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(81, 1, '2016-08-03 20:54:00', '2016-08-03 18:54:00', '<h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large\">Honey...I just don\'t understand you!</span></h2><div><br /></div><h3>Everyone says it, nobody gets its!</h3><div><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">How many times have you said or heard couples or even therapists saying how communication in a relationship is key? A million times I suppose. <b>What if I told you communication is rarely if not ever the problem people face in relationships. </b>Would you be surprised? Confused? Intrigued? Angry?</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><h4 style=\"text-align: center\">Saying it isn\'t the problem</h4><div><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">People have no issues communicating what they want, &nbsp;even if they don\'t verbally say it out loud. Have you ever heard that communication passes mainly by body language and not verbal words? Communication without body language would be bland, boring and barely comprehensible. &nbsp;Well, our capacity to read each other through body language is our ability to <b>mind-map each other</b>.</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">It is a skill we all develop at the age of four years old in a spontaneous manner and it becomes mature at the age of eleven. It is our primal instincts to interpret and understand other people through body language, their tone of voice and their attitudes. &nbsp;So even if your partner isn\'t verbally saying things, <b>you are still strongly capable of determining what their desires or intentions might be.&nbsp;</b></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Now, I am not saying we can mind read, but we have a lot of clues as to our spouse\'s moods of the moment. If we didn\'t have this skill, we would never have sex, flirting would be absolutely impossible and you would never be able to have any type of connection with other people.&nbsp;</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><b>Here are a couple of examples you might relate to:</b></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">1) Your spouse comes back from work and you feel that they are upset. Just image how that would look like without them even saying a word.&nbsp;</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">2) Your partner is feeling flirtatious and they would like to have sex with you. Again, without saying anything, they are able to transmit to you their intentions and desires. What does that look to you if you picture it?</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">3) You are at a family dinner and they say something embarrassing&nbsp;or inappropriate and you want to communicate to them to quit it, without saying a peep. How would you go along doing it?</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Are you starting to catch my drift? Well, that is also your capacity to mind-map. We also have an ability to predict where people are going with what they are saying, even though it is written down. <b>Now I could give you some bogus explanation on human evolution and how it was used to save our butts from predators, but that is not important. </b>What is significant is that you have the ability to mind-map.&nbsp;</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><h3 style=\"text-align: justify\">So what am I suppose to do with this mind-mapping ability you say?</h3><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">It is pretty simple. STOP PRETENDING YOU DON\'T HAVE IT! So many couples come into my office saying that they don\'t understand each other and they lack communication skills or that they don\'t communicate. <b>That\'s when I have to refrain myself from having a little smile knowing full well that it isn\'t the case, yet they want to implement that idea in the therapy</b>. That is another mind-mapping ability called <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2016/08/pretending-to-have-communication-issues.html\" target=\"_blank\">implanting false beliefs.</a> Which we will get to in another article.&nbsp;</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Most people don\'t want their spouse to know that they can actually mind-map them. It allows them to pretend they don\'t know what the other wants or that they don\'t understand them&nbsp;when in reality they do. This serves many purposes in relationships that tend to be destructive. <b>When we pretend that we don\'t understand our partner\'s desires and intentions it gives us excuses to avoid doing things that we don\'t want to do.</b> Like having sex! Being nice or emotionally available for them.<br /><br />Have you ever kissed your partner wanting to show them you wanted to heat things up and get funky? Then only to receive those duck kisses that let you hang dry (the situation can also be reversed). That is when the partner later says: I didn\'t understand that you wanted sex, it wasn\'t clear! This allows avoiding the <b>\"I don\'t want sex with you\"</b> discussion and putting the blame on the other person for not communicating properly what they wanted. <b>If you had to choose between telling your partner you don\'t desire them or arguing about how you both communicate. Which one would you choose? Most people would take the latter option.</b><br /><br /><br /><table align=\"center\" cellpadding=\"0\" cellspacing=\"0\" style=\"margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;text-align: center\"><tbody><tr><td style=\"text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-weI0x4zsb4o/V6PrcfzPK9I/AAAAAAAAA6w/HGUB9bu7C0cytBNso4qdvqRTyoAW_xQDgCLcB/s1600/communicaton%2Bissues.jpg\" style=\"margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto\"><img alt=\"couple therapist, sex therapist, communication issues\" border=\"0\" height=\"212\" src=\"https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-weI0x4zsb4o/V6PrcfzPK9I/AAAAAAAAA6w/HGUB9bu7C0cytBNso4qdvqRTyoAW_xQDgCLcB/s320/communicaton%2Bissues.jpg\" title=\"communication issues\" width=\"320\" /></a></td></tr><tr><td style=\"text-align: center\">Oooh, the irony. Pretending you can\'t hear the person with the ear without the can!</td></tr></tbody></table><br /><br /><h4 style=\"text-align: center\">Sex and mind-mapping</h4><div><br /></div><div>Mind-mapping also plays a huge role during sex. This sets the mood and tone of your sexual relationship that you are about to have. The way you kiss, touch and what you do will be determined by mind-mapping. Rethink about your last sexual encounter. <b>How did you know when to move on from kissing to touching genitals? How did you know it was time to penetrate or have oral sex? Have you ever felt that your partner wasn\'t that into it or really was hot for you? If you are capable of understanding the flow and movement of sexual activities, then you can mind-map. </b>Not that anyone doesn\'t have the ability anyways! Now are you still going to pretend that your spouse and yourself don\'t communicate well?</div><br /><br /><h3 style=\"text-align: justify\">&nbsp;Understanding, just disagreeing</h3><div><br /></div><div>When people come in therapy saying they have \"communication issues\"; what they are really saying is: I don\'t agree with you and I want you to change your mind ASAP. Sometimes, they want the therapist to change their lover\'s mind. It is easier saying that we don\'t understand each other when in reality we perceive things differently from our spouse. <b>We have difficulty in our relationships when we are faced with a partner who doesn\'t want the same things as us.</b> We can take it personally and feel unimportant to them. It can break our&nbsp;perception of who they are as a person. It doesn\'t validate our point of view, which obliges us to confront them. It confronts us to making tough life decisions that we may not want to deal with.</div><div><br /></div><h4 style=\"text-align: center\">Can we not agree to disagree?</h4><div><br /></div><div>Nope, you may not! When it comes to negotiating our values, our principles, and our integrity, we cannot agree to disagree. <b>You are faced with constant dilemmas in a relationship where you have to choose between what you want and what your partner wants which more often than not, will not necessarily be the same.</b> You cannot have sex and not have it at the same time. You cannot spend money and save it for later. You cannot clean the house and not clean it. You cannot go to your in-laws at the same time that you stay at home.&nbsp;</div><div><br /></div><div>When we tend to disagree on numerous things in relationships, that\'s when the infamous \"communication issues\" start to arise. Sex, cleaning, in-laws, money and educating the kids are the general subjects we argue the most about. Others are also possible. They touch our most profound values and integrity, which no one wants to lose.&nbsp;</div><div><br /></div><h4 style=\"text-align: center\">How to get out of this never-ending cycle?</h4><div><br /></div><div>Like I said earlier: \"STOP PRETENDING YOU DON\'T HAVE MIND-MAPPING ABILITIES\". <b>This will allow you and your partner to stop arguing about something that doesn\'t exist and discuss the real issues at hand.</b> Be honest about what you want and the fact that you know what your partner wants, but that you just don\'t want to give it to them. This will end the none sense bickering about the \"I already told you this before\" and the \"how come you still don\'t understand\". <b>Take into consideration that you are not the only one who has made sacrifices in the relationship.</b> That all your needs and desires will not and cannot all be answered. Stop avoiding the hard truths of your relationship and have the conversation with your partner. You will only appreciate each other more for being fully honest about who you are and what you want.&nbsp;</div><div><br /></div><div>This can lead you to separation, but mostly it makes you a better person by being more understanding which tends to bring people closer not further apart. Knowing you can mind-map and that you are being mind-map changes the game in a relationship. It is up to you to decide how you want to play from now on.&nbsp;</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><u>Did you like this article? Don\'t hesitate to share it on FACEBOOK &amp; TWITTER</u><br /><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br class=\"Apple-interchange-newline\" /><h4 style=\"text-align: center\">Next article</h4><div style=\"text-align: start\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2016/08/pretending-to-have-communication-issues.html\" target=\"_blank\"><br /></a><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2016/08/pretending-to-have-communication-issues.html\" target=\"_blank\">Pretending to have communication issues: Types of mind-mapping</a></div><div style=\"text-align: start\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: start\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2016/08/getting-beyond-communication-issues.html\" target=\"_blank\">Getting Beyond Communication Issues: How Mind-Mapping Makes Your Relationship and Sex Better</a></div><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\" style=\"clear: left;float: left;margin-bottom: 1em;margin-right: 1em\"><img border=\"0\" height=\"200\" src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" /></a></div><br /><br /><br /><br />Learn more about the author<br /><br /><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Want more articles like these? 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(25, 1, '2016-07-13 21:49:00', '2016-07-13 19:49:00', '<h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"> Where did my libido go?</span></h2>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h3>The routine that kills!</h3>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">We all know it, sexual routine tends to kill desire. After a few years, we get tired of having sex with the same person, the same way &amp; being able to predict the next move from your partner. We all know the mantra: \"We must add variety to our sex life if we want to continue having it\"</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">What does it mean to add variety to our sex life?</h3>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Yeah...that isn\'t very clear for a lot of people. Do we have to buy sex toys or do Christian Grey stuff (50 shades of Grey)? Buy a Kama Sutra book and stretch before sex? Do we change rooms? Do it in public or get out the whipped cream? And what if you don\'t want to do any of those things? Are we doomed to never have sex again?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\nWe can certainly do some of those things to get our genitals going a bit in the bedroom. Although,  that is like turning the TV on its side and watching a movie for the 250th time...we can all understand that it is the same film on the screen. <b>We know the ending, the surprises, the jokes and the explosions before they even happen. Nothing surprises us or gives us real joy for what is coming next.</b>\r\n\r\nChanging rooms or adding sexual positions to your repertoire or integrating sex toys to your sex life will not make it more passionate and enjoyable. It can bring a bit of variety, but it will not last long over time if it is the only thing you do to add variety.\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">So, what are we suppose to do?</h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>Too many times in my office, I see couples who throw themselves at changing things rapidly in their sexual behaviour, that has little to no significance in depth. They want quick and effective solutions without the effort on their part. <b>But, isn\'t that where you would want to put some effort? Isn\'t it important to give importance and time to your partner if you don\'t want to take them for granted? Would you not want them to take care of you, your relationship and your sexuality together?</b></div>\r\n<div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">But, sex and desire are supposed to be natural!</h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>Well, not really actually! There is nothing natural about sex. We are not born \"<a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkFfK-mh1kQ\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Sex Bombs</a>\" (as Tom Jones used to say), we become one. <b>Think about your first sexual relationship. Were you confident, charming, competent, natural and seductive the first time? Did you know how to kiss properly in your teen years? Probably not!</b> Our first times are awkward, embarrassing, full of uncertainties and insecurities. Over time, we become better at it and gain confidence. Eventually, we hit the wall of sexual incompetence...again. <b>Tadaah</b>! This is where the next phase of your sex life begins.</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div><span style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n</span>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<span style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n</span>\r\n<table style=\"margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;\" cellspacing=\"0\" cellpadding=\"0\" align=\"center\">\r\n<tbody>\r\n<tr>\r\n<td style=\"text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;\" href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2016/07/perte-2Blibido.jpg\"><img title=\"sexual desire sexologist\" src=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2016/07/perte-2Blibido.jpg\" alt=\"couple therapy, therapist, sexologist, sextherapist\" border=\"0\" /></a></td>\r\n</tr>\r\n<tr>\r\n<td style=\"font-size: 12.8px;\">Find the joy of sex again</td>\r\n</tr>\r\n</tbody>\r\n</table>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Changing the paradigm of sexuality</h3>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">You certainly know what sexual performance is right? This is what makes sex satisfying and energizing. Being with a partner who knows what they are doing and has the proper techniques is a sure shot for success in bed. <b>This formula works for the first few months or years to increase sexual arousal at its highest and it is the quickest way possible to orgasm. </b>Although, it is exactly this way of having sex that kills sexual desire</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">When we aim for sexual performance, we do what we know works to reach orgasm. Touch here, touch there and BOOM, you get an orgasm. Other times, you retouch here, you retouch there...and peeewwww...Nothing really happens. This happens over months and years where there are ups and downs, but sexual satisfaction is on a constant drop.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">This is where sexual routine starts in long term relationships. When the objective is to sexually arouse yourself and your partner, we use formulaic approaches in a repetitive manner with small variations that slowly but surely work less over time. <b>This creates anxiety and insecurities because we feel incompetent, undesirable and nervous when we have sex. Nothing to get your sex drive high.</b></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Erections are harder to obtain or are half soft, lubrification is less abundant, orgasms are rarer or none existent. Desire and passion are being drained out of the relationship because sexual satisfaction isn\'t part of sex anymore. Spontaneity and surprises are far and few and seduction is very rare. We sometimes desperately try again with the same formula hoping to get different results.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Sexual connexion &amp; presence</h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">What really brings change and variation to sex is your capacity to change the tone and dynamic of the relationship during your lovemaking. I<b>f we introduce sex toys but we keep the same attitude, with the same anxieties and our sexual performance mantra; we are making love the same way, except that we have a piece of plastic in our hands.</b> If you change the eye contact you have, your touch, your intention and the manner in which you flirt with the other person you are bringing sex to another level. You are changing the relationship you have with your partner!</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">Do you look your partner in the eyes during sex? (1 minute or more)</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">How do you feel connected to your partner during sex?</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">What do you think about while having sex? What is your internal dialogue during sex, from start to finish?</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">When does sex start for you? (Flirting, kissing, being naked, penetration, oral sex)</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">When does it end?</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">How do you flirt and create sexual desire in yourself and your partner?</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">What type of variations do you bring while flirting? While having sex?</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">How would you describe your sexual style? (intense, horny, soft, tender, affectionate, funny, playful, genitally oriented, passionate, emotional, loving, flamboyant, etc.)</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">How would you describe your partner\'s style?</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\"> What makes sex satisfying according to you? ( orgasm, presence with the other person, length, rigidity of the penis, intensity of the connexion, letting go, emotional fusion with the other, etc.)</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">What makes sex satisfying according to your partner?</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">What makes you sexually attractive as a sexual partner? (Why would people want to have sex with you?)</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div>\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">What do you like in your partner sexually?</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">What do they like about you sexually?</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">What do you like the least?</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">Do you ever talk about it? Why or why not?</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">What do they least prefer about you during sex?</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">Have you ever talked about it? Why or why not?</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<h3>Killing the routine!</h3>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sexuality isn\'t just a question of backflips and introducing the funkiest of behaviours, although it can be very interesting at times. <b>It is a sexual RELATIONSHIP with the other person.</b> This connexion can be affectionate and/or sexual. When we take the time to feel and take pleasure to all our sensations of our bodies, our connexion and presence to the other person rather than trying to perform...variety becomes easier to integrate into sex.</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\"></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2016/11/francois.jpg\"><img src=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2016/11/francois-278x300.jpg\" width=\"185\" height=\"200\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like these? 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(83, 1, '2016-07-13 21:49:00', '2016-07-13 19:49:00', '<h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large\"> Where did my libido go?</span></h2><br /><h3>The routine that kills!</h3><br /><div style=\"text-align: justify\">We all know it, sexual routine tends to kill desire. After a few years, we get tired of having sex with the same person, the same way &amp; being able to predict the next move from your partner. We all know the mantra: \"We must add variety to our sex life if we want to continue having it\"</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><h3 style=\"text-align: justify\"><br />What does it mean to add variety to our sex life?</h3><div><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Yeah...that isn\'t very clear for a lot of people. Do we have to buy sex toys or do Christian Grey stuff (50 shades of Grey)? Buy a Kama Sutra book and stretch before sex? Do we change rooms? Do it in public or get out the whipped cream? And what if you don\'t want to do any of those things? Are we doomed to never have sex again?</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">We can certainly do some of those things to get our genitals going a bit in the bedroom. Although, &nbsp;that is like turning the TV on its side and watching a movie for the 250th time...we can all understand that it is the same film on the screen. <b>We know the ending, the surprises, the jokes and the explosions before they even happen. Nothing surprises us or gives us real joy for what is coming next.</b><br /><br />Changing rooms or adding sexual positions to your repertoire or integrating sex toys to your sex life will not make it more passionate and enjoyable. It can bring a bit of variety, but it will not last long over time if it is the only thing you do to add variety.<br /><br /><br /><br /><h4 style=\"text-align: center\">So, what are we suppose to do?</h4><div><br /></div><div>Too many times in my office, I see couples who throw themselves at changing things rapidly in their sexual behaviour, that has little to no significance in depth. They want quick and effective solutions without the effort on their part. <b>But, isn\'t that where you would want to put some effort? Isn\'t it important to give importance and time to your partner if you don\'t want to take them for granted? Would you not want them to take care of you, your relationship and your sexuality together?</b></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><h4 style=\"text-align: center\">But, sex and desire are supposed to be natural!</h4><div><br /></div><div>Well, not really actually! There is nothing natural about sex. We are not born \"<a href=\"https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkFfK-mh1kQ\" target=\"_blank\">Sex Bombs</a>\" (as Tom Jones used to say), we become one. <b>Think about your first sexual relationship. Were you confident, charming, competent, natural and seductive the first time? Did you know how to kiss properly in your teen years? Probably not!</b> Our first times are awkward, embarrassing, full of uncertainties and insecurities. Over time, we become better at it and gain confidence. Eventually, we hit the wall of sexual incompetence...again. <b>Tadaah</b>! This is where the next phase of your sex life begins.</div><br /></div><div><span style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></span><span style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></span><br /><table align=\"center\" cellpadding=\"0\" cellspacing=\"0\" style=\"margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;text-align: center\"><tbody><tr><td style=\"text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-XCTXuT6NtAQ/V1b39MGhhII/AAAAAAAAA30/iBwUXyQdtGMqYwdr2tiFOTpm-2grKaRqwCLcB/s1600/perte%2Blibido.jpg\" style=\"margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto\"><img alt=\"couple therapy, therapist, sexologist, sextherapist\" border=\"0\" src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-XCTXuT6NtAQ/V1b39MGhhII/AAAAAAAAA30/iBwUXyQdtGMqYwdr2tiFOTpm-2grKaRqwCLcB/s1600/perte%2Blibido.jpg\" title=\"sexual desire sexologist\" /></a></td></tr><tr><td style=\"font-size: 12.8px\">Find the joy of sex again</td></tr></tbody></table><br /><h3 style=\"text-align: justify\">Changing the paradigm of sexuality</h3><div><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">You certainly know what sexual performance is right? This is what makes sex satisfying and energizing. Being with a partner who knows what they are doing and has the proper techniques is a sure shot for success in bed. <b>This formula works for the first few months or years to increase sexual arousal at its highest and it is the quickest way possible to orgasm. </b>Although, it is exactly this way of having sex that kills sexual desire</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">When we aim for sexual performance, we do what we know works to reach orgasm. Touch here, touch there and BOOM, you get an orgasm. Other times, you retouch here, you retouch there...and peeewwww...Nothing really happens. This happens over months and years where there are ups and downs, but sexual satisfaction is on a constant drop. &nbsp;</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">This is where sexual routine starts in long term relationships. When the objective is to sexually arouse yourself and your partner, we use formulaic approaches in a repetitive manner with small variations that slowly but surely work less over time. <b>This creates anxiety and insecurities&nbsp;because we feel incompetent, undesirable and nervous when we have sex. Nothing to get your sex drive high.</b></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Erections are harder to obtain or are half soft, lubrification is less abundant, orgasms are rarer or none existent. Desire and passion are being drained out of the relationship because sexual satisfaction isn\'t part of sex anymore. Spontaneity and surprises are far and few and seduction is very rare. We sometimes desperately try again with the same formula hoping to get different results.</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><h4 style=\"text-align: center\">Sexual connexion &amp; presence&nbsp;</h4><div><br /></div><div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">What really brings change and variation to sex is your capacity to change the tone and dynamic of the relationship during your lovemaking. I<b>f we introduce sex toys but we keep the same attitude, with the same anxieties and our sexual performance mantra; we are making love the same way, except that we have a piece of plastic in our hands.</b> If you change the eye contact you have, your touch, your intention and the manner in which you flirt with the other person you are bringing sex to another level. You are changing the relationship you have with your partner!</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"></div><ul><li style=\"text-align: justify\">Do you look your partner in the eyes during sex? (1 minute or more)</li><li style=\"text-align: justify\">How do you feel connected to your partner during sex?</li><li style=\"text-align: justify\">What do you think about while having sex? What is your internal dialogue during sex, from start to finish?</li><li style=\"text-align: justify\">When does sex start for you? (Flirting, kissing, being naked, penetration, oral sex)</li><li style=\"text-align: justify\">When does it end?</li><li style=\"text-align: justify\">How do you flirt and create sexual desire in yourself and your partner?</li><li style=\"text-align: justify\">What type of variations do you bring while flirting? While having sex?</li></ul><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><ul><li style=\"text-align: justify\">How would you describe your sexual style? (intense, horny, soft, tender, affectionate, funny, playful, genitally oriented, passionate, emotional, loving, flamboyant, etc.)</li><li style=\"text-align: justify\">How would you describe your partner\'s style?</li></ul><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><ul><li style=\"text-align: justify\">&nbsp;What makes sex satisfying according to you? ( orgasm, presence with the other person, length, rigidity of the penis, intensity of the connexion, letting go, emotional fusion with the other, etc.)</li><li style=\"text-align: justify\">What makes sex satisfying according to your partner?</li><li style=\"text-align: justify\">What makes you sexually attractive as a sexual partner? (Why would people want to have sex with you?)&nbsp;</li></ul><div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div></div><div><ul><li style=\"text-align: justify\">What do you like in your partner sexually?</li><li style=\"text-align: justify\">What do they like about you sexually?</li><li style=\"text-align: justify\">What do you like the least?</li><li style=\"text-align: justify\">Do you ever talk about it? Why or why not?</li><li style=\"text-align: justify\">What do they least prefer in you during sex?</li><li style=\"text-align: justify\">Have you ever talked about it? Why or why not?</li></ul><div><br /></div></div><h3>Killing the routine!</h3><div><br /></div><div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Sexuality isn\'t just a question of backflips and introducing the funkiest of behaviours, although it can be very interesting at times. <b>It is a sexual RELATIONSHIP with the other person.</b> This connexion can be affectionate and/or sexual. When we take the time to feel and take pleasure to all our sensations of our bodies, our connexion and presence to the other person rather than trying to perform...variety becomes easier to integrate into sex.&nbsp;</div></div><div><br /></div></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><br /><div style=\"text-align: justify\"></div><div></div><br /><div></div><br /><div style=\"color: black;font-family: Times;font-size: medium;font-style: normal;font-variant: normal;font-weight: normal;letter-spacing: normal;line-height: normal;text-align: start;text-indent: 0px\"><div style=\"margin: 0px\"><br /></div></div></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\" style=\"clear: left;float: left;margin-bottom: 1em;margin-right: 1em\"><img border=\"0\" height=\"200\" src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" /></a></div><br /><br /><br /><br />Learn more about the author<br /><br /><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Want more articles like these? 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(26, 1, '2016-02-10 20:34:00', '2016-02-10 19:34:00', '&nbsp;\r\n<h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">What brings out the worst in people</span></h2>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"> </span></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: large;\">What can having an affair mean about a relationship</span></h3>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: small;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\">In my last article, we talked about <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2016/02/infidelity-is-it-really-the-worst-thing-that-can-happen-to-a-couple.html\">learning from an infidelity</a>, which looked at understanding what had brought on the affair in the first place and how it was related to the relationship. When you take the time to question yourself on how you contributed to the relationship issues, whether you cheated on your spouse or you were cheated on, you can start repairing what had already been broken.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: small;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">It was briefly mentioned how partners can neglect and betray each other in a relationship in other ways than being unfaithful. <b>In a relationship, we have unwritten rules and expectations from each other that we rarely if ever talk about.</b> When they are not clear, it can lead to many dissatisfactions surrounding the relationship and then partners tend to take it out on their spouse\'s when they feel that they\'ve been wronged concerning their expectations.