with people who we feel at ease with , even if they aren’t always our first choice. We seldom approach individuals who  intimidate us or we do not feel equal to , because we assume, we will be rejected and inevitably hurt. We thus avoid changing our romantic patterns, in spite of the difficulties they create, in order to stay in our comfort zone. </span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\">  </span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\">   In short, when we find ourselves in an unhealthy pattern, we avoid situations where we feel discomfort, fear or ill at ease, However, when we allow ourselves to live moments and situations of seduction that provoke more anxiety, we discover new aspects of ourselves and unexplored relationships are now possible. Awkwardness and missteps should not discourage us because they are part of the process towards change and growth  as a person. Eventually, we find our middle ground and it allows us to become more natural and fluid in being who we are. The next time you find yourselves in a context of flirting, choose the person you are really interested in and approach the ones that intimidate you.</span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\">Dare to take chances and be happily surprised! </span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></span></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\n</div>\n<div></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 16px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></span></div>\n<!--EndFragment--></div>', 'Relationship patterns and seduction', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '65-autosave-v1', '', '', '2017-06-08 02:02:02', '2017-06-08 00:02:02', '', 65, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/65-autosave-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
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(327, 2, '2017-06-08 02:06:12', '2017-06-08 00:06:12', '&nbsp;\n<h3><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><b>A Normal phase in Your Sexual Development</b></span></h3>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> Sexual desire is a feeling which pushes us towards the other so that we can answer our sexual needs. People’s sex drive is activated by various factors such as  feelings of love, pleasure, masculinity, femininity, physical features, personality, etc. There is a certain evolution that exists with sexual desire that is also influenced by age and also the length of time that a couple has been together. The majority of couples start with a high level of sexual desire which solidifies the bond between the partners. This period of time is often categorized as very passionate and filled with extremely good sex. Thereafter, attachment between partners is formed, which reinforces a sense of security in the couple. It is not unusual to find a sex life stuck in a routine at this point of the relationship. In fact, a great majority of couples are in a rut when it comes to sex and one or both partners have lost their sexual desire for their lover. This phase is completely normal and to some extent desirable in a couple. </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> This phase is a test, which couples must endure for the growth of the couple leading to better sex. It’s inevitable that we will eventually have learned every single sexual advance and technique our partner uses to seduce and arouse us. Moreover, sexual desire is seldom high when you can predict the sexual behaviors of your partner and the manner with which he or she initiates sex. It is thus necessary to become creative and reinvent yourself sexually with our lover. How to get out of a sex rut when you’re under the impression that you have already tried everything? </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><b>Recognize your couple’s dynamic</b></span></h3>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> First off, we should recognize that we can tend to take for granted our partner when it comes to sex. For example, asking our partner if he or she wants to have a sexual relationship right before going to sleep while your lying down on the bed, without having seduced them during the evening, doesn’t show that you’ve put a great deal of interest and effort for it. Various reasons explain our lack of creativity in our sex lives. We tend to be shy or awkward, afraid that the other will reject us or look ridiculous, etc. This consequently diminishes our self-esteem when it comes to our capacity to seduce and turn on our partner. We thus prefer to put the least effort possible to avoid getting hurt in the process. For example, a person who would use her or his major assets to seduce their partner and receives as an answer: “I don’t want to tonight!”. will be much more disappointed than the person who does nothing but ask for a sexual relationship right before they go to sleep. </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> Couples who will succeed in overcoming this inevitable hardship have some characteristics to help them out. Primarily, it is necessary to be ready to take chances and to get out of our comfort zone. To be able to develop our sexual maturity, it is necessary to leave the things we do best behind and to tolerate a certain discomfort even though we will probably find some obstacles on the way. It is necessary to learn how to accept our discomfort, our awkwardness and to dare to be truly naked, in the figurative and nonfigurative sense of the term, vis-a-vis our partner. It thus requires that we integrate a higher level of intimacy which is necessarily anxiety-provoking. If one agrees to show his or her true sexual self with a partner by exposing all our sexual preferences, fantasies and our most profound sexual desires, it is necessary to tolerate that our other half will not necessarily share the same pleasures.</span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><b>Getting out of our comfort zone</b></span></h3>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> It requires however to understand that the introduction of innovation into our sex lives is always unilateral. Sometimes, we must push the comfort zone of our partner to reach a more mature sexuality. On the other hand, that does not mean that we must force our partner with sexual activities that he or she does not want to undertake. One must understand that the changes we bring in our sexual scenarios requires a certain effort and that we should not accept that our partner decides to stagnate in his or her sexual development. Each partner plays the crucial role of constantly pushing their own limits and comfort level when it comes to their sexuality and that of their partner. If not, it is inevitable that the quality of sex in the couple will decrease and sexual desire will disappear. </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<h3><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><b>A bit of advice!