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(340, 2, '2017-06-22 16:44:51', '2017-06-22 14:44:51', '<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/02/sexual-desire-problems.html#video13\">Sexual Desire: A question of Integrity</a></span></h2>\r\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/02/sexual-desire-problems.html#video14\">Sexual Desire &amp; Difficult Decisions</a></span></h2>\r\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2015/02/sexual-desire-problems.html#video15\">Love &amp; Hate: A Hidden Truth of Relationships</a></span></h2>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"left: -5000px; 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Difficult Decisions </a></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\">\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><iframe class=\"YOUTUBE-iframe-video\" src=\"http://www.youtube.com/embed/MYPDo3F1W_s?feature=player_embedded\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/MYPDo3F1W_s/default.jpg?sqp=CITWyaYF&amp;rs=AOn4CLDE59LIcexGsJDFlnbKSd_bGC0Zgg\"></iframe></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" /></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\r\n<h4>Taking a stand by choosing what you want can enhance your integrity, therefore sexual desire</h4>\r\nAre you able to make the hard decision of choosing what you truly want in sex?\r\nWhat are you ready to do if your partner doesn\'t choose the same thing?\r\nAre you ready to let go of the choice not taken?\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n</form>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video15\">Love &amp; 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(41, 1, '2014-12-31 18:20:00', '2014-12-31 17:20:00', '<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/nice-guy-syndrome.html#video1\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Nice Guy &amp; THE Friend Zone</span></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montral.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/nice-guy-syndrome.html#video2\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Nice Guy &amp; Lack of Honesty</span></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montral.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/nice-guy-syndrome.html#video3\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Nice Guy &amp; Sexual Difficulty</span></a></div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n<div>\r\n<div>\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=1c8ad4cc63\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"novalidate\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: \'verdana\'; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\">Have you been stuck in the friend zone for too long? Or maybe you don\'t get this whole bad boy vs nice guy thing. Did you ever wonder how you could be more assertive sexually and create sexual desire in your partner?</span></div>\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"left: -5000px; position: absolute;\"><input tabindex=\"-1\" name=\"b_b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d_1c8ad4cc63\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"clear\"><input id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe\" class=\"button\" name=\"subscribe\" type=\"submit\" value=\"Subscribe\" /></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</form></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<!--End mc_embed_signup-->\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"></h3>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"></h3>\r\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video1\"> Nice Guy &amp; 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Sexuality</h4>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Do you feel sexually competent?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Are you scared of not being good enough?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Are relaxed or stressed out during sex?</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></div>', 'Webseries: Nice Guy Syndrome', '', 'publish', 'open', 'open', 'WniceGSynd', 'nice-guy-syndrome', '', '', '2017-06-22 16:47:42', '2017-06-22 14:47:42', '', 0, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/12/webseries-nice-guy-syndrome.html', 0, 'post', '', 0),
(342, 2, '2017-06-22 16:46:59', '2017-06-22 14:46:59', '<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/nice-guy-syndrome.html#video1\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Nice Guy &amp; THE Friend Zone</span></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montral.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/nice-guy-syndrome.html#video2\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Nice Guy &amp; Lack of Honesty</span></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montral.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/nice-guy-syndrome.html#video3\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Nice Guy &amp; Sexual Difficulty</span></a></div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n<div>\r\n<div>\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=1c8ad4cc63\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"novalidate\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: \'verdana\'; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\">Have you been stuck in the friend zone for too long? Or maybe you don\'t get this whole bad boy vs nice guy thing. Did you ever wonder how you could be more assertive sexually and create sexual desire in your partner?</span></div>\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"left: -5000px; position: absolute;\"><input tabindex=\"-1\" name=\"b_b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d_1c8ad4cc63\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"clear\"><input id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe\" class=\"button\" name=\"subscribe\" type=\"submit\" value=\"Subscribe\" /></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</form></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<!--End mc_embed_signup-->\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"></h3>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\"></h3>\r\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video1\"> Nice Guy &amp; THE Friend Zone </a></h2>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/RJrXNHQO7po/default.jpg?sqp=CNS4kKUF&amp;rs=AOn4CLD5Fm3mxhK3Ns2afrpQZmHvhdkGSg\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/RJrXNHQO7po?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/RJrXNHQO7po?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\">\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" /></div>\r\n</form></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">How to get out of the friend zone</h4>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Are you able to show your real feelings and sexual attractiveness to someone?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Do you try to seduce someone by being friends with them first?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\r\n\r\nHow do you express your sexual desire for someone?\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video2\"> Nice Guy &amp; Lack of Honesty </a></h2>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/9VKAMHJDTVs/default.jpg?sqp=CNS4kKUF&amp;rs=AOn4CLDNbqkA3IDKq0TiKOpVztXFngfyAA\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/9VKAMHJDTVs?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/9VKAMHJDTVs?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\">\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" /></div>\r\n</form></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">The hidden side of the Nice Guy</h4>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Do you tend to accumulate frustrations?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Does it happen that you are suddenly very angry and you explode?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Do you tend to avoid conflicts?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\r\n\r\nDo you tend to manipulate to obtain what you want?\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video3\"> Nice Guy &amp; 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Sexuality</h4>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Do you feel sexually competent?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Are you scared of not being good enough?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Are relaxed or stressed out during sex?</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></div>', 'Webseries: Nice Guy Syndrome', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '41-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-22 16:46:59', '2017-06-22 14:46:59', '', 41, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/41-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(42, 1, '2014-12-12 03:05:00', '2014-12-12 02:05:00', '<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/maintaining-sexual-desire-in-longterm.html#video10\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Phases of Sexual Desire in a Couple</span></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/maintaining-sexual-desire-in-longterm.html#video11\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Low sexual desire: A normal and desirable outcome</span></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/maintaining-sexual-desire-in-longterm.html#video12\">Importance of intimacy for your sexual desire</a></span></div>\r\n<span style=\"font-size: large;\">Have you ever asked yourself if it was normal to lose your sexual desire towards your partner after a certain time? Could you believe that it is even <b>desirable</b> for your relationships? Learn in this webseries how to get past this obstacle that can be a very delicate situation for many couples.</span>\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"novalidate\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"left: -5000px; 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text-align: center;\">\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/feOcQmCyfaY/default.jpg?sqp=CJD8qKQF&amp;rs=AOn4CLAb7oDK0qR9VeJY6pkamUzcMUwddA\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/feOcQmCyfaY?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/feOcQmCyfaY?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\r\n</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\">\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n</form></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Learn why a lack of sexual desire in your couple is normal but also desirable for your relationship</h4>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">What are the issues in your couple?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">What insatisfactions exist in your sex life?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Do you find yourself fantasizing, but not on your partner?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Do you still feel the sexual vibe with him or her?</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video12\">Importance of intimacy for your sexual desire </a></h2>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><object class=\"BLOGGER-youtube-video\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" classid=\"clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000\" codebase=\"http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\" data-thumbnail-src=\"https://i.ytimg.com/s_vi/_34brvOTBXA/default.jpg?sqp=CJD8qKQF&amp;rs=AOn4CLDLmArMM9Ms_V7P8eqeMr5qIsTxAg\"><param name=\"movie\" value=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/_34brvOTBXA?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" /><param name=\"bgcolor\" value=\"#FFFFFF\" /><param name=\"allowFullScreen\" value=\"true\" /><embed width=\"560\" height=\"315\" src=\"https://www.youtube.com/v/_34brvOTBXA?version=3&amp;f=user_uploads&amp;c=google-webdrive-0&amp;app=youtube_gdata\" type=\"application/x-shockwave-flash\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\" /></object></div>\r\n</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\">\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" />\r\n<input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"VH4H5YSDR8Y36\" />Intimacy is your capacity to be authentic and have integrity. Also a great source of sexual desire in long-term relationships.</div>\r\n</form></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Are you truly intimate with your partner?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Can you tolerate the discomfort of intimacy?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">Would you be able to share your most intimate thoughts and fantasies with your partner?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\r\n\r\nAre you willing to admit to yourself and your partner that your sex life just isn\'t that satisfying?\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></div>\r\n</div>', 'Webserie 03: Maintaining Sexual Desire in Long Term Relationships', '', 'publish', 'open', 'open', 'W3mseXDloTR123', 'maintaining-sexual-desire-in-longterm', '', '', '2019-12-10 18:16:04', '2019-12-10 17:16:04', '', 0, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/12/webserie-03-maintaining-sexual-desire-in-long-term-relationships.html', 0, 'post', '', 0),
(344, 2, '2017-06-22 16:50:39', '2017-06-22 14:50:39', '<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/maintaining-sexual-desire-in-longterm.html#video10\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Phases of Sexual Desire in a Couple</span></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/maintaining-sexual-desire-in-longterm.html#video11\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Low sexual desire: A normal and desirable outcome</span></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/12/maintaining-sexual-desire-in-longterm.html#video12\">Importance of intimacy for your sexual desire</a></span></div>\r\n<span style=\"font-size: large;\">Have you ever asked yourself if it was normal to lose your sexual desire towards your partner after a certain time? Could you believe that it is even <b>desirable</b> for your relationships? Learn in this webseries how to get past this obstacle that can be a very delicate situation for many couples.</span>\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"novalidate\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"left: -5000px; 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Could you believe that it is even <b>desirable</b> for your relationships? 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(43, 1, '2014-10-27 15:55:00', '2014-10-27 14:55:00', '<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/10/webseries-art-of-seduction.html#video7\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Seduction &amp; body language</span></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/10/webseries-art-of-seduction.html#video8\">Sexual &amp; Affectionate Seduction</a></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/10/webseries-art-of-seduction.html#video9\">Masculinity &amp; Femininity: Keys to Flirting</a></span></div>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=1c8ad4cc63\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: \'verdana\'; font-weight: normal; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\">These 3 videos on seduction will capture the importance of body language to increases your flirting potential. 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text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\">\r\n<h4>Learn how to flirt with your body language and the importance of keeping seduction in your couple</h4>\r\nHow do you use your body to seduce a partner?\r\nAre you afraid of being rejected?\r\nDo you still flirt and seduce your partner?\r\nWhat type of flirting turns you on?\r\n<input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"RWDSCPTUH69LN\" />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"video8\">Sexual &amp; Affectionate Seduction</a></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; 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(45, 1, '2014-07-28 21:20:00', '2014-07-28 19:20:00', '<h2 style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large\"><a href=\"http://eepurl.com/Z37Uj\" target=\"_blank\">Subscribe here</a> to receive an email when the next videos will be published</span></h2><h4 style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large\"><br /></span></h4><h4 style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large\">Increase Your Sexual &nbsp;Pleasure</span></h4><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><br /></div><h3 style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\">1) Sexual Desire, Arousal &amp; Pleasure: The Differences!</h3><div style=\"text-align: center\">Publication Date: 8th of August 2014</div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"></div><br />How do you feel sexual desire?<br />What stimulates it?<br />Are you truly satisfied with your sex life?<br />Are you comfortable in your body during sex?<br />Can you differentiate between sexual arousal and pleasure?<br /><br /><h3 style=\"text-align: center\">2) Sexual Pleasure &amp; Space of Your Body</h3><div style=\"text-align: center\">Publication Date: 22nd of August 2014</div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><div style=\"text-align: left\">How much space do you use during sex?</div><div style=\"text-align: left\">Which parts of your body do you move?</div><div style=\"text-align: left\">How is your breathing (swallow or deep)?</div><div style=\"text-align: left\">Where do you feel your orgasm (mainly genital area or entire body)?</div></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /></div><h3 style=\"text-align: center\">3) Muscular Tension &amp; Speed Relative to Your Sexual Pleasure</h3><div style=\"text-align: center\">Publication Date: 5th of September 2014</div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"></div><div style=\"text-align: center\"><br /></div>Do you have relaxed or contracted muscles when becoming sexually aroused?<br />How fast do you go when you stimulate yourself andor your partner?<br />Can you tolerate being slowly sensual?<br /><br /><b><br /></b><b><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/07/schedule-sensual-erotic-education.html\" target=\"_blank\">Schedule for the next videos to be published</a></b><br /><b><br /></b><b><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/07/purchase-webseries-of-sexual-erotic.html\" target=\"_blank\">Purchase the videos NOW of the webseries</a> so you don\'t have to wait!</b><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div><div align=\"JUSTIFY\" lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px;margin-bottom: 0cm\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sexologist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div><br /><br />', 'Webseries', '', 'publish', 'open', 'open', '', 'webseries', '', '', '2014-07-28 21:20:00', '2014-07-28 19:20:00', '', 0, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/07/webseries.html', 0, 'post', '', 0),