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Take the time to reflect on what exactly were yours at the beginning of the relationship and what are they now. Have they changed? Does your partner know about them? Do you know and understand theirs? Did you just assume they had the same as yours? Do you feel you have been taking care of them? If not, why did you neglect them? Does your partner take care of yours?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Entitlement</h3>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">As humans, people tend to feel entitled to certain things in a relationship even though they don\'t even do their own part. When we feel that our partner must answer certain demands of ours without even considering if they want to or can, this creates a lot of frustration. <b>When we feel that our partner has neglected some of our expectations, we can sometimes be compelled to get revenge and just be mean to each other. </b>Sometimes, we will neglect their expectations and demands because we want to punish them. Eventually, you end up with 2 people constantly punishing each other for the lack of effort each of them puts into the relationship.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Wanting sex and not getting any</h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Let\'s give an example of how entitlement and our expectations lead to hurt feelings and bruised egos. Sally wants more sex than Kim who has always been the partner with lower sexual desire. Sally feels that sex is something that couples are supposed to do in order to be happy. Kim wants quality time and to have shared responsibility concerning the kids and the housework. When one of them doesn\'t get what they want, they don\'t give back what the other one expects. <b>Eventually, each partner builds up frustrations, feelings of entitlement, resentment and the seed of revenge is slowly and painfully making its way into the core of the relationship dynamic. </b>Both partners feel hurt that the other one isn\'t taking care of them, but neither is willing to give out first because their egos would have to take a hit.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Revenge is sweet but ultimately bitter</h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Even though revenge for most people is seen as a bad thing, it doesn\'t take away the instant satisfaction you get out of doing it. <b>Most people will deny that they have this tendency but rarely do people not have the knee-jerk reaction to use it when they feel they\'ve been taken advantage of. </b>Admitting that we do this in our relationship with our spouse is what most people would consider relationship suicide and the cause of an instant separation. If you ever do admit to it, do yourself and your relationship a favour: <u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/unhealthy-couple-dynamics.html\">Do NOT pretend this is an unconscious thing!</a></u></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">The thing that is hard about stopping revenge is that we actually truly enjoy it. We feel entitled to it even! When you get two spouses playing the revenge and entitlement game, you end up with a lot of hurt feelings and a very unhappy relationship. This relationship dynamic isn\'t always so obvious, as it can be very subtle and ultimately very hard to even perceive.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Being vengeful by having an affair</h3>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">The subtleness of entitlement and revengefulness in couples is what can lead sometimes to be unfaithful. One partner might just use this reasoning to go seek elsewhere what they wanted from their relationship all along and that they feel has been neglected. All the while knowing, that it was done out of spite to their partner. You might be thinking that this is a monstrous way to look at relationships and people. I would absolutely agree, but it is also the way you can bring the best out of people. As David Schnarch, so clearly says: \"the best in us brings out the worst in us because the worst in us denies its own existence\".</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Confronting our own inner demons</h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">When partners in a relationship individually decide to face the horrors they have been putting themselves and their spouse through is when the real change can begin. <b>When we deny what we purposely do to our spouse out of revenge and entitlement, we create an even worst dynamic where we perpetuate the myth that we are just not capable of being a better person. </b></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">ARE YOU WILLING TO FACE YOURSELF IN FRONT OF YOU PARTNER?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\"><img src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" height=\"200\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like these? 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(85, 1, '2016-02-10 20:34:00', '2016-02-10 19:34:00', '<br /><h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large\">What brings out the worst in people</span></h2><div><span style=\"font-size: x-large\"><br /></span></div><h3><span style=\"font-size: large\">What can having an affair mean about a relationship</span></h3><div><span style=\"font-size: small\"><br /></span></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><span style=\"font-size: large\">In my last article, we talked about <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2016/02/learning-from-infidelity.html\">learning from an infidelity</a>, which looked at understanding what had brought on the affair in the first place and how it was related to the relationship. When you take the time to question yourself on how you contributed to the relationship issues, whether you cheated on your spouse or you were cheated on, you can start repairing what had already been broken.</span></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><span style=\"font-size: small\"><br /></span></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">It was briefly mentioned how partners can neglect and betray each other in a relationship in other ways than being unfaithful. <b>In a relationship, we have unwritten rules and expectations from each other that we rarely if ever talk about.</b> When they are not clear, it can lead to many dissatisfactions surrounding the relationship and then partners tend to take it out on their spouse\'s when they feel that they\'ve been wronged concerning their expectations.</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Take the time to reflect on what exactly were yours at the beginning of the relationship and what are they now. Have they changed? Does your partner know about them? Do you know and understand theirs? Did you just assume they had the same as yours? Do you feel you have been taking care of them? If not, why did you neglect them? Does your partner take care of yours?</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><h3 style=\"text-align: justify\">Entitlement</h3><div><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">As humans, people tend to feel entitled to certain things in a relationship even though they don\'t even do their own part. When we feel that our partner must answer certain demands of ours without even considering if they want to or can, this creates a lot of frustration. <b>When we feel that our partner has neglected some of our expectations, we can sometimes be compelled to get revenge and just be mean to each other. </b>Sometimes, we will neglect their expectations and demands because we want to punish them. Eventually, you end up with 2 people constantly punishing each other for the lack of effort each of them puts into the relationship.&nbsp;</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><br /><div><div><h2>Subscribe to our mailing list to receive free videos and articles</h2><div><span>*</span> indicates required</div><div><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span>*</span> </label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label> </div><div><div></div><div></div></div><br /><div></div><div></div></div></div><br /><h4 style=\"text-align: justify\">Wanting sex and not getting any</h4><div><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Let\'s give an example of how entitlement and our expectations lead to hurt feelings and bruised egos. Sally wants more sex than Kim who has always been the partner with lower sexual desire. Sally feels that sex is something that couples are supposed to do in order to be happy. Kim wants quality time and to have shared responsibility concerning the kids and the housework. When one of them doesn\'t get what they want, they don\'t give back what the other one expects. <b>Eventually, each partner builds up frustrations, feelings of entitlement, resentment and the seed of revenge is slowly and painfully making its way into the core of the relationship dynamic. </b>Both partners feel hurt that the other one isn\'t taking care of them, but neither is willing to give out first because their egos would have to take a hit.&nbsp;</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><h4 style=\"text-align: justify\">Revenge is sweet&nbsp;but ultimately bitter</h4><div><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Even though revenge for most people is seen as a bad thing, it doesn\'t take away the instant satisfaction you get out of doing it. <b>Most people will deny that they have this tendency&nbsp;but rarely do people not have the knee-jerk reaction to use it when they feel they\'ve been taken advantage of. </b>Admitting that we do this in our relationship with our spouse is what most people would consider relationship suicide and the cause of an instant separation. If you ever do admit to it, do yourself and your relationship a favour:&nbsp;<u><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/04/unhealthy-couple-dynamics.html\">Do NOT pretend this is an unconscious thing!</a></u>&nbsp;</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">The thing that is hard about stopping revenge is that we actually truly enjoy it. We feel entitled to it even! When you get two spouses playing the revenge and entitlement game, you end up with a lot of hurt feelings and a very unhappy relationship. This relationship dynamic isn\'t always so obvious, as it can be very subtle and ultimately very hard to even perceive.&nbsp;</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-yswW_-fBuyQ/Vr1YOm9tTtI/AAAAAAAAAzA/R_lAWNc9vdA/s1600/bad-relationships.jpg\" style=\"margin-left: 1em;margin-right: 1em\"><img border=\"0\" height=\"280\" src=\"https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-yswW_-fBuyQ/Vr1YOm9tTtI/AAAAAAAAAzA/R_lAWNc9vdA/s320/bad-relationships.jpg\" width=\"320\" /></a></div><br /></div><h3 style=\"text-align: justify\">Being vengeful by having an affair</h3><div><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">The subtleness of entitlement and revengefulness in couples is what can lead sometimes to be unfaithful. One partner might just use this reasoning to go seek elsewhere what they wanted from their relationship all along and that they feel has been neglected. All the while knowing, that it was done out of spite to their partner. You might be thinking that this is a monstrous way to look at relationships and people. I would absolutely agree, but it is also the way you can bring the best out of people. As David Schnarch, so clearly says: \"the best in us brings out the worst in us&nbsp;because the worst in us denies its own existence\".&nbsp;</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><h4 style=\"text-align: justify\">Confronting our own inner demons</h4><div><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">When partners in a relationship individually decide to face the horrors they have been putting themselves and their spouse through is when the real change can begin. <b>When we deny what we purposely do to our spouse out of revenge and entitlement, we create an even worst dynamic where we perpetuate the myth that we are just not capable of being a better person.&nbsp;</b></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">ARE YOU WILLING TO FACE YOURSELF IN FRONT OF YOU PARTNER?</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\" style=\"clear: left;float: left;margin-bottom: 1em;margin-right: 1em\"><img border=\"0\" height=\"200\" src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" /></a></div><br /><br /><br /><br />Learn more about the author<br /><br /><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Want more articles like these? Subscribe to our monthly newsletter</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><br /><div><div><h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2><div><span>*</span> indicates required</div><div><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span>*</span> </label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label> </div><div><div></div><div></div></div><br /><div></div><div></div></div></div><br /><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>', 'Revenge: The Ugly Side of Infidelity', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '26-revision-v1', '', '', '2016-02-10 20:34:00', '2016-02-10 19:34:00', '', 26, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2016/02/26-revision-v1.html?lang=fr', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(27, 1, '2016-02-08 21:53:00', '2016-02-08 20:53:00', '<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">How to grow from an infidelity</span></h2>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h3>The deep trauma of infidelity</h3>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">No one wants to experience infidelity from their partner. The hurt feelings, the betrayal, the hate, the resentment, the unanswered questions, the feeling of being undesirable in their eyes, the competitiveness from the other partner. Nothing from infidelity seems to be positive and the first thing we want to do is throw them to the curb. Which is what most of your friends and family will tell you to do. <b>For some reason, you aren\'t sure if you want to leave and you might even feel guilty about it. </b>What would explain such ambivalence towards someone who profoundly hurt your feelings and broke your trust. What if this infidelity was the best thing that could happen to your sex life and relationship?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Learning from the infidelity</h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Now don\'t get me wrong! I am not and never will be pro-infidelity. It can be compared to a traumatic experience to learn that your partner <b>betrayed you and chose egotistically</b> to satisfy their needs with another person. Infidelity is unfortunately not that uncommon and men as well as women do it for various reasons. Those reasons is what you can learn from this terrible experience. How they answer the questions and how your partner expresses their process of becoming unfaithful is a dialogue that can <b>bring you to have a deeper understanding of your relationship and possibly what was wrong with it. </b></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">It is possible that the answers you receive are going to be hard to hear or sometimes even untrue. Other times, they will never satisfy your curiosity about what went on, or how or when or how many times. But, they might also <b>make you realize that there was something lacking in the relationship</b> <b>or your sex life</b>. That you might have betrayed them in other ways and never gave it a second thought.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<b>Let\'s not start pointing the blame towards the person that was cheated on with this discussion</b>. The importance is to take the time to listen on both sides about how this came to be in the relationship and maybe, how you could even repair it.\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\">What questions should you ask?</h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">The time of day, the number of calls, the where and the who are not questions that will alleviate the hurt feelings. <b>Actually, they might just make it worst as they don\'t really bring the answers to the questions you are probably not willing to hear.</b> A true dialogue on our partner\'s infidelity is one of the conversations that can be<b> extremely confrontational and requires that we truly listen</b>, even though, we might be the one that needs comfort and listening at that time. The questions that might bring light unto the situation are the following:</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>What did you get from having sex with the other person?</li>\r\n 	<li>Was there anything lacking from our relationship and/or sex life?</li>\r\n 	<li>Did you try to talk to me about it?</li>\r\n 	<li>Did I listen if you did?</li>\r\n 	<li>How come we never talked about this before?</li>\r\n 	<li>What brought you to do it?</li>\r\n 	<li>Were you thinking of me before, during or after?</li>\r\n 	<li>What are you remorseful for, if you feel it at all?</li>\r\n 	<li>How can we mend this situation from now on?</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<h4>What to do with the answers</h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>The discussion with the questions above are most likely things you didn\'t want to hear about yourself or your partner. <b>You might realize how awful of a person your partner is or just how badly you\'ve ignored or hurt them as well</b>. Maybe, a little bit of both. You may want to decide that after the <u>numerous conversation on the issue</u>, that the best thing is to leave the relationship because that is how you will keep your integrity and self-respect. You might also consider that you had a part to play in this, even though you weren\'t the one who made the decision to be unfaithful.  You might have ignored the signs or your responsibilities towards maintaining a fulfilling relationship and sex life.</div>\r\n<div>\r\n<h3>Bringing back the trust</h3>\r\n</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h4>Jealousy and possessiveness</h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>It is not uncommon that jealousy and possessiveness will rise up after being so badly wounded in our egos. We seek after being hurt, to feel secure and capable of having some form of control over the situation. It is important that <b>this jealousy and possessiveness don\'t overwhelm your new dynamic </b>after an infidelity. The partner who cheated can help by ensuring the boundaries of the relationship for a while and reassure the other on their actions. It is important though, ensuring does not become the new norm, nor that it binds you and your partner in a prison of insecurity.</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>Jealousy and possessiveness are <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/08/jealousy-destroyer-of-couples.html\">common reasons why there is infidelity</a>. Feeling trapped in a relationship you can\'t get out of is sometimes what brings one partner to jump the fence. The partner who has been cheated on must find ways <b>to self-soothe their insecurity and build on a solid-flexible self that makes them a desirable partner to be with</b>. By changing the dynamic in ourselves from being validated by our partner to being self-validating and feeling self-desirable makes for a strong foundation in a couple.</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h4>Recognizing the hurt and remorse</h4>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>The partner who cheated is often times not remorseful of having been unfaithful, but of hurting their partner. When they were having the affair, they felt alive, desirable and awake. Rarely does someone regret that. <b>Showing true remorse for what we did, demonstrates that we still care about our partner even though we hurt them deeply</b>. The one who had the affair needs to now deal with being the one who has created such pain. You can\'t hurt someone by your actions that you knew would hurt if they found out and then asking them not to talk about it. <b>The person who cheated must face the consequences of his actions and have a mirror of the devastation they created.</b></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>It is important to note that the one of was cheated on must have the space to talk and process their pain and not just use that time to attack and play the victim towards the other. Coming to terms with such betrayal of what we once assumed was a safe and secure environment takes times. <b>Time that must be used appropriately by expressing and processing the mourning of what will never be the same again. </b></div>\r\n<div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\"><img src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" height=\"200\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like these? 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(87, 1, '2016-02-08 21:53:00', '2016-02-08 20:53:00', '<h2 style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large\">How to grow from an infidelity</span></h2><div><br /></div><h3>The deep trauma of infidelity</h3><div><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">No one wants to experience infidelity from their partner. The hurt feelings, the betrayal, the hate, the resentment, the unanswered questions, the feeling of being undesirable in their eyes, the competitiveness from the other partner. Nothing from infidelity seems to be positive and the first thing we want to do is throw them to the curb. Which is what most of your friends and family will tell you to do. <b>For some reason, you aren\'t sure if you want to leave and you might even feel guilty about it. </b>What would explain such ambivalence towards someone who profoundly hurt your feelings and broke your trust. What if this infidelity was the best thing that could happen to your sex life and relationship?</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><h4 style=\"text-align: justify\">Learning from the infidelity</h4><div><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Now don\'t get me wrong! I am not and never will be pro-infidelity. It can be compared to a traumatic experience to learn that your partner <b>betrayed you and chose egotistically</b>&nbsp;to satisfy their needs with another person. Infidelity is unfortunately not that uncommon and men as well as women do it for various reasons. Those reasons is what you can learn from this terrible experience. How they answer the questions and how your partner expresses their process of becoming unfaithful is a dialogue that can <b>bring you to have a deeper understanding of your relationship and possibly what was wrong with it.&nbsp;</b></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">It is possible that the answers you receive are going to be hard to hear or sometimes even untrue. Other times, they will never satisfy your curiosity about what went on, or how or when or how many times. But, they might also <b>make you realize that there was something lacking in the relationship</b> <b>or your sex life</b>. That you might have betrayed them in other ways and never gave it a second thought.</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><b>Let\'s not start pointing the blame towards the person that was cheated on with this discussion</b>. The importance is to take the time to listen on both sides about how this came to be in the relationship and maybe, how you could even repair it.<br /><br /><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><table align=\"center\" cellpadding=\"0\" cellspacing=\"0\" style=\"margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;text-align: center\"><tbody><tr><td style=\"text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-DfEf7gBGtgs/VrlTCoL1BXI/AAAAAAAAAyc/DDuvBeZeWOI/s1600/Love-Triangle-infidelity.png\" style=\"margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto\"><img alt=\"sexual desire, infidelity\" border=\"0\" height=\"180\" src=\"https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-DfEf7gBGtgs/VrlTCoL1BXI/AAAAAAAAAyc/DDuvBeZeWOI/s320/Love-Triangle-infidelity.png\" title=\"infidelity\" width=\"320\" /></a></td></tr><tr><td style=\"text-align: center\">Infidelity is a very complex process that couples need to explore deeply before taking a decision</td></tr></tbody></table><br /></div><h4 style=\"text-align: justify\">What questions should you ask?</h4><div><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">The time of day, the number of calls, the where and the who are not questions that will alleviate the hurt feelings. <b>Actually, they might just make it worst as they don\'t really bring the answers to the questions you are probably not willing to hear.</b>&nbsp;A true dialogue on our partner\'s infidelity is one of the conversations that can be<b> extremely confrontational and requires that we truly listen</b>, even though, we might be the one that needs comfort and listening at that time. The questions that might bring light unto the situation are the following:</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><ul><li>What did you get from having sex with the other person?</li><li>Was there anything lacking from our relationship and/or sex life?</li><li>Did you try to talk to me about it?</li><li>Did I listen if you did?</li><li>How come we never talked about this before?</li><li>What brought you to do it?</li><li>Were you thinking of me before, during or after?</li><li>What are you remorseful for, if you feel it at all?</li><li>How can we mend this situation from now on?</li></ul><div><br /></div> <br /><h4>What to do with the answers</h4><div><br /></div><div>The discussion with the questions above are most likely things you didn\'t want to hear about yourself or your partner. <b>You might realize how awful of a person your partner is or just how badly you\'ve ignored or hurt them as well</b>. Maybe, a little bit of both. You may want to decide that after the <u>numerous conversation on the issue</u>, that the best thing is to leave the relationship because that is how you will keep your integrity and self-respect. You might also consider that you had a part to play in this, even though you weren\'t the one who made the decision to be unfaithful. &nbsp;You might have ignored the signs or your responsibilities towards maintaining a fulfilling relationship and sex life.&nbsp;</div><div><br /><br /><!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->  <br /><div><div><h2>Subscribe to our mailing list to receive FREE videos</h2><div><span>*</span> indicates required</div><div><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span>*</span> </label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label> </div><div><div></div><div></div></div><!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->    <br /><div></div><div></div></div></div> <!--End mc_embed_signup--><br /><h3>Bringing back the trust</h3></div><div><br /></div><h4>Jealousy and possessiveness</h4><div><br /></div><div>It is not uncommon that jealousy and possessiveness will rise up after being so badly wounded in our egos. We seek after being hurt, to feel secure and capable of having some form of control over the situation. It is important that <b>this jealousy and possessiveness don\'t overwhelm your new dynamic </b>after an infidelity. The partner who cheated can help by insuring the boundaries of the relationship for a while and reassure the other on their actions. It is important though, that this does not become the new norm, nor that it binds you and your partner in a prison of insecurity.&nbsp;</div><div><br /></div><div>Jealousy and possessiveness are <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2015/08/jealousy-destroyer-of-couples.html\">common reasons why there is infidelity</a>. Feeling trapped in a relationship you can\'t get out of is sometimes what brings one partner to jump the fence. The partner who has been cheated on must find ways <b>to self-soothe their insecurity and build on a solid-flexible self that makes them a desirable partner to be with</b>. By changing the dynamic in ourselves from being validated by our partner to being self-validating and feeling self-desirable makes for a strong foundation in a couple.&nbsp;</div><div><br /></div><h4>Recognizing the hurt and remorse</h4><div><br /></div><div>The partner who cheated is often times not remorseful of having been unfaithful, but of hurting their partner. When they were having the affair, they felt alive, desirable and awake. Rarely does someone regret that. <b>Showing true remorse for what we did, demonstrates that we still care about our partner even though we hurt them deeply</b>. The one who had the affair needs to now deal with being the one who has created such pain. You can\'t hurt someone by your actions that you knew would hurt if they found out and then asking them not to talk about it. <b>The person who cheated must face the consequences of his actions and have a mirror of the devastation they created.</b>&nbsp;</div><div><br /></div><div>It is important to note that the one of was cheated on must have the space to talk and process their pain and not just use that time to attack and play the victim towards the other. Coming to terms with such betrayal of what we once assumed was a safe and secure environment takes times. <b>Time that must be used appropriately by expressing and processing the mourning of what will never be the same again.&nbsp;</b></div><div><br /><br /><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\" style=\"clear: left;float: left;margin-bottom: 1em;margin-right: 1em\"><img border=\"0\" height=\"200\" src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" /></a></div><br /><br /><br /><br />Learn more about the author<br /><br /><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Want more articles like these? 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(28, 1, '2015-09-07 15:03:00', '2015-09-07 13:03:00', '<h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large; letter-spacing: 0px;\">Put An End to the Suffering</span></h2>\r\n<div><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"><b> </b></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\">Jealousy is an emotion which we do not control, but that we have the power to manage. Some people have excessive jealousy that has important impacts in their different relationships whether they be professional, social, friendly or sexual. On the other hand, some only have issues in one of theses types of relationships. Since jealousy can influence multiple aspects of our lives and each have a variety of dynamics that differ, we will be focusing more on sexual and loving jealousy.</span></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3><b>Impacts of jealousy on couple\'s relationships</b></h3>\r\n<div><b> </b></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;\">It isn\'t necessary to have excessive jealousy for the couple to have difficulties with the matter. Jealousy always emanates from insecurities from the person who feels it, but will blame others to justify their behaviours. This creates conflicts about trust, unjustified accusations, interrogations, an excessive need to be reassured of the other persons loyalty and limiting someone\'s freedom. Certain people or couples will even go as far as try to limit the other persons thinking by demanding they do not fantasize about other people than them as they would consider it cheating or just feel bad about it. They can limit the other persons social activities and who they can hang out with to maintain the potential of infidelity as low as possible. Theses examples are even more frequent when both partners are jealous.</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;\"><b> </b></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px; text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">These restrictions demonstrate that their is a lack of self-esteem and trust towards one\'s partner that will have dire consequences in the long run if the couple remains together. Eventually, the partners don\'t feel they have freedom in the relationship and they eventually can\'t stand it anymore, even though they might both be imposing their jealousy on the other. Inevitably, fights will start to emerge more and more about this issue and others more or less related so as to jeopardize the false harmony they originally thought they had. There are couples who maintain a relationship in this type of dynamic. Although, you have to ask yourself if you are truly happy? How happy can you be when you are feeling constantly insecure about your partner\'s whereabouts and who they hang out with? Do you feel free to do what you would like, without having to ask your partner\'s permission? How do you appreciate the feeling of constantly being monitored by your partner and having to do the same?</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px;\"></div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n\r\n<style type=\"text/css\">\r\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br />	/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />	   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br /></style>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"position: absolute; left: -5000px;\"><input tabindex=\"-1\" name=\"b_b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d_fd88d57b31\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"clear\"><input id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe\" class=\"button\" name=\"subscribe\" type=\"submit\" value=\"Subscribe\" /></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</form></div>\r\n<script type=\'text/javascript\' src=\'//s3.amazonaws.com/downloads.mailchimp.com/js/mc-validate.js\'></script><script type=\'text/javascript\'>(function($) {window.fnames = new Array(); window.ftypes = new Array();fnames[0]=\'EMAIL\';ftypes[0]=\'email\';fnames[1]=\'FNAME\';ftypes[1]=\'text\';fnames[2]=\'LNAME\';ftypes[2]=\'text\';}(jQuery));var $mcj = jQuery.noConflict(true);</script>\r\n<!