</b></span></h3>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> To conclude, here are three short phrases summarizing the preceding elements:</span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> 1. If one does not <b>GO</b> after what they want, they’ll never have it.</span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> 2. If one never asks, the answer will always be“<b>NO</b>”.</span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> 3. If you do not step forward, you’ll always remain in the same place.</span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 19.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> W</span>hen you do not have any more sexual desire for your partner, s<span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\">eize the opportunity that arises in front of you to grow and become more mature sexually</span>!<span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\">\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></div>\n</div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 16.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>', 'A lack of sexual desire is good for your couple!', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '66-autosave-v1', '', '', '2017-06-08 02:06:12', '2017-06-08 00:06:12', '', 66, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/66-autosave-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
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(330, 2, '2017-06-08 02:09:36', '2017-06-08 00:09:36', '<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">Real Intimacy is hard for everyone</span></span></h1>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 14px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: normal normal normal 14px/normal Verdana; text-align: justify; margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> We tend to assume that in couples with a high frequency of arguments that there is a lack of communication. It’s actually wrong to think that way, as it is impossible for 2 people in any kind of a relationship of not communicating. We communicate verbally, but most of our communication is actually done non verbally. Messages are rarely miscommunicated between a couple but rather it’s the message from the partner that is hard to accept. Partners who constantly seek to improve the communication in the couple are actually trying to get the message they would like to hear because they have a hard time believing what the other person is truly communicating. Typically, we’ll get one partner or both nagging the other one, so that they eventually get what they want to hear. These couples or individuals lack the capacity to really be intimate with one another. People who are capable of tolerating the intimacy needed in a long term relationship can appreciate the similarities they have with their lover, but also the differences. It is inevitable that we will find the latter in all couples who have been together for a long time. Most often we will find persisting conflicts about money, sex, the education of the kids, personal values and chores around the house.</span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 17.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: large;\">Differences in your couple Make you Grow</span></h3>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> Couples tend to avoid taboo subjects because they don’t want to face the irreconcilable conflicts. This dynamic inevitably creates superficial disagreements between couples, which don’t allow the partners to grow as people and lovers. It is entirely normal for couples to face conflicts of interest one day or the other. The important is not what the differences are or how many, but how we decide to deal with them. Conflicts between couples can serve the partners as a way to learn and better understand each other and themselves. This is the hard part of being in a couple, but down the line it brings couples to strengthen their bond and love between them. </span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 17.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 17.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: large;\">Repeating Patterns</span></h3>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> People are willing to go to great lengths to avoid the real problems in their couple. They’ll put the blame on their partner, justify their actions by all kinds of rationalization pretend to act with good intentions or play dumbfounded, when they actually aren’t. Each of theses strategies and others are the perfect way to push the real conflict aside. On the other hand, sooner or later, the same problems arise and the couple feel as though their differences will never be reconciled. Surprisingly, this dynamic becomes in certain ways comfortable. For most, it’s actually easier to argue perpetually than to accept the reality they face. Our partners are different from us in the way they think, their values, opinions, attitudes, behaviours and beliefs. As simple as this concept might seem, in reality it’s quite difficult to live with these differences and truly accept them. Especially, when they have a direct effect on us, such as our sexual styles and preferences.</span></span>\n<span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\">\n</span></span><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\">\n</span></span>\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-5nPwsIU8iM0/UNR8Udu71SI/AAAAAAAAAD0/CK563bVmOPI/s1600/images.jpeg\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><img src=\"http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-5nPwsIU8iM0/UNR8Udu71SI/AAAAAAAAAD0/CK563bVmOPI/s1600/images.jpeg\" border=\"0\" /></span></a></div>\n<span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\">\n</span></span><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\">\n</span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 17.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> Conflicts in couples are inevitable, but must be dealt with adequately. It’s important to know ourselves well and have good self-esteem, while being firm with our positions yet still be flexible when it comes to a tense subject. People who have a hard time with intimacy are either very rigid in their interactions because, their partners’ differences are seen as threats to their identity (beliefs, opinions, values, etc.) or people are easily influenced by their negating their own identity and therefore avoid creating divergences with their lovers’.