(46, 1, '2014-07-23 00:09:00', '2014-07-22 22:09:00', '<h2 style=\"background-color: white;border-bottom-color: transparent;border-bottom-style: solid;border-bottom-width: 1px;color: #575757;font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif;font-size: 14px;margin: 0px -15px;padding: 0.6em 15px 0.5em;text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: large\">INTRODUCTION TO THE WEBSERIES:&nbsp;</span></h2><h2 style=\"background-color: white;border-bottom-color: transparent;border-bottom-style: solid;border-bottom-width: 1px;color: #575757;font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif;font-size: 14px;margin: 0px -15px;padding: 0.6em 15px 0.5em;text-align: center\"><span style=\"font-size: large\">SENSUAL &amp; EROTIC EDUCATION</span></h2><div><span style=\"font-size: large\"><br /></span></div><u style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px\">Subscribe to the newsletter to receive the publication dates of the videos</u><br /><u style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px\"><br /></u><!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form --><br /><div><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Subscribe to our mailing list</label>     <!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->    <br /><div></div><div></div></div><!--End mc_embed_signup--> <br /><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"clear: both;text-align: center\"></div><br /><br /><br /><h2 style=\"background-color: white;border-bottom-color: transparent;border-bottom-style: solid;border-bottom-width: 1px;color: #575757;font-family: Arial, Tahoma, Helvetica, FreeSans, sans-serif;font-size: 14px;margin: 0px -15px;padding: 0.6em 15px 0.5em;text-align: justify\"><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px\">This webseries, offered by a sexologist and psychotherapist will be educational and reflective. It will offer information and activities to explore alone or with a partner. It will also allow the viewers to obtain a more healthy and satisfying sexual and romantic life. The videos will put to the test your perceptions and beliefs about sex. Ultimately, the webseries aims to offer people more possibilities in their sex lives and to become more mature as a person and a partner.&nbsp;</b></h2><div><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px\"><br /></b></div><b style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px\">The following subjects will be explored in one or more videos.&nbsp;</b><br /><b style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px\"><br /></b><br /><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\">&nbsp;Sexual desire, arousal and pleasure: The differences!&nbsp;</div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\">Nice guy Syndrome</div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\">Sexual &amp; romantic seduction (Flirting)</div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\">Stages of sexual desire</div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\">Manliness &amp; sensuality</div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\">Femininity &amp; eroticism</div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\">Narcissism &amp; exhibitionism&nbsp;: Sexual assertiveness</div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\">Capacity to tolerate intimacy</div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\">Recurring fights in a relationship</div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\">Lost of sexual desire in a couple: Normal &amp; desirable!</div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\">Being truly intimate: What does that even mean?</div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\">Sexual performance vs sexual presence</div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\">Tolerate the love &amp; hate towards your partner</div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\">Sensual &amp; Erotic Education for children and teens</div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\">Rapid ejaculation: A sign of a profound anxiety</div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\"><br /></div><div style=\"background-color: white;color: #575757;font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif;font-size: 17px;line-height: 24.26666831970215px;margin-bottom: 0cm;text-align: center\">Eroticism &amp; 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(47, 1, '2014-07-20 03:07:00', '2014-07-20 01:07:00', '<h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Video Capsules On Sexuality</span></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666;\"> <!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt; 0 0 1 74 407 le sexolgue 3 1 480 14.0 &lt;![endif]--> <!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt; Normal 0 21 false false false EN-US JA X-NONE &lt;![endif]--><!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt; &lt;![endif]--> <!-- [if gte mso 10]&gt;&lt;![endif]--> <!--StartFragment--><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 12pt;\">This webseries, offered by a sexologist and psychotherapist will be educational and reflective. It will offer information and activities to explore alone or with a partner. It will also allow the viewers to obtain a more healthy and satisfying sexual and romantic life. The videos will put to the test your perceptions and beliefs about sex. Ultimately, the webseries aims to offer people more possibilities in their sex lives and to become more mature as a person and a partner. </span></span><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/07/purchase-webseries-of-sexual-erotic.html#procedure\">Purchasing procedure of a webseries!</a></div>\r\n<a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#procedure\">\r\n</a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#procedure\">\r\n</a>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Click to obtain description</h4>\r\n<a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#procedure\">\r\n</a>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/07/purchase-webseries-of-sexual-erotic.html#seduction\">Webserie: Seduction</a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/07/purchase-webseries-of-sexual-erotic.html#presence\">Webserie: Sexual Presence</a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/07/purchase-webseries-of-sexual-erotic.html#desire1\">Webserie: Maintaining Sexual Desire</a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/07/purchase-webseries-of-sexual-erotic.html#desire2\">Webserie: Next Step of Your Couple</a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/07/purchase-webseries-of-sexual-erotic.html#desire3\">Webserie: Managing the Differences in Sexual Desire</a></div>\r\n<a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#desire3\">\r\n</a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#desire3\">\r\n</a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#desire3\">\r\n</a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#desire3\">\r\n</a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#desire3\">\r\n</a>\r\n\r\n<form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\">\r\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"seduction\">Webserie 01: Seduction</a></h2>\r\n<b>(ONLY 10$)</b>\r\n<b>\r\n</b>\r\n<span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\">These 3 videos on seduction will capture the importance of body language to increases your flirting potential. They will establish the differences between affectionate and sexual seduction, which is important to distinguish depending on the need you want to be fulfilled. Furthermore, reflections on masculinity &amp; femininity will help you understand the essence of flirting.</span>\r\n<b>\r\n</b>\r\n<b>\r\n</b>\r\n1) Seduction &amp; Body Language\r\n2) Emotional &amp; Sexual Seduction\r\n3) Masculinity &amp; Femininity: Ingredients to Flirting\r\n<b>\r\n</b>\r\n<input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" />\r\n<input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"RWDSCPTUH69LN\" />\r\n<input alt=\"PayPal - The safer, easier way to pay online!\" name=\"submit\" src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/btn/btn_buynow_SM.gif\" type=\"image\" />\r\n<img src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/scr/pixel.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" border=\"0\" />\r\n\r\n</form><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\">\r\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"presence\">Webserie 02: Sexual Performance vs presence</a></h2>\r\n<b>(ONLY 10$)</b>\r\n<br class=\"Apple-interchange-newline\" /><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\">This series of 3 videos will take a look at your inner thoughts and relationship dynamics during sex. Often, our insecurities and need to please others reduces our sexual satisfaction and pleasure. Suggestions to be more present during a sexual relationship  and the advantages of it will be discussed in the videos. </span>\r\n\r\n1) Sexual Performance &amp; Sexual Presence\r\n2) Pornography &amp; Erotism\r\n3) Sexual Presence Anxiety\r\n<b>\r\n</b>\r\n<input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" />\r\n<input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"23F4NU56GJJB8\" />\r\n<input alt=\"PayPal - The safer, easier way to pay online!\" name=\"submit\" src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/btn/btn_buynow_SM.gif\" type=\"image\" />\r\n<img src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/scr/pixel.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" border=\"0\" />\r\n\r\n</form>&gt;\r\n\r\n<form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\">\r\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"desire1\">Webserie 03: Maintaining Sexual Desire in Your Couple (Part 1)</a></h2>\r\n<b>(ONLY 10$)</b>\r\n<br class=\"Apple-interchange-newline\" /><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\">Have you ever asked yourself if it was normal to lose your sexual desire towards your partner after a certain time? Could you believe that it is even </span><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"><b>desirable</b></span><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"> for your relationships? Learn in this webseries how to get past this obstacle that can be a very delicate situation for many couples.</span>\r\n\r\n1) Stages of Sexual Desire in Longterm Relationships\r\n2) Low Sexual Desire: Normal &amp; Desirable!\r\n3) Importance of True Sexual Intimacy in Your Relationship\r\n<b>\r\n</b>\r\n<input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" />\r\n<input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"VH4H5YSDR8Y36\" />\r\n<input alt=\"PayPal - The safer, easier way to pay online!\" name=\"submit\" src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/btn/btn_buynow_SM.gif\" type=\"image\" />\r\n<img src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/scr/pixel.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" border=\"0\" />\r\n\r\n</form><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\">\r\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"desire2\">Webserie 04: Maintaining Sexual Desire: The next step in your relationship (Part 2)</a></h2>\r\n<b>(ONLY 10$)</b>\r\n<br class=\"Apple-interchange-newline\" /><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\">In every couple, there are hidden and subtle dynamics that can affect negatively your sexual desire and your sexual fulfillment. We often pretend that they are not there because they are quite difficult to handle at times. Although, avoiding this reality will only aggravate the situation and decrease your satisfaction of your relationship. </span>\r\n\r\n1) It\'s About Integrity\r\n2) Hard Decisions\r\n3) A Hard Reality to Swallow: Love &amp; Hate in Your Relationship\r\n<b>\r\n</b>\r\n<input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" />\r\n<input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"N9TZPBDQF6WFY\" />\r\n<input alt=\"PayPal - The safer, easier way to pay online!\" name=\"submit\" src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/btn/btn_buynow_SM.gif\" type=\"image\" />\r\n<img src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/scr/pixel.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" border=\"0\" />\r\n\r\n</form><form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\">\r\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"desire3\">Webserie 05: Maintaining Sexual Desire: Managing the Difference (Part 3)</a></h2>\r\n<b>(ONLY 10$)</b>\r\n<br class=\"Apple-interchange-newline\" /><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\">There will always be a partner who has more sexual desire than the other. The way you will manage that difference will have tremendous impact on each partner’s desire and the pleasure you will get out of sex. Changing our relationship patterns is a hard thing to do. Nevertheless, the effort that is necessary to change can bring us great joy and closeness with our partner.</span>\r\n\r\n1) Low Desire Partner &amp; High Desire Partner Relationship Dynamics\r\n2) Different Types of Relationship Patterns\r\n3) Do You Really Want Your Couple\'s Dynamic to Change?\r\n<b>\r\n</b>\r\n<input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\" />\r\n<input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"K4SLU4ZGSDUYL\" />\r\n<input alt=\"PayPal - The safer, easier way to pay online!\" name=\"submit\" src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/btn/btn_buynow_SM.gif\" type=\"image\" />\r\n<img src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/scr/pixel.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" border=\"0\" />\r\n\r\nOTHER WEBSERIES WILL BE AVAILABLE IN THE FUTURE\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Mgt_BNkbubE/U8_ad1lazjI/AAAAAAAAAZk/DW9K01joi3Y/s1600/Screen%2Bshot%2B2014-07-22%2Bat%2B4.00.10%2BPM.png\"><img src=\"http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Mgt_BNkbubE/U8_ad1lazjI/AAAAAAAAAZk/DW9K01joi3Y/s1600/Screen%2Bshot%2B2014-07-22%2Bat%2B4.00.10%2BPM.png\" width=\"400\" height=\"222\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div class=\"separator\" style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"procedure\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Purchasing procedure to access videos</span></a></h2>\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<div>\r\n<div class=\"p1\" style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"><span class=\"s2\">1) Buy the webseries of your choice via Paypal </span>\r\n<span class=\"s2\">\r\n</span>\r\n<span class=\"s2\">\r\n</span>\r\n<span class=\"s2\">2) Create a Google account to access the videos via Youtube with your email address: <a href=\"https://accounts.google.com/signup?service=mail\" target=\"_blank\">Create account</a></span></div>\r\n<div class=\"p1\" style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"><span class=\"s2\">       </span></div>\r\n<div class=\"p1\" style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"><span class=\"s2\"> </span></div>\r\n<div class=\"p2\" style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"></div>\r\n<div class=\"p1\" style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"><span class=\"s2\">3) Send an email to <a style=\"color: #4d469c; text-decoration: none;\" href=\"mailto:sexologue.f.renaud@gmail.com\" target=\"_blank\"><span class=\"s3\">sexologue.f.renaud@gmail.com</span> </a>with the email address you used to create the Google account. </span></div>\r\n<div class=\"p1\" style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"><span class=\"s2\"> </span></div>\r\n<div class=\"p1\" style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"><span class=\"s2\">4) Your email will be added to the list of the webserie(s) you have bought in the next 24 hours following the reception of your email. </span></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div class=\"p1\" style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"><span class=\"s2\">5) You will receive an email sending you the links to the purchased webserie(s)</span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n</form>&nbsp;\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<h2></h2>', 'Purchase Webseries of Sexual &amp; Erotic Education', '', 'publish', 'open', 'open', '', 'purchase-webseries-of-sexual-erotic', '', '', '2017-04-19 01:05:30', '2017-04-18 23:05:30', '', 0, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/07/purchase-webseries-of-sexual-erotic-education.html', 0, 'post', '', 0);