--End mc_embed_signup-->\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; text-align: justify;\">Jealousy will eventually create dissatisfaction for one or both partners. Jealousy can decrease one\'s sexual desire and affection for the other if the jealousy and the consequences pile up. The partner who isn\'t jealous will not want to reassure the other continuously, will get fed up about the interrogations, they will start lying to get the illusion that they have freedom. For most people, the feeling of constantly having to reassure the other person\'s insecurities takes a toll on the admiration of the other and pity tends to replace it.</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\">\r\n</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\">How to stop jealousy?</span></h3>\r\n<div><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<b></b>Jealousy is an emotion that makes us suffer and it can be quite hard to manage. We more often prefer to get rid of it than to explore its origins, because the exploration of its origins leads to things that we prefer to remain blind to ourselves about our personalities. Jealousy is not only a destructive force for our relationships but also ourselves. It feeds on us from the inside to be exteriorized by nefarious behaviours in our relationship. First off, like any other interpersonal difficulty, we must take responsibility for what we contribute to the dynamic. We must stop putting the blame on our partner and confront our own fears and insecurities about the issue. We must accept and recognize our own personal value as a person and a partner in the relationship. We must learn to validate ourselves and self-soothe rather than constantly ask our partner to do it. This task is difficult and requires some time to master, especially since humans are more easily capable of being hurt and insulted, as well as rejected than remembering compliments and signs of affection and love. A jealous person tends to need to be constantly reassured and validated by their lover rather than doing it themselves.\r\n\r\nJealous behaviours exist primarily to seek out a sense of love from our partner. In fact, a person with low self-esteem needs to constantly be reassured of the love from others. They will sometimes use inadequate and harmful ways to obtain this false sense of love and affection from others. When we are validated and appreciated by others this temporarily soothes are insecurities. In the long run, this can have negative impacts on the couple who want to be satisfied on a personal, relational and sexual level. Couples where both partners are capable of validating themselves by acknowledging their own value, faults and their partner\'s will avoid the suffering emotion of jealousy.\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px; text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\nRecognizing our strengths and accepting our weaknesses is a very hard task for some. It may sometimes require the help of a <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/index.php?/en/pages/contact\">sex therapist</a> in <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/01/therapeutic-process-with-a-sex-therapist.html\">therapy</a>. Here a few reflexions to have about your relationship dynamic:\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li>What do you bring to your relationship and your partner?</li>\r\n 	<li>What does your partner appreciate from you?</li>\r\n 	<li>What makes you feel insecure and impacts your jealousy?</li>\r\n 	<li>What are the ways you self-validate to feel good about yourself?</li>\r\n 	<li>How could you better manage your jealousy?</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; text-align: justify;\">Many false perceptions and beliefs about relationships can create difficulties with jealousy. First, we must understand that we cannot answer all our partner\'s needs and vice versa. It is unrealistic to believe that, as some needs must be fulfilled by oneself or other people such as family, friends, work, etc. This reality is hard for many as it requires that we are not the ONE &amp; ONLY, UNIQUE person in our partner\'s life. This search of feeling profoundly unique in someone else\'s eyes creates an expectation that is only bound to create frustration and resentment. In the case where this perception and expectation is destroyed by the realities of being in a relationship, behaviours of jealousy arise to try to maintain our false belief about being unique. People who are jealous have a hard time accepting this fact about relationships. It is undeniable that lovers do bring unique elements to each other, but it is an error to think that we can answer every single need our partner has as well as our own.</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; text-align: justify;\">\r\n<h3><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\">What to remember</span></h3>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\">Jealousy brings lots of distress in a couple and endangers its stability as well as sexual and personal satisfaction. Jealous behaviours are to be avoided at all cost:</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; text-align: justify;\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"><b>By recognizing our own qualities and accepting our shortcomings; </b></span></h4>\r\n<h4><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"><b>By mainly validating ourselves rather wait for our partner to do it;</b></span></h4>\r\n<h4><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"><b>By having realistic expectations and perceptions of our partner, ourselves and relationships. </b></span><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"> </span></h4>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\">People who want to live a satisfying relationship and sex life must work on all aspects of their jealousy to overcome the inevitable downfall of the relationship. This self-healing will only make you feel better about yourself and to be more appreciated by your partner. </span>\r\n<span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\">\r\n</span> <span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px;\"><b>To be able to love another person, one must first learn how to love oneself in every aspect. </b><b> </b></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16px; margin: 0px; min-height: 19px; text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\"><img src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" height=\"200\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like theses? 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(89, 1, '2015-09-07 15:03:00', '2015-09-07 13:03:00', '<h4><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"><br class=\"Apple-interchange-newline\" /></span></h4><h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large;letter-spacing: 0px\">Put An End to the Suffering</span></h2><div><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"><b><br /></b></span></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;text-align: justify\"></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;text-align: justify\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\">Jealousy is an emotion which we do not control, but that we have the power to manage. Some people have excessive jealousy that has important impacts in their different relationships whether they be professional, social, friendly or sexual. On the other hand, some only have issues in one of theses types of relationships. Since jealousy can influence multiple aspects of our lives and each have a variety of dynamics that differ, we will be focusing more on sexual and loving jealousy.</span></div><br /><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;text-align: justify\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"><b></b></span></div><h3><b>Impacts of jealousy on couple\'s relationships</b></h3><div><b><br /></b></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;min-height: 19px;text-align: justify\">It isn\'t necessary to have excessive jealousy for the couple to have difficulties with the matter. Jealousy always emanates from insecurities from the person who feels it, but will blame others to justify their behaviours. This creates conflicts about trust, unjustified accusations, interrogations, an excessive need to be reassured of the other persons loyalty and limiting someone\'s freedom. Certain people or couples will even go as far as try to limit the other persons thinking by demanding they do not fantasize about other people than them as they would consider it cheating or just feel bad about it. They can limit the other persons social activities and who they can hang out with to maintain the potential of infidelity as low as possible. Theses examples are even more frequent when both partners are jealous.&nbsp;</div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;min-height: 19px;text-align: justify\"><b><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"></span><br /></b></div><b></b><br /><div style=\"margin: 0px;text-align: justify\"><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><span><span>These restrictions demonstrate that their is a lack of self-esteem and trust towards one\'s partner that will have dire consequences in the long run if the couple remains together. Eventually, the partners don\'t feel they have freedom in the relationship and they eventually can\'t stand it anymore, even though they might both be imposing their jealousy on the other. Inevitably, fights will start to emerge more and more about this issue and others more or less related so as to jeopardize the false harmony they originally thought they had. There are couples who maintain a relationship in this type of dynamic. Although, you have to ask yourself if you are truly happy? How happy can you be when you are feeling constantly insecure about your partner\'s whereabouts and who they hang out with? Do you feel free to do what you would like, without having to ask your partner\'s permission? How do you appreciate the feeling of constantly being monitored by your partner and having to do the same?</span></span></div></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px\"><span style=\"font-weight: bold\"> </span></div><br /><!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->  <br /><div><div><h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2><div><span>*</span> indicates required</div><div><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span>*</span> </label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label> </div><div><div></div><div></div></div><!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->    <br /><div></div><div></div></div></div> <!--End mc_embed_signup--><br /><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;min-height: 19px;text-align: justify\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"></span><br /></div><br /><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;text-align: justify\"><span> Jealousy will eventually create dissatisfaction for one or both partners. Jealousy can decrease one\'s sexual desire and affection for the other if the jealousy and the consequences pile up. The partner who isn\'t jealous will not want to reassure the other continuously, will get fed up about the interrogations, they will start lying to get the illusion that they have freedom.&nbsp;For most people, the feeling of constantly having to reassure the other persons insecurities takes a toll on the admiration of the other and pity tends to replace it. </span></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;text-align: justify\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"><br /></span></div><table align=\"center\" cellpadding=\"0\" cellspacing=\"0\" style=\"margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;text-align: center\"><tbody><tr><td style=\"text-align: center\"><a href=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-gqfY53eegbA/UYZf8aWRlxI/AAAAAAAAAIg/hMgI00yNT0U/s1600/irrational-jealousy.jpg\" style=\"margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto\"><img alt=\"Stop, jealousy, sexologist, psychotherapist, montreal\" border=\"0\" height=\"212\" src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-gqfY53eegbA/UYZf8aWRlxI/AAAAAAAAAIg/hMgI00yNT0U/s320/irrational-jealousy.jpg\" title=\"jealous in couples\" width=\"320\" /></a></td></tr><tr><td style=\"text-align: center\">Stop the behaviour, to eventually stop the feelings of jealousy</td></tr></tbody></table><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;text-align: justify\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"><br /></span></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;text-align: justify\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"><br /></span></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;min-height: 19px;text-align: justify\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"></span><br /></div><h3><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\">How to stop jealousy?</span></h3><div><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"><br /></span></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;min-height: 19px;text-align: justify\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"><b></b></span>Jealousy is an emotion that makes us suffer and it can be quite hard to manage. We more often prefer to get rid of it than to explore its origins, because the exploration of its origins leads to things that we prefer to remain blind to ourselves about our personalities. Jealousy is not only a destructive force for our relationships, but also ourselves. It feeds on us from the inside to be exteriorized by nefarious behaviours in our relationship. First off, like any other interpersonal difficulty, we must take responsibility for what we contribute to the dynamic. We must stop putting the blame on our partner and confront our own fears and insecurities about the issue. We must accept and recognize our own personal value as a person and a partner in the relationship. We must learn to validate ourselves and self-soothe rather than constantly ask our partner to do it. This task is difficult and requires some time to master, especially since humans are more easily capable of being hurt and insulted, as well as rejected than remembering compliments and signs of affection and love. A jealous person tends to need to be constantly reassured and validated by their lover rather than doing it themselves.<br /><br />Jealous behaviours exist primarily to seek out a sense of love from our partner. In fact, a person with low self-esteem needs to constantly be reassured of the love from others. They will sometimes use inadequate and harmful ways to obtain this false sense of love and affection from others. When we are validated and appreciated by others this temporarily soothes are insecurities. In the long run, this can have negative impacts on the couple who want to be satisfied on a personal, relational and sexual level. Couples where both partners are capable of validating themselves by acknowledging their own value, faults and their partner\'s will avoid the suffering emotion of jealousy.&nbsp;</div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;min-height: 19px;text-align: justify\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"></span><br /></div><div style=\"margin: 0px;text-align: justify\"><span><span>Recognizing our strengths and accepting our weaknesses is a very hard task for some. It may sometimes require the help of a <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/index.php?/en/pages/contact\">sexologist</a> in <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/01/therapeutic-process-with-sex-therapist.html\">therapy</a>. Here a a fews reflexions to have about your relationship dynamic:</span></span><br /><span><span><br /></span></span><br /><ul><li><span><span>What do you bring to your relationship and your partner?</span></span></li><li><span><span>What does your partner appreciate from you?</span></span></li><li><span><span>What makes you feel insecure and impacts your jealousy?</span></span></li><li><span><span>What are the ways you self-valide to feel good about yourself?</span></span></li><li><span><span>How could you better manage your jealousy?</span></span></li></ul></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;text-align: justify\"><span><br /></span> <span>Many false perceptions and beliefs about relationships can create difficulties with jealousy. First, we must understand that we cannot answer all our partner\'s needs and vice versa. It is unrealistic to believe that, as some needs must be fulfilled by oneself or other people such as family, friends, work, etc. This reality is hard for many as it requires that we are not the ONE &amp; ONLY, UNIQUE person in our partner\'s life. This search of feeling profoundly unique in someone else\'s eyes creates an expectation that is only bound to create frustration and resentment. In the case where this perception and expectation is destroyed by the realities of being in a relationship, behaviours of jealousy arise to try to maintain our false belief about being unique. People who are jealous have a hard time accepting this fact about relationships. It is undeniable that lovers do bring unique elements to each other, but it is an error to think that we can answer every single need our partner has as well as our own. </span></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;min-height: 19px;text-align: justify\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"></span><br /></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;text-align: justify\"><h3><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\">What to remember</span></h3></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;min-height: 19px;text-align: justify\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"><b></b></span><br /></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;text-align: justify\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"><span>Jealousy brings lots of distress in a couple, and endangers its stability as well as sexual and personal satisfaction. Jealous behaviours are to be avoided at all cost</span>:</span></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;min-height: 19px;text-align: justify\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"></span><br /></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;text-align: justify\"><h4><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"><b>By recognizing our own qualities and accepting our shortcomings;&nbsp;</b></span></h4><h4><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"><b>By mainly validating ourselves rather wait for our partner to do it;</b></span></h4><h4><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"><b>By having realistic expectations and perceptions of our partner, ourselves and relationships.&nbsp;</b></span><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\">&nbsp;</span></h4></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;min-height: 19px;text-align: justify\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"></span><br /></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;text-align: justify\"><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"><span>People who want to live a satisfying relationship and sex life must work on all aspects of their jealousy to overcome the inevitable downfall of the relationship. This self-healing will only make you feel better about yourself and to be more appreciated by your partner.&nbsp;</span></span><br /><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"><span><br /></span></span> <span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"><span><b>To be able to love another person, one must first learn how to love oneself in every aspect. </b></span><b>&nbsp;</b></span></div><div style=\"font-family: Verdana;font-size: 16px;margin: 0px;min-height: 19px;text-align: justify\"><br /><span style=\"letter-spacing: 0px\"></span></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\" style=\"clear: left;float: left;margin-bottom: 1em;margin-right: 1em\"><img border=\"0\" height=\"200\" src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" /></a></div><br /><br /><br /><br />Learn more about the author<br /><br /><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Want more articles like theses? 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(29, 1, '2015-09-02 19:04:00', '2015-09-02 17:04:00', '<h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Importance of defining fidelity in your couple</span></h2>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div><span style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\">Fidelity is defined as the respect of an agreement with another person. In most loving relationships, there exist a form of fidelity between partners, even in polyamory. Although, what one person thinks is adultery, the other person might not, as the confines of fidelity are wide and large. We can even change our own perception of it as we grow older and we perceive alternate ways of being in our relationship. </span>\r\n<span style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"line-height: 24px;\">The continuum of behaviours that is considered adultery is long and the combinations are endless. Certain individuals consider that fantasizing on another person than their partner is cheating, while others require penetrative sex for it to be cheating. Others will need an emotional attachment, but sexual attraction is considered fine. Sometimes, fidelity isn\'t defined by one\'s behaviour but more about one\'s intentions. The examples that we could give are numerous and vary from one relationship to the next. </span></span>\r\n<span style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"line-height: 24px;\">\r\n</span></span><span style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"line-height: 24px;\">For that reason, it is very important for couples to exchange on their perception of fidelity. An indispensable discussion that is often forgotten in serious relationships. Some will even avoid having it by fear of having different opinions that could ultimately lead to not even starting the relationship or creating an awkward moment. This can demonstrate an <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\">uneasiness about intimacy</a>. It is also important to talk about what reactions and consequences when faced with one of the partners acting out and cheating on the other (couples therapy, break up, acceptance, reflecting on the continuation of the relation, etc.). We can even exchange on telling each other or not about the cheating and how you and your partner would want to find out about it. This clarifies each other\'s points of views on the matter and determines if we agree on the implications of committing to the relationship before hand. </span></span>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3><span lang=\"FR\">Hard discussion</span></h3>\r\n<div><span lang=\"FR\"><b> </b></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\nFidelity touches our most fundamental values as individuals. They can remind us of very painful memories of our past about being cheated on or if we cheated on someone. This can bring back feelings of betrayal, lost and major deceptions. We can also face very different point of views by having this discussion with a new flame at the beginning of the relationship about what fidelity entails. These differences can make one of the partners insecure, generally, the one that has the most restrictive definition of fidelity. It will also show how much respect each partner has towards the other person\'s opinion on the matter and how they will listen and understand. It shows as well, how flexible we are about our own perception of fidelity or rigidity on the matter.\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n<div>\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 150%; text-align: justify; text-indent: .5in;\">\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\nWe can also assume that most couples have very similar definitions of fidelity and the discussion doesn\'t really create any sort of conflict between them. In situations where limits are clear, jealousy has less chance of being prevalent in the couple\'s dynamic. If the perceptions, behaviours, intentions and acts are respected by both parties, trust normally takes precedence in the relationship. Even though jealousy is a universal human emotion, it doesn\'t have any use in a healthy relationship.</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3><span lang=\"FR\">How to manage differences about fidelity</span></h3>\r\n<div><span lang=\"FR\"><b> </b></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"FR\">Nobody wants to be betrayed, especially by one\'s lover, and feel the horrible emotions that come with it. When there is a fundamental issue about what each considers fidelity, there is a real need to reflect on how the relationship will work under such conditions. Sometimes we have differences because our perception of fidelity are more based on our insecurities and lack of self-esteem than actual values. Therefore, it might be important to work on oneself about these issues. We may also want to look at what are those differences and think about which ones we can actually tolerate. What exactly are the differences? How do they make you feel? How will you react if they ever come to be? What is each partner ready to work on and change about the issue? What if you can\'t come to an understanding? How do you picture this relationship evolving with that reality?</span>\r\n<span lang=\"FR\">\r\n</span><span lang=\"FR\">Since fidelity is part of almost every loving relationship that is long term, it is of utmost importance to have a discussion on our intentions in the relationship. This discussion, even though it might be a hard one and even stop the relationship from flourishing even before it starts, often avoids meaningless fighting and feelings of jealousy. On top of that, it clarifies the commitment each partner is taking before embarking on the relationship. 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(91, 1, '2015-09-02 19:04:00', '2015-09-02 17:04:00', '<br /><h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large\">Importance of defining fidelity in your couple</span></h2><div><br /></div><div><br /><span style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\">Fidelity is defined as the respect of an agreement with another person. In most loving relationships, there exist a form of fidelity between partners, even in polyamory. Although, what one person thinks is adultery, the other person might not, as the confines of fidelity are wide and large. We can even change our own perception of it as we grow older and we perceive alternate ways of being in our relationship.&nbsp;</span><br /><span style=\"text-align: justify\"><span style=\"line-height: 24px\">The continuum of behaviours that is considered adultery is long and the&nbsp;combinations&nbsp;are endless. Certain individuals consider that fantasizing on another person than their partner is cheating, while others require penetrative sex for it to be cheating. Others will need an emotional attachment, but sexual attraction is considered fine. Sometimes, fidelity isn\'t defined by one\'s behaviour but more about one\'s intentions. The examples that we could give are numerous and vary from one relationship to the next.&nbsp;</span></span><br /><span style=\"text-align: justify\"><span style=\"line-height: 24px\"><br /></span></span><span style=\"text-align: justify\"><span style=\"line-height: 24px\">For that reason, it is very important for couples to exchange on their perception of fidelity. An&nbsp;indispensable discussion that is often forgotten in serious relationships. Some will even avoid having it by fear of having different opinions that could ultimately lead to not even starting the relationship or creating an awkward moment. This can demonstrate an <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\">uneasiness about intimacy</a>. It is also important to talk about what reactions and consequences when faced with one of the partners acting out &nbsp;and cheating on the other (couples therapy, break up, acceptance, reflecting on the continuation of the relation, etc.). We can even exchange on telling each other or not about the cheating and how you and your partner would want to find out about it. This clarifies each other\'s points of views on the matter and determines if we agree on the implications of committing to the relationship before hand.&nbsp;</span></span><br /><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><br /></div><h3><span lang=\"FR\">Hard discussion</span></h3><div><span lang=\"FR\"><b><br /></b></span></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\">Fidelity touches our most fundamental values as individuals. They can remind us of very painful memories of our past about being cheated on or if we cheated on someone. This can bring back feelings of betrayal, lost and major deceptions. We can also face very different point of views by having this discussion with a new flame at the beginning of the relationship about what fidelity entails. These differences can make one of the partners insecure, generally the one that has the most restrictive definition of fidelity. It will also show how much respect each partner has towards the other person\'s opinion on the matter and how they will listen and understand. It shows as well, how flexible we are about our own perception of fidelity or rigidity on the matter.<br /><br /></div><!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form --><br /><div><div><h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2><div><span>*</span> indicates required</div><div><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address  <span>*</span></label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label> </div><div><div></div><div></div></div><!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->    <br /><div></div><div></div></div></div><!--End mc_embed_signup--><br /><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\"><br /></span></div><table align=\"center\" cellpadding=\"0\" cellspacing=\"0\" style=\"margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;text-align: center\"><tbody><tr><td style=\"text-align: center\"><a href=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-RoNvhM8uQ5M/UWTAWdrySkI/AAAAAAAAAHk/RtfhFDakRg0/s1600/jealous-man.jpg\" style=\"margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto\"><img alt=\"jealousy, couple therapy, sexologist, psychotherapist\" border=\"0\" src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-RoNvhM8uQ5M/UWTAWdrySkI/AAAAAAAAAHk/RtfhFDakRg0/s1600/jealous-man.jpg\" title=\"jealous behavior\" /></a></td></tr><tr><td style=\"text-align: center\">Do you know what your agreement with your partner is?</td></tr></tbody></table><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\"><br /></span></div><div style=\"line-height: 150%;text-align: justify;text-indent: .5in\"><div style=\"text-align: justify\">We can also assume that most couples have very similar definitions of fidelity and the discussion doesn\'t really create any sort of conflict between them. In situations where limits are clear, jealousy has less chance of being prevalent in the couple\'s dynamic. If the perceptions, behaviours, intentions and acts are respected by both parties, trust normally takes precedence in the relationship. Even though jealousy is a universal human emotion, it doesn\'t have any use in a healthy relationship.&nbsp;</div></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><br /></div><h3><span lang=\"FR\">How to manage differences about fidelity</span></h3><div><span lang=\"FR\"><b><br /></b></span></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\">Nobody wants to be betrayed, especially by one\'s lover, and feel the horrible emotions that come with it. When there is a fundamental issue about what each considers fidelity, there is a real need to reflect on how the relationship will work under such conditions. Sometimes we have differences because our perception of fidelity are more based on our insecurities and lack of self-esteem than actual values. Therefore, it might be important to work on oneself about these issues. We may also want to look at what are those differences and think about which ones we can actually tolerate. What exactly are the differences? How do they make you feel? How will you react if they ever come to be? What is each partner ready to work on and change about the issue? What if you can\'t come to an understanding? How do you picture this relationship evolving with that reality?