</span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 17.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: large;\">Beware of Compromise</span></h3>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> It often happens that couple’s conflicts aren\'t settled within the first discussion. In fact, that allows each partner to reflect on the other’s opinion to discuss it another time. Compromise always lets one or both partner’s with a sour taste in their mouth, because you have to comply with the other one’s demands. It is much better to find a consensus that both partners desire. Therefore, it’s important to be flexible in our opinions, values and beliefs without feeling threatened in our solid identity. If you can’t find a consensus then you have to find a way that you can tolerate it.</span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 17.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> Finally, when a couple faces these hardships, it’s important that they deal with the intimacy that is developing between each other. To do so, we must accept that our partner is different from us, which is easier said than done. We must tolerate the anxiety provoked by the conflicts by staying firm to our convictions, yet taking the time to consider the other’s opinion while confronting ourselves to arrive at a consensus rather than a compromise. It is not the differences and similarities that determine a couple’s success, but rather how we deal with them and the perception we have of our lover in the process. </span></span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 17.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; min-height: 17.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666; font-size: large;\"> </span></div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\">\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-family: Times; font-size: medium; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\n</div>\n<div style=\"font: 14.0px Verdana; margin: 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px 0.0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0.0px;\"> </span></div>', 'Couple’s Communication Issues or Unable to Tolerate Intimacy?', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '67-autosave-v1', '', '', '2017-06-08 02:09:36', '2017-06-08 00:09:36', '', 67, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/67-autosave-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
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(335, 2, '2017-06-08 02:13:41', '2017-06-08 00:13:41', '<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\">Laws of the Body*</span></h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>\r\n\r\n<!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt; Normal 0 0 1 821 4683 39 9 5751 11.1282 &lt;![endif]--><!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt; 0 0 0 &lt;![endif]--> <!--StartFragment-->\r\n<h3><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"><b>Mind and Body Are One</b></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify; text-indent: 35.4pt;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">Although, it seems that our society has separated the mind from the body as two separate entities, sexuality, the body and the mind are inseparable. Some people tend to advocate that the brain is the biggest sexual organ of the human being. That is a half-truth since the brain is actually part of the body.  According to the «Sexocorporel», mind and body are interdependent of each other because one always affects the other. Feelings are felt through the body not our heads. This concept is called mind/body where our bodily movements (breathing, gestures, postures, etc.) have an impact on our mind (emotions, beliefs, self-esteem, sexual fantasies, etc.) The laws of the body which consist of muscle tension, our speed and the space we use, can help us on different levels of our sexuality. More specifically, the functions of the three laws of the body allow us to modulate our sexual arousal, augment our sexual pleasure, expand our sexual imagination and change our perception about sex. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify; text-indent: 35.4pt;\"></div>\r\n<h3><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"><b>Sexual Arousal &amp; Sexual Pleasure</b></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">   First and foremost, it’s important that we make the distinction between sexual arousal and sexual pleasure. The former is the physiological response our bodies have when we are stimulated sexually (touching, hugging, caressing, kissing, masturbating, etc.). Men will have an erection while women will lubricate. On the other hand, sexual pleasure is how we feel about the experience whether it be good or bad. It is absolutely possible to be sexually aroused, yet feel no pleasure during a sexual activity. Even though, we are in love with our partner and are capable of having an orgasm, our subjective experience might not be as pleasurable as we would like. It’s not rare to find people who get cramps during sex, which diminishes the enjoyment of our sex life. Fortunately, we can heighten our pleasure with the three laws of the body, if we know how to explore their potential.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<h3><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">Muscular Tension</span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">     Our muscular tensions play a crucial role when it comes to our sexual arousal. For the human body to get aroused there needs to be a certain amount of muscular tension in the area of the genitals. The buttocks, p</span><span lang=\"FR-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">ubococcygeus</span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"> (PC), abdominal and pelvic muscles are the most solicited during our sexual activities. The contraction and relaxation of theses muscles augment the blood towards our genitals which increases sexual arousal and makes us reach orgasm. It’s important to consider that our muscles can be hyper-contracted which can create cramps or too relaxed which becomes unpleasant as the sexual tension is not released.  </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-IC0xr3U7oj8/ULvqNNSG74I/AAAAAAAAADA/E2yI-Q3XtcU/s1600/slide_212102_745697_free.jpg\"><img src=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-IC0xr3U7oj8/ULvqNNSG74I/AAAAAAAAADA/E2yI-Q3XtcU/s320/slide_212102_745697_free.