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(172, 1, '2017-04-19 00:46:54', '2017-04-18 22:46:54', '<h2><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Video Capsules On Sexuality</span></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: #666666;\"> <!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt;   0  0  1  74  407  le sexolgue  3  1  480  14.0     &lt;![endif]--> <!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt;   Normal  0      21      false  false  false    EN-US  JA  X-NONE                                                                       &lt;![endif]--><!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt;                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    &lt;![endif]--> <!-- [if gte mso 10]&gt;&lt;![endif]--> <!--StartFragment--><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 12pt;\">This webseries, offered by a sexologist and psychotherapist will be educational and reflective. It will offer information and activities to explore alone or with a partner. It will also allow the viewers to obtain a more healthy and satisfying sexual and romantic life. The videos will put to the test your perceptions and beliefs about sex. Ultimately, the webseries aims to offer people more possibilities in their sex lives and to become more mature as a person and a partner. </span></span><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/07/purchase-webseries-of-sexual-erotic.html#procedure\">Purchasing procedure of a webseries!</a></div>\r\n<a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#procedure\">\r\n</a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#procedure\">\r\n</a>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\">Click to obtain description</h4>\r\n<a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#procedure\">\r\n</a>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/07/purchase-webseries-of-sexual-erotic.html#seduction\">Webserie: Seduction</a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/07/purchase-webseries-of-sexual-erotic.html#presence\">Webserie: Sexual Presence</a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/07/purchase-webseries-of-sexual-erotic.html#desire1\">Webserie: Maintaining Sexual Desire</a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/07/purchase-webseries-of-sexual-erotic.html#desire2\">Webserie: Next Step of Your Couple</a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/07/purchase-webseries-of-sexual-erotic.html#desire3\">Webserie: Managing the Differences in Sexual Desire</a></div>\r\n<a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#desire3\">\r\n</a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#desire3\">\r\n</a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#desire3\">\r\n</a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#desire3\">\r\n</a><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=3518949513430806999#desire3\">\r\n</a>\r\n\r\n<form action=\"https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr\" method=\"post\" target=\"_top\">\r\n<br>\r\n<a name=\"seduction\" href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\">Webserie 01: Seduction</a><br>\r\n<b>(ONLY 10$)</b><br>\r\n<b><br></b>\r\n<span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\">These 3 videos on seduction will capture the importance of body language to increases your flirting potential. They will establish the differences between affectionate and sexual seduction, which is important to distinguish depending on the need you want to be fulfilled. Furthermore, reflections on masculinity &amp; femininity will help you understand the essence of flirting.</span><br>\r\n<b><br></b>\r\n<b><br></b>\r\n1) Seduction &amp; Body Language<br>\r\n2) Emotional &amp; Sexual Seduction<br>\r\n3) Masculinity &amp; Femininity: Ingredients to Flirting<br>\r\n<b><br></b>\r\n<input name=\"cmd\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"_s-xclick\">\r\n<input name=\"hosted_button_id\" type=\"hidden\" value=\"RWDSCPTUH69LN\">\r\n<input name=\"submit\" type=\"image\" alt=\"PayPal - The safer, easier way to pay online!\" src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/btn/btn_buynow_SM.gif\" border=\"0\">\r\n<img width=\"1\" height=\"1\" alt=\"\" src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/scr/pixel.gif\" border=\"0\">\r\n</form>\r\n\r\n\r\n<a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"presence\">Webserie 02: Sexual Performance vs presence</a>\r\n<b>(ONLY 10$)</b>\r\n<br class=\"Apple-interchange-newline\" /><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\">This series of 3 videos will take a look at your inner thoughts and relationship dynamics during sex. Often, our insecurities and need to please others reduces our sexual satisfaction and pleasure. Suggestions to be more present during a sexual relationship  and the advantages of it will be discussed in the videos. </span>\r\n\r\n\r\n1) Sexual Performance &amp; Sexual Presence\r\n2) Pornography &amp; Erotism\r\n3) Sexual Presence Anxiety\r\n<b>\r\n</b><img src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/scr/pixel.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" border=\"0\" />\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"desire1\">Webserie 03: Maintaining Sexual Desire in Your Couple (Part 1)</a>\r\n<b>(ONLY 10$)</b>\r\n<br class=\"Apple-interchange-newline\" /><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\">Have you ever asked yourself if it was normal to lose your sexual desire towards your partner after a certain time? Could you believe that it is even </span><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"><b>desirable</b></span><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\"> for your relationships? Learn in this webseries how to get past this obstacle that can be a very delicate situation for many couples.</span>\r\n\r\n1) Stages of Sexual Desire in Longterm Relationships\r\n2) Low Sexual Desire: Normal &amp; Desirable!\r\n3) Importance of True Sexual Intimacy in Your Relationship\r\n<b>\r\n</b><img src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/scr/pixel.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" border=\"0\" />\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"desire2\">Webserie 04: Maintaining Sexual Desire: The next step in your relationship (Part 2)</a>\r\n<b>(ONLY 10$)</b>\r\n<br class=\"Apple-interchange-newline\" /><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\">In every couple, there are hidden and subtle dynamics that can affect negatively your sexual desire and your sexual fulfillment. We often pretend that they are not there because they are quite difficult to handle at times. Although, avoiding this reality will only aggravate the situation and decrease your satisfaction of your relationship. </span>\r\n\r\n1) It\'s About Integrity\r\n2) Hard Decisions\r\n3) A Hard Reality to Swallow: Love &amp; Hate in Your Relationship\r\n<b>\r\n</b><img src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/scr/pixel.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" border=\"0\" />\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"desire3\">Webserie 05: Maintaining Sexual Desire: Managing the Difference (Part 3)</a>\r\n<b>(ONLY 10$)</b>\r\n<br class=\"Apple-interchange-newline\" /><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: verdana; line-height: 16.533332824707px; text-align: justify;\">There will always be a partner who has more sexual desire than the other. The way you will manage that difference will have tremendous impact on each partner’s desire and the pleasure you will get out of sex. Changing our relationship patterns is a hard thing to do. Nevertheless, the effort that is necessary to change can bring us great joy and closeness with our partner.</span>\r\n\r\n1) Low Desire Partner &amp; High Desire Partner Relationship Dynamics\r\n2) Different Types of Relationship Patterns\r\n3) Do You Really Want Your Couple\'s Dynamic to Change?\r\n<b>\r\n</b><img src=\"https://www.paypalobjects.com/en_US/i/scr/pixel.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"1\" height=\"1\" border=\"0\" />\r\n\r\n\r\nOTHER WEBSERIES WILL BE AVAILABLE IN THE FUTURE\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Mgt_BNkbubE/U8_ad1lazjI/AAAAAAAAAZk/DW9K01joi3Y/s1600/Screen%2Bshot%2B2014-07-22%2Bat%2B4.00.10%2BPM.png\"><img src=\"http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-Mgt_BNkbubE/U8_ad1lazjI/AAAAAAAAAZk/DW9K01joi3Y/s1600/Screen%2Bshot%2B2014-07-22%2Bat%2B4.00.10%2BPM.png\" width=\"400\" height=\"222\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<h2><a href=\"https://www.blogger.com/null\" name=\"procedure\"><span style=\"font-size: x-large;\">Purchasing procedure to access videos</span></a></h2>\r\n<h2></h2>\r\n<div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">1) Buy the webseries of your choice via Paypal\r\n\r\n\r\n2) Create a Google account to access the videos via Youtube with your email address: <a href=\"https://accounts.google.com/signup?service=mail\" target=\"_blank\">Create account</a></div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">3) Send an email to <a style=\"color: #4d469c; text-decoration: none;\" href=\"mailto:sexologue.f.renaud@gmail.com\" target=\"_blank\">sexologue.f.renaud@gmail.com </a>with the email address you used to create the Google account.</div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">4) Your email will be added to the list of the webserie(s) you have bought in the next 24 hours following the reception of your email.</div>\r\n<br style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\" />\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">5) You will receive an email sending you the links to the purchased webserie(s)</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<h2></h2>', 'Purchase Webseries of Sexual &amp; Erotic Education', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '47-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-04-19 00:46:54', '2017-04-18 22:46:54', '', 47, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2017/04/47-revision-v1.html?lang=fr', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(49, 1, '2014-04-10 22:43:00', '2014-04-10 20:43:00', '<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 18.0pt;\">Normal Marital Sadism (NMS)*</span></b></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\" align=\"center\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Learning to hate our partners</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     We don’t really anticipate that one day we will take pleasure out of hurting someone we love. We want even less to admit to it. For most people &amp; couples, their reflex is to deny immediately any form of dishonesty and heartaches we cause to each other. What possible reason could justify such behaviour towards a person we have chosen to live the rest of our lives with? The answer is NONE! That is the reason why we don’t want to admit it, especially to our partner. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Normal Marital Sadism</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">      </span></b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Sadism is defined as deliberately hurting someone, by feeling pleasure or gaining a sense of satisfaction out of it. In long-term relationships (married or not), this phenomenon is more wide spread than we would like to admit to ourselves. For this reason, it is why we consider it “normal” to do marital sadism. But what is defined as normal doesn’t necessarily mean that it is healthy, but in this situation it means widespread. <b>N</b>ormal <b>M</b>arital <b>S</b>adism (<b>NMS</b>) is a form of particular violence that is subtle between two partners, which contrary to popular belief actually love each other, but also hate each other. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Love &amp; Hate: Same continuum, just different extremities</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Romantic relationships would be way simpler if we could always feel good and feel love for our partner. Unfortunately, this isn’t the case! There will always be parts of our partner that we will truly detest. We aren’t perfect and we aren’t the same as our partner on every aspect. These differences create important conflicts, that are hard to overcome, which make us feel hate towards our lover. The way we deal with this ambivalence between the love and hate we feel towards our partner determines greatly how our relationship will develop. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\nTo deal with theses contradictory emotions in a healthy way, it is necessary to have a good </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">emotional balance</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">. This balance allows us to live better with the fact that we can sometimes hate our partner very profoundly, but also that are partner hates us. The second part is normally the hardest for most people, because it impacts our self-esteem and our sense of self (identity). When the most important person in our lives hate a part of who we are, it can be difficult to deal with the emotions that this rejection creates. It is a difficult reality to accept for someone who doesn’t have a very high self-esteem.</span></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">How Does All This Operate Between Partners?</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     The more we know our partner, the more we are capable of hurting them, because we’ve had access to their insecurities along the many years. Generally between partners, we sooth and help each other through our hardships and limits. The thing is, the game is played differently when we are in an important conflict with them. Especially when the couple has sexual difficulties, which is where most people feel very vulnerable. When we don’t have a </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">solid-flexible self</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\"> and a </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">capacity to self-sooth</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">, we can easily feel attacked by our partner, because we take things personally. This tends to create a reflex for vengeance to downplay are hurt feelings and anxiety. Henceforth, the vicious cycle of Normal Marital Sadism begins:</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify; text-indent: -18.0pt;\"></div>\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt; text-indent: -18pt;\">One of the partners feels hurt or emotionally injured</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt; text-indent: -18pt;\"><span style=\"font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; font-size: 7pt;\"> </span></span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt; text-indent: -18pt;\">In return, they attack to feel better about themselves</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt; text-indent: -18pt;\"><span style=\"font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; font-size: 7pt;\"> </span></span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt; text-indent: -18pt;\">The other partner feels hurt and attacks back</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt; text-indent: -18pt;\"><span style=\"font-family: \'Times New Roman\'; font-size: 7pt;\"> </span></span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt; text-indent: -18pt;\">Repeat step 1-2-3</span></li>\r\n</ol>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-left: 0cm; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Let’s give a more concrete example to illustrate the point. A woman has more sexual desire than her lesbian partner since the beginning of the relationship. After many attempts to initiate sex and being refused multiple times, she starts feeling reject and unloved. The partner that has more desire starts feeling less desirable each time she initiates sex. One night where she tries once more, she gets rejected AGAIN. Unable to deal with the rejection any longer says to her partner that she has a problem and needs to deal with it and says she is frigid. The partner with less desire attacks back by saying that she is the one obsessed with sex and needs to control her sexual urges. We can all imagine where this story is going. Obviously, gender and sexual orientation can be interchangeable in this situation, as every couple dynamic faces these issues. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">A variety of more subtle examples can be found in couples where a partner deliberately irritates the other and gains satisfaction out of it (E.G.: not changing the toilet paper roll, spending an important sum without talking about it to our partner, ignoring or being sulky, sighing of irritation, giving a look of disapproval, etc.). All these behaviours aren’t done in an innocent way, even though we tend to act that way. We are trying to get a reaction out of our partner and when we get caught, we pretend that we didn’t know or that we forgot.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">To Admit It or Not to, That is the Question?</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">      </span></b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">We would need to be crazy to admit that we do Normal Marital Sadism (<b>NMS</b>) to our partner. What would be the advantages of doing such a thing? Actually, it becomes a question of integrity and loyalty that allows us to build a <span style=\"color: #8db3e2;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">collaborative alliance</a></span> and work on our </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">points of emotional balance</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">. It also allows us to get past our </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">emotional gridlocks</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\"> in our relationship. Admitting our <b>NMS </b>to our spouse allows our partner to know who we truly are (the good and the bad) and have </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">self-validated intimacy</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">. How can you justify being loved or loving someone, when you only present parts of who you are and not the whole you?</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Most people won’t even admit to themselves that they do <b>NMS, </b>because they don’t want to admit being so mean and having such an ugly side of their personality. That would also deteriorate their self-image and self-esteem even more. They won’t want to be truthful to their partner’s about it so that the person who is the most significant in their lives doesn’t rejects them. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Take the time to reflect on the next sentence and understand what it means for you and your couple:</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">“<b>Admitting the worse in us, brings the best in us, because the worse in us cannot even admit its own existence!”- David Schnarch</b></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><u><span lang=\"FR\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Other related articles: </span></u></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><u><span lang=\"FR\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\"> </span></u></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Emotional Gridlock:</span></b></a><b> </b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">The Underlying Issues in Couples</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt; 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(50, 1, '2014-04-04 02:11:00', '2014-04-04 00:11:00', '<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">How to Construct and Maintain it</span></b></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\" align=\"center\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Once you’ve figured your </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">type of alliance</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">, it is important to understand that it <b>only takes one partner</b> to change it so that it becomes collaborative.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">What Is a Collaborative Alliance?