</span><br /><span lang=\"FR\"><br /></span><span lang=\"FR\">Since fidelity is part of almost every loving relationship that is long term, it is of utmost importance to have a discussion on our intentions in the relationship. This discussion, even though it might be a hard one and even stop the relationship from flourishing even before it starts, often avoids meaningless fighting and feelings of jealousy. On top of that, it clarifies the commitment each partner is taking before embarking on the relationship. Unfortunately, some people may still feel jealousy even though, the partners had this discussion.&nbsp;</span></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"></div></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\" style=\"clear: left;float: left;margin-bottom: 1em;margin-right: 1em\"><img border=\"0\" height=\"200\" src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" /></a></div><br /><br /><br /><br />Learn more about the author<br /><br /><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Want more articles like these? 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(30, 1, '2015-08-28 18:02:00', '2015-08-28 16:02:00', '<h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">What is jealousy?</span></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Jealousy is define as an emotion that makes the person suffer when they are afraid that they will be replaced or cheated on by their partner when they seek exclusivity from that person. It is different than envy which is an emotion that demonstrates lust for someone else\'s happiness. In other words, jealousy is the fear of losing what we already have and envy is the wanting of things that we would want. The envious person is in state of lacking something who seeks to fulfill that need (envy of a kiss, a touch, of being love, of having sex, etc.). On the other hand, people who are jealous are fearful of losing a state of well being that they already have with another person.</div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"FR\"><b> </b></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"FR\"><b>\r\n</b><b> </b></span></div>\r\n<h3><span lang=\"FR\">A Universal Feeling but Ultimately Useless!</span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"FR\">Jealousy is a universal emotion among human beings that we have all felt one day or another. That small or very big sensation in our stomach that makes us feel uneasy, even though sometimes we wish it wasn\'t there. Jealousy is extremely present in loving and sexual relationships, where it can even be glamorized as something good. Although even if it is universal, jealousy is completely useless in loving relationships. We can find that there is a difference in that aspect regarding genders (Harris, 2003; Weghosrt, 19882)</span><span style=\"line-height: 24px;\">. More specifically, men tend to be more threaten by sexual conquest of their partners, while women are more scared of losing their partner\'s to another lover. This tends to be changing in recent years with gender roles evolution. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<h3><span lang=\"FR\">Myths On Jealousy</span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\" align=\"center\">\r\n<h4><span lang=\"FR\"><u><span style=\"line-height: 24px;\">Proof of someone\'s love </span></u></span></h4>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: center;\" align=\"center\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"FR\">We often hear people justifying their jealousy by advocating it is a demonstration of one\'s love towards their partner\'s. First, we must make a point very clear:<u> jealousy is not a proof of love</u>. On the contrary, it is a lack of love for one\'s self. A person who feels jealous demonstrates a lack of self-confidence and imagines that they will or can be replaced when the opportunity might present itself. This implies that we consider others to be a menace to the stability of our couple. We show our worries, our fears and apprehensions when we express our jealousy in front of our partner. Inversely, a person with a high self-esteem (no-jealousy) has a feeling of security in their relationship and they demonstrate their love (seen by the satisfaction in the couple) rather than by jealousy (feeling of being insecure). </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: center;\" align=\"center\">\r\n<h4><span lang=\"FR\"><u>Being Jealous Protects me From Being Cheated On</u></span></h4>\r\n<div><span lang=\"FR\"><u> </u></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\">Some will explain that their jealousy protects them from been cheated on by their partners. Once again, this could not be further from the truth. Jealousy brings interrogations, unjustified suspicions, constant surveillance and a lack of trust between partners. A perfect recipe for an unsatisfying relationship and constant bickering and fighting! These behaviors tend to push away our partner towards another person because they become dissatisfied with the relationship with the jealous person. We can then attest that jealousy creates the worst fear and what they are trying to ultimately avoid: losing their partner to someone else. It is not unlikely that partners constantly barraged by the other\'s jealous behavior wants to leave the relationship and sometimes by cheating. Therefore, jealousy can sometimes cause someone to cheat. Of course, the decision remains in the hands of the one who committed the act, but nevertheless, jealous partners should consider how they might have pushed the other into their own worst fears.</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div>\r\n<div>\r\n\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n\r\n<style type=\"text/css\">\r\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br />	/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />	   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br /></style>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"position: absolute; left: -5000px;\"><input tabindex=\"-1\" name=\"b_b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d_fd88d57b31\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"clear\"><input id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe\" class=\"button\" name=\"subscribe\" type=\"submit\" value=\"Subscribe\" /></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</form></div>\r\n<script type=\'text/javascript\' src=\'//s3.amazonaws.com/downloads.mailchimp.com/js/mc-validate.js\'></script><script type=\'text/javascript\'>(function($) {window.fnames = new Array(); window.ftypes = new Array();fnames[0]=\'EMAIL\';ftypes[0]=\'email\';fnames[1]=\'FNAME\';ftypes[1]=\'text\';fnames[2]=\'LNAME\';ftypes[2]=\'text\';}(jQuery));var $mcj = jQuery.noConflict(true);</script>\r\n<!--End mc_embed_signup-->\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: center;\" align=\"center\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\" align=\"center\">\r\n<h4><span lang=\"FR\"><u><span style=\"line-height: 24px;\">Complete absence of jealousy demonstrates a detachment and indifference </span></u></span></h4>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: center;\" align=\"center\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"FR\">« I love that my partner is jealous, it demonstrates how they are concerned about me». This typical citation is as false as saying jealousy is a proof of love. Couples who seek to make their partner\'s feel jealous are searching to be falsely reassured about their relationship. They seek attention when they feel there is a distance being created between them. We, therefore, believe that our partner showing their jealousy is demonstrating attachment towards the relationship and that they aren\'t indifferent to us. When we think about it, there are healthier ways of demonstrating our attachment towards each other. Considering that jealousy is a feeling that makes us suffer, why would we ever want our partner to feel it in any way, shape or form and more precisely in the name of love? Sounds contradictory doesn\'t it...well it is! In a stable and healthy relationship, we feel love and attachment towards each other in a good way, not by feeling insecure and scared of losing the other person, with destructive behaviors of jealousy. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: center;\" align=\"center\">\r\n<h4><span lang=\"FR\"><u>I trust my partner, I just don\'t trust other people</u></span></h4>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<span lang=\"FR\">A lot of jealous people will affirm that they trust their partner, but not the people surrounding him such as friends, colleagues and the like. We imagine that if someone flirts or tries anything with our partner, they have no other choice but to cheat. It is a strange way to think indeed. We must come quickly to the conclusion that we always have a choice in our lives to do or not to do something. If someone flirts, tries to kiss you or any other thing related to affection or sex, there is always the possibility of telling that person that we are in a committed relationship and ask them to stop. This responsibility is solely of the person who is engaged in a relationship. Our partner\'s are not territories we need to protect from outside intrusions. They can do that by themselves. </span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"FR\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2015/08/jealous-couple-38384539557_xlarge.jpeg\"><img src=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2015/08/jealous-couple-38384539557_xlarge-300x200.jpeg\" width=\"320\" height=\"213\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"FR\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"FR\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px;\"><span lang=\"FR\">We must also consider that the commitment that two partners have taken together about being loyal in the relationship is only between those two people. First of all, others might not be aware of this loyalty between you and perceives your partner as free game. Secondly, they don\'t have the obligation to follow the loyalty you have put forward as they never committed to it, your partner did. Thirdly, we have no control over what others do, and that includes your partner. We must therefore trust your partner that he will put the limits required by your engagement to be loyal and not commit adultery. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px;\"><span lang=\"FR\">\r\n</span><span lang=\"FR\">If you don\'t trust your partner to put those limits, maybe you need to have a serious talk about it with them or reflect by yourself the importance of your commitment towards each other in that regard. A few questions to ask yourself about this issue. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"line-height: 24px;\">How do you imagine your partner in a situation where they are being flirted with?</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"line-height: 24px;\">How do they react? Do they cheat?</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"line-height: 24px;\">How would you react in the same situation (you being flirted by someone)?</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"line-height: 24px;\">Do you put your limits or would you cheat?</span></li>\r\n</ul>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"FR\">Depending on your answers to theses questions, you might have realized that you would have cheated if placed in a situation where you could do it. Sometimes, the person that is jealous is actually projecting on their partner their own desire to cheat and they need others to put limits on them so they don\'t cross the line. But most of the time, they restrict their partners instead to soothe their own anxieties, rather than learning to establish their limits in similar situations. </span></div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<h3><span lang=\"FR\">What you need to remember</span></h3>\r\n<div><span lang=\"FR\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\">In conclusion, it is important to understand that feelings of jealousy will probably always be present in one way or another. Rarely will we see a person that is entirely confident in every aspect of their lives and never feel jealous. We all have experiences where we were hurt and made us feel bad about ourselves and it created jealousy.</div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"FR\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2015/08/break_up_relationship.jpg\"><img src=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2015/08/break_up_relationship-300x200.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"212\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<span lang=\"FR\"><span lang=\"FR\"> </span></span>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"FR\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"FR\">Although, what is also very important to understand is that our feelings must not decrease our relationship satisfaction because we feel insecure about ourselves. We must all learn to self-sooth our feelings and let our partner be who they are, rather than limiting each other in different aspects of your lives together. It is fundamental that you work on these issues rather than justify your jealousy as being a good thing for the stability of your couple, as it does the complete opposite of that. </span>\r\n<span lang=\"FR\">\r\n</span><span lang=\"FR\">\r\n</span><span lang=\"FR\">\r\n</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2016/11/francois.jpg\"><img src=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/wp-content/uploads/sites/3/2016/11/francois-278x300.jpg\" width=\"185\" height=\"200\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like these? 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A Review of Sex Differences in Sexual Jealousy, Including Self-Report Data, Psychophysiological Responses, Interpersonal Violence, and Morbid Jealousy <i>Personality and Social Psychology Review</i>. Vol. 7. No. 2, 102-128.</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"line-height: normal; margin-bottom: 6pt;\"><span style=\"font-size: 10pt;\">Weghorst, Suzanne. 1982. Male Sexual Jealousy. <span style=\"color: black;\">Ethology &amp; Sociobiology Volume 3, Issue 1, 11-27.</span></span></div>', 'Jealousy: Destroyer of couples', '', 'publish', 'open', 'open', '', 'jealousy-destroyer-of-couples', '', '', '2017-09-30 00:12:34', '2017-09-29 22:12:34', '', 0, '', 0, 'post', '', 1),
(95, 1, '2015-08-28 18:02:00', '2015-08-28 16:02:00', '<br /><h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large\">What is jealousy?</span></h2><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Jealousy is define as an emotion that makes the person suffer when they are afraid that they will be replaced or cheated on by their partner when they seek exclusivity from that person. It is different than envy which is an emotion that demonstrates lust for someone else\'s happiness. In other words, jealousy is the fear of losing what we already have and envy is the wanting of things that we would want. The envious person is in state of lacking something who seeks to fulfill that need (envy of a kiss, a touch, of being love, of having sex, etc.). On the other hand, people who are jealous are fearful of losing a state of well being that they already have with another person.&nbsp;</div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\"><b><br /></b></span></div><table align=\"center\" cellpadding=\"0\" cellspacing=\"0\" style=\"margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;text-align: center\"><tbody><tr><td style=\"text-align: center\"><a href=\"http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-StET71ghANU/UWHwr43B0eI/AAAAAAAAAHA/617w4jO_1sM/s1600/Jealousy_With_Toys_by_Kairi_Danjo_Sanjo.jpg\" style=\"margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto\"><img alt=\"sexual, jealousy, relationship, jealous\" border=\"0\" height=\"279\" src=\"https://2.bp.blogspot.com/-StET71ghANU/UWHwr43B0eI/AAAAAAAAAHA/617w4jO_1sM/s320/Jealousy_With_Toys_by_Kairi_Danjo_Sanjo.jpg\" title=\"jealousy\" width=\"320\" /></a></td></tr><tr><td style=\"text-align: center\">We all feel it, but we all need to deal with it</td></tr></tbody></table><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\"><b><br /></b></span></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\"><b><br /></b></span></div><h3><span lang=\"FR\">A Universal Feeling but Ultimately Useless!</span></h3><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\">Jealousy is a universal emotion among human beings that we have all felt one day or another. That small or very big sensation in our stomach that makes us feel uneasy, even though sometimes we wish it wasn\'t there. Jealousy is extremely present in loving and sexual relationships, where it can even be glamorized as something good. Although even if it is universal, jealousy is completely useless in loving relationships. We can find that there is a difference in that aspect regarding genders (Harris, 2003; Weghosrt, 19882)</span><span style=\"line-height: 24px\">. More specifically, men tend to be more threaten by sexual conquest of their partners, while women are more scared of losing their partner\'s to another lover. This tends to be changing in recent years with gender roles evolution.&nbsp;</span></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><br /></div><h3><span lang=\"FR\">Myths On Jealousy</span></h3><div align=\"center\" style=\"text-align: center\"><h4><span lang=\"FR\"><u><span style=\"line-height: 24px\">Proof of someone\'s&nbsp;love&nbsp;</span></u></span></h4></div><div align=\"center\" style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\">We often hear people justifying their jealousy by advocating it is a demonstration of one\'s love towards their partner\'s. First, we must make a point very clear:<u> jealousy is not a proof of love</u>. On the contrary, it is a lack of love for one\'s self. A person who feels jealous demonstrates a lack of self-confidence and imagines that they will or can be replaced when the opportunity might present itself. This implies that we consider others to be a menace to the stability of our couple. We show our worries, our fears and apprehensions when we express our jealousy in front of our partner. Inversely, a person with a high self-esteem (no-jealousy) has a feeling of security in their relationship and they demonstrate their love (seen by the satisfaction in the couple) rather than by jealousy (feeling of being insecure).&nbsp;</span></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div align=\"center\" style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: center\"><h4><span lang=\"FR\"><u>Being Jealous Protects me From Being Cheated On</u></span></h4><div><span lang=\"FR\"><u><br /></u></span></div></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\">Some will explain that their jealousy protects them from been cheated on by their partners. Once again, this could not be more further from the truth. Jealousy brings interrogations, unjustified suspicions, constant surveillance and a lack of trust between partners. A perfect recipe for an unsatisfying relationship and constant bickering and fighting! These behaviors tend to push away our partner towards another person, because they become dissatisfied with the relationship with the jealous person. We can than attest that jealousy creates the worst fear and what they are trying to ultimately avoid: losing their partner to someone else. It is not unlikely that partners constantly barraged by the other\'s jealous behavior wants to leave the relationship and sometimes by cheating. Therefore, jealousy can sometimes cause someone to cheat. Of course, the decision remains in the hands of the one who committed the act, but nevertheless, jealous partners should consider how they might have pushed the other into their own worst fears.&nbsp;</div><!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form --><br /><div><div><h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2><div><span>*</span> indicates required</div><div><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address  <span>*</span></label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label> </div><div><div></div><div></div></div><!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->    <br /><div></div><div></div></div></div><!--End mc_embed_signup--><br /><div align=\"center\" style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div align=\"center\" style=\"text-align: center\"><h4><span lang=\"FR\"><u><span style=\"line-height: 24px\">Complete absence of jealousy demonstrates a&nbsp;detachment&nbsp;and indifference&nbsp;</span></u></span></h4></div><div align=\"center\" style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\">« I love that my partner is jealous, it demonstrates how they are concerned about me». This typical citation is as false as saying jealousy is a proof of love. Couples who seek to make their partner\'s feel jealous are searching to be falsely reassured about their relationship. They seek attention when they feel there is a distance being created between them. We therefore believe that our partner showing their jealousy is demonstrating attachment towards the relationship and that they aren\'t indifferent to us. When we think about it, there are healthier ways of demonstrating our attachment towards each other. Considering that jealousy is a feeling that makes us suffer, why would we ever want our partner to feel it in any way, shape or form and more precisely in the name of love? Sounds contradictory doesn\'t it...well it is! In a stable and and healthy relationship, we feel love and attachment towards each other in a good way, not by feeling insecure and scared of losing the other person, with destructive behaviors of jealousy.&nbsp;</span><br /><span lang=\"FR\"></span></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div align=\"center\" style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: center\"><h4><span lang=\"FR\"><u>I trust my partner, I just don\'t trust other people</u></span></h4></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\"><span>A lot of jealous people will affirm that they trust their partner, but not the people surrounding him such as friends, colleagues and the like. We imagine that our partner, if someone flirts or tries anything with them, have no other choice but to cheat. It is a strange way to think indeed. We must come quickly to the conclusion that we always have a choice in our lives to do or not to do something. If someone flirts, tries to kiss you or any other thing related to affection or sex, there is always the possibility of telling that person that we are in a committed relationship and ask them to stop. This responsibility is solely of the person who is engaged in a relationship. Our partner\'s are not territories we need to protect from outside intrusions. They can do that by themselves.&nbsp;</span></span><br /><br /></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\"><br /></span></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><a href=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-2qyvfu_dLUo/UWHw9RQWDxI/AAAAAAAAAHI/P1P_T8qTMnU/s1600/jealous-couple-38384539557_xlarge.jpeg\" style=\"margin-left: 1em;margin-right: 1em\"><img border=\"0\" height=\"213\" src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-2qyvfu_dLUo/UWHw9RQWDxI/AAAAAAAAAHI/P1P_T8qTMnU/s320/jealous-couple-38384539557_xlarge.jpeg\" width=\"320\" /></a></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\"><br /></span></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\"><br /></span></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><div style=\"line-height: 24px\"><span lang=\"FR\">We must also consider that the commitment that two partners have taken together about being loyal in the relationship is only between those two people. First of all, others might not be aware of this loyalty between you and perceives your partner as free game. Secondly, they don\'t have the obligation to follow the loyalty you have put forward as they never committed to it, your partner did. Thirdly, we have no control over what others do, and that includes your partner. We must therefore trust your partner that he will put the limits required by your engagement to be loyal and not commit adultery.&nbsp;</span></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px\"><span lang=\"FR\"><br /></span><span lang=\"FR\">If you don\'t trust your partner to put those limits, maybe you need to have a serious talk about it with them or reflect by yourself the importance of your commitment towards each other on that regard. A few questions to ask yourself about this issue.&nbsp;</span></div><br /><ul><li><span style=\"line-height: 24px\">How do you imagine your partner in a situation where they are being flirted with?</span></li><li><span style=\"line-height: 24px\">How do they react? Do they cheat?</span></li><li><span style=\"line-height: 24px\">How would you react in the same situation (you being flirted by someone)?</span></li><li><span style=\"line-height: 24px\">Do you put your limits or would you cheat?</span></li></ul></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\">Depending on your answers to theses questions, you might have realized that you would have cheated if placed in a situation where you could do it. Sometimes, the person that is jealous is actually projecting on their partner their own desire to cheat and they need others to put limits on them so they don\'t cross the line. But most of the time, they restrict their partners instead to soothe their own anxieties, rather than learning to establish their limits in similar situations.&nbsp;</span></div><h3><span lang=\"FR\">What you need to remember</span></h3><div><span lang=\"FR\"><br /></span></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\">In conclusion, it is important to understand that feelings of jealousy will probably always be present in one way or another. Rarely will we see a person that is entirely confident in every aspect of their lives and never feel jealous. We all have experiences where we were hurt and made us feel bad about ourselves and it created jealousy.&nbsp;</div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\"><br /></span></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><a href=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-3H2RKyMYfCc/UWHxILEJslI/AAAAAAAAAHQ/CkJv35QnfQI/s1600/break_up_relationship.jpg\" style=\"margin-left: 1em;margin-right: 1em\"><img border=\"0\" height=\"212\" src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-3H2RKyMYfCc/UWHxILEJslI/AAAAAAAAAHQ/CkJv35QnfQI/s320/break_up_relationship.jpg\" width=\"320\" /></a></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\"><br /></span></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\"><br /></span></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"><span lang=\"FR\">Although, what is also very important to understand is that our feelings must not decrease our relationship satisfaction because we feel insecure about ourselves. We must all learn to self-sooth our feelings and let our partner be who they are, rather than limiting each other in different aspects of your lives together. It is fundamental that you work on these issues rather than justify your jealousy as being a good thing for the stability of your couple, as it does the complete opposite of that.&nbsp;</span><br /><span lang=\"FR\"><br /></span><span lang=\"FR\"><br /></span><span lang=\"FR\"><br /></span><br /><br /></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\" style=\"clear: left;float: left;margin-bottom: 1em;margin-right: 1em\"><img border=\"0\" height=\"200\" src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" /></a></div><br /><br /><br /><br />Learn more about the author<br /><br /><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Want more articles like these? Subscribe to our monthly newsletter</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->  <br /><div><div><h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2><div><span>*</span> indicates required</div><div><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span>*</span> </label>  </div><div><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>  </div><div><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>  </div><div><div></div><div></div></div><!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->    <br /><div></div><div></div></div></div> <!--End mc_embed_signup--><br /><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><span>Harris, Christine. 2003. A Review of Sex Differences in Sexual Jealousy, Including Self-Report Data, Psychophysiological Responses, Interpersonal Violence, and Morbid Jealousy&nbsp;<i>Personality and Social Psychology Review</i></span><span>. Vol. 7. No. 2, 102-128.</span></div><div><br /></div><span lang=\"FR\"></span><br /><div style=\"line-height: normal;margin-bottom: 6pt\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 10pt\">Weghorst, Suzanne. 1982. Male Sexual Jealousy.&nbsp;<span style=\"color: black\">Ethology &amp; Sociobiology Volume 3, Issue 1, 11-27.</span></span></span></div>', 'Jealousy: Destroyer of couples', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '30-revision-v1', '', '', '2015-08-28 18:02:00', '2015-08-28 16:02:00', '', 30, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2015/08/30-revision-v1.html?lang=fr', 0, 'revision', '', 0);
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(31, 1, '2015-08-26 20:22:00', '2015-08-26 18:22:00', '<h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">One giant leap backwards for female sexuality...</span></h2>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h3>Women are perceived as the problem</h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\nThere exist numerous reasons as to why a person would have a lower sexual desire in a relationship. They are actually multiple in most cases and they necessitate a variety of interventions to find a solution to the situation. For a long time now, we have categorized women as the partner who loses sexual desire (libido) in a couple because men are the high desire partners due to their hormones, more specifically testosterone. We tend to notice that in sexologist offices we find as many men being the low desire partner in the couple. In fact, we even see many gay couples where either one or both partner has a lower sexual desire.\r\n\r\nFor some reason, we continue to perceive women as the gender who loses sexual desire or has less than men as a general rule in long term relationships. The reason why men and women lose their sexual desire does tend to differ though. What we are noticing more in female sexuality is a lack of interest for sexual activity, not because they have deregulated hormones or neurotransmitters or that women just have less sexual drive than men, but it is because they are sexually bored with their partner\'s. Women seek variety, spontaneity, newness, a sense of adventure and exploration and a context to their sex life, as well as a<a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/09/webserie-02-sexual-presence-sexual-performance.html\"> sexual connection</a> (not necessarily an emotional one, but a sexual one)\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">When we are with the same partner for many years, it is only <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/webserie-03-maintaining-sexual-desire-in-long-term-relationships.html\">natural and normal to have a decrease in sexual desire</a>, if our sexuality is redundant, routine, predictable and with a lack of effort from both partners. A decrease in sexual desire is often not the problem, but more of a symptom of our <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\">sexual and relationship dynamic</a> that needs to be worked at.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\">For what reason this new medication won\'t help the majority of <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/03/womens-fierce-sexuality.html\">women who have a decrease in sexual desire?</a> The simple answer is: it doesn\'t take care of the cause, buy only the symptoms. By taking this pill, that has important side effects, will only give false hope to couples that should be analysing their relationship dynamic and their sexual satisfaction. The medication might have an impact for a certain time where the motivation to have sex will increase, but the couple\'s sex life will remain the same. Therefore, the problem will most likely resurface in a short amount of time. No medication can help boring sex for a prolonged period of time in long term relationships.What about female Viagra?</h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\nToo often, one of the partners, most of the time women, perceive sex with their partner as an obligation of the relationship to maintain the couple or to avoid conflicts. After giving and receiving multiple times <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire-between-partners-in-a-couple.html\">pity sex</a>, it is inevitable that the sex life of the couple will deteriorate and the relationship will also take a hard hit.\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Video about female Viagra (French)</h4>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\r\n\r\n<iframe src=\"https://www.youtube.com/embed/sk8tg5i0GCw\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"></iframe>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<h3>Does this medication apply to certain women at least?</h3>\r\n<div>The short answer is yes...but with the following criteria:</div>\r\n<div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; font-size: medium; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n<ul style=\"font-style: normal;\">\r\n 	<li>Stable relationship for at least a year with a man (exclusions of lesbian couples)</li>\r\n 	<li>Loss of sexual desire must have been obtained during the relationship</li>\r\n 	<li>Complete loss of sexual desire (no erotic dreams or fantasies, no desire to masturbate)</li>\r\n 	<li>Sexual response must be functional capacity to lubricate and reach orgasm following stimulation</li>\r\n 	<li>+ 18 years old but not year having menopause</li>\r\n 	<li>Not be pregnant or breast feeding</li>\r\n 	<li>No psychotherapy in the last 3 months</li>\r\n 	<li>No medication related to mood disorders</li>\r\n 	<li>No suicidal thought ever in life</li>\r\n 	<li>No relationship difficulties</li>\r\n 	<li>Good reaction from partner about the decrease in sexual desire</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<div style=\"font-style: normal;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-style: normal;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">These criteria are not about the medication that will be released in October, but of the research that studied the medication Although, we can clearly see that this medication was aimed a very few women with a particular profile with this difficulty.</div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-style: normal;\"></div>\r\n<div>\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Therefore, this pill might <i>«potentially» </i>help certain women and couples in dealing with this<a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for-your-couple.html\"> sexual difficulty that we find in the majority of relationships</a>, if and only if, the cause for the decrease in sexual desire is related to a deregulation of neurotransmitters in the female partner.</div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-style: normal;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<h3 style=\"font-style: normal;\">Finally!</h3>\r\n<div style=\"font-style: normal;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">If you or your partner is having a decrease or lack of sexual desire, take the time to really analyse your situation and determine if you need help from a sexologist &amp; psychotherapist or the medication or a combination of both.</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><b>Francois Renaud M.A.</b></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><b>Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist Montreal</b></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-style: normal;\"></div>\r\n</div>', 'Female Viagra: Addyi', '', 'publish', 'open', 'open', '', 'female-viagra-addyi', '', 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/03/womens-fierce-sexuality.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire-between-partners-in-a-couple.html', '2017-09-30 00:14:24', '2017-09-29 22:14:24', '', 0, '', 0, 'post', '', 0),