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"232\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 19px;\">    The movements of the upper body such as shoulder, neck, back, and pectoral muscles access the emotional part of us. When we laugh, cry, feel joy, pleasure, etc. there is inevitably a contraction and relaxation (movement) of those muscles. When it comes to sexual pleasure the same principal comes into play. As our sexual arousal increases so do our muscular tensions in our entire body. Therefore to access even more sexual pleasure we can create more fluidity by moving our upper body in different directions to feel the various sensations during a sexual activity.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"><b>Speed of our Movements</b></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">     The speed of our movements also plays an important role in the sexual arousal and pleasure. When we slow down our bodies’ movements we are more aware of the diverse sensations of touching our partner. Futhermore, slowness allows us to relax our muscles and feel more sexual pleasure. Increasing the speed of our movements will inevitably make our muscles contract more, which escalates our sexual arousal so that we may reach orgasm. Hence, by playing with various speeds during sex we can modulate our sexual arousal to then increase our sexual pleasure and feel every different sensation that our bodies are capable of providing us.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\"><b>Inner &amp; Outer Space of the Body</b></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b></b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">    We can divide the space of our body into 2 types of category: inner and outer. The former is related to the style of breathing that we use. A deep, slow &amp; abdominal breath will relax our muscles and allow to better feel our body. This relaxation will cause our movements to be slower and amplify our sexual pleasure. On the other hand, a short, rapid and thoracic breath will generate sexual arousal by contracting our muscles and increasing our speed.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">   The space that we use outside of our body is the expression of our movements such as arms, legs, neck, pelvis, hips, etc. Movement is how the body feels pleasure. It would be hard to imagine someone feeling extreme pleasure in an immobilized state of his or her body. The more space we use with our body, the more our muscles contract and relax to provoke the movement. We are then capable of feeling numerous sensations that we would feel in a more limited space. Consequently, the more sensation we feel by diffusing our sexual pleasure throughout the entire body, the less we can concentrate in one particular area. Therefore, when we limit the movement we can concentrate our sexual arousal towards the genitals for example and have an orgasm. Once again, increasing and decreasing the space we utilize during our sexual activity will allow us to explore our sexual arousal and pleasure in different ways. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-size: 14.0pt;\">Just Have Fun!</span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 19px;\">  In conclusion, it’s important to remember that sexual arousal and sexual pleasure aren’t opposites. People can feel both at the same time. What is important is to find balance between these two concepts so that we can enjoy our sexual activities to the fullest. Therefore, enjoy exploring the three laws of the body and all areas of your sex life in various ways as to modulate your sexual arousal to make it last longer and heighten your sexual pleasure to enjoy even more. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 19px;\">\r\n</span><span style=\"font-size: 19px;\">\r\n</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;\">* Inspired by the Sexocorporel approach</span></div>\r\n<!--EndFragment-->\r\n\r\n</div>', 'Sex, The Body and Your Mind', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '68-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-08 02:13:41', '2017-06-08 00:13:41', '', 68, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/68-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(338, 2, '2017-06-22 16:39:41', '2017-06-22 14:39:41', '<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#video16\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"> </span></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/03/webseries-maintaining-sexual-desire-part-3.html#video16\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Patterns between Low Desire Partner &amp; High Desire Partner</span></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/03/webseries-maintaining-sexual-desire-part-3.html#video17\">Different types of alliances in couples</a></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/03/webseries-maintaining-sexual-desire-part-3.html#video18\">Do you really want to change?</a></span></div>\r\nThere will always be a partner who<big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big> has more sexual desire than the other. The way<big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big> <big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big>you <big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big>will manage that difference will have a tremendous impact on each partner’s desire and the pleasure you will get out of sex. Ch<big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big>anging our <big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big>relationship patterns is a hard thing to do. Nevertheless, the effort that is necessary to change can bring us great joy and closeness with our partner.\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"novalidate\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list to receive notice of FREE videos on sexuality</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"left: -5000px; 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(341, 2, '2017-06-22 16:46:45', '2017-06-22 14:46:45', '<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/nice-guy-syndrome.html#video1\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Nice Guy &amp; THE Friend Zone</span></a></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montral.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/nice-guy-syndrome.html#video2\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Nice Guy &amp; Lack of Honesty</span></a></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montral.