</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">      A collaborative alliance works out and reinforces our </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">4 points of balance</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">. This type of alliance requires that you see your couple as a team and that you are prepared to confront yourself and your partner when the time comes when they are not holding up to the collaborative alliance. It is the capacity for each individual to evaluate and self-criticize by taking your responsibility by promoting honesty with yourself and to your partner. </span></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Ingredients to a Good Collaborative Alliance</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify; text-indent: -18.0pt;\"></div>\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\"> </span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt; text-indent: -18pt;\">Taking the time to self-confront about our implication in the dynamic of the couple and your sexuality</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Not to distort the truth or retain information to manipulate our partner</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Being completely honest with our partner, even if it is at our disadvantage or difficult</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Maintain the alliance even though our partner is not</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Not letting our emotions take the best of us and focusing on what needs to be done</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Reconstructing the alliance is more important than the fact that you lost it</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Understand the reasons why and when we lose the alliance</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Confront our partner when they have dropped the alliance, by remaining open to our contribution to the loss of it</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">A collaborative alliance tests your integrity</span></li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n\r\n</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     A collaborative alliance is not a reflex most people will have in a conflict, because it isn’t always advantageous and comfortable to maintain it. Although, it does show our capacity to remain loyal and our level of integrity towards our partner and ourselves. It is based on a profound friendship that obliges us to become better people and become a better partner. It allows us to surpass our biggest obstacles and build a strong foundation for a couple. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     It is hard to keep a collaborative alliance, because it requires us to question ourselves at a profound level (</span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">solid-flexible self</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">). This reflection can cause an identity crisis where we must redefine ourselves without losing our integrity. It obliges us to make very difficult decisions that determine the nature of our relationship and our future with our spouse. A collaborative alliance throws us in a very uncomfortable zone where it is necessary to confront the question of: do we want to be in this relationship. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Collaborative alliance and our sex lives</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">      It is also present or absent from our sex life. If a person is paying attention to other things during sex and remains in that state, this person has dropped the alliance. If the other partner ignores the missing connexion, it is possible that they have a collusive alliance to avoid getting into a conflict or maybe there wasn’t even an alliance to begin with. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     In a collaborative alliance, we are ready to push our level of sexual maturity to develop our erotism and maximize the intimacy we share with our partner. One dares more in sexual behaviours, because we consider our couple and our sex life to be more important than our limitations and difficulties. We take a decision to be more mature sexually and truly enjoy what sex we can have with our lover. We value ourselves and inhibitions fall to make room for our most erotic self and reach our full potential. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Our emotions make us lose our collaborative alliance</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     To often we let ourselves drop the alliance due to our emotions. When we feel discomfort, uncomfortable, nervous, many will just to cope out and go into one of the </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">other types of alliances</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">. We can let our emotions dictate our behaviours and the future of our relationships. If we were to always base our decisions on our emotions, we wouldn’t go very far in life, because at every bad emotion we might feel, we would come back to our original place. We must learn to self-sooth our emotions and face our limits to be able to reach our full capacity.</span>\r\n<span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sexologist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><u><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Also read:</span></u></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/unhealthy-couple-dynamics.html\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">Normal Marital Sadism: </span></b></a></span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Learn How to Hate Your Lover</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Emotional Gridlock:</span></b></a><b> </b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">The Underlying Issues in Couples</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Series of articles on sexual intimacy</span></b></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;', 'Construct a healthier couple’s dynamic', '', 'publish', 'open', 'open', '', 'construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic', '', 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/unhealthy-couple-dynamics.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html', '2017-10-20 03:00:10', '2017-10-20 01:00:10', '', 0, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html', 0, 'post', '', 4);
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(257, 2, '2017-06-07 03:46:54', '2017-06-07 01:46:54', '<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">How to Construct and Maintain it</span></b></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\" align=\"center\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Once you’ve figured your </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">type of alliance</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">, it is important to understand that it <b>only takes one partner</b> to change it so that it becomes collaborative.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">What Is a Collaborative Alliance?</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">      A collaborative alliance works out and reinforces our </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">4 points of balance</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">. This type of alliance requires that you see your couple as a team and that you are prepared to confront yourself and your partner when the time comes when they are not holding up to the collaborative alliance. It is the capacity for each individual to evaluate and self-criticize by taking your responsibility by promoting honesty with yourself and to your partner. </span></div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Ingredients to a Good Collaborative Alliance</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify; text-indent: -18.0pt;\"></div>\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\"> </span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt; text-indent: -18pt;\">Taking the time to self-confront about our implication in the dynamic of the couple and your sexuality</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Not to distort the truth or retain information to manipulate our partner</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Being completely honest with our partner, even if it is at our disadvantage or difficult</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Maintain the alliance even though our partner is not</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Not letting our emotions take the best of us and focusing on what needs to be done</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Reconstructing the alliance is more important than the fact that you lost it</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Understand the reasons why and when we lose the alliance</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Confront our partner when they have dropped the alliance, by remaining open to our contribution to the loss of it</span></li>\r\n 	<li><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">A collaborative alliance tests your integrity</span></li>\r\n</ul>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<table style=\"margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;\" cellspacing=\"0\" cellpadding=\"0\" align=\"center\">\r\n<tbody>\r\n<tr>\r\n<td style=\"text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;\" href=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Y4gAkXvUhd0/Uz34caF_oUI/AAAAAAAAATw/hcH8FrVJeZk/s1600/People-Sitting-Hugging-Black-Couple.jpg\"><img title=\"love and sex\" src=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-Y4gAkXvUhd0/Uz34caF_oUI/AAAAAAAAATw/hcH8FrVJeZk/s1600/People-Sitting-Hugging-Black-Couple.jpg\" alt=\"happy couples, couple therapy, couples therapist\" width=\"320\" height=\"292\" border=\"0\" /></a></td>\r\n</tr>\r\n<tr>\r\n<td style=\"text-align: center;\">Collaborative alliances are for emotionally mature individuals</td>\r\n</tr>\r\n</tbody>\r\n</table>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     A collaborative alliance is not a reflex most people will have in a conflict, because it isn’t always advantageous and comfortable to maintain it. Although, it does show our capacity to remain loyal and our level of integrity towards our partner and ourselves. It is based on a profound friendship that obliges us to become better people and become a better partner. It allows us to surpass our biggest obstacles and build a strong foundation for a couple. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     It is hard to keep a collaborative alliance, because it requires us to question ourselves at a profound level (</span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">solid-flexible self</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">). This reflection can cause an identity crisis where we must redefine ourselves without losing our integrity. It obliges us to make very difficult decisions that determine the nature of our relationship and our future with our spouse. A collaborative alliance throws us in a very uncomfortable zone where it is necessary to confront the question of: do we want to be in this relationship. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Collaborative alliance and our sex lives</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">      It is also present or absent from our sex life. If a person is paying attention to other things during sex and remains in that state, this person has dropped the alliance. If the other partner ignores the missing connexion, it is possible that they have a collusive alliance to avoid getting into a conflict or maybe there wasn’t even an alliance to begin with. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     In a collaborative alliance, we are ready to push our level of sexual maturity to develop our erotism and maximize the intimacy we share with our partner. One dares more in sexual behaviours, because we consider our couple and our sex life to be more important than our limitations and difficulties. We take a decision to be more mature sexually and truly enjoy what sex we can have with our lover. We value ourselves and inhibitions fall to make room for our most erotic self and reach our full potential. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Our emotions make us lose our collaborative alliance</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     To often we let ourselves drop the alliance due to our emotions. When we feel discomfort, uncomfortable, nervous, many will just to cope out and go into one of the </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">other types of alliances</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">. We can let our emotions dictate our behaviours and the future of our relationships. If we were to always base our decisions on our emotions, we wouldn’t go very far in life, because at every bad emotion we might feel, we would come back to our original place. We must learn to self-sooth our emotions and face our limits to be able to reach our full capacity.</span>\r\n<span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sexologist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><u><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Also read:</span></u></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/unhealthy-couple-dynamics.html\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">Normal Marital Sadism: </span></b></a></span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Learn How to Hate Your Lover</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Emotional Gridlock:</span></b></a><b> </b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">The Underlying Issues in Couples</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Series of articles on sexual intimacy</span></b></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;', 'Construct a healthier couple’s dynamic', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '50-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-07 03:46:54', '2017-06-07 01:46:54', '', 50, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/50-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(51, 1, '2014-03-30 19:55:00', '2014-03-30 17:55:00', '<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 18.0pt;\">How they affect your love and sex life?*</span></b></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">We would all like to believe that romantic relationships and sexuality come naturally to couples who are mature and sane. Of course, we tolerate certain conflicts &amp; bumps that are inevitable. Although, how do we get through a conflict that just doesn’t seem to be resolved? What are the elements that help people move forward in their relationship that we all will need to face in our couple? </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Effective communication techniques won’t help!</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">The </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">lack of communication</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\"> is rarely the cause of the problems in couples who face </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">emotional gridlock</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">. Relationships, which are based on passion, romantic love and attachment, are generally short-lived. The key ingredient in a long-term relationship is having a collaborative alliance, which implies integrity and loyalty. Loyalty in the face of adversity needs to be dealt with a good </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">emotional balance</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\"> from the members of the couple.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">This balance is found through knowing ourselves, being assertive, our capacity to self-sooth, offer grounded responses and have meaningful endurance when it comes to tolerating our insecurities &amp; anxieties.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Different types of alliances</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">To maintain a collaborative alliance, you need to build your </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">4 points of balance.</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\"> Without these points, couples form other types of alliances, which are detrimental to personal growth and happiness in the couple.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     We can have a <u>collusive alliance</u> between members of a couple who have decided to avoid direct conflict by ignoring them. These couples will present themselves in therapy with sexual difficulties, but will say they have no other issues. They describe themselves as having good communication, but they won’t understand why they have sexual difficulties (typically with sexual desire)</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     These couples are neither honest with their partner than with themselves. They haven’t developed the capacity to confront their partners nor themselves when it comes the time to do it. This lack of loyalty and of integrity kills sexual desire in the couple and since no one wants to admit their faults and short-comings, the conflict persists. The best way to describe these types of couples is that they have this implicit understanding between each other that important conflicts should be avoided at all cost because neither is capable of dealing with the possible consequences. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Couples with <u>combative alliance</u> do exist, as well. These people like to have conflicts and they eat it for breakfast. It is actually their way of being in a relationship with their lovers. They will fight in front of their friends without thinking of any of the repercussions. The thing with this type of alliance is that they hardly if ever confront themselves. They will constantly blame their partner, but will never look at their own insecurities that contribute to the couple’s dynamic. Their biggest fear is to admit that they were wrong in front of their spouse and put themselves in a vulnerable position. They constantly repeat to themselves: “If I admit my short-comings, hardships, anxieties; my partner will use them against me in the future!”</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\nOther couples have <u>no alliance</u> what so ever. The couple’s dogma consists of personally attacking the other and defending themselves at all cost. There are no limits as to how far one can go to hurt their partner’s egos. As we like to say: “the gloves are off”. We find in these couples a high level of <b><span style=\"color: #8db3e2;\">N</span></b><span style=\"color: #8db3e2;\">ormal <b>M</b>arital <b>S</b>adism (<b>NMS</b>).</span> These couple have very big fights where the threat of separation is used regularly, without ever coming to terms. We could think that these people don’t have any love or importance for each other. Things is, we can’t always judge a book by its cover. It’s actually because of the importance that they hold between each other, that they are capable of hurting one another on an emotional level. We are rarely hurt by people we don’t care about.  </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">A couple can have more than one alliance or lack thereof. It all depends on the subject or context the couple is facing. Partners can have a combative alliance on how to raise the kids, a collusive alliance on sexual issues and no alliance on house cleaning and finances. An alliance can also be collusive one day for sex, then combative the other. In other words, alliances are fluid and interchangeable in time and between partners. One partner may actually try to have a collusive one while the other is giving a combative one. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Before reading the next chapter on how to build a collaborative alliance, take the time to recognize what type of alliances you have in your relationships and which ones do you reinforce with your own behaviour. Evaluate within which context and subjects you change your alliance. How do you react when your lover offers you a collaborative alliance? Do you take it or do you try to switch it to another one?</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><u><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">NEXT CHAPTER</span></u></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/04/construct-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Collaborative Alliance : </a></span></b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How to Construct and Maintain It.</a> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">ALSO READ:</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/unhealthy-couple-dynamics.html\">Normal Marital Sadism</a>: </span></b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Learn How to Hate Your Lover </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Emotional Gridlock:</span></b></a><b> </b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">The Underlying Issues in Couples</span>\r\n<span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Series of articles on sexual intimacy</span></b></a></div>', 'Unhealthy Relationship Patterns', '', 'publish', 'open', 'open', '', 'unhealthy-relationship-patterns', '', 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/unhealthy-couple-dynamics.html', '2017-09-29 20:39:32', '2017-09-29 18:39:32', '', 0, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html', 0, 'post', '', 3),