(97, 1, '2015-08-26 20:22:00', '2015-08-26 18:22:00', '<h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large\">One giant leap backwards for female sexuality...</span></h2><div><br /></div><h3>Women are perceived as the problem&nbsp;</h3><div style=\"text-align: justify\">There exist numerous reasons as to why a person would have a lower sexual desire in a relationship. They are actually multiple in most cases and they necessitate a variety of interventions to find a solution to the situation. For a long time now, we have categorized women as the partner who loses sexual desire (libido) in a couple because men are the high desire partners due to their hormones, more specifically testosterone. We tend to notice that in sexologist offices we find as much men being the low desire partner in the couple. In fact, we even see many gay couples where either one or both partner has a lower sexual desire.<br /><br />For some reason, we continue to perceive women as the gender who loses sexual desire or has less than men as a general rule in long term relationships. The reason why men and women lose their sexual desire does tend to differ though. What we are noticing more in female sexuality is a lack of interest for sexual activity, not because they have deregulated hormones or neurotransmitters or that women just have less sexual drive than men, but it is because they are sexually bored with their partner\'s. Women seek variety, spontaneity, newness, a sense of adventure and exploration and a context to their sex life, as well as a<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/09/webserie-sexual-presence-sexual.html\"> sexual connection</a> (not necessarily an emotional one, but a sexual one)</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br />When we are with the same partner for many years, it is only <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/12/maintaining-sexual-desire-in-longterm.html\">natural and normal to have a decrease in sexual desire</a>, if our sexuality is redundant, routine, predictable and with a lack of effort from both partners. A decrease in sexual desire is often not the problem, but more of a symptom of our <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\">sexual and relationship dynamic</a> that needs to be worked at.&nbsp;</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><table align=\"center\" cellpadding=\"0\" cellspacing=\"0\" style=\"margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto;text-align: center\"><tbody><tr><td><a href=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-lLHRHDZh2xc/VdstIhaSviI/AAAAAAAAAtw/jgl3Ko3hS1A/s1600/couple-souffrant-de-problemes-sexuels-illustration_18931_w300.jpg\" style=\"margin-left: auto;margin-right: auto\"><img alt=\"decrease lack sexual female viagra\" border=\"0\" height=\"320\" src=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-lLHRHDZh2xc/VdstIhaSviI/AAAAAAAAAtw/jgl3Ko3hS1A/s320/couple-souffrant-de-problemes-sexuels-illustration_18931_w300.jpg\" title=\"Lack sexual desire\" width=\"284\" /></a></td></tr><tr><td style=\"font-size: 13px\">Sexual difficulties</td></tr></tbody></table><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><h3 style=\"text-align: justify\">What about female Viagra?</h3><div style=\"text-align: justify\">For what reason this new medication won\'t help the majority of <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2015/03/womens-fierce-sexuality.html\">women who have a decrease in sexual desire?</a> The simple answer is: it doesn\'t take care of the cause, buy only the symptoms. By taking this pill, that has important side effects, will only give false hope to couples that should be analysing their relationship dynamic and their sexual satisfaction. The medication might have an impact for a certain time where the motivation to have sex will increase, but the couple\'s sex life will remain the same. Therefore, the problem will most likely resurface in a short amount of time. No medication can help boring sex for a prolong period of time in long term relationships.<br /><br />Too often, one of the partners, most of the time women, perceive sex with their partner as an obligation of the relationship to maintain the couple or to avoid conflicts. After giving and receiving multiple times <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire.html\">pity sex</a>, it is inevitable that the sex life of the couple will deteriorate and the relationship will also take a hard hit.&nbsp;</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><h4 style=\"text-align: center\">Video about female Viagra (French)</h4><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /></div><h3>Does this medication apply to certain women at least?</h3><div>The short answer is yes...but with the following criteria:</div><div><br /></div><div style=\"color: black;font-family: \'Times New Roman\';font-size: medium;font-variant: normal;font-weight: normal;letter-spacing: normal;line-height: normal;text-align: start;text-indent: 0px\"><ul style=\"font-style: normal\"><li>Stable relationship for at least a year with a man (exclusions of lesbian couples)</li><li>Loss of sexual desire must have been obtained during the relationship</li><li>Complete loss of sexual desire (no erotic dreams or fantasies, no desire to masturbate)</li><li>Sexual response must be functional capacity to lubricate and reach orgasm following stimulation</li><li>+ 18 years old but not year having menopause</li><li>Not be pregnant or breast feeding</li><li>No psychotherapy in the last 3 months</li><li>No medication related to mood disorders</li><li>No suicidal thought ever in life</li><li>No relationship difficulties</li><li>Good reaction from partner about the decrease in sexual desire</li></ul><div style=\"font-style: normal\"><br /></div><div style=\"font-style: normal\"><div style=\"margin: 0px\"><div style=\"text-align: justify\">These criteria are not about the medication that will be released in October, but of the research that studied the medication Although, we can clearly see that this medication was aimed a very few women with a particular profile with this difficulty.&nbsp;</div></div></div><div style=\"font-style: normal\"><div style=\"margin: 0px\"><br /></div></div><div><div style=\"margin: 0px\"><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Therefore, this pill might <i>«potentially» </i>help certain women and couples in dealing with this<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\"> sexual difficulty that we find in the majority of relationships</a>, if and only if, the cause for the decrease in sexual desire is related to a deregulation of neurotransmitters in the female partner.&nbsp;</div></div></div><div style=\"font-style: normal\"><div style=\"margin: 0px\"><br /></div></div><h3 style=\"font-style: normal\">Finally!</h3><div style=\"font-style: normal\"><div style=\"margin: 0px\"><div style=\"text-align: justify\">If you or your partner is having a decrease or lack of sexual desire, take the time to really analyse your situation and determine if you need help from a sexologist &amp; psychotherapist or the medication or a combination of both.&nbsp;</div></div><div style=\"margin: 0px\"><br /></div><div style=\"margin: 0px\"><b>Francois Renaud M.A.</b></div><div style=\"margin: 0px\"><b>Sexologist &amp; psychotherapist Montréal</b></div></div><div style=\"font-style: normal\"></div></div>', 'Female Viagra: Addyi', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '31-revision-v1', '', '', '2015-08-26 20:22:00', '2015-08-26 18:22:00', '', 31, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2015/08/31-revision-v1.html?lang=fr', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(32, 1, '2015-07-08 02:00:00', '2015-07-08 00:00:00', '<h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large\">Preview for the upcoming season</span>&nbsp;</h2><div><br /></div><h3 style=\"text-align: center\">Introduction video</h3><div><br /></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><br /></div><h4 style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: large\">Subjects for this years webseries</span></h4><div><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: large\">Jealousy</span></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: large\">Infidelity &amp; fidelity</span></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: large\">Different dynamics in sexuality</span></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: large\">Various couples statuses: polyamourous, open couples, swingers, monogamist, etc.</span></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: large\">Different types of sexual desire</span></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: large\">What happens in you head when you are having sex with a partner?</span><br /><span style=\"font-size: large\">Bisexuality and sexual fluidity</span><br /><span style=\"font-size: large\">lack of communication in couples</span></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /></div><!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form --><br /><div><div><h2>Subscribe to our mailing list to receive notice of FREE videos on sexuality</h2><div><span>*</span> indicates required</div><div><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address  <span>*</span></label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label> </div><div><div></div><div></div></div><!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->    <br /><div></div><div></div></div></div><!--End mc_embed_signup--><br /><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /><br /><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large\">Purchase <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/07/purchase-webseries-of-sexual-erotic-education.html\">season 1</a> of Sensual &amp; Erotic Education</span><br /><span style=\"font-size: x-large\"><br /></span><span style=\"font-size: x-large\"><br /></span><br /><div style=\"text-align: left\">This year, I am hoping to integrate the viewers more into the webseries. I would love to hear your questions or subjects you would like me to get more information about and produce a video about it. Write it in the comment section at the bottom or send me an email at: sexologue.f.renaud@gmail.com</div><div style=\"text-align: left\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: left\"><br /></div></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /></div><div><br /></div>', 'Season 2: Sensual &amp; Erotic Education webseries', '', 'publish', 'open', 'open', '', 'season-2-sensual-erotic-education-webseries', '', '', '2017-04-18 03:08:16', '2017-04-18 01:08:16', '', 0, '', 0, 'post', '', 0),
(98, 1, '2015-07-08 02:00:00', '2015-07-08 00:00:00', '<h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large\">Preview for the upcoming season</span>&nbsp;</h2><div><br /></div><h3 style=\"text-align: center\">Introduction video</h3><div><br /></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><br /></div><h4 style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: large\">Subjects for this years webseries</span></h4><div><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: large\">Jealousy</span></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: large\">Infidelity &amp; fidelity</span></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: large\">Different dynamics in sexuality</span></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: large\">Various couples statuses: polyamourous, open couples, swingers, monogamist, etc.</span></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: large\">Different types of sexual desire</span></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: large\">What happens in you head when you are having sex with a partner?</span><br /><span style=\"font-size: large\">Bisexuality and sexual fluidity</span><br /><span style=\"font-size: large\">lack of communication in couples</span></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /></div><!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form --><br /><div><div><h2>Subscribe to our mailing list to receive notice of FREE videos on sexuality</h2><div><span>*</span> indicates required</div><div><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address  <span>*</span></label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label> </div><div><div></div><div></div></div><!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->    <br /><div></div><div></div></div></div><!--End mc_embed_signup--><br /><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /><br /><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large\">Purchase <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/07/purchase-webseries-of-sexual-erotic.html\">season 1</a> of Sensual &amp; Erotic Education</span><br /><span style=\"font-size: x-large\"><br /></span><span style=\"font-size: x-large\"><br /></span><br /><div style=\"text-align: left\">This year, I am hoping to integrate the viewers more into the webseries. I would love to hear your questions or subjects you would like me to get more information about and produce a video about it. Write it in the comment section at the bottom or send me an email at: sexologue.f.renaud@gmail.com</div><div style=\"text-align: left\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: left\"><br /></div></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /></div><div><br /></div>', 'Season 2: Sensual &amp; Erotic Education webseries', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '32-revision-v1', '', '', '2015-07-08 02:00:00', '2015-07-08 00:00:00', '', 32, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2015/07/32-revision-v1.html?lang=fr', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(499, 2, '2019-10-04 22:37:10', '2019-10-04 20:37:10', '<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\">Justice in polyamoury, but in what context?</h1>\r\nSociety is becoming more open about the idea of polyamorous relationships, even though there is still quite a lot of polyamorophobia (a word I just invented). Therefore, I am getting more people in my office seeking help to negotiate the relationship contract. Every couple has some form of understanding about what they consider to be fidelity and hence a relationship contract.\r\n\r\nEven monogamous relationships have one, but they rarely actively discuss it, which can create issues down the line. Some contracts are explicitly talked about with clauses and articles while others are implicitly implied and assumed by one or both partners.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>Sign with your blood here, please!</h2>\r\nSo you\'ve decided you wanted to open your relationships to the joys of multiple partners. This requires that the couple reflects on their individual needs and desires so that they can reach an agreement as to how this will unfold. We can open the relationship either sexually and/or emotionally and you and your partner may not necessarily agree on how open and what you want from this experience or lifestyle you are embarking on.\r\n\r\nContracts can be relatively simple to very complex and ongoing discussions are essential to maintain a healthy relationship and avoid jealousy and possessiveness down the road. Some take a \"Don\'t ask, don\'t tell\" approach which can greatly simplify the discussions but can eventually lead to some mishaps and misunderstandings.\r\n\r\nOne of the dilemmas I keep hitting with my couples in therapy is the debate about equality vs. equity in their agreements. One partner might want to open up only sexually and the other person needs some form of emotional intimacy to engage sexually with a new partner.  Certain couples aren\'t in the same context where one of them is more easily able to find new partners because of different circumstances such as being more desirable and excels in seduction or opportunities to meet new people is easier due to free time or hobbies they might have. There is also a gender difference to consider in heterosexual relationships where presenting to new partners an openness in their relationship might enact different reactions depending on the sexual orientation and gender of theses potential new partners.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h3>I\'m comfortable, but wait a minute</h3>\r\nAs needs and desires are different for everyone, this creates negotiations and discussions that aren\'t always easy. Some might want equality in their agreement and others are seeking equity and in some cases, they may want both. What exactly is the difference anyways between the two, you ask?\r\n<h4>Poly-gality</h4>\r\nThe notion that both partners must respect the same rules without taking into consideration individual needs and desires from each partner. For many, this rule allows feeling justice in the agreement. Everyone has the same number of partners, dates, style or acts of sex that can be shared and no one feels like they are getting less or more than the other. It avoids the complication of dealing with different needs that might create jealousy for one of the partners. The issue is that it might actually answer one of the partner\'s needs more than the other, which can feel unjust for some. This agreement works great especially if both partners are seeking very similar things in a non-monogamy arrangement.\r\n<h4>Poly-quity</h4>\r\nThe notion that every person\'s needs are taken into consideration during the negotiations even though they might differ or even contradict one another. This typically requires more complex negotiations because one partner may want to have only sexual partners, while the other wants more affection in their extra-conjugal relationships. The issue is that some needs might provoke jealousy or possessiveness or a loss of uniqueness and exclusivity in the relationship. Couples who choose poly-quity need to work more on their level of differentiation and tolerating the uniqueness of each partner\'s needs.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>So...poly-quity or poly-gality</h2>\r\nWell, that really depends on your situation and desires. Not one style is better than the other, but depending on your situation you might want to decide which one fits better. You and your partner may have different circumstances that don\'t allow for the same rules. While other couples will thrive in poly-gality because they both want similar things in their other relationships. We also have to ask ourselves why we instill certain rules and what are the motivations for them. Are we trying to protect the couple and our values by keeping our integrity or are we trying to avoid our insecurities and protecting our egos? Being honest with ourselves and our partners is key to making these negotiations and this life experience enjoyable for all.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<img class=\"size-medium wp-image-2856 alignleft\" src=\"http://montreal.lesexologue.ca/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2017/07/IMG_0199-e1500512222567-300x169.jpg\" alt=\"sexologue montreal\" width=\"300\" height=\"169\" />\r\n<h5><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a></h5>\r\n<h6>Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist Montreal</h6>\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/therapie/couple-therapy/\">Specialized in couple\'s and sex therapy</a>\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/about/\">About the author</a>', 'Equity vs. Equality in polyamorous relationships', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '488-revision-v1', '', '', '2019-10-04 22:37:10', '2019-10-04 20:37:10', '', 488, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2019/10/488-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(498, 2, '2019-10-04 22:29:00', '2019-10-04 20:29:00', '<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\">Justice in polyamoury, but in what context?</h1>\r\nSociety is becoming more open about the idea of polyamorous relationships, even though there is still quite a lot of polyamorophobia (a word I just invented). Therefore, I am getting more people in my office seeking help to negotiate the relationship contract. Every couple has some form of understanding about what they consider to be fidelity and hence a relationship contract.\r\n\r\nEven monogamous relationships have one, but they rarely actively discuss it, which can create issues down the line. Some contracts are explicitly talked about with clauses and articles while others are implicitly implied and assumed by one or both partners.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>Sign with your blood here, please!</h2>\r\nSo you\'ve decided you wanted to open your relationships to the joys of multiple partners. This requires that the couple reflects on their individual needs and desires so that they can reach an agreement as to how this will unfold. We can open the relationship either sexually and/emotionally and you and your partner may not necessarily agree on how open and what you want from this experience or lifestyle you are embarking on.\r\n\r\nContracts can be relatively simple to very complex and ongoing discussions to maintain a healthy relationship and avoid jealousy and possessiveness down the road. Some take a \"Don\'t ask, don\'t tell\" approach which can greatly simplify the discussions but can eventually lead to some mishaps and misunderstandings.\r\n\r\nOne of the dilemmas I keep hitting with my couples in therapy is the debate about equality vs. equity in their agreements. One partner might want to open up only sexually and the other person needs some form of emotional intimacy to engage sexually with a new partner.  Certain couples aren\'t in the same context where one of them is more easily able to find new partners because of different circumstances such as being more desirable and excels in seduction or opportunities to meet new people is easier due to free time or hobbies they might have. There is also a gender difference to consider in heterosexual relationships where presenting to new partners an openness in their relationship might enact different reactions depending on the sexual orientation and gender of theses potential new partners.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h3>I\'m comfortable, but wait a minute</h3>\r\nAs needs and desires are different for everyone, this creates negotiations and discussions that aren\'t always easy. Some might want equality in their agreement and others are seeking equity and in some cases, they may want both. What exactly is the difference anyways between the two, you ask?\r\n<h4>Poly-gality</h4>\r\nThe notion that both partners must respect the same rules without taking into consideration individual needs and desires from each partner. For many, this rule allows feeling justice in the agreement. Everyone has the same number of partners, dates, style or acts of sex that can be shared and no one feels like they are getting less or more than the other. It avoids the complication of dealing with different needs that might create jealousy for one of the partners. The issue is that it might actually answer one of the partner\'s needs more than the other, which can feel unjust for some. This agreement works great especially if both partners are seeking very similar things in a non-monogamy arrangement.\r\n<h4>Poly-quity</h4>\r\nThe notion that every person\'s needs are taken into consideration during the negotiations even though they might differ or even contradict one another. This typically requires more complex negotiations because one partner may want to have only sexual partners, while the other wants more affection in their extra-conjugal relationships. The issue is that some needs might provoke jealousy or possessiveness or a loss of uniqueness and exclusivity in the relationship. Couples who choose poly-quity need to work more on the level of differentiation and tolerating the uniqueness of each partner\'s needs.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>So...poly-quity or poly-gality</h2>\r\nWell, that really depends on your situation and desires. Not one style is better than the other, but depending on your situation you might want to decide which one fits better. You and your partner may have different circumstances that don\'t allow for the same rules. While other couples will thrive in poly-gality because they both want similar things in their other relationships. We also have to ask ourselves why we instill certain rules and what are the motivations for them. Are we trying to protect the couple and our values by keeping our integrity or are we trying to avoid our insecurities and protecting our egos? Being honest with ourselves and our partners is key to making these negotiations and this life experience enjoyable for all.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<img class=\"size-medium wp-image-2856 alignleft\" src=\"http://montreal.lesexologue.ca/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2017/07/IMG_0199-e1500512222567-300x169.jpg\" alt=\"sexologue montreal\" width=\"300\" height=\"169\" />\r\n<h5><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a></h5>\r\n<h6>Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist Montreal</h6>\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/therapie/couple-therapy/\">Specialized in couple\'s and sex therapy</a>\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/about/\">About the author</a>', 'Equity vs. Equality in polyamorous relationships', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '488-revision-v1', '', '', '2019-10-04 22:29:00', '2019-10-04 20:29:00', '', 488, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2019/10/488-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(501, 2, '2019-10-15 17:34:57', '2019-10-15 15:34:57', '<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\">Justice in polyamoury, but in what context?</h1>\r\nSociety is becoming more open about the idea of polyamorous relationships, even though there is still quite a lot of polyamorophobia (a word I just invented). Therefore, I am getting more people in my office seeking help to negotiate their relationship contract. Every couple has some form of understanding about what they consider to be fidelity and hence a relationship contract.\r\n\r\nEven monogamous relationships have one, but they rarely actively discuss it, which can create issues down the line. Some contracts are explicitly talked about with clauses and articles while others are implicitly implied and assumed by one or both partners.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>Sign with your blood here, please!</h2>\r\nSo you\'ve decided you wanted to open your relationships to the joys of multiple partners. This requires that the couple reflects on their individual needs and desires so that they can reach an agreement as to how this will unfold. We can open the relationship either sexually and/or emotionally and you and your partner may not necessarily agree on how open and what you want from this experience or lifestyle you are embarking on.\r\n\r\nContracts can be relatively simple to very complex and ongoing discussions are essential to maintain a healthy relationship and avoid jealousy and possessiveness down the road. Some take a <strong>\"Don\'t ask, don\'t tell\"</strong> approach which can greatly simplify the discussions but can eventually lead to some mishaps and misunderstandings.\r\n\r\nOne of the dilemmas I keep hitting with my couples in therapy is the debate about equality vs. equity in their agreements. One partner might want to open up only sexually and the other person needs some form of emotional intimacy to engage sexually with a new partner.  Certain couples aren\'t in the same context where one of them is more easily able to find new partners because of different circumstances such as being more desirable and excels in seduction or opportunities to meet new people is easier due to free time or hobbies they might have. There is also a gender difference to consider in heterosexual relationships where presenting to new partners an openness in their relationship might enact different reactions depending on the sexual orientation and gender of these potential new partners.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h3>I\'m comfortable, but wait a minute</h3>\r\nAs needs and desires are different for everyone, this creates negotiations and discussions that aren\'t always easy. Some might want equality in their agreement and others are seeking equity and in some cases, they may want both. What exactly is the difference anyways between the two, you ask?\r\n<h4>Poly-gality</h4>\r\nThe notion that both partners must respect the same rules without taking into consideration individual needs and desires from each partner. For many, this rule allows feeling justice in the agreement. Everyone has the same number of partners, dates, style or acts of sex that can be shared and no one feels like they are getting less or more than the other. It avoids the complication of dealing with different needs that might create jealousy for one of the partners. The issue is that it might actually answer one of the partner\'s needs more than the other, which can feel unjust for some. This agreement works great especially if both partners are seeking very similar things in a non-monogamy arrangement.\r\n<h4>Poly-quity</h4>\r\nThe notion that every person\'s needs are taken into consideration during the negotiations even though they might differ or even contradict one another. This typically requires more complex negotiations because one partner may want to have only sexual partners, while the other wants more affection in their extra-conjugal relationships. The issue is that some needs might provoke jealousy or possessiveness or a loss of uniqueness and exclusivity in the relationship. Couples who choose poly-quity need to work more on their level of differentiation and tolerating the uniqueness of each partner\'s needs.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2>So...poly-quity or poly-gality</h2>\r\nWell, that really depends on your situation and desires. Not one style is better than the other, but depending on your situation you might want to decide which one fits better. You and your partner may have different circumstances that don\'t allow for the same rules. While other couples will thrive in poly-gality because they both want similar things in their other relationships. We also have to ask ourselves why we instill certain rules and what are the motivations for them. Are we trying to protect the couple and our values by keeping our integrity or are we trying to avoid our insecurities and protecting our egos? Being honest with ourselves and our partners is key to making these negotiations and this life experience enjoyable for all.\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<img class=\"size-medium wp-image-2856 alignleft\" src=\"http://montreal.lesexologue.ca/wp-content/uploads/sites/2/2017/07/IMG_0199-e1500512222567-300x169.jpg\" alt=\"sexologue montreal\" width=\"300\" height=\"169\" />\r\n<h5><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a></h5>\r\n<h6>Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist Montreal</h6>\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/therapie/couple-therapy/\">Specialized in couple\'s and sex therapy</a>\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/about/\">About the author</a>', 'Equity vs. Equality in polyamorous relationships', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '488-revision-v1', '', '', '2019-10-15 17:34:57', '2019-10-15 15:34:57', '', 488, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2019/10/488-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0);