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/nice-guy-syndrome.html#video3\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Nice Guy &amp; Sexual Difficulty</span></a></div>\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\n<div>\n<div>\n<h2></h2>\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=1c8ad4cc63\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"novalidate\" target=\"_blank\">\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\n<h2></h2>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: \'verdana\'; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\">Have you been stuck in the friend zone for too long? Or maybe you don\'t get this whole bad boy vs nice guy thing. Did you ever wonder how you could be more assertive sexually and create sexual desire in your partner?</span></div>\n<h2></h2>\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\n</label>\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\n<div style=\"left: -5000px; position: absolute;\"><input tabindex=\"-1\" name=\"b_b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d_1c8ad4cc63\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"clear\"><input id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe\" class=\"button\" name=\"subscribe\" type=\"submit\" value=\"Subscribe\" /></div>\n</div>\n</form></div>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n</div>\n</div>\n<!--End mc_embed_signup-->\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"></h3>\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"></h3>\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video1\"> Nice Guy &amp; 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(343, 2, '2017-06-22 16:49:31', '2017-06-22 14:49:31', '<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/maintaining-sexual-desire-in-longterm.html#video10\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Phases of Sexual Desire in a Couple</span></a></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/maintaining-sexual-desire-in-longterm.html#video11\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Low sexual desire: A normal and desirable outcome</span></a></div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/maintaining-sexual-desire-in-longterm.html#video12\">Importance of intimacy for your sexual desire</a></span></div>\n<span style=\"font-size: large;\">Have you ever asked yourself if it was normal to lose your sexual desire towards your partner after a certain time? Could you believe that it is even <b>desirable</b> for your relationships? Learn in this webseries how to get past this obstacle that can be a very delicate situation for many couples.</span>\n<h2></h2>\n&nbsp;\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"novalidate\" target=\"_blank\">\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\n</label>\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\n<div style=\"left: -5000px; 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text-align: center;\">\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/_34brvOTBXA/default.jpg?sqp=CJD8qKQF&amp;rs=AOn4CLDLmArMM9Ms_V7P8eqeMr5qIsTxAg\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/_34brvOTBXA?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/_34brvOTBXA?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\n</div>\n&nbsp;\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\">\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" />\n<input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"VH4H5YSDR8Y36\" />\n<input alt=\"PayPal - The safer, easier way to pay online!\" name=\"submit\" src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/btn/btn_buynow_SM.gif\" type=\"image\" />\n<img src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/scr/pixel.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" border=\"0\" /> 3 videos for 10$</div>\n</form></div>\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Intimacy is your capacity to be authentic and have integrity. Also a great source of sexual desire in long term relationships.</h4>\n&nbsp;\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Are you truly intimate with your partner?</div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Can you tolerate the discomfort of intimacy?</div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Would you be able to share your most intimate thoughts and fantasies with your partner?</div>\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\n\nAre you willing to admit to yourself and your partner that your sex life just isn\'t that satisfying?\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></div>\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sexologist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></div>\n</div>', 'Webserie 03: Maintaining Sexual Desire in Long Term Relationships', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '42-autosave-v1', '', '', '2017-06-22 16:49:31', '2017-06-22 14:49:31', '', 42, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/42-autosave-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
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(350, 2, '2017-06-22 16:58:56', '2017-06-22 14:58:56', '<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video0\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Introductory Video to the Program</span></a>\n<u></u>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video1\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Sexual Desire, Arousal &amp; Pleasure</span></a></div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video2\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Pleasure &amp; space</span></a></div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video3\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Speed &amp; Muscle Tension</span></a>\n<u></u></div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video4\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Sexual Mode of Arousal Part 1</span></a></div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video4\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Sexual Mode of Arousal Part 2</span></a></div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video6\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Sexual Fluidity</span></a>\n<u></u></div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video7\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Rapid Ejaculation: Generalized Speed</span></a></div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video7\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Rapid Ejaculation: Deep anxieties</span></a></div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video7\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Rapid Ejaculation: Sexual Presence</span></a>\n<u></u></div>\n<div>\n<div><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/02/premature-ejaculation-program.html#video10\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Fragile