(260, 2, '2017-06-07 03:57:13', '2017-06-07 01:57:13', '<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 18.0pt;\">How they affect your love and sex life?*</span></b></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">We would all like to believe that romantic relationships and sexuality come naturally to couples who are mature and sane. Of course, we tolerate certain conflicts &amp; bumps that are inevitable. Although, how do we get through a conflict that just doesn’t seem to be resolved? What are the elements that help people move forward in their relationship that we all will need to face in our couple? </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Effective communication techniques won’t help!</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">The </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">lack of communication</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\"> is rarely the cause of the problems in couples who face </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">emotional gridlock</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">. Relationships, which are based on passion, romantic love and attachment, are generally short-lived. The key ingredient in a long-term relationship is having a collaborative alliance, which implies integrity and loyalty. Loyalty in the face of adversity needs to be dealt with a good </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">emotional balance</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\"> from the members of the couple.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">This balance is found through knowing ourselves, being assertive, our capacity to self-sooth, offer grounded responses and have meaningful endurance when it comes to tolerating our insecurities &amp; anxieties.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Different types of alliances</span></b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">To maintain a collaborative alliance, you need to build your </span><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">4 points of balance.</span></a><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\"> Without these points, couples form other types of alliances, which are detrimental to personal growth and happiness in the couple.</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     We can have a <u>collusive alliance</u> between members of a couple who have decided to avoid direct conflict by ignoring them. These couples will present themselves in therapy with sexual difficulties, but will say they have no other issues. They describe themselves as having good communication, but they won’t understand why they have sexual difficulties (typically with sexual desire)</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     These couples are neither honest with their partner than with themselves. They haven’t developed the capacity to confront their partners nor themselves when it comes the time to do it. This lack of loyalty and of integrity kills sexual desire in the couple and since no one wants to admit their faults and short-comings, the conflict persists. The best way to describe these types of couples is that they have this implicit understanding between each other that important conflicts should be avoided at all cost because neither is capable of dealing with the possible consequences. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Couples with <u>combative alliance</u> do exist, as well. These people like to have conflicts and they eat it for breakfast. It is actually their way of being in a relationship with their lovers. They will fight in front of their friends without thinking of any of the repercussions. The thing with this type of alliance is that they hardly if ever confront themselves. They will constantly blame their partner, but will never look at their own insecurities that contribute to the couple’s dynamic. Their biggest fear is to admit that they were wrong in front of their spouse and put themselves in a vulnerable position. They constantly repeat to themselves: “If I admit my short-comings, hardships, anxieties; my partner will use them against me in the future!”</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<table style=\"margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;\" cellspacing=\"0\" cellpadding=\"0\" align=\"center\">\r\n<tbody>\r\n<tr>\r\n<td style=\"text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;\" href=\"http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-8HgLiw3YEXA/UzhYcdn_N1I/AAAAAAAAATE/CvSSS8csS7A/s1600/3359964-88845-conflict-and-emotional-stress-in-young-people-couple-relationship-outdoors.jpg\"><img title=\"couple fighting\" src=\"http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-8HgLiw3YEXA/UzhYcdn_N1I/AAAAAAAAATE/CvSSS8csS7A/s1600/3359964-88845-conflict-and-emotional-stress-in-young-people-couple-relationship-outdoors.jpg\" alt=\"couple therapy, couple fights\" width=\"320\" height=\"212\" border=\"0\" /></a></td>\r\n</tr>\r\n<tr>\r\n<td style=\"text-align: center;\">Partner\'s don\'t always agree...and don\'t always handle it well</td>\r\n</tr>\r\n</tbody>\r\n</table>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">     Other couples have <u>no alliance</u> what so ever. The couple’s dogma consists of personally attacking the other and defending themselves at all cost. There are no limits as to how far one can go to hurt their partner’s egos. As we like to say: “the gloves are off”. We find in these couples a high level of <b><span style=\"color: #8db3e2;\">N</span></b><span style=\"color: #8db3e2;\">ormal <b>M</b>arital <b>S</b>adism (<b>NMS</b>).</span> These couple have very big fights where the threat of separation is used regularly, without ever coming to terms. We could think that these people don’t have any love or importance for each other. Things is, we can’t always judge a book by its cover. It’s actually because of the importance that they hold between each other, that they are capable of hurting one another on an emotional level. We are rarely hurt by people we don’t care about.  </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">A couple can have more than one alliance or lack thereof. It all depends on the subject or context the couple is facing. Partners can have a combative alliance on how to raise the kids, a collusive alliance on sexual issues and no alliance on house cleaning and finances. An alliance can also be collusive one day for sex, then combative the other. In other words, alliances are fluid and interchangeable in time and between partners. One partner may actually try to have a collusive one while the other is giving a combative one. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Before reading the next chapter on how to build a collaborative alliance, take the time to recognize what type of alliances you have in your relationships and which ones do you reinforce with your own behaviour. Evaluate within which context and subjects you change your alliance. How do you react when your lover offers you a collaborative alliance? Do you take it or do you try to switch it to another one?</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><u><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">NEXT CHAPTER</span></u></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2014/04/construct-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Collaborative Alliance : </a></span></b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How to Construct and Maintain It.</a> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">ALSO READ:</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/unhealthy-couple-dynamics.html\">Normal Marital Sadism</a>: </span></b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Learn How to Hate Your Lover </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Emotional Gridlock:</span></b></a><b> </b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">The Underlying Issues in Couples</span>\r\n<span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">\r\n</span></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\"><b><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16.0pt;\">Series of articles on sexual intimacy</span></b></a></div>', 'Unhealthy Relationship Patterns', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '51-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-07 03:57:13', '2017-06-07 01:57:13', '', 51, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/51-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0);
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(52, 1, '2014-03-28 03:16:00', '2014-03-28 02:16:00', '<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><b>What Should I Do?*</b></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\" align=\"center\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">As we\'ve discussed in the previous <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire.html\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">articles before</span></a>, neither the <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/getting-yourself-together-promotes-sexual-desire.html\"><b><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">H</span></b><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">igh <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (<b>HDP</b>)</span>,</a> nor the <b>L</b>ow <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (<b>LDP</b>) have a better position in the dynamic of the couple. We tend to hear couples saying that they have the bad reputation in the couple and they wished that their lover would better understand them. Thing is, both parties are dealing with the same things, just in a different ways.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>The LDP\'s Catch 22!</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">The LDP is stuck in a very similar outcome than the HDP, where they don\'t necessarily want the sex they are being offered for whatever reason, yet they don\'t want their partner to leave them. They know full well that if they don\'t give out here and there, their partner will eventually get tired of the lack of sex and leave. Since they don\'t want that, they offer once and a while what we call <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire.html\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">pity sex</span></a>. Not only is it the worst thing to do in a relationship, where there is a discrepancy between the sexual desire of the partners, it makes the LDP feel like crap about themselves. As much as pity sex tends to get their partner\'s off their backs for a while, they\'ll come on knocking for more soon enough. This is where the LDP can\'t hold on to themselves and loses their integrity.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>Lose Your Self-Respect and Integrity: Lose Your Sexual Desire</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Now, you must be thinking what does self-respect and integrity have to do with sexual desire. Unlike what most people think, long lasting sexual desire in a committed relationship isn\'t entirely based on how desirable our partner is. <b>It\'s also based on what we think and perceive of ourselves</b>, which is something LDP\'s tend not to have in high quantity. When someone offers their body to their lover for sex without enjoying it much or even at all, they tend to think less and less of themselves. They realize that they are willing to go pretty low to avoid a break up or a conflict. This doesn\'t make people feel particularly desirable, which by contrast doesn\'t make them feel sexual desire for others.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>Refusing Crappy Sex Is Offering The Possibility of Great Sex</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">A lot of LDP\'s actually have a lot of sexual desire bubbling underneath that facade of disinterest. The thing is, they don\'t want to do it with their partner. Sex might have been good at the beginning of the relationship, but like all sex lives it starts getting repetitive and boring after a while. It\'s predictable, planned (especially if you have kids) and monotone. It takes more effort each time to get turned on and we skip the passionate parts to just get down to business. Most LDP\'s will start to feel this before the HDP partner\'s but they won\'t say anything about it to avoid hurt feelings. Sometimes it\'s to avoid putting the effort into their sex lives for themselves. Some LDP\'s have a very wild sexual imagination, but have never really shared it with their partner out of fear of being rejected, seen as perverted, judged, etc.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Therefore, they don\'t get the sex they want and eventually and inevitably lose most if not all their sexual desire. Since they\'re in an <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">other validated intimacy dynamic</span></a>, just like their HDP counter parts, they only self-disclose what they think or know will be accepted by their spouse in bed.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>Standing Up On Your Own Two Feet</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">So you feel you have little if no self-respect and integrity for accepting pity sex for so long. You want better sex, but don\'t know what or if your partner will even want what you have to offer? You are afraid to hurt their feelings and make things worst. Well you are <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">exactly where you should be!</span></a> This is the opportunity to grow up and mature and face your insecurities and doubts about yourself. Now, why would you want to do that? Well...dealing with them will actually give you your self-esteem, self-respect, integrity and feelings of being desirable back so that sexual desire feels more natural to you.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">First off, stop offering and giving pity sex. Second start being more assertive in what you want in sex or find out what your sexual preferences are, if you don\'t know what they are. Refrain from avoiding your spouse’s sexual advances and get in the game of seduction with them. Or at least have the balls or ovaries (depending on the case) to tell them you’re not in that mood right now and offer some other type of couples activity. Try to think before you say «NO» to them and really reflect on why you want to say it. Is it just automatic? Are you avoiding your own sexual insecurities? Maybe you don\'t like intimacy and prefer not to deal with the uncomfortableness of being truly seen by someone?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Changing a couple\'s sexual dynamic is hard work and requires putting effort into it by confronting ourselves. We need to learn to <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">self-sooth and give grounded responses</span></a><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">.</span></span> It only takes one person to transform a relationship, but it\'s far better when done in a <span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">collaborative alliance</a>.</span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">François Renaud M.A.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Sex therapist and psychotherapist in Montreal</a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\">\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\"> </span></span>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\"> </span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">DID YOU LIKE THESE READINGS, then you\'ll like:</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; line-height: 24.26666831970215px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><u><a style=\"text-decoration: none;\" href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">Redefine your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality Part 1</span></a></u></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; line-height: 24.26666831970215px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; line-height: 24.26666831970215px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><u><a style=\"text-decoration: none;\" href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">Two Very Different Types of Intimacy Part 2</span></a></u></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; line-height: 24.26666831970215px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; line-height: 24.26666831970215px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><u><a style=\"text-decoration: none;\" href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">How Intimacy Affects Sexual Desire Part 3</span></a></u></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; line-height: 24.26666831970215px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"background-color: white; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">Become emotionally balanced = being desirable Part 4</span></span></span></a></u></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>', 'I don\'t Want Sex', '', 'publish', 'open', 'open', '', 'i-dont-want-sex', '', 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/getting-yourself-together-promotes-sexual-desire.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html', '2017-09-29 20:38:11', '2017-09-29 18:38:11', '', 0, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/03/i-dont-want-sex.html', 0, 'post', '', 1),