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(34, 1, '2015-03-21 22:01:00', '2015-03-21 21:01:00', '<h2 style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>How to Achieve Self-Validated Sexual Desire*</b></span></h2>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b> </b></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> There is a fundamental difference between self-validated intimacy and all the <span style=\"color: #00dcff;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/03/different-types-of-sexual-desire.html\">other types of desire</a></span> we mentioned in previous articles. It is on the level of <span style=\"color: #00dcff;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\">intimacy </a></span>that we can perceive it; more specifically the perception of ourselves and our authenticity. Feelings of being desirable are based for many people on the perception that their partner has of them. This way of functioning inevitably kills sexual desire in couples who have stayed at the <span style=\"color: #00dcff;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/03/different-types-of-sexual-desire-part-ii.html\">attachment phase of sexual desire</a></span>. At the beginning of a relationship, we seek to obtain others validation and approval, especially in sex. We want to be desirable in the eyes of our partner, we want to be able to offer sexual pleasure, to seduce and be loved at all cost. All of this is necessary and enjoyable in couples, although in long term relationships this dynamic weighs negatively on sexual desire. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Self-Validation</b></span></h3>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b> </b></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">There are four fundamental elements that play a role in sexual desire in long-term relationships. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><b>Our self-perception or self-esteem</b></li>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Our partner\'s perception of us </b></span></li>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>The perception we have of our partner</b></span></li>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>The way we treat and are treated by our partner</b></span></li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> These four aspects have an important impact on our own sense of being desirable and the desire we have for our lover. A person can have a high sexual desire, but it isn\'t necessarily aimed towards their partner\'s. For which they may have lost respect for during the long years of living and being together. Following a <span style=\"background-color: white;\">plethora </span>of numerous conflicts, deceptions, rejections, lost of integrity and low blows (<span style=\"color: #00dcff;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/unhealthy-couple-dynamics.html\">Normal Marital Sadism</a></span>) in their sex lives, they can diminish their admiration for their partner\'s and their own self-worth. This brings partners to seek for validation from others to feel desirable and desire. This dynamic can be translated in these terms: \'\'I want you to find me desirable because I can\'t find myself to be desirable\'\'.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> We often repeat that a good self-esteem, having confidence and being assertive is sexually desirable. The thing is, in long term relationships we get to see our partner in their most vulnerable states and glimpse at their insecurities. We know when they are seeking approval from us or others. This lowers sexual desire towards one or both partners. This is where <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">alliances </span>between partners in a relationship becomes either <span style=\"color: #00dcff;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\">collusive,combative or non-existent</a></span>. This difficult transition for couples to past from a other validated intimacy to self-validated intimacy necessitates a commitment to ourselves and a <span style=\"color: #00dcff;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\">collaborative alliance</a></span> in the couple. Certain couples are capable of overcoming these normal hardships with their own <span style=\"background-color: white;\">volition</span>and <span style=\"color: #00dcff;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\">emotional balance</a></span>. On the other hand, many will need help from a sex-therapist who specializes in couples and sexual desire issues. This process with or without a professional obliges partners to self-confront about their anxieties, insecurities, short-comings and learn how to self-validate during periods of intense emotions and sexual intimacy. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><b style=\"font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 16pt; line-height: 150%;\">\r\n</b><b style=\"font-family: verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 16pt; line-height: 150%;\">Want to learn more?</b></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/webvideo_sexuality_sensuality_erotic/\">Watch Sensual &amp; Erotic Education webseries!</a></b></span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b> </b></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\"><img src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" height=\"200\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like theses? 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(100, 1, '2015-03-21 22:01:00', '2015-03-21 21:01:00', '<h2 style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b>How to Achieve Self-Validated Sexual Desire*</b></span></span></h2><div align=\"CENTER\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b><br /></b></span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"> There is a fundamental difference between self-validated intimacy and all the <span style=\"color: #00dcff\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/03/types-of-sexual-desire.html\">other types of desire</a></span> we mentioned in previous articles. It is on the level of <span style=\"color: #00dcff\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\">intimacy</a></span>that we can perceive it; more specifically the perception of ourselves and our authenticity. Feelings of being desirable are based for many people on the perception that their partner has of them. This way of functioning inevitably kills sexual desire in couples who have stayed at the <span style=\"color: #00dcff\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/03/type-sexual-desire.html\">attachment phase of sexual desire</a></span>. At the beginning of a relationship, we seek to obtain  others validation and approval, especially in sex. We want to be desirable in the eyes of our partner, we want to be able to offer sexual pleasure, to seduce and be loved at all cost. All of this is necessary and enjoyable in couples, although in long term relationships this dynamic weighs negatively on sexual desire. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><h3 style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b>Self-Validation</b></span></span></h3><div><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b><br /></b></span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">There are four fundamental elements that play a role in sexual desire in long term relationships. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><ul><li><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b>Our  self-perception or self-esteem</b></span></span></div></li><li><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b>Our  partner\'s perception of us </b></span></span> </div></li><li><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b>The  perception we have of our partner</b></span></span></div></li><li><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b>The  way we treat and are treated by our partner</b></span></span></div></li></ul><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"> These four aspects have an important impact on our own sense of being desirable and the desire we have for our lover. A person can have a high sexual desire, but it isn\'t necessarily aimed towards their partner\'s. For which they may have lost respect for during the long years of living and being together. Following a <span style=\"background-color: white\">plethora</span>of numerous conflicts, deceptions, rejections, lost of integrity and low blows (<span style=\"color: #00dcff\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/04/unhealthy-couple-dynamics.html\">Normal Marital Sadism</a></span>) in their sex lives, they can diminish their admiration for their partner\'s and their own self-worth. This bring partners to seek for validation from others to feel desirable and desire. This dynamic can be translated in these terms: \'\'I want you to find me desirable, because I can\'t find myself to be desirable\'\'.</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form --><br /><div><div><h2>Subscribe to our mailing list to receive notice of FREE videos on sexuality</h2><div><span>*</span> indicates required</div><div><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address  <span>*</span></label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label> </div><div><div></div><div></div></div><!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->    <br /><div></div><div><br /><br /></div></div></div><!--End mc_embed_signup--> <br /><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"> We often repeat that a good self-esteem, having confidence and being assertive is sexually desirable. The thing is, in long term relationships we get to see our partner in their most vulnerable states and glimpse at their insecurities. We know when they are seeking approval from us or others. This lowers sexual desire towards one or both partners. This is where <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc\">alliances</span>between partners in a relationship becomes either <span style=\"color: #00dcff\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\">collusive,combative or non-existent</a></span>. This difficult transition for couples to past from a other validated intimacy to self-validated intimacy necessitates a commitment to ourselves and a <span style=\"color: #00dcff\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/04/construct-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\">collaborative alliance</a></span> in the couple. Certain couples are capable of overcoming these normal hardships with their own <span style=\"background-color: white\">volition</span>and <span style=\"color: #00dcff\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\">emotional balance</a></span>. On the other hand, many will need help from a sex-therapist who specializes in couples and sexual desire issues. This process with or without a professional obliges partners to self-confront about their anxieties, insecurities, short-comings and learn how to self-validate during periods of intense emotions and sexual intimacy. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><b style=\"font-family: verdana, sans-serif;font-size: 16pt;line-height: 150%\"><br /></b><b style=\"font-family: verdana, sans-serif;font-size: 16pt;line-height: 150%\">Want to learn more?</b></div><h4 style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/video_sexuality\">Watch Sensual &amp; Erotic Education webseries!</a></b></span></span></h4><div><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><br /></span></span></div><div><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><br /></span></span></div><div><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><br /></span></span></div><div><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b><br /></b></span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div> <br /><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\" style=\"clear: left;float: left;margin-bottom: 1em;margin-right: 1em\"><img border=\"0\" height=\"200\" src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" /></a></div><br /><br /><br /><br />Learn more about the author<br /><br /><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Want more articles like theses? 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(35, 1, '2015-03-16 16:42:00', '2015-03-16 15:42:00', '<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#video16\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"> </span></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/03/webseries-maintaining-sexual-desire-part-3.html#video16\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Patterns between Low Desire Partner &amp; High Desire Partner</span></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/03/webseries-maintaining-sexual-desire-part-3.html#video17\">Different types of alliances in couples</a></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/03/webseries-maintaining-sexual-desire-part-3.html#video18\">Do you really want to change?</a></span></div>\r\nThere will always be a partner who<big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big> has more sexual desire than the other. The way<big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big> <big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big>you <big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big>will manage that difference will have a tremendous impact on each partner’s desire and the pleasure you will get out of sex. Ch<big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big>anging our <big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big>relationship patterns is a hard thing to do. Nevertheless, the effort that is necessary to change can bring us great joy and closeness with our partner.\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"novalidate\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list to receive notice of FREE videos on sexuality</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"left: -5000px; 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text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><iframe src=\"https://www.youtube.com/embed/_RV1zy4LDO0\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"></iframe></p>\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" /></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Handle your relationship\'s conflict differently by viewing your partner and yourself in a more healthy manner.</h4>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">How do you handle differences?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Do you tend to avoid conflicts?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Do you argue a lot with your spouse, but nothing get\'s resolved?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Are you manipulative or easily change your mind, but regret it afterward?</div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video18\">Do you really want to change?</a></h3>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><iframe src=\"https://www.youtube.com/embed/L9pAribujug\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"></iframe></p>\r\n\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Changing is hard for anyone, no matter what.</h4>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Are you stuck in a situation that is dissatisfying yet the other outcome doesn\'t seem that great either?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Are you waiting for your partner to change rather than yourself?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\r\n\r\nWhat are you willing to lose if you do change?\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; 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(504, 2, '2019-12-11 14:53:34', '2019-12-11 13:53:34', '<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#video16\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"> </span></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/03/webseries-maintaining-sexual-desire-part-3.html#video16\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Patterns between Low Desire Partner &amp; High Desire Partner</span></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/03/webseries-maintaining-sexual-desire-part-3.html#video17\">Different types of alliances in couples</a></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/03/webseries-maintaining-sexual-desire-part-3.html#video18\">Do you really want to change?</a></span></div>\r\nThere will always be a partner who<big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big> has more sexual desire than the other. The way<big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big> <big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big>you <big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"></big>will manage that difference will have a tremendous impact on each partner’s desire and the pleasure you will get out of sex. 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Nevertheless, the effort that is necessary to change can bring us great joy and closeness with our partner.\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"novalidate\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list to receive notice of FREE videos on sexuality</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"left: -5000px; 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text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><iframe src=\"https://www.youtube.com/embed/_RV1zy4LDO0\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"></iframe></p>\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" /></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Handle your relationship\'s conflict differently by viewing your partner and yourself in a more healthy manner.</h4>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">How do you handle differences?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Do you tend to avoid conflicts?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Do you argue a lot with your spouse, but nothing get\'s resolved?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Are you manipulative or easily change your mind, but regret it afterward?</div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video18\">Do you really want to change?</a></h3>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><iframe src=\"https://www.youtube.com/embed/L9pAribujug\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"></iframe>\r\n</p>\r\n\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Changing is hard for anyone, no matter what.</h4>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Are you stuck in a situation that is dissatisfying yet the other outcome doesn\'t seem that great either?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Are you waiting for your partner to change rather than yourself?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\r\n\r\nWhat are you willing to lose if you do change?\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; 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(101, 1, '2015-03-16 16:42:00', '2015-03-16 15:42:00', '<h2><div style=\"text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#video16\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large\"><br /></span></a></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/03/webseries-maintaining-sexual-desire-part-3.html#video16\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large\">16) Patterns between Low Desire Partner &amp; High Desire Partner</span></a></div><span style=\"font-size: x-large\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#video17\"></a></span><div style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#video17\"></a><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/03/webseries-maintaining-sexual-desire-part-3.html#video17\">17) Different types of alliances in couples</a></span></div><span style=\"font-size: x-large\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#video18\"></a></span><div style=\"text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#video18\"></a><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/03/webseries-maintaining-sexual-desire-part-3.html#video18\">18) Do you really want to change?</a></span></div></h2><br /><br /><span>There will always be a partner who</span><big style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: verdana;line-height: 16.533332824707px;text-align: justify\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: verdana;line-height: 16.533332824707px;text-align: justify\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: verdana;line-height: 16.533332824707px;text-align: justify\"></big><span>&nbsp;has more sexual desire than the other. The way</span><big style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: verdana;line-height: 16.533332824707px;text-align: justify\"></big><span>&nbsp;</span><big style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: verdana;line-height: 16.533332824707px;text-align: justify\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: verdana;line-height: 16.533332824707px;text-align: justify\"></big><span>you&nbsp;</span><big style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: verdana;line-height: 16.533332824707px;text-align: justify\"></big><big style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: verdana;line-height: 16.533332824707px;text-align: justify\"></big><span>will manage that difference will have tremendous impact on each partner’s desire and the pleasure you will get out of sex. Ch</span><big style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: verdana;line-height: 16.533332824707px;text-align: justify\"></big><span>anging our&nbsp;</span><big style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: verdana;line-height: 16.533332824707px;text-align: justify\"></big><span>relationship patterns is a hard thing to do. Nevertheless, the effort that is necessary to change can bring us great joy and closeness with our partner.</span><br /><br /><!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form --><br /><div><div><h2>Subscribe to our mailing list to receive notice of FREE videos on sexuality</h2><div><span>*</span> indicates required</div><div><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address  <span>*</span></label></div><div><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label></div><div><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label></div><div><div></div><div></div></div><!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->    <br /><div></div><div></div></div></div><!--End mc_embed_signup--><br /><br /><br /><span style=\"font-size: 18.72px;font-weight: bold\">Connect to your&nbsp;</span><a href=\"https://accounts.google.com/signup?lp=1&amp;hl=en\" style=\"font-size: 18.72px;font-weight: bold\">Google account</a><span style=\"font-size: 18.72px;font-weight: bold\">&nbsp;to view videos</span><br /><br /><br /><h3 style=\"text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video16\">16) Patterns between Low Desire Partner &amp; High Desire Partner </a></h3><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><b>Available for free on the 20th-21rst &amp;22nd of March 2015</b></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"></div><br /><br /><br /><br /><div style=\"text-align: center\"><img alt=\"\" border=\"0\" height=\"1\" src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/scr/pixel.gif\" width=\"1\" />&nbsp;the series of 3 videos for 10$</div><br /><h4 style=\"text-align: center\">Change the way you perceive and manage different levels of sexual desire.</h4><br /><div style=\"text-align: center\">Are you the high desire partner or low desire partner?</div><div style=\"text-align: center\">How are you handling that position in the couple?</div><div style=\"text-align: center\">Are you tired of not having your needs met?</div><div style=\"text-align: center\">Do you want your partner to stop pressuring you?</div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /></div><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><h3 style=\"text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video17\">17) Different types of alliances in couples</a></h3><br /><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><b>Available for free on the 3rd-4th-5th of April 2015</b></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"></div><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div style=\"text-align: center\"><img alt=\"\" border=\"0\" height=\"1\" src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/scr/pixel.gif\" width=\"1\" />the series of 3 videos for 10$&nbsp;</div><br /><br /><h4 style=\"text-align: center\">Handle your relationship\'s conflict differently by viewing your partner and yourself in a more healthy manner.</h4><br /><div style=\"text-align: center\">How do you handle differences?</div><div style=\"text-align: center\">Do you tend to avoid conflicts?</div><div style=\"text-align: center\">Do you argue a lot with your spouse, but nothing get\'s resolved?</div><div style=\"text-align: center\">Are you manipulative or easily change your mind, but regret it afterwards?</div><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><h3 style=\"text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video18\">18) Do you really want to change?</a></h3><br /><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><b>Available for free on the 17th-18th &amp; 19th of April 2015</b></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"></div><br /><br /><br /><div style=\"text-align: center\"><img alt=\"\" border=\"0\" height=\"1\" src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/scr/pixel.gif\" width=\"1\" />the series of 3 videos for 10$&nbsp;</div><br /><h4 style=\"text-align: center\">Changing is hard for anyone, no matter what.&nbsp;</h4><br /><div style=\"text-align: center\">Are you stuck in a situation that is dissatisfying yet the other outcome doesn\'t seem that great either?</div><div style=\"text-align: center\">Are you waiting for your partner to change rather than yourself?</div><div style=\"text-align: center\">What are you willing to lose if you do change?<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sexologist &amp; 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(36, 1, '2015-03-14 21:58:00', '2015-03-14 20:58:00', '<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\">\r\n<h2><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Complexity of Our Relationship and The Influence on Our Sexual Desire</b></span></h2>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">For a long time, humans have tried to understand the mysteries of sexuality and more specifically how to create sexual desire in men and in women. There have been many debates, experiences, research, theories and hypotheses that came forth from the subject. To this day, there is still no consensus because the process of sexual desire is complex, variable, individual and also relational.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">The relationship aspect is probably what makes sexual desire in humans the more volatile and unpredictable. It has the capacity to create a very strong desire or it can completely and utterly shut it down. It is also for this reason that brings couples to <b><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/contact/\">consult a sex therapist in therapy</a>,</b> for difficulty with the level of sexual desire in men and in women. It is actually one of the most difficult issues to treat, but not impossible.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for-your-couple.html\">Sexual desire issues are common in relationships for either one or both partners and even a positive thing!</a> Although it is normal, it doesn\'t make things easier to handle. In fact, contrary to the other categories (physiological and emotional), relational sexual desire follows a linear path. On top of that, it is often associated with one or more of the other types of desires that we described in the previous article. Let us start by describing the different types of sexual desire in the relationship category.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\">\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Sexual desire related to relationship dynamics</b></span></h3>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u>Passion Phase</u></span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u> </u></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">The beginning of a relationship is often a mixed spiral of euphoria, passion and novelty that instantly creates in a person sexual desire towards their partner. This step in a relationship is normally satisfying when it comes to sex because both partners feel desirable, desired and desire towards each other. The smallest amount of stimulation or thought that comes from the other person creates sexual arousal and a desire to have sexual activities with that person. It is a desire primarily based on the exploration of the other person which for many cultivates their adventurous and creative side of sexuality.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u>Romantic &amp; sexual desire</u></span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u> </u></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">The second step can quickly happen when both partners fall in love for each other and emotional aspects start to play in the sexual desire. This sexual desire is characterised by the presence of love between partners. They start to know more things about each other and they share a form of intimacy that feels unique to them. A form of admiration starts to settle in which energy motivates and creates sexual desire between the spouses. This drive is often more affectionate, mixed in with sexual and sensual aspects. This desire can be motivated by the want of making a family together and to get closer on an emotional level. At this phase, we tend to find a sexual desire of emotional fusion with the other. This creates the feeling of being unique in the other persons eyes during sex and especially when there is penetration (vaginal, oral or anal). This phase lasts 1 to 3 years, but rarely longer.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u>Attachment Phase</u></span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u> </u></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">If a couple is capable of developing feelings of attachment and commitment towards each other, they move on to the next phase of sexual desire. This type of desire has often lost its sexual component and it is replaced with a profound sense of reciprocity and affection. We know our partner better, which also entails knowing the less admirable and desirable traits they have. This weighs heavily on the sexual desire that we have towards them in a negative way. Therefore, there is a decrease in sexual creativity in the couple, a routine is constructed, we start taking our partner for granted, we don\'t seduce them anymore, sensuality and eroticism disappears. This is especially common in couples who start having children. Unfortunately for some, the length of this phase makes it hard for them to overcome it once the family situation has become more stable.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Generally, much frustration, <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/getting-yourself-together-promotes-sexual-desire.html\"><span style=\"color: #00dcff;\">repetitive conflicts</span> and <span style=\"color: #00dcff;\">rejection</span></a> has created a distance on the sexual aspect of the relationship between the partners. Major differences are made apparent between them, which makes it hard to have sexual desire towards each other. The <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire-between-partners-in-a-couple.html\">difference between the levels of sexual desire</a></span> is something that also comes to be more problematic. This is where we notice that there is a <span style=\"background-color: white;\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/getting-yourself-together-promotes-sexual-desire.html\"><b>HDP</b> (<b>H</b>igh <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner)</a></span></span> and a <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/i-dont-want-sex.html\"><b>LDP</b> (<b>L</b>ow <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner)</a></span>. This dynamic of difference between the levels of sexual desire will test <span style=\"color: #00dcff;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\">the alliance that the couple has built</a></span> during their years of the relationship.