Masculinity &amp; Conclusion</span></a></div>\n<div></div>\n&nbsp;\n<div></div>\n</div>\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\n\n<style type=\"text/css\">\n #mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br /> /* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />    We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br /></style>\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=1c8ad4cc63\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\n<h2></h2>\n<h2></h2>\n<h2></h2>\n<h2></h2>\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> </label><input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label><input id=\"mce-FNAME\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label><input id=\"mce-LNAME\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\n<div><input tabindex=\"-1\" name=\"b_b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d_1c8ad4cc63\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\n<div class=\"clear\">\n\n<input id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe\" class=\"button\" name=\"subscribe\" type=\"submit\" value=\"Subscribe\" />\n\n&nbsp;\n\n</div>\n</div>\n</form></div>\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video0\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">INTRODUCTION TO PROGRAM</span></a></h2>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/vi/5ih-YrnrgV8/0.jpg\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/5ih-YrnrgV8?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/5ih-YrnrgV8?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\n<div></div>\n<div><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\">&nbsp;\n\n</form></div>\n<div></div>\n<h3>PART 1</h3>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video1\"></a></h3>\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video1\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video1\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Sexual Desire, Arousal &amp; Pleasure</span></a></h2>\n<div><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video1\"> </a></div>\n<div class=\"separator\"></div>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/rxQ3C-12ANE/default.jpg?sqp=CPj3kKUF&amp;rs=AOn4CLCM8zosm_Mf1A52THpkYpUN0mYTNg\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/rxQ3C-12ANE?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/rxQ3C-12ANE?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<div><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\"></form></div>\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video2\"></a></h3>\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video2\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video2\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Pleasure &amp; 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text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/ZbKdu1hV2ro/default.jpg?sqp=COCTm6UF&amp;rs=AOn4CLC7ZPYlyMaNN7AXxODBXZhXXmCzjA\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/ZbKdu1hV2ro?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/ZbKdu1hV2ro?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\n<div></div>\n<div><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\"><input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" /> <input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"2FG78R8DNUYGC\" /></form></div>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video6\"></a></h3>\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video6\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video6\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Sexual Fluidity</span></a></h2>\n<div></div>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/3v0brHySK1A/default.jpg?sqp=CLSRm6UF&amp;rs=AOn4CLBBVpm9nH10Zv_OXWAt_QwyP0b7VQ\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/3v0brHySK1A?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/3v0brHySK1A?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\n<div></div>\n<div><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\"></form>\n<h3>PART 3</h3>\n</div>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<div></div>\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video7\"></a></h3>\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video7\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video7\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Rapid Ejaculation: Generalized Speediness</span></a></h2>\n<div class=\"separator\"></div>\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; 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(359, 2, '2017-06-29 18:14:34', '2017-06-29 16:14:34', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2016/08/there-is-no-such-thing-as-a-lack-of-communication.html\"><strong>mind-map</strong></a> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back an old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4> How to increase our emotional maturity?</h4>\r\nWhen you are faced with a conflict try to act in a <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\"><strong>collaborative manner</strong></a>. If you feel that what you are saying or doing isn\'t helping the dialogue:\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Take a step back and breathe</li>\r\n 	<li>Reflect on what the other is trying to tell you</li>\r\n 	<li>Add something that will make the conversation progress and not digress</li>\r\n 	<li>Remain calm and listen to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Try not to argue or poke holes in what they are saying</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t change the subject, bring up old wounds or be mean to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t be selfish and see yourself as the victim</li>\r\n 	<li>Avoid trying to WIN the argument, you\'ll both be losers at the end anyway if you do that</li>\r\n 	<li>Be respectful and apologize when you feel that you were in the wrong</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t pout or act like a child, be a mature adult</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"> <img class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-374\" src=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2017/06/sex-therapist-montreal--300x169.jpg\" alt=\"sex therapist montreal\" width=\"300\" height=\"169\" /></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like these? 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(362, 2, '2017-06-27 01:33:45', '2017-06-26 23:33:45', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <strong>mind-map</strong> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person.', 'Emotional intelligence and emotional maturity', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '359-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-27 01:33:45', '2017-06-26 23:33:45', '', 359, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/359-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0);