(264, 2, '2017-06-07 04:06:00', '2017-06-07 02:06:00', '<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><b>What Should I Do?*</b></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\" align=\"center\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">As we\'ve discussed in the previous <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire.html\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">articles before</span></a>, neither the <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/highsexualdesire.html\"><b><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">H</span></b><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">igh <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (<b>HDP</b>)</span>,</a> nor the <b>L</b>ow <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (<b>LDP</b>) have a better position in the dynamic of the couple. We tend to hear couples saying that they have the bad reputation in the couple and they wished that their lover would better understand them. Thing is, both parties are dealing with the same things, just in a different ways.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>The LDP\'s Catch 22!</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">The LDP is stuck in a very similar outcome than the HDP, where they don\'t necessarily want the sex they are being offered for whatever reason, yet they don\'t want their partner to leave them. They know full well that if they don\'t give out here and there, their partner will eventually get tired of the lack of sex and leave. Since they don\'t want that, they offer once and a while what we call <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire.html\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">pity sex</span></a>. Not only is it the worst thing to do in a relationship, where there is a discrepancy between the sexual desire of the partners, it makes the LDP feel like crap about themselves. As much as pity sex tends to get their partner\'s off their backs for a while, they\'ll come on knocking for more soon enough. This is where the LDP can\'t hold on to themselves and loses their integrity.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>Lose Your Self-Respect and Integrity: Lose Your Sexual Desire</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Now, you must be thinking what does self-respect and integrity have to do with sexual desire. Unlike what most people think, long lasting sexual desire in a committed relationship isn\'t entirely based on how desirable our partner is. <b>It\'s also based on what we think and perceive of ourselves</b>, which is something LDP\'s tend not to have in high quantity. When someone offers their body to their lover for sex without enjoying it much or even at all, they tend to think less and less of themselves. They realize that they are willing to go pretty low to avoid a break up or a conflict. This doesn\'t make people feel particularly desirable, which by contrast doesn\'t make them feel sexual desire for others.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>Refusing Crappy Sex Is Offering The Possibility of Great Sex</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">A lot of LDP\'s actually have a lot of sexual desire bubbling underneath that facade of disinterest. The thing is, they don\'t want to do it with their partner. Sex might have been good at the beginning of the relationship, but like all sex lives it starts getting repetitive and boring after a while. It\'s predictable, planned (especially if you have kids) and monotone. It takes more effort each time to get turned on and we skip the passionate parts to just get down to business. Most LDP\'s will start to feel this before the HDP partner\'s but they won\'t say anything about it to avoid hurt feelings. Sometimes it\'s to avoid putting the effort into their sex lives for themselves. Some LDP\'s have a very wild sexual imagination, but have never really shared it with their partner out of fear of being rejected, seen as perverted, judged, etc.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Therefore, they don\'t get the sex they want and eventually and inevitably lose most if not all their sexual desire. Since they\'re in an <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">other validated intimacy dynamic</span></a>, just like their HDP counter parts, they only self-disclose what they think or know will be accepted by their spouse in bed.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<table style=\"margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;\" cellspacing=\"0\" cellpadding=\"0\" align=\"center\">\r\n<tbody>\r\n<tr>\r\n<td style=\"text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;\" href=\"http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-bIN0R1d4lWM/UzTMLANO9MI/AAAAAAAAASg/qF3aO96eRaE/s1600/pity+sex.jpg\"><img title=\"Crappy sex\" src=\"http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-bIN0R1d4lWM/UzTMLANO9MI/AAAAAAAAASg/qF3aO96eRaE/s1600/pity+sex.jpg\" alt=\"bad sex life, sexual desire low, sexologist\" width=\"320\" height=\"256\" border=\"0\" /></a></td>\r\n</tr>\r\n<tr>\r\n<td style=\"text-align: center;\">Offer or accept crappy sex...you get what you asked for!</td>\r\n</tr>\r\n</tbody>\r\n</table>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>Standing Up On Your Own Two Feet</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">So you feel you have little if no self-respect and integrity for accepting pity sex for so long. You want better sex, but don\'t know what or if your partner will even want what you have to offer? You are afraid to hurt their feelings and make things worst. Well you are <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">exactly where you should be!</span></a> This is the opportunity to grow up and mature and face your insecurities and doubts about yourself. Now, why would you want to do that? Well...dealing with them will actually give you your self-esteem, self-respect, integrity and feelings of being desirable back so that sexual desire feels more natural to you.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">First off, stop offering and giving pity sex. Second start being more assertive in what you want in sex or find out what your sexual preferences are, if you don\'t know what they are. Refrain from avoiding your spouse’s sexual advances and get in the game of seduction with them. Or at least have the balls or ovaries (depending on the case) to tell them you’re not in that mood right now and offer some other type of couples activity. Try to think before you say «NO» to them and really reflect on why you want to say it. Is it just automatic? Are you avoiding your own sexual insecurities? Maybe you don\'t like intimacy and prefer not to deal with the uncomfortableness of being truly seen by someone?</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Changing a couple\'s sexual dynamic is hard work and requires putting effort into it by confronting ourselves. We need to learn to <span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">self-sooth and give grounded responses</span></a><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">.</span></span> It only takes one person to transform a relationship, but it\'s far better when done in a <span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">collaborative alliance</a>.</span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">François Renaud M.A.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Sexologist and psychotherapist in Montreal</a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\"> </span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">DID YOU LIKE THESE READINGS, then you\'ll like:</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; line-height: 24.26666831970215px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><u><a style=\"text-decoration: none;\" href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">Redefine your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality Part 1</span></a></u></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; line-height: 24.26666831970215px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; line-height: 24.26666831970215px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><u><a style=\"text-decoration: none;\" href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">Two Very Different Types of Intimacy Part 2</span></a></u></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; line-height: 24.26666831970215px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; line-height: 24.26666831970215px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><u><a style=\"text-decoration: none;\" href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\">How Intimacy Affects Sexual Desire Part 3</span></a></u></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; line-height: 24.26666831970215px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"background-color: white; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><u><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">Become emotionally balanced = being desirable Part 4</span></span></span></a></u></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>', 'I don\'t Want Sex', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '52-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-07 04:06:00', '2017-06-07 02:06:00', '', 52, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/52-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(53, 1, '2014-03-26 20:45:00', '2014-03-26 19:45:00', '<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><b>Overcoming The Fear of Rejection*</b></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">No one likes to be rejected, especially by someone we care deeply about and that their opinion of us sometimes exceeds our own. In the dynamic of the <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><b><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">H</span></b><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">igh <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (<b>HDP</b>) and <b>L</b>ow <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (<b>LDP</b>)</span></span></a> both partners feel rejected, but in different ways and for different reasons. This perpetual fear of rejection drives many couples’ dynamics and turns their <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">alliance into an unhealthy one</a>. Our sense of worth comes primarily from other people’s perception of us and the more important they are to us the more impact they have on us.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>The LDP Controls The HDP Sense of Worth</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Since the LDP controls sex in every way, shape and form, they tend to control how the HDP feels about themselves as well. Since most couples use <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\">other validated intimacy</a>, it is hard for the HDP to feel good about themselves and have the perception that they are desirable, when they are constantly rejected. When someone’s been rejected multiple times for sex, it\'s not uncommon to start thinking that there might be something wrong with them. When our sense of worth is based on what other people and most importantly our spouse thinks, then rejection is hard to deal with.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">The doubt that the HDP feels about themselves makes them even less attractive. We\'ve all heard before that confidence is what makes someone attractive. Well, the rule still applies in long term committed relationships. So the HDP that has their self worth based on their spouses perception of them, rather than their own tend to be undesirable, because they act the part. When you don\'t feel confident; your way of being, of flirting and seducing demonstrates your lack thereof. HDP\'s start to want sex, not because they really truly have sexual desire for their partner, but because they want the other person to tell them their desirable. If you look at this situation more closely, the HDP is asking his LDP spouse to find them desirable and attractive when they can\'t even feel and see it for themselves.<b> It\'s a vicious cycle of undesirability</b></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>\r\nGetting Out of This Rut</b>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">This is where the hard work begins! In a relationship, where there probably isn\'t any <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/04/construct-a-healthier-couples-dynamic.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">collaborative alliance</a>, there is Normal Marital Sadism and you are faced with <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\">emotional gridlock</a>, the first thing that tends to come to mind is to call it quits and leave the relationship. Thing is...you\'ve put so much time and commitment in it that you don\'t just want to throw it all away. Also, you are going to face the same issues eventually in your next relationship anyway.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">It\'s at this point that you need to work on your <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\">emotional balance</a>, if you want to get through this. First, you need to start feeling and acting in a desirable way. Stop the blaming and confront yourself about your own short-comings and insecurities. Put some effort into the relationship and notice where you have been slacking off. Reinvent yourself, be spontaneous and adventurous at how you are going to be with your partner and yourself. Get a life of your own, go out, try new things and start building your confidence through experiences other than with your spouse (non-sexual ones). It\'s important not to perceive this as taking a break or avoiding the issue. It\'s a time of self-reflection where you build yourself and get to know who you truly are and who you want to be. Motivate and inspire yourself, it makes a person attractive and desirable. Lastly, stop taking things so personally! Some of it might be more about your partner than yourself. If it is about you then take a stand and become a better person, by seeing it as constructive criticism, even when it\'s not said that way.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\nRome wasn\'t built in a day and neither will your self-esteem and sense of <b>self-</b><b>worth</b>. You need to learn to tolerate pain, anxiety, fear and frustration to grow and become a mature adult in a healthy relationship.\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>READ NEXT CHAPTER</b></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/i-dont-want-sex.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><b>I Don\'t Want Sex : </b>What Should I Do?</span></a></div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n\r\n<style type=\"text/css\">\r\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br />	/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />	   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br /></style>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"position: absolute; left: -5000px;\"><input tabindex=\"-1\" name=\"b_b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d_fd88d57b31\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"clear\"><input id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe\" class=\"button\" name=\"subscribe\" type=\"submit\" value=\"Subscribe\" /></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</form></div>\r\n<script type=\'text/javascript\' src=\'//s3.amazonaws.com/downloads.mailchimp.com/js/mc-validate.js\'></script><script type=\'text/javascript\'>(function($) {window.fnames = new Array(); window.ftypes = new Array();fnames[0]=\'EMAIL\';ftypes[0]=\'email\';fnames[1]=\'FNAME\';ftypes[1]=\'text\';fnames[2]=\'LNAME\';ftypes[2]=\'text\';}(jQuery));var $mcj = jQuery.noConflict(true);</script>\r\n<!--End mc_embed_signup-->', 'Getting Yourself Together: Promotes Sexual Desire!', '', 'publish', 'open', 'open', '', 'getting-yourself-together-promotes-sexual-desire', '', 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html', '2017-10-20 03:00:19', '2017-10-20 01:00:19', '', 0, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/03/getting-yourself-together-promotes-sexual-desire.html', 0, 'post', '', 4),
(54, 1, '2014-03-26 20:38:00', '2014-03-26 19:38:00', '<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><b>How to Overcome The Issue?*</b></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sexual desire is defined as a sexual attraction or drive towards another person with whom we want to share real or fantasized sexual activities with. There are also many different types of sexual desire that one can express. Each one brings a dynamic to the couple and each partner may not share the same types of sexual desires or even the frequency to which they want sex with their spouse.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>Rules of Couples</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">In every relationship, we find a <b>H</b>igh <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (<b>HDP</b>) and a <b>L</b>ow <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (<b>LDP</b>). In other words, you always get one partner who wants more sex than the other one. These roles are interchangeable in a couple and varies during the relationship. Men and women can be in either roles and sexual orientation plays no effect on it. Normally at the beginning of a relationship, we don\'t really see any difference. As time goes by, we tend to pinpoint who initiates more often, who wants it more, who avoids or even pretends they like it. As a universal rule, the LDP is the one who controls sex, whether they want to or not. They control how, when, how often, and the why of having sex. They have this control because they are the person who wants it less, therefore they get to choose. Sometimes, this is where name calling begins between them:</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<ul type=\"disc\">\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">You’re frigid!</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">You never initiate.</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">You want it all the time!</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">I don\'t have time to build it, because you\'re always groping me</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">It\'s because you don\'t love me anymore</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">I tried everything, but nothing seems to work</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">Your seeing someone else</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">…</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<h2 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>We\'re in a Relationship, We Are Suppose to Have Sex</b></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">This dynamic is very frequent in couples who just don\'t know how to handle being rejected for sex. They think that after a while of being with a partner, that it sort of their partner\'s job or at least they own them some sex because they\'re a couple. Typically, the <b>H</b>igh <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (<b>HDP</b>) will start initiating more often for sex and after being rejected a multitude of times they can then become even less desirable because they put all the blame on the partner. Some will go even further and stop putting any type of effort into seducing their lover when they want sex, yet still blame their spouse.