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u>Self-Validated Desire phase</u></span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u> </u></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">This fourth and last phase of sexual desire is a tough patch to get through, as it requires work on ourselves and the couple. Many couples decide to stagnate at the previous phase of attachment and the lovers will stay unsatisfied on the sexual level. Others will consider terminating their relationship to solve their sexual and relational difficulties. Some may choose infidelity to satisfy their sexual needs that their partner can\'t or won\'t answer. There are others who choose to have an open relationship where one or both partners have sex with other people. The two last options don\'t truly resolve the dilemmas in the couple. Learn how to get pass this normal phase of your relationship.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Next article:</b></span></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"color: black; font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-indent: 0px;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/03/different-types-of-sexual-desire-part-iii.html\">How to Achieve Self-Validated Sexual Desire</a> </span>\r\n<span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">\r\n</span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">\r\n</span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\"><img src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" height=\"200\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like theses? 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(241, 2, '2017-06-07 02:16:21', '2017-06-07 00:16:21', '<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\">\r\n<h2><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Complexity of Our Relationship and The Influence on Our Sexual Desire</b></span></h2>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">For a long time, humans have tried to understand the mysteries of sexuality and more specifically how to create sexual desire in men and in women. There have been many debates, experiences, research, theories and hypotheses that came forth from the subject. To this day, there is still no consensus because the process of sexual desire is complex, variable, individual and also relational.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">The relationship aspect is probably what makes sexual desire in humans the more volatile and unpredictable. It has the capacity to create a very strong desire or it can completely and utterly shut it down. It is also for this reason that brings couples to <b><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/therapy\">consult a sexologist in therapy</a>,</b> for difficulty with the level of sexual desire in men and in women. It is actually one of the most difficult issues to treat, but not impossible.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for-your-couple.html\">Sexual desire issues are common in relationships for either one or both partners and even a positive thing!</a> Although it is normal, it doesn\'t make things easier to handle. In fact, contrary to the other categories (physiological and emotional), relational sexual desire follows a linear path. On top of that, it is often associated with one or more of the other types of desires that we described in the previous article. Let us start by describing the different types of sexual desire in the relationship category.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\">\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Sexual desire related to relationship dynamics</b></span></h3>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u>Passion Phase</u></span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u> </u></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">The beginning of a relationship is often a mixed spiral of euphoria, passion and novelty that instantly creates in a person sexual desire towards their partner. This step in a relationship is normally satisfying when it comes to sex because both partners feel desirable, desired and desire towards each other. The smallest amount of stimulation or thought that comes from the other person creates sexual arousal and a desire to have sexual activities with that person. It is a desire primarily based on the exploration of the other person which for many cultivates their adventurous and creative side of sexuality.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->&nbsp;\r\n<div>\r\n<div>\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list to receive notice of FREE videos on sexuality</h2>\r\n<div>* indicates required</div>\r\n<div><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address *</label></div>\r\n<div><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label></div>\r\n<div><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<!--End mc_embed_signup-->&nbsp;\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u>Romantic &amp; sexual desire</u></span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u> </u></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">The second step can quickly happen when both partners fall in love for each other and emotional aspects start to play in the sexual desire. This sexual desire is characterized by the presence of love between partners. They start to know more things about each other and they share a form of intimacy that feels unique to them. A form of admiration starts to settle in which energy motivates and creates sexual desire between the spouses. This drive is often more affectionate, mixed in with sexual and sensual aspects. This desire can be motivated by the want of making a family together and to get closer on an emotional level. At this phase, we tend to find a sexual desire of emotional fusion with the other. This creates the feeling of being unique in the other persons eyes during sex and especially when there is penetration (vaginal, oral or anal). This phase lasts 1 to 3 years, but rarely longer.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u>Attachment Phase</u></span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u> </u></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">If a couple is capable of developing feelings of attachment and commitment towards each other, they move on to the next phase of sexual desire. This type of desire has often lost its sexual component and it is replaced with a profound sense of reciprocity and affection. We know our partner better, which also entails knowing the less admirable and desirable traits they have. This weighs heavily on the sexual desire that we have towards them in a negative way. Therefore, there is a decrease in sexual creativity in the couple, a routine is constructed, we start taking our partner for granted, we don\'t seduce them anymore, sensuality and eroticism disappears. This is especially common in couples who start having children. Unfortunately for some, the length of this phase makes it hard for them to overcome it once the family situation has become more stable.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Generally, much frustration, <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/03/getting-yourself-together-promotes-sexual-desire.html\"><span style=\"color: #00dcff;\">repetitive conflicts</span> and <span style=\"color: #00dcff;\">rejection</span></a> has created a distance on the sexual aspect of the relationship between the partners. Major differences are made apparent between them, which makes it hard to have sexual desire towards each other. The <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire-between-partners-in-a-couple.html\">difference between the levels of sexual desire</a></span> is something that also comes to be more problematic. This is where we notice that there is a <span style=\"background-color: white;\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/03/getting-yourself-together-promotes-sexual-desire.html\"><b>HDP</b> (<b>H</b>igh <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner)</a></span></span> and a <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/03/i-dont-want-sex.html\"><b>LDP</b> (<b>L</b>ow <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner)</a></span>. This dynamic of difference between the levels of sexual desire will test <span style=\"color: #00dcff;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\">the alliance that the couple has built</a></span> during their years of the relationship.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u>Self-Validated Desire phase</u></span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u> </u></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">This fourth and last phase of sexual desire is a tough patch to get through, as it requires work on ourselves and the couple. Many couples decide to stagnate at the previous phase of attachment and the lovers will stay unsatisfied on the sexual level. Others will consider terminating their relationship to solve their sexual and relational difficulties. Some may choose infidelity to satisfy their sexual needs that their partner can\'t or won\'t answer. There are others who choose to have an open relationship where one or both partners have sex with other people. The two last options don\'t truly resolve the dilemmas in the couple. Learn how to get pass this normal phase of your relationship.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Next article:</b></span></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"color: black; font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-indent: 0px;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2015/03/different-types-of-sexual-desire-part-iii.html\">How to Achieve Self-Validated Sexual Desire</a> </span>\r\n<span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">\r\n</span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">\r\n</span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\"><img src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" height=\"200\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like theses? 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(102, 1, '2015-03-14 21:58:00', '2015-03-14 20:58:00', '<div align=\"CENTER\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><h2><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b>Complexity of Our Relationship and The Influence on Our Sexual Desire</b></span></span></h2></div><div align=\"CENTER\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">For a long time, humans have tried to understand the mysteries of sexuality and more specifically how to create sexual desire in men and in women. There have been many debates, experiences, research, theories and hypotheses that came forth from the subject. To this day, there is still no consensus because the process of sexual desire is complex, variable, individual and also relational.</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">The relationship aspect is probably what makes sexual desire in humans the more volatile and unpredictable. It has the capacity to create a very strong desire or it can completely and utterly shut it down. It is also for this reason that brings couples to&nbsp;<b><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/therapy\">consult a sexologist in therapy</a>,</b>&nbsp;for difficulty with the level of sexual desire in men and in women. It is actually one of the most difficult issues to treat, but not impossible.</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\">Sexual desire issues are common in relationships for either one or both partners and even a positive thing!</a> Although it is normal, it doesn\'t make things easier to handle. In fact, contrary to the other categories (physiological and emotional), relational sexual desire follows a linear path. On top of that, it is often associated with one or more of the other types of desires that we described in the previous article. Let us start by describing the different types of sexual desire in the relationship category.</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"CENTER\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><h3><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b>Sexual desire related to relationship dynamics</b></span></span></h3></div><div align=\"CENTER\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><h4><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><u>Passion&nbsp;Phase</u></span></span></h4><div><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><u><br /></u></span></span></div></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">The beginning of a relationship is often a mixed spiral of euphoria, passion and novelty that instantly creates in a person sexual desire towards their partner. This step in a relationship is normally satisfying when it comes to sex because both partners feel desirable, desired and desire towards each other. The smallest amount of stimulation or thought that comes from the other person creates sexual arousal and a desire to have sexual activities with that person. It is a desire primarily based on the exploration of the other person which for many cultivates their adventurous and creative side of sexuality.</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form --><br /><div><div><h2>Subscribe to our mailing list to receive notice of FREE videos on sexuality</h2><div><span>*</span> indicates required</div><div><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address  <span>*</span></label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label> </div><div><div></div><div></div></div><!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->    <br /><div></div><div><br /><br /></div></div></div><!--End mc_embed_signup--> <br /><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><h4><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><u>Romantic &amp; sexual desire</u></span></span></h4><div><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><u><br /></u></span></span></div></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">The second step can quickly happen when both partners fall in love for each other and emotional aspects start to play in the sexual desire. This sexual desire is characterized by the presence of love between partners. They start to know more things about each other and they share a form of intimacy that feels unique to them. A form of admiration starts to settle in which energy motivates and creates sexual desire between the spouses. This drive is often more affectionate, mixed in with sexual and sensual aspects. This desire can be motivated by the want of making a family together and to get closer on an emotional level. At this phase, we tend to find a sexual desire of emotional fusion with the other. This creates the feeling of being unique in the other persons eyes during sex and especially when there is penetration (vaginal, oral or anal). This phase lasts 1 to 3 years, but rarely longer.</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><h4><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><u>Attachment Phase</u></span></span></h4><div><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><u><br /></u></span></span></div></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">If a couple is capable of developing feelings of attachment and commitment towards each other, they move on to the next phase of sexual desire. This type of desire has often lost its sexual component and it is replaced with a profound sense of reciprocity and affection. We know our partner better, which also entails knowing the less admirable and desirable traits they have. This weighs heavily on the sexual desire that we have towards them in a negative way. Therefore, there is a decrease in sexual creativity in the couple, a routine is constructed, we start taking our partner for granted, we don\'t seduce them anymore, sensuality and eroticism disappears. This is especially common in couples who start having children. Unfortunately for some, the length of this phase makes it hard for them to overcome it once the family situation has become more stable.</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">Generally, much frustration,&nbsp;<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/03/highsexualdesire.html\"><span style=\"color: #00dcff\">repetitive conflicts</span>&nbsp;and&nbsp;<span style=\"color: #00dcff\">rejection</span></a>&nbsp;has created a distance on the sexual aspect of the relationship between the partners. Major differences are made apparent between them, which makes it hard to have sexual desire towards each other. The&nbsp;<span style=\"color: #6fa8dc\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire.html\">difference between the levels of sexual desire</a></span>&nbsp;is something that also comes to be more problematic. This is where we notice that there is a&nbsp;<span style=\"background-color: white\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/03/highsexualdesire.html\"><b>HDP</b>&nbsp;(<b>H</b>igh&nbsp;<b>D</b>esire&nbsp;<b>P</b>artner)</a></span></span>&nbsp;and a&nbsp;<span style=\"color: #6fa8dc\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/03/i-dont-want-sex.html\"><b>LDP</b>&nbsp;(<b>L</b>ow&nbsp;<b>D</b>esire&nbsp;<b>P</b>artner)</a></span>. This dynamic of difference between the levels of sexual desire will test&nbsp;<span style=\"color: #00dcff\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\">the alliance that the couple has built</a></span>&nbsp;during their years of the relationship.</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><h4><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><u>Self-Validated Desire phase</u></span></span></h4><div><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><u><br /></u></span></span></div></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">This fourth and last phase of sexual desire is a tough patch to get through, as it requires work on ourselves and the couple. Many couples decide to stagnate at the previous phase of attachment and the lovers will stay unsatisfied on the sexual level. Others will consider terminating their relationship to solve their sexual and relational difficulties. Some may choose infidelity to satisfy their sexual needs that their partner can\'t or won\'t answer. There are others who choose to have an open relationship where one or both partners have sex with other people. The two last options don\'t truly resolve the dilemmas in the couple. Learn how to get pass this normal phase of your relationship.</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b>Next article:</b></span></span></div><br /><div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: justify\"></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"></div><br /><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"color: black;font-family: \'Times New Roman\';font-size: medium;font-style: normal;font-variant: normal;font-weight: normal;letter-spacing: normal;line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-indent: 0px\"><div style=\"margin: 0px\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/03/types-of-sexual-desire-part-3.html\">How to Achieve Self-Validated Sexual Desire</a>&nbsp;</span></span><br /><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><br /></span></span><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><br /></span></span></div></div> <br /><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\" style=\"clear: left;float: left;margin-bottom: 1em;margin-right: 1em\"><img border=\"0\" height=\"200\" src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" /></a></div><br /><br /><br /><br />Learn more about the author<br /><br /><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Want more articles like theses? 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(37, 1, '2015-03-07 22:53:00', '2015-03-07 21:53:00', '<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\">\r\n<h2><i style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 16pt; line-height: 150%;\"><u><b>Do you know your sexual needs?</b></u></i></h2>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\">\r\n<h3><i style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px;\"><u><b>Part I</b></u></i></h3>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><i><u><b> </b></u></i></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Sexual desire is one of the most complex and mysterious aspects of human sexuality. The evolution of sexual desire in a person and in couples is a process that can be separated in many steps and it does not respect a linear path. This process is unique for everyone depending on their experiences, their values and perceptions of sexuality. This article will explore different types of sexual desires and their possible varieties in individuals and couples</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\">\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Categories of sexual desire</b></span></h3>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u>Physiological:</u></span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u> </u></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> <u>Sexual desire can be physiological,</u> which consist of a cocktail of hormones and sensory stimuli (visual, touch, hearing, smell, taste) that give us that urge to have sexual activities. This category of sexual desire is often perceived as animalistic and based on hormones and it calls upon our basic instincts of reproduction and of searching for physical pleasure. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> We can actually separate this category in 2 distinct types. The first one is called hygienic, which is when we feel a sexual tension in the area of the genitals that needs to be released by sexual activity such as masturbation or sexual intercourse so that we may feel pleasure following this release. This sexual desire can be created by an accumulation of stress and is transformed into muscular tension in the waist area that needs to be liberated or relaxed. This type of desire is more common in men, but it is also found in many women. It creates a need or desire to liberate the muscular tensions because of the discomfort. This desire doesn\'t require an emotional or relational aspect to it. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> The second type is created by the change in the levels of hormones that are secreted in the body to <span style=\"background-color: white;\">fulfil</span>our instinct of reproduction. This desire is often in cycles in relation to ovulation in women. Men on the other hand, have a daily cycle of hormones, which make it harder to pinpoint due to the small length of time between them. </span>\r\n<span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">\r\n</span></div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n\r\n<style type=\"text/css\">\r\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br />	/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />	   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br /></style>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"position: absolute; left: -5000px;\"><input tabindex=\"-1\" name=\"b_b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d_fd88d57b31\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"clear\"><input id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe\" class=\"button\" name=\"subscribe\" type=\"submit\" value=\"Subscribe\" /></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</form></div>\r\n<script type=\'text/javascript\' src=\'//s3.amazonaws.com/downloads.mailchimp.com/js/mc-validate.js\'></script><script type=\'text/javascript\'>(function($) {window.fnames = new Array(); window.ftypes = new Array();fnames[0]=\'EMAIL\';ftypes[0]=\'email\';fnames[1]=\'FNAME\';ftypes[1]=\'text\';fnames[2]=\'LNAME\';ftypes[2]=\'text\';}(jQuery));var $mcj = jQuery.noConflict(true);</script>\r\n<!--End mc_embed_signup-->\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u>Emotional :</u></span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u> </u></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> Another category is constructed through emotions. This category is more complex than the last as it has many aspects that come into play. It\'s important not to mix this category with the sexual desire based on relationships, which is a category in itself. The difference between the physiological and emotional categories it that their is an emotional component that <b>isn\'t</b> <b>necessarily</b> <b>focused</b>towards another person. For example, one of the types of sexual desire in the emotional category is the desire motivated to have children. This desire is not based solely on the purpose of procreation, but rather on the emotional aspect of wanting a child of our own. This sexual desire tends to disappear once the family has been formed. It is different from the relational category as it doesn\'t pertain to the relationship to the partner necessarily. It is more common in women and they can tend to lose their sexual desire entirely, once they\'ve had the babies they wanted. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> Another type in this category is the <u>desire for penetration or being penetrated</u>. This sexual desire is motivated by a the need for sexual activities where penetration is present and a central focus of sex. The sensations are strongly related and focused by the desire to penetrate or be penetrated and satisfaction will not be achieved if there is lack thereof. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> We can also find a type of sexual <u>desire that is based on the need to fulfil emotional needs of affection</u>, but that is transformed into sexual arousal. This need is met when we make love in a romantic, tender and loving way. Touches are more soft, slow and sensual and we kiss slowly with intent. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> Finally, the <u>erotic or carnal sexual desire</u> is characterized by a sexual and emotional intensity where there is a profound liberation of inhibitions and of letting ourselves go entirely to our pleasure. Theses sexual activities are filled with creativity, newness and a certain ferocity that brings partners in a torrid sexual exchange and sensuality. Often shared with a partner that we\'ve known for quite a while, some are only capable of feeling this type of sexual desire with strangers in one night stands. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u>Nota Bene</u></span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><u> </u></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> It is possible that theses multiple categories and types of sexual desire are combined together and they are not exclusive from one another. Each one brings a different dynamic and approach to sexual activities and the attitudes are variable according to the person. Sexual desire can be influenced by a variety of elements such as anxiety, sexual preferences, our <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">Modes of Sexual Arousal (MSA),</span> our needs at the present moment or the relationship we have with our sexual partner. There is no major difference between genders when it comes to different types and categories of sexual desire. Finally, the relationships component brings us to our last category of sexual desire. Read the rest...</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Read the next article :</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/03/different-types-of-sexual-desire-part-ii.html\">Complexity of Our Relationship and The Influence on Our Sexual Desire</a> </b></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Want to learn even more more? Visit our webseries page on <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/webvideo_sexuality_sensuality_erotic/\">Sensual &amp; Erotic Education</a></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\"><img src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" height=\"200\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like theses? 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(103, 1, '2015-03-07 22:53:00', '2015-03-07 21:53:00', '<div align=\"CENTER\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><h2><i style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;font-size: 16pt;line-height: 150%\"><u><b>Do you know your sexual needs?</b></u></i></h2></div><div align=\"CENTER\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><h3><i style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;font-size: 21px\"><u><b>Part I</b></u></i></h3></div><div align=\"CENTER\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><i><u><b><br /></b></u></i></span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">Sexual desire is one of the most complex and mysterious aspects of human sexuality. The evolution of sexual desire in a person and in couples is a process that can be separated in many steps and it does not respect a linear path. This process is unique for everyone depending on their experiences, their values and perceptions of sexuality. This article will explore different types of sexual desires and their possible varieties in individuals and couples</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"CENTER\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><h3><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b>Categories of sexual desire</b></span></span></h3></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><h4><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><u>Physiological:</u></span></span></h4><div><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><u><br /></u></span></span></div></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"> <u>Sexual desire can be physiological,</u> which consist of a cocktail of hormones and sensory stimuli (visual, touch, hearing, smell, taste) that give us that urge to have sexual activities. This category of sexual desire is often perceived as  animalistic and based on hormones and it calls upon our basic instincts of reproduction and of searching for physical pleasure. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"> We can actually separate this category in 2 distinct types. The first one is called hygienic, which is when we feel a sexual tension in the area of the genitals that needs to be released by sexual activity such as masturbation or sexual intercourse so that we may feel pleasure following this release. This sexual desire can be created by an accumulation of stress and is transformed into muscular tension in the waist area that needs to be liberated or relaxed. This type of desire is more common in men, but it is also found in many women. It creates a need or desire to liberate the muscular tensions because of the discomfort. This desire  doesn\'t require an emotional or relational aspect to it. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"> The second type is created by the change in the levels of hormones that are secreted in the body to <span style=\"background-color: white\">fulfil</span>our instinct of reproduction. This desire is often in cycles in relation to ovulation in women. Men on the other hand, have a daily cycle of hormones, which make it harder to pinpoint due to the small length of time between them. </span></span><br /><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><br /></span></span></div><!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form --><br /><div><div><h2>Subscribe to our mailing list to receive notice of FREE videos on sexuality</h2><div><span>*</span> indicates required</div><div><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address  <span>*</span></label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label> </div><div><div></div><div></div></div><!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->    <br /><div></div><div></div></div></div><!--End mc_embed_signup--><br /><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><h4><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><u>Emotional&nbsp;:</u></span></span></h4><div><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><u><br /></u></span></span></div></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"> Another category is constructed through emotions. This category is more complex than the last as it has many aspects that come into play. It\'s important not to mix this category with the sexual desire based on relationships, which is a category in itself. The difference between the physiological and emotional categories it that their is an emotional component that <b>isn\'t</b> <b>necessarily</b> <b>focused</b>towards another person. For example, one of the types of sexual desire in the emotional category is the desire motivated to have children. This desire is not based solely on the purpose of procreation, but rather on the emotional aspect of wanting a child of our own. This sexual desire tends to disappear once the family has been formed. It is different from the relational category as it doesn\'t pertain to the relationship to the partner necessarily. It is more common in women and they can tend to lose their sexual desire entirely, once they\'ve had the babies they wanted. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"> Another type in this category is the <u>desire for penetration or being penetrated</u>. This sexual desire is motivated by a the need for  sexual activities where penetration is present and a central focus of sex. The  sensations are strongly related and focused by the desire to penetrate or be penetrated and satisfaction will not be achieved if there is lack thereof. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">  We can also find a type of sexual <u>desire that is based on the need to fulfil emotional needs of affection</u>, but that is transformed into sexual arousal. This need is met when we make love in a romantic, tender and loving way. Touches are more soft, slow and sensual and we kiss slowly with intent. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"> Finally, the <u>erotic or carnal sexual desire</u> is characterized by a sexual and emotional intensity where there is a profound liberation of inhibitions and of letting ourselves go entirely to our pleasure. Theses sexual activities are filled with creativity, newness and a certain ferocity that brings partners in a torrid sexual exchange and sensuality. Often shared with a partner that we\'ve known for quite a while, some are only capable of feeling this type of sexual desire with strangers in one night stands. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><h4><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><u>Nota Bene</u></span></span></h4><div><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><u><br /></u></span></span></div></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"> It is possible that theses multiple categories and types of sexual desire are combined together and they are not exclusive from one another. Each one brings a different dynamic and approach to sexual activities and the attitudes are variable according to the person. Sexual desire can be influenced by a variety of elements such as anxiety, sexual preferences, our <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc\">Modes of Sexual Arousal (MSA),</span> our needs at the present moment or the relationship we have with our sexual partner. There is no major difference between genders when it comes to different types and categories of sexual desire. Finally, the relationships component brings us to our last category of sexual desire. Read the rest...</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">Read the next article :</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.com/2015/03/type-sexual-desire.html\">Complexity of Our Relationship and The Influence on Our Sexual Desire</a>&nbsp;</b></span></span></div></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><br /></span><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">Want to learn even more more? Visit our webseries page on <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/video_sexuality\">Sensual &amp; Erotic Education</a></span></span><br /><span><br /></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 150%;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /><br /></div><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\" style=\"clear: left;float: left;margin-bottom: 1em;margin-right: 1em\"><img border=\"0\" height=\"200\" src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" /></a></div><br /><br /><br /><br />Learn more about the author<br /><br /><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Want more articles like theses? 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(38, 1, '2015-03-07 22:51:00', '2015-03-07 21:51:00', '<h2 style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;\"><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: x-large;\">Gender roles are changing</b></h2>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">There is a misconception that women either don\'t like sex or aren\'t really interested in doing it. We portray women as liking sex because it has an emotional component to it and they can feel more connected to their partner. As much as gender roles are changing, women who actually demonstrate and say they like sex because they feel sexual pleasure are openly or secretly branded as being nymphomaniacs or worse «sluts». Girls will seldom brag to their friends about their masturbation sessions as boys will do in their teenage years. Yet, they masturbate just as much. They want to know as much about sex as the boys but will hide their curiosity or desires to avoid being stigmatized. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">There is guilt associated with female sexuality and a double standard, even if it isn\'t openly said these days. Men are portrayed as the sexual beings who are always ready and want it all the time in a heterosexual relationship. If the roles are reversed, men tend to feel threatened by their female partner\'s sexuality and feel less manly. Most of the time, they won\'t admit feeling diminished because that would be showing their vulnerability, which makes them feel even less like a man. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Protecting yourself and your partner\'s ego</b></span></h3>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b> </b></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Women pick up on these dynamics and what they rather end up doing is being disinterested in sex rather than showing their own eroticism to their partners. They protect men\'s egos so that they (women) don\'t get branded with being a nymphomaniac. So we perpetuate the myth that men are the sexually charged gender in our societies. While in fact women\'s sexuality has been repressed for so many generations they don\'t even realize their full sexual potential.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">This tends to create a <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire-between-partners-in-a-couple.html\"><b>H</b>igh <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (HDP) and <b>L</b>ow <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (LDP)</a></span> dynamic and creates conflicts in long-term relationships. Now, not all women are more sexual then men, but it is a truth in certain relationships that is highly ignored in today\'s relationships and should be addressed more often. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Why women don\'t have sexual desire?</b></span></h3>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b> </b></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Typically, when couples consult a sex-therapist for differences in sexual desire, we assume the woman is the <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/i-dont-want-sex.html\">LDP (Low DesirePartner)</a>.</span> Most of the time, when that is the case, it\'s not because she doesn\'t like sex...she doesn\'t like it with her partner. She\'s actually <b>bored with sex</b>, because her level of eroticism is more developed than his and she\'s afraid to show it. Either she\'s avoiding being judged by him or she doesn\'t want to hurt his feelings by emasculating him. This demonstrates a <span style=\"color: #3d85c6;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\">lack of intimacy</a></span> in their relationship, where neither partner is willing to face the hard truth about their sexuality. This limitation on the perception of masculinity and femininity creates many sexual difficulties that could be avoided by having a larger view of these gender roles. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Why do men lose sexual desire?</b></span></h3>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b> </b></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> You might be surprised to hear, but fifty percent (50%) of the time in therapy, the man is the one who is the <b>LDP</b>. When this happens, it is not that he is bored as women tend to be, but feels threatened by his partner\'s sexuality and eroticism. When he picks up after awhile that she has more desire, more initiative, more creativity and sexual <i><u><b>huffmp </b></u></i><span style=\"background-color: white;\">than him</span>, he loses his feelings of being a man. This creates a lack of desire in men because he doesn\'t feel up to the challenge to please his partner and therefore gets demotivated to have sex. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> Men are thought and are perceived as being the ones who educate women on their bodies and sexuality. They are the ones that lead and get their desires fulfilled, which makes them feel competent as men. They get a sense of pride out of playing that role, but when they don\'t have those aspects to hold on to, they don\'t feel good about themselves. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Man up! Woman up!</b></span></h3>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b> </b></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> As an adult, it is time to grow up and mature in our sexuality and capacity to be truly intimate with our partner. Sex should be pleasurable, fun, playful and enjoyable. When it stops being that way, it is time to reflect on your sexual maturity and deal with your shortcomings. If you feel threaten or intimidated by your partner\'s eroticism and sexuality see it as a challenge to overcome rather than an obstacle that you want to avoid. Bring yourself to push your personal limits and get your funk on! </span></div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n<div></div>\r\n<!--End mc_embed_signup-->\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Women should not feel ashamed about sex and should demand what they sexually desire. Sex is one of the most beautiful and extraordinary ways you can connect with a person and feel loved. It is also a wonderful activity to share pleasure and reach ecstasy through our minds and bodies. Passing up that opportunity to protect your partner or from what other people might think of you isn\'t worth it, considering what you are losing for yourself. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Men need to acknowledge their limitations and try to surpass them rather than avoid them. Sex is not a competition or a performance, but a shared activity that requires you take care of yourself and your partner to enjoy the moment. NOT TO IMPRESS SOMEONE!</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 21.3333339691162px;\">Want to learn more?</span></h4>\r\n<span style=\"font-size: 21.3333339691162px;\">\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/webvideo_sexuality_sensuality_erotic/\">Watch</a> the Sensual &amp; Erotic Education webseries</span>\r\n<span style=\"font-size: 21.3333339691162px;\">\r\n</span><span style=\"font-size: 21.3333339691162px;\">\r\n</span><span style=\"font-size: 21.3333339691162px;\">\r\n</span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">\r\n</span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">\r\n</span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\"><img src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" height=\"200\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like theses? 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(250, 2, '2017-06-07 02:31:09', '2017-06-07 00:31:09', '<h2 style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;\"><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: x-large;\">Gender roles are changing</b></h2>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">There is a misconception that women either don\'t like sex or aren\'t really interested in doing it. We portray women as liking sex because it has an emotional component to it and they can feel more connected to their partner. As much as gender roles are changing, women who actually demonstrate and say they like sex because they feel sexual pleasure are openly or secretly branded as being nymphomaniacs or worse «sluts». Girls will seldom brag to their friends about their masturbation sessions as boys will do in their teenage years. Yet, they masturbate just as much. They want to know as much about sex as the boys, but will hide their curiosity or desires to avoid being stigmatized. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">There is guilt associated with female sexuality and a double standard, even if it isn\'t openly said these days. Men are portrayed as the sexual beings who are always ready and want it all the time in a heterosexual relationship. If the roles are reversed, men tend to feel threaten by their female partner\'s sexuality and feel less manly. Most of the time, they won\'t admit feeling diminished because that would be showing their vulnerability, which makes them feel even less like a man. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Protecting yourself and your partner\'s ego</b></span></h3>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b> </b></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Women pick up on these dynamics and what they rather end up doing is being disinterested in sex rather than showing their own eroticism to their partners. They protect men\'s egos so that they (women) don\'t get branded with being a nymphomaniac. So we perpetuate the myth that men are the sexually charged gender in our societies. While in fact women\'s sexuality has been repressed for so many generations they don\'t even realize their full sexual potential.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">This tends to create a <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire-between-partners-in-a-couple.html\"><b>H</b>igh <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (HDP) and <b>L</b>ow <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (LDP)</a></span> dynamic and creates conflicts in long-term relationships. Now, not all women are more sexual then men, but it is a truth in certain relationships that is highly ignored in today\'s relationships and should be addressed more often. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Why women don\'t have sexual desire?</b></span></h3>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b> </b></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Typically, when couples consult a sex-therapist for differences in sexual desire, we assume the woman is the <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/03/i-dont-want-sex.html\">LDP (Low DesirePartner)</a>.</span> Most of the time, when that is the case, it\'s not because she doesn\'t like sex...she doesn\'t like it with her partner. She\'s actually <b>bored with sex</b>, because her level of eroticism is more developed than his and she\'s afraid to show it. Either she\'s avoiding being judged by him or she doesn\'t want to hurt his feelings by emasculating him. This demonstrates a <span style=\"color: #3d85c6;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\">lack of intimacy</a></span> in their relationship, where neither partner is willing to face the hard truth about their sexuality. This limitation on the perception of masculinity and femininity creates many sexual difficulties that could be avoided by having a larger view of thesegender roles. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Why do men lose sexual desire?</b></span></h3>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b> </b></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> You might be surprised to hear, but fifty percent (50%) of the time in therapy, the man is the one who is the <b>LDP</b>. When this happens, it is not that he is bored as women tend to be, but feels threaten by his partner\'ssexuality and eroticism. When he picks up after awhile that she has more desire, more initiative, more creativity and sexual <i><u><b>huffmp </b></u></i><span style=\"background-color: white;\">than him</span>, he loses his feelings of being a man. This creates a lack in desire in men because he doesn\'t feel up to the challenge to please his partner and therefore gets demotivated to have sex. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> Men are thought and are perceived as being the ones who educate women on their bodies and sexuality. Theyare the ones that lead and get their desires fulfilled, which makes them feel competent as men. They get a sense of pride out of playing that role, but when they don\'t have those aspects to hold on to, they don\'t feel good about themselves. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b>Man up! Woman up!</b></span></h3>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><b> </b></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"> As an adult, it is time to grow up and mature in our sexuality and capacity to be truly intimate with our partner. Sex should be pleasurable, fun, playful and enjoyable. When it stops being that way, it is time to reflect on your sexual maturity and deal with your short-comings. If you feel threaten or intimidated by your partner\'s eroticism and sexuality see it as a challenge to overcome rather than an obstacle that you want to avoid. Bring yourself to push your personal limits and get your funk on! </span></div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->&nbsp;\r\n<div>\r\n<div>\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list to receive notice of FREE videos on sexuality</h2>\r\n<div>* indicates required</div>\r\n<div><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address *</label></div>\r\n<div><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label></div>\r\n<div><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<!--End mc_embed_signup-->&nbsp;\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Women should not feel ashamed about sex and should demand what they sexually desire. Sex is one of the most beautiful and extraordinary ways you can connect with a person and feel loved. It is also a wonderful activity to share pleasure and reach ecstasy through our minds and bodies. Passing up that opportunity to protect your partner or from what other people might think of you isn\'t worth it, considering what you are losing for yourself. </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Men need to acknowledge their limitations and try to surpass them rather than avoid them. Sex is not a competition or a performance, but a shared activity that requires you take care of yourself and your partner to enjoy the moment. NOT TO IMPRESS SOMEONE!</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<h4><span style=\"font-size: 21.3333339691162px;\">Want to learn more?</span></h4>\r\n<span style=\"font-size: 21.3333339691162px;\">\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/video_sexuality\">Watch</a> the Sensual &amp; Erotic Education webseries</span>\r\n<span style=\"font-size: 21.3333339691162px;\">\r\n</span><span style=\"font-size: 21.3333339691162px;\">\r\n</span><span style=\"font-size: 21.3333339691162px;\">\r\n</span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">\r\n</span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">\r\n</span></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"line-height: 24px; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\"><img src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" height=\"200\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\nLearn more about the author\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Want more articles like theses? 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(104, 1, '2015-03-07 22:51:00', '2015-03-07 21:51:00', '<h2 style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\"><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;font-size: x-large\">Gender roles are changing</b></h2><div align=\"CENTER\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"CENTER\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">There is a misconception that women either don\'t like sex or aren\'t really interested in doing it. We portray women as liking sex because it has an emotional component to it and they can feel more connected to their partner. As much as gender roles are changing, women who actually demonstrate and say they like sex because they feel sexual pleasure are openly or secretly branded as being nymphomaniacs or worse «sluts». Girls will seldom brag to their friends about their masturbation sessions as boys will do in their teenage years. Yet, they masturbate just as much. They want to know as much about sex as the boys, but will hide their curiosity or desires to avoid being stigmatized. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">There is guilt associated with female sexuality and a double standard, even if it isn\'t openly said these days. Men are portrayed as the sexual beings who are always ready and want it all the time in a heterosexual relationship. If the roles are reversed, men tend to feel threaten by their female partner\'s sexuality and feel less manly. Most of the time, they won\'t admit feeling diminished because that would be showing their vulnerability, which makes them feel even less like a man. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><h3 style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b>Protecting yourself and your partner\'s ego</b></span></span></h3><div><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b><br /></b></span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">Women pick up on these dynamics and what they rather end up doing is being disinterested in sex rather than showing their own eroticism to their partners. They protect men\'s egos so that they (women) don\'t get branded with being a nymphomaniac. So we perpetuate the myth that men are the sexually charged gender in our societies. While in fact women\'s sexuality has been repressed for so many generations they don\'t even realize their full sexual potential.</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">This tends to create a <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire.html\"><b>H</b>igh <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (HDP) and <b>L</b>ow <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (LDP)</a></span> dynamic and creates conflicts in long-term relationships. Now, not all women are more sexual then men, but it is a truth in certain relationships that is highly ignored in today\'s relationships and should be addressed more often. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><h3 style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b>Why women don\'t have sexual desire?</b></span></span></h3><div><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b><br /></b></span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">Typically, when couples consult a sex-therapist for differences in sexual desire, we assume the woman is the <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/03/i-dont-want-sex.html\">LDP (Low DesirePartner)</a>.</span> Most of the time, when that is the case, it\'s not because she doesn\'t like sex...she doesn\'t like it with her partner. She\'s actually <b>bored with sex</b>, because her level of eroticism is more developed than his and she\'s afraid to show it. Either she\'s avoiding being judged by him or she doesn\'t want to hurt his feelings by emasculating him. This demonstrates a <span style=\"color: #3d85c6\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\">lack of intimacy</a></span> in their relationship, where neither partner is willing to face the hard truth about their sexuality. This limitation on the perception of masculinity and femininity creates many sexual difficulties that could be avoided by having a larger view of <span>these</span>gender roles. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><h3 style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b>Why do men lose sexual desire?</b></span></span></h3><div><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b><br /></b></span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"> You might be surprised to hear, but fifty percent (50%) of the time in therapy, the man is the one who is the <b>LDP</b>. When this happens, it is not that he is bored as women tend to be, but feels threaten by his <span>partner\'s</span>sexuality and eroticism. When he picks up after awhile that she has more desire, more initiative, more creativity and sexual <i><u><b>huffmp </b></u></i><span style=\"background-color: white\">than him</span>, he loses his feelings of being a man. This creates a lack in desire in men because he doesn\'t feel up to the challenge to please his partner and therefore gets demotivated to have sex. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"> Men are thought and are perceived as being the ones who educate women on their bodies and sexuality. <span>They</span>are the ones that lead and get their desires fulfilled, which makes them feel competent as men. They get a sense of pride out of playing that role, but when they don\'t have those aspects to hold on to, they don\'t feel good about themselves. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><h3 style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b>Man up! Woman up!</b></span></span></h3><div><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><b><br /></b></span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"> As an adult, it is time to grow up and mature in our sexuality and capacity to be truly intimate with our partner. Sex should be <span>pleasurable</span>, fun, playful and enjoyable. When it stops being that way, it is time to reflect on your sexual maturity and deal with your short-comings. If you feel threaten or intimidated by your partner\'s eroticism and sexuality see it as a challenge to overcome rather than an obstacle that you want to avoid. Bring yourself to push your personal limits and get your funk on! </span></span></div><!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form --><br /><div><div><h2>Subscribe to our mailing list to receive notice of FREE videos on sexuality</h2><div><span>*</span> indicates required</div><div><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address  <span>*</span></label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label> </div><div><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label> </div><div><div></div><div></div></div><!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->    <br /><div></div><div></div></div></div><!--End mc_embed_signup--><br /><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">Women should not feel ashamed about sex and should demand what they sexually desire. Sex is one of the most beautiful and extraordinary ways you can connect with a person and feel loved. It is also a wonderful activity to share pleasure and reach ecstasy through our minds and bodies. Passing up that opportunity to protect your partner or from what other people might think of you isn\'t worth it, considering what you are losing for yourself. </span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">Men need to acknowledge their limitations and try to surpass them rather than avoid them. Sex is not a competition or a performance, but a shared activity that requires you take care of yourself and your partner to enjoy the moment. NOT TO IMPRESS SOMEONE!</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><br /></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm\"><h4><span><span style=\"font-size: 21.3333339691162px\">Want to learn more?</span></span></h4><span><span style=\"font-size: 21.3333339691162px\"><br /><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/video_sexuality\">Watch</a> the Sensual &amp; Erotic Education webseries</span></span><br /><span><span style=\"font-size: 21.3333339691162px\"><br /></span></span><span><span style=\"font-size: 21.3333339691162px\"><br /></span></span><span><span style=\"font-size: 21.3333339691162px\"><br /></span></span><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><br /></span></span><span><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><br /></span></span></div> <br /><div style=\"line-height: 24px;text-align: justify\"></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><a href=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s1600/francois.jpg\" style=\"clear: left;float: left;margin-bottom: 1em;margin-right: 1em\"><img border=\"0\" height=\"200\" src=\"https://3.bp.blogspot.com/-hkwcEustEO4/V6VEeliMAwI/AAAAAAAAA7Y/AJwphVNSI9MePYpL7j2GMkYPfl---AruACLcB/s200/francois.jpg\" width=\"185\" /></a></div><br /><br /><br /><br />Learn more about the author<br /><br /><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/about\" target=\"_blank\">Francois Renaud M.A.</a></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist in Downtown Montreal</div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: justify\">Want more articles like theses? 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Muscle Tension</span></a></h2>\r\n<h2 class=\"separator\"></h2>\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/m3jFQPvKnzA/default.jpg?sqp=CKT6kKUF&amp;rs=AOn4CLCwaxM40CNqYRonbO_kZPCt395jxA\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/m3jFQPvKnzA?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/m3jFQPvKnzA?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\"></form></div>\r\n<div>\r\n<h3>PART 2</h3>\r\n</div>\r\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video4\"></a></h3>\r\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video4\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video4\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Sexual Mode of Arousal Part 1</span></a></h2>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/obfZoALP9-8/default.jpg?sqp=COCTm6UF&amp;rs=AOn4CLAqpyZezgY4WhCEVoC3q87h95mDSw\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/obfZoALP9-8?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/obfZoALP9-8?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\r\n<div><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\"></form></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video5\"></a></h3>\r\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video5\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video5\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video4\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Sexual Mode of Arousal Part 2</span></a></h2>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/ZbKdu1hV2ro/default.jpg?sqp=COCTm6UF&amp;rs=AOn4CLC7ZPYlyMaNN7AXxODBXZhXXmCzjA\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/ZbKdu1hV2ro?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/ZbKdu1hV2ro?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\"><input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" /> <input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"2FG78R8DNUYGC\" /></form></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video6\"></a></h3>\r\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video6\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video6\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Sexual Fluidity</span></a></h2>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/3v0brHySK1A/default.jpg?sqp=CLSRm6UF&amp;rs=AOn4CLBBVpm9nH10Zv_OXWAt_QwyP0b7VQ\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/3v0brHySK1A?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/3v0brHySK1A?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\"></form>\r\n<h3>PART 3</h3>\r\n</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video7\"></a></h3>\r\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video7\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video7\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Rapid Ejaculation: Generalized Speediness</span></a></h2>\r\n<div class=\"separator\"></div>\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/5NwPclhU77E/default.jpg?sqp=CKT6kKUF&amp;rs=AOn4CLDKmhMQlGQ1gpwITEfjzi3I7F85pQ\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/5NwPclhU77E?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/5NwPclhU77E?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\"><input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" /> <input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"2FG78R8DNUYGC\" /></form></div>\r\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video8\"></a></h3>\r\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video8\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video8\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video7\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Rapid Ejaculation: Deep Anxieties</span></a></h2>\r\n<div class=\"separator\"></div>\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; 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Muscle Tension</span></a></h2>\r\n<h2 class=\"separator\"></h2>\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/m3jFQPvKnzA/default.jpg?sqp=CKT6kKUF&amp;rs=AOn4CLCwaxM40CNqYRonbO_kZPCt395jxA\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/m3jFQPvKnzA?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/m3jFQPvKnzA?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\"></form></div>\r\n<div>\r\n<h3>PART 2</h3>\r\n</div>\r\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video4\"></a></h3>\r\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video4\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video4\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Sexual Mode of Arousal Part 1</span></a></h2>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; 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text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/3v0brHySK1A/default.jpg?sqp=CLSRm6UF&amp;rs=AOn4CLBBVpm9nH10Zv_OXWAt_QwyP0b7VQ\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/3v0brHySK1A?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/3v0brHySK1A?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\"></form>\r\n<h3>PART 3</h3>\r\n</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h3><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video7\"></a></h3>\r\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video7\"></a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video7\"><span style=\"color: #3778cd;\">Rapid Ejaculation: Generalized Speediness</span></a></h2>\r\n<div class=\"separator\"></div>\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; 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