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(363, 2, '2017-06-29 15:47:46', '2017-06-29 13:47:46', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <strong>mind-map</strong> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back and old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;', 'Emotional intelligence and emotional maturity', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '359-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-29 15:47:46', '2017-06-29 13:47:46', '', 359, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/359-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(365, 2, '2017-06-29 15:58:00', '2017-06-29 13:58:00', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <strong>mind-map</strong> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back and old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4></h4>\r\n&nbsp;', 'Emotional intelligence and emotional maturity', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '359-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-29 15:58:00', '2017-06-29 13:58:00', '', 359, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/359-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(366, 2, '2017-06-29 18:14:34', '2017-06-29 16:14:34', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <strong>mind-map</strong> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back and old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4> How to increase our emotional maturity?</h4>\r\nWhen you are faced with a conflict try to act in a <strong>collaborative manner</strong>. If you feel that what you are saying or doing isn\'t helping the dialogue:\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Take a step back and breathe</li>\r\n 	<li>Reflect on what the other is trying to tell you</li>\r\n 	<li>Add something that will make the conversation progress and not digress</li>\r\n 	<li>Remain calm and listen to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Try not to argue or poke holes in what they are saying</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t change the subject, bring up old wounds or be mean to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t be selfish and see yourself as the victim</li>\r\n 	<li>Avoid trying to WIN the argument, you\'ll both be losers at the end anyway if you do that</li>\r\n 	<li>Be respectful and apologize when you feel that you were in the wrong</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t pout or act like a child, be an mature adult</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;', 'Emotional intelligence and emotional maturity', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '359-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-29 18:14:34', '2017-06-29 16:14:34', '', 359, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/359-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(367, 2, '2017-08-04 16:00:59', '2017-08-04 14:00:59', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2016/08/there-is-no-such-thing-as-a-lack-of-communication.html\"><strong>mind-map</strong></a> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back an old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4> How to increase our emotional maturity?</h4>\r\nWhen you are faced with a conflict try to act in a <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\"><strong>collaborative manner</strong></a>. If you feel that what you are saying or doing isn\'t helping the dialogue:\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Take a step back and breathe</li>\r\n 	<li>Reflect on what the other is trying to tell you</li>\r\n 	<li>Add something that will make the conversation progress and not digress</li>\r\n 	<li>Remain calm and listen to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Try not to argue or poke holes in what they are saying</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t change the subject, bring up old wounds or be mean to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t be selfish and see yourself as the victim</li>\r\n 	<li>Avoid trying to WIN the argument, you\'ll both be losers at the end anyway if you do that</li>\r\n 	<li>Be respectful and apologize when you feel that you were in the wrong</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t pout or act like a child, be a mature adult</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"> <img class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-374\" src=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2017/06/sex-therapist-montreal--300x169.jpg\" alt=\"sex therapist montreal\" width=\"300\" height=\"169\" /></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like these? 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(368, 2, '2017-06-29 18:17:39', '2017-06-29 16:17:39', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2016/08/there-is-no-such-thing-as-a-lack-of-communication.html\"><strong>mind-map</strong></a> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back and old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4> How to increase our emotional maturity?</h4>\r\nWhen you are faced with a conflict try to act in a <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\"><strong>collaborative manner</strong></a>. If you feel that what you are saying or doing isn\'t helping the dialogue:\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Take a step back and breathe</li>\r\n 	<li>Reflect on what the other is trying to tell you</li>\r\n 	<li>Add something that will make the conversation progress and not digress</li>\r\n 	<li>Remain calm and listen to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Try not to argue or poke holes in what they are saying</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t change the subject, bring up old wounds or be mean to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t be selfish and see yourself as the victim</li>\r\n 	<li>Avoid trying to WIN the argument, you\'ll both be losers at the end anyway if you do that</li>\r\n 	<li>Be respectful and apologize when you feel that you were in the wrong</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t pout or act like a child, be a mature adult</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;', 'Emotional intelligence and emotional maturity', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '359-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-29 18:17:39', '2017-06-29 16:17:39', '', 359, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/359-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(369, 2, '2017-06-29 18:25:19', '2017-06-29 16:25:19', '<h1> Are you emotionally intelligent?