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>The HDP\'s Position</b></h4>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">The HDP does this to protect himself from feeling the hurt of rejection. When we\'ve been rejected on numerous occasions for sex from our partner we start to doubt our desirability. We tend to choose to put less effort into flirting with our spouse, because when we give all that we\'ve got and they still turn us down, it hurts even more. So the standard outcome is to start asking for sex from the <b>L</b>ow <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (<b>LDP</b>) rather than creating sexual desire in them by being desirable ourselves.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>The LDP\'s Position</b></h4>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Now at a first glance, we might think that the LDP has the better position right? They are satisfied and get the frequency of sex they want and they have the control. Which is what the HDP tells them frequently, sometimes. Not so fast! Neither position in the couple, really feels comfortable. The LDP constantly has to put their limits towards their partner and respect themselves even when sometimes being barraged with name calling. They can feel inadequate and afraid to lose their partner because of it. Sometimes, they don\'t like the sex they are having and don\'t want to hurt their partners\' feelings by telling them, so they try to avoid it. Most of the time, they don\'t feel they have control, because they are being bombarded by questions, accusations from their partner, which might lead them to offer <b>pity sex</b>.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\"></h4>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\">Pity sex</h4>\r\n<p style=\"text-align: justify;\">Most couples will not want to admit they have pity sex, but it\'s probably the most common in long-term relationships where partners haven\'t dealt properly with their HDP and LDP dynamics. An unworked sexual desire issue between spouses brings <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">alliance issues</a> into the couple. Let us look more deeply into the pity sex dynamic. It is defined as offering sex we do not want to our partner because we are afraid of losing them or we just want them to stop asking profusely for sex or to avoid another conflict about the situation. As you might imagine, pity sex is the worst type of sex you can offer and get in a relationship. It is neither fun nor pleasurable for either people. The LDP is rarely if not at all participating in this type of sexual activity, which the HDP obviously sees or feels. The LDP might even make such remarks as: «let\'s get this over with» and the like.</p>\r\n\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">What is even more surprising in this situation, is not only does the LDP offer such awful sex, the HDP accepts it. Their way of thinking is: «well...if I don\'t take this...I won\'t get any at all». This is where they\'re shooting themselves in the foot. Not only is accepting pity sex from a spouse a lack of respect to themselves, it\'s a lack of respect to their partner as well. Think about it for a second: Why should your partner put any effort into sex if you\'re willing to take anything that is given to you. This lack of respect of self, makes a person truly undesirable. Second, if the partner doesn\'t feel like they\'re respected because they are seen as a piece of meat their spouse just wants to have sex with, don\'t expect them to do it for very long or even enjoy sex. This dynamic also makes the LDP feel undesirable to themselves, and therefore lacks sexual desire, because they lack integrity.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">READ THE NEXT CHAPTER</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/getting-yourself-together-promotes-sexual-desire.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><b><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Getting Yourself Together, Promotes Sexual Desire!: </span></b><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Overcoming The Fear of Rejection</span></span></a>', 'Different Levels of Sexual Desire Between Partners in a Couple', '', 'publish', 'open', 'open', '', 'different-levels-of-sexual-desire-between-partners-in-a-couple', '', 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/getting-yourself-together-promotes-sexual-desire.html', '2017-10-25 21:48:14', '2017-10-25 19:48:14', '', 0, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/03/different-levels-of-sexual-desire-between-partners-in-a-couple.html', 0, 'post', '', 9);
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(275, 2, '2017-06-07 16:33:46', '2017-06-07 14:33:46', '<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><b>How to Overcome The Issue?*</b></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Sexual desire is defined as a sexual attraction or drive towards another person with whom we want to share real or fantasized sexual activities with. There are also many different types of sexual desire that one can express. Each one brings a dynamic to the couple and each partner may not share the same types of sexual desires or even the frequency to which they want sex with their spouse.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>Rules of Couples</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">In every relationship, we find a <b>H</b>igh <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (<b>HDP</b>) and a <b>L</b>ow <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (<b>LDP</b>). In other words, you always get one partner who wants more sex than the other one. These roles are interchangeable in a couple and varies during the relationship. Men and women can be in either roles and sexual orientation plays no effect on it. Normally at the beginning of a relationship, we don\'t really see any difference. As time goes by, we tend to pinpoint who initiates more often, who wants it more, who avoids or even pretends they like it. As a universal rule, the LDP is the one who controls sex, whether they want to or not. They control how, when, how often, and the why of having sex. They have this control because they are the person who wants it less, therefore they get to choose. Sometimes, this is where name calling begins between them:</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<ul type=\"disc\">\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">You’re frigid!</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">You never initiate.</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">You want it all the time!</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">I don\'t have time to build it, because you\'re always groping me</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">It\'s because you don\'t love me anymore</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">I tried everything, but nothing seems to work</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">Your seeing someone else</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"text-align: justify;\">…</li>\r\n</ul>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<h2 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>We\'re in a Relationship, We Are Suppose to Have Sex</b></h2>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">This dynamic is very frequent in couples who just don\'t know how to handle being rejected for sex. They think that after a while of being with a partner, that it sort of their partner\'s job or at least they own them some sex because they\'re a couple. Typically, the <b>H</b>igh <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (<b>HDP</b>) will start initiating more often for sex and after being rejected a multitude of times they can then become even less desirable because they put all the blame on the partner. Some will go even further and stop putting any type of effort into seducing their lover when they want sex, yet still blame their spouse.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>The HDP\'s Position</b></h4>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">The HDP does this to protect himself from feeling the hurt of rejection. When we\'ve been rejected on numerous occasions for sex from our partner we start to doubt our desirability. We tend to choose to put less effort into flirting with our spouse, because when we give all that we\'ve got and they still turn us down, it hurts even more. So the standard outcome is to start asking for sex from the <b>L</b>ow <b>D</b>esire <b>P</b>artner (<b>LDP</b>) rather than creating sexual desire in them by being desirable ourselves.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>The LDP\'s Position</b></h4>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Now at a first glance, we might think that the LDP has the better position right? They are satisfied and get the frequency of sex they want and they have the control. Which is what the HDP tells them frequently, sometimes. Not so fast! Neither position in the couple, really feels comfortable. The LDP constantly has to put their limits towards their partner and respect themselves even when sometimes being barraged with name calling. They can feel inadequate and afraid to lose their partner because of it. Sometimes, they don\'t like the sex they are having and don\'t want to hurt their partners feelings by telling them, so they try to avoid it. Most of the time, they don\'t feel they have control, because they are being bombarded by questions, accusations from their partner, which might lead them to offer <b>pity sex</b>.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<table style=\"margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;\" cellspacing=\"0\" cellpadding=\"0\" align=\"center\">\r\n<tbody>\r\n<tr>\r\n<td style=\"text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;\" href=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-9PrQdEI2KiM/UzMeJxhJ7RI/AAAAAAAAAR8/r1AbdQtslIc/s1600/badsex.jpg\"><img title=\"Pity sex\" src=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-9PrQdEI2KiM/UzMeJxhJ7RI/AAAAAAAAAR8/r1AbdQtslIc/s1600/badsex.jpg\" alt=\"sexual desire issues, sexologist montreal\" width=\"320\" height=\"173\" border=\"0\" /></a></td>\r\n</tr>\r\n<tr>\r\n<td style=\"text-align: center;\">Pity sex...should you really accept it?</td>\r\n</tr>\r\n</tbody>\r\n</table>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>Pity Sex</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Most couples will not want to admit they have pity sex, but it\'s probably the most common in long-term relationships where partners haven\'t dealt properly with their HDP and LDP dynamics. An unworked sexual desire issue between spouses brings <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/unhealthy-relationship-patterns.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">alliance issues</a> into the couple. Let us look more deeply into the pity sex dynamic. It is defined as offering sex we do not want to our partner because we are afraid of losing them or we just want them to stop asking profusely for sex or to avoid another conflict about the situation. As you might imagine, pity sex is the worst type of sex you can offer and get in a relationship. It is neither fun nor pleasurable for either people. The LDP is rarely if not at all participating in this type of sexual activity, which the HDP obviously sees or feels. The LDP might even make such remarks as: «let\'s get this over with» and the like.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">What is even more surprising in this situation, is not only does the LDP offer such awful sex, the HDP accepts it. Their way of thinking is: «well...if I don\'t take this...I won\'t get any at all». This is where they\'re shooting themselves in the foot. Not only is accepting pity sex from a spouse a lack of respect to themselves, it\'s a lack of respect to their partner as well. Think about it for a second: Why should your partner put any effort into sex if you\'re willing to take anything that is given to you. This lack of respect of self, makes a person truly undesirable. Second, if the partner doesn\'t feel like they\'re respected because they are seen as a piece of meat their spouse just wants to have sex with, don\'t expect them to do it for very long or even enjoy sex. This dynamic also makes the LDP feel undesirable to themselves, and therefore lacks sexual desire, because they lack integrity.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<table style=\"margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto; text-align: center;\" cellspacing=\"0\" cellpadding=\"0\" align=\"center\">\r\n<tbody>\r\n<tr>\r\n<td style=\"text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;\" href=\"http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-krVOEbH1l_s/UzMeYa_LiDI/AAAAAAAAASE/gc6ItECsuQA/s1600/bad+sex+masturbation.jpg\"><img title=\"Bad sex\" src=\"http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-krVOEbH1l_s/UzMeYa_LiDI/AAAAAAAAASE/gc6ItECsuQA/s1600/bad+sex+masturbation.jpg\" alt=\"low desire issues, sexologist montreal, sex therapist\" width=\"240\" height=\"320\" border=\"0\" /></a></td>\r\n</tr>\r\n<tr>\r\n<td style=\"text-align: center;\">Yes, if you want to keep having bad sex!!</td>\r\n</tr>\r\n</tbody>\r\n</table>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"color: black; font-family: Times; font-size: medium; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: normal; text-align: start; text-indent: 0px;\">\r\n<div style=\"margin: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small; text-align: justify;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">READ THE NEXT CHAPTER</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/03/getting-yourself-together-promotes-sexual-desire.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><b><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Getting Yourself Together, Promotes Sexual Desire!: </span></b><span style=\"font-family: Verdana; font-size: 16pt;\">Overcoming The Fear of Rejection</span></span></a>', 'Different Levels of Sexual Desire Between Partners in a Couple', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '54-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-07 16:33:46', '2017-06-07 14:33:46', '', 54, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/54-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(55, 1, '2014-02-08 17:25:00', '2014-02-08 16:25:00', '<h3 style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; margin: 0px;\"><b>Steps to follow: </b></h3>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">It is possible to use either <a href=\"http://www.skype.com/en/\">Skype,</a> <a href=\"https://www.apple.com/ca/mac/facetime/\">Facetime</a>, or <a href=\"http://zoom.us\">Zoom</a> as a program.</div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">\r\n<ol>\r\n 	<li style=\"margin: 0px 0px 0.25em; padding: 0px;\">We decide on a date and time by email or by phone.</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"margin: 0px 0px 0.25em; padding: 0px;\">You fill out the registration form that you resend by email.</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"margin: 0px 0px 0.25em; padding: 0px;\">We will need to add each other to the chosen program to be able to connect on the day of the session.</li>\r\n 	<li style=\"margin: 0px 0px 0.25em; padding: 0px;\">At the time and date scheduled, I will send you a request to start the video session.</li>\r\n</ol>\r\n</div>\r\n<h3 style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; margin: 0px;\"></h3>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<b>\r\n</b><b>\r\n</b>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-tSMxUj3S4QM/VOs9zpUm1cI/AAAAAAAAAk0/RsbQvgi7gbI/s1600/online%2Bconsultation.jpg\"><img src=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-tSMxUj3S4QM/VOs9zpUm1cI/AAAAAAAAAk0/RsbQvgi7gbI/s1600/online%2Bconsultation.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"177\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n<b> </b>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<b>\r\n</b><b>\r\n</b><b>\r\n</b><b></b>\r\n<a name=\"more\"></a><b>\r\n</b><b>\r\n</b>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<h3 style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; margin: 0px;\">Method of payment: E-transfer Interac</h3>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">It is possible to pay by email bank transfer</div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"> This requires that you log into your Internet bank account and send a fund transfer of the amount of 100$  at the following email address:</div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\">\r\n<div style=\"color: #575757;\"><a style=\"color: #4d469c; text-decoration: none;\" href=\"mailto:sexologue.f.renaud@gmail.com\"><b>sexologue.f.renaud@gmail.com</b></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"color: #575757;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">\r\n\r\nYou can follow the procedure depending on your bank:\r\n\r\n<a href=\"http://www.desjardins.com/ca/personal/accounts-services/ways-to-bank/online/transfer-money-between-accounts/index.jsp\">Caisse Desjardins</a>\r\n\r\n<span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\"><a href=\"http://www.scotiabank.com/ca/en/0,,2820,00.html\">Scotia Bank</a></span>\r\n\r\n<a href=\"https://www.bmo.com/pccgprefix/olb/help-centre/en/my-payments/e-transfers/send-transfer.html\">BMO<span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\"> Bank</span></a>\r\n<span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\">\r\n</span><a href=\"http://www.tdcanadatrust.com/products-services/banking/electronic-banking/ways-to-send-money/email-transfer.jsp\"><span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\">TD</span><span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\"> Bank</span></a>\r\n<span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\">\r\n</span><a href=\"https://www.cibc.com/ca/student-life/products/email-money-transfer.html\"><span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\">CIBC</span><span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\"> Bank</span></a>\r\n<span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\">\r\n</span><a href=\"http://www.rbcroyalbank.com/products/deposits/interac-e-transfer.html\"><span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\">RBC</span><span style=\"line-height: 24.2666683197022px;\"> Bank</span></a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\">You are required to pay before the session that we have established together. If you have any other questions, don\'t hesitate to <a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.com/en/pages/contact\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">contact me</a>.</div>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<h3><b>To learn more about the <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/01/therapeutic-process-with-a-sex-therapist.html\">process and unfolding of a session</a> with a sex therapist or sexologist </b></h3>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"background-color: white; color: #575757; font-family: Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif; font-size: 17px; line-height: 24.26666831970215px;\"></div>', 'Procedure for a webcam session', '', 'trash', 'open', 'open', '', 'procedure-for-a-webcam-session__trashed', '', '\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/01/therapeutic-process-with-a-sex-therapist.html', '2020-10-18 06:24:18', '2020-10-18 04:24:18', '', 0, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/02/procedure-for-a-webcam-session.html', 0, 'post', '', 1),