</h1>\r\nHave you ever heard of emotional intelligence? You most likely are if you are capable of reading other people\'s emotions. Some people are just way better at it than others. This capacity is required if you want to have any type of profound or <strong>intimate moment</strong> with another person. It is required if you want to flirt or initiate sex with a partner. Without some form of emotional intelligence, our conversations would be completely rational and robotic, which is not the case for most people. Emotional intelligence is your capacity to <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2016/08/there-is-no-such-thing-as-a-lack-of-communication.html\"><strong>mind-map</strong></a> a person and know their desires, intentions and emotions through their tone of voice, body language and facial expressions.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>The bad side of emotional intelligence</h2>\r\nUnfortunately, emotional intelligence isn\'t always a good thing to have. If you use it with bad intentions, you can really hurt someone else. People who are highly intelligent when it comes to emotions can easily detect other people\'s weak spots and use it against them. You either know a person like that or you are a person like that or both. Which one is it for you? Have you ever been really mean to someone by using their insecurities against them? Do you know someone who does do that? Politicians, therapist, lawyers, police interrogators, narcissist, salesmen and others excel at reading others. Some use their emotional intelligence to help others and maintain healthy relationships. While others use it to their advantage to the detriment of the person they are using it against.\r\n<h3>Emotional intelligence in a couple</h3>\r\nWe all have some form of emotional intelligence and we use it in our sex lives and romantic relationships with our spouse. Our emotional intelligence tends to be especially used when we are fighting or in a conflict with them. It allows us to understand how they feel when we say something that might be hurtful or nasty to them. They evaluate you and you evaluate them constantly while you are talking or arguing together. You can either use it to resolve the conflict and find a solution that works best for both or try to get your way and out-smart your lover. How do you use your emotional intelligence?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>What is emotional maturity, then?</h2>\r\nEmotional maturity is a choice, not a capacity. Either you choose to be mature or you don\'t. Emotional maturity is using your emotional intelligence to be a nice person. It is also your capacity to manage your own emotions without blaming others for them but owning your emotions. Only you get to decide how you express your emotions, not your spouse. We cannot control our emotions as they come as a reflex, but how you manage and express them is a choice you constantly make. If you are mad, you could punch someone in the face to alleviate the anger. You can also decide to verbally yell at your spouse or in a calm matter name what makes you angry.\r\n\r\nEmotional maturity, in a couple, is taking the time to consider your spouse\'s feelings and your own and acting in a manner that will help the situation and eventually solve it. Emotionally immature adults tend to victimize themselves and blame their partner for how they make them feel. They justify their actions by the action of the other. If both are doing the same, this can go in circles for quite a while. Let\'s give an example:\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A gives a snide remark to Spouse B, because they didn\'t do XYZ and they feel unimportant because of it.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B yells out to the other to get off their backs.</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A critiques Spouse B of being self-centered and selfish all the time</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B critiques Spouse A of always criticizing them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse A bring out an old emotional wound of Spouse B in a deliberate manner to hurt them</li>\r\n 	<li>Spouse B brings back and old fight, completely changing the initial subject at hand</li>\r\n 	<li>Rince and repeat for 30 minutes to an hour</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\nThis can go on and on and on, while nothing gets resolved. Both partners in this situation are emotionally intelligent, but neither is emotionally mature. It would only take one of them to show some maturity and restraint themselves from trying to bring the other one down or try to win the argument to calm things down. How would you have reacted in a similar situation in your relationship? Would you have participated in staking up the emotional wounds and attacks to each other or would you have brought yourself to be a mature adult and decide to let go of winning the argument by trying to understand what was really going on in this context?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4> How to increase our emotional maturity?</h4>\r\nWhen you are faced with a conflict try to act in a <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\"><strong>collaborative manner</strong></a>. If you feel that what you are saying or doing isn\'t helping the dialogue:\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>Take a step back and breathe</li>\r\n 	<li>Reflect on what the other is trying to tell you</li>\r\n 	<li>Add something that will make the conversation progress and not digress</li>\r\n 	<li>Remain calm and listen to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Try not to argue or poke holes in what they are saying</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t change the subject, bring up old wounds or be mean to each other</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t be selfish and see yourself as the victim</li>\r\n 	<li>Avoid trying to WIN the argument, you\'ll both be losers at the end anyway if you do that</li>\r\n 	<li>Be respectful and apologize when you feel that you were in the wrong</li>\r\n 	<li>Don\'t pout or act like a child, be a mature adult</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2016/11/francois.jpg\"><img src=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2016/11/francois-278x300.jpg\" width=\"185\" height=\"200\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like these? 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