(56, 1, '2014-01-12 19:27:00', '2014-01-12 18:27:00', '<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>How does therapy work?</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">The sessions are normally scheduled once every week, which allows gaining momentum in the therapy work you’ve begun.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">The length of the therapy cannot be determined by your sexual, emotional or relationship difficulty since every individual has a different degree of motivation, complexity and their dynamic is unique to themselves.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Therapy sessions can either be done individually or as a couple.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">It is also possible to do therapy <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/02/procedure-for-a-webcam-session.html\">in the comfort of your home via webcam</a>.</div>\r\n<div></div>\r\n<div>\r\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Typically, sex therapy can last up to 10 to 15 sessions on a weekly basis. This can either be shorter or longer depending on the severity of the issue and your implication in the process. Frequency can be stretched out depending on the need, availability or financial resources of the person.</span></p>\r\n<p class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\">Sex therapy is similar to any other type of psychotherapy with a health professional. We explore in the first session the situation and access what are the underlying issues at hand and the objectives you want to achieve. We tend to go deeper into future sessions to really grasp and understand the issues that were targeted to eventually find solutions and remedy the situation.</span></p>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>First session</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">The first session allows evaluating your reason for consultation, your objectives and expectations. With this information, the sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist can clarify the manner in which the subsequent sessions will proceed according to your individual and/or couple needs.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">This session is also essential in determining if you are comfortable with and trust your sex therapist. It is important to choose your sex therapist according to their personality, their approach and interactions between you and them during this initial encounter.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">It is important to consider that therapy can be confrontational and uncomfortable at times and that it will allow you to progress in your process.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-jyeOpeFJJY4/UtLQJ_8CN-I/AAAAAAAAALU/EapPVxf59ms/s1600/PA050001.JPG\"><img src=\"http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-jyeOpeFJJY4/UtLQJ_8CN-I/AAAAAAAAALU/EapPVxf59ms/s1600/PA050001.JPG\" width=\"320\" height=\"240\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>Following sessions</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Your sex therapist will gather more detailed information concerning your sexual and/or relationship difficulty that brought you to consult in the first place. The goal is to determine and understand your dynamic and the reasons you are facing these difficulties. Following these hypotheses, you will be able to establish with the sex therapist your objectives and ways of overcoming your difficulties.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>After </b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Once the comprehension of the sexual problems is finished, the following sessions help you to achieve your goals by overcoming your limits. This step tends to be particularly difficult for some people and the results are determined by your motivation and resilience at tolerating the anxiety that is inevitable when it comes to change.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>The last step</b></h3>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">This step consists of doing a summary of the results of sex therapy. Before ending the therapy, the sex therapist &amp; psychotherapist ensures that you have integrated all the therapeutic gains that have been worked on so that you can independently deal with future issues autonomously. It is always possible to slowly space out the sessions at the end to facilitate the process.</div>', 'Therapeutic process with a sex therapist', '', 'trash', 'open', 'open', '', 'therapeutic-process-with-a-sex-therapist__trashed', '', '\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/02/procedure-for-a-webcam-session.html', '2020-10-18 06:24:21', '2020-10-18 04:24:21', '', 0, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2014/01/therapeutic-process-with-a-sex-therapist.html', 0, 'post', '', 3),
(287, 2, '2017-06-07 16:48:58', '2017-06-07 14:48:58', '<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>How does therapy work?</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">The sessions are normally scheduled once every week, which allows gaining momentum in the therapy work you’ve begun.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">The length of the therapy cannot be determined by your sexual, emotional or relationship difficulty, since every individual has a different degree of motivation, complexity and their dynamic unique to themselves.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Therapy sessions can either be done individually or as a couple.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">\r\nIt is also possible to do therapy <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2014/02/procedure-for-a-webcam-session.html\">in the comfort of your home via webcam</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>First session</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">The first session allows to evaluate your reason of consultation, your objectives and expectations. With this information, the sexologist &amp; psychotherapist can clarify the manner in which the subsequent sessions will proceed according to your individual and/or couple needs.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">This session is also essential in determining if you are comfortable with and trust your therapist. It is important to choose your sexologist according to his personality, his approach and interactions between you and him during this initial encounter.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">It is important to consider that therapy can be confrontational and uncomfortable at times and that it will allow you to progress in your process.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-jyeOpeFJJY4/UtLQJ_8CN-I/AAAAAAAAALU/EapPVxf59ms/s1600/PA050001.JPG\"><img src=\"http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-jyeOpeFJJY4/UtLQJ_8CN-I/AAAAAAAAALU/EapPVxf59ms/s1600/PA050001.JPG\" width=\"320\" height=\"240\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>Following sessions</b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Your therapist will gather more detailed information concerning your sexual and/or relationship difficulty that brought you to consult in the first place. The goal is to determine and understand your dynamic and the reasons you are facing these difficulties. Following these hypotheses, you will be able to establish with the sex-therapist objectives and ways of overcoming your difficulties.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>After </b></h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">Once the comprehension of the sexual problems are finished, the following sessions help you to achieve your goals by overcoming your limits. This step tends to be particularly difficult for some people and the results are determined by your motivation and resilience at tolerating anxiety that is inevitable when it comes to change.</div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: justify;\"><b>The last step</b></h3>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\">This step consists of doing a summary of the results of the therapy. Before ending the therapy, the sexologist &amp; psychotherapist ensures that you have integrated all the therapeutic gains that have been worked on so that you can independently deal with future issues autonomously. It is always possible to slowly space out the sessions at the end to facilitate the process.</div>', 'Therapeutic process with a sex-therapist', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '56-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-07 16:48:58', '2017-06-07 14:48:58', '', 56, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/56-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(57, 1, '2013-08-21 15:01:00', '2013-08-21 13:01:00', '&nbsp;\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #333333; float: none; font-family: \'lucida grande\', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 18px; text-align: left; text-indent: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\">SEX, baseball &amp; PIZZA</span></span></h4>\r\n<br style=\"background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: \'lucida grande\', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.142857551574707px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 18px; text-align: left; text-indent: 0px;\" /><br style=\"background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: \'lucida grande\', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.142857551574707px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 18px; text-align: left; text-indent: 0px;\" /><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #333333; float: none; font-family: \'lucida grande\', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.142857551574707px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 18px; text-align: left; text-indent: 0px;\">A MUST WATCH!</span>\r\n\r\n\r\nHow can changing our perception of sexuality in a simple manner so that we have more satisfactory sex lives.\r\n\r\nThis video explains how we\'ve being going at it all wrong for many years.\r\n\r\n\r\n<br style=\"background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: \'lucida grande\', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.142857551574707px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 18px; text-align: left; text-indent: 0px;\" /><br style=\"background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: \'lucida grande\', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.142857551574707px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 18px; text-align: left; text-indent: 0px;\" /><a style=\"background-color: white; color: #3b5998; cursor: pointer; font-family: \'lucida grande\', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.142857551574707px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 18px; text-align: left; text-decoration: underline; text-indent: 0px;\" href=\"http://www.ted.com/talks/al_vernacchio_sex_needs_a_new_metaphor_here_s_one.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow nofollow noopener noreferrer\">http://www.ted.com/talks/al_vernacchio_sex_needs_a_new_metaphor_here_s_one.html</a>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\">BASEBALL PERSPECTIVE OF SEX</h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Competitive</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Loser-winner situation</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Externaly-control</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Ruled bound</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Goal directed</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\">PIZZA PERSPECTIVE OF SEX</h3>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Inclusive</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Communicative</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">pleasure oriented</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Internal-control</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Cooperative</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Invites exploration</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n&nbsp;', 'Change the paradigm of sex!', '', 'publish', 'open', 'open', '', 'change-the-paradigm-of-sex', '', '', '2017-10-20 03:02:45', '2017-10-20 01:02:45', '', 0, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2013/08/change-the-paradigm-of-sex.html', 0, 'post', '', 0),
(418, 2, '2017-10-20 03:02:45', '2017-10-20 01:02:45', '&nbsp;\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #333333; float: none; font-family: \'lucida grande\', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 18px; text-align: left; text-indent: 0px;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\">SEX, baseball &amp; PIZZA</span></span></h4>\r\n<br style=\"background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: \'lucida grande\', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.142857551574707px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 18px; text-align: left; text-indent: 0px;\" /><br style=\"background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: \'lucida grande\', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.142857551574707px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 18px; text-align: left; text-indent: 0px;\" /><span style=\"background-color: white; color: #333333; float: none; font-family: \'lucida grande\', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.142857551574707px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 18px; text-align: left; text-indent: 0px;\">A MUST WATCH!</span>\r\n\r\n\r\nHow can changing our perception of sexuality in a simple manner so that we have more satisfactory sex lives.\r\n\r\nThis video explains how we\'ve being going at it all wrong for many years.\r\n\r\n\r\n<br style=\"background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: \'lucida grande\', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.142857551574707px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 18px; text-align: left; text-indent: 0px;\" /><br style=\"background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: \'lucida grande\', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.142857551574707px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 18px; text-align: left; text-indent: 0px;\" /><a style=\"background-color: white; color: #3b5998; cursor: pointer; font-family: \'lucida grande\', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 13.142857551574707px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; letter-spacing: normal; line-height: 18px; text-align: left; text-decoration: underline; text-indent: 0px;\" href=\"http://www.ted.com/talks/al_vernacchio_sex_needs_a_new_metaphor_here_s_one.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"nofollow nofollow noopener noreferrer\">http://www.ted.com/talks/al_vernacchio_sex_needs_a_new_metaphor_here_s_one.html</a>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\">BASEBALL PERSPECTIVE OF SEX</h3>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Competitive</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Loser-winner situation</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Externaly-control</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Ruled bound</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Goal directed</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"text-align: center;\">PIZZA PERSPECTIVE OF SEX</h3>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Inclusive</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Communicative</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">pleasure oriented</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Internal-control</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Cooperative</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\">Invites exploration</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n&nbsp;\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n&nbsp;', 'Change the paradigm of sex!', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '57-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-10-20 03:02:45', '2017-10-20 01:02:45', '', 57, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/10/57-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(58, 1, '2013-06-15 04:17:00', '2013-06-15 02:17:00', '<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"> <span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><i><b>The underlying issue in couples*</b></i></span></span></span></h1>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Couples fight and it\'s always going to be that way, it\'s inevitable. It\'s not the most fun thing to do with the love of our life. We would all prefer that we all get along and we live happily ever after. Unfortunately and fortunately that is not how it works. People can\'t agree on everything especially when it\'s truly important to who we are and how we act. Our sense of self or commonly know as our identity plays a huge role in our romantic relationships. We can\'t always agree to disagree with our partner, because sometimes you only have one choice, you have to choose and you need to put aside the other choice. Sacrifices are needed in relationships and these tend to create lots of arguments in relationships. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Couples have conflicts on a regular basis and that is totally fine. What really matters is how you deal with them. It\'s not rare to find partners in a battle on a specific subject which neither of them wants to be wrong about or wants to let go of their point of view of the situation. They are both emotionally attached to their perception of the situation and each contradicts the other ones. This is called <b>emotional gridlock! </b><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">The symptoms of this are the following:</span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\">Repetitive arguments</li>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">quickly get frustrated about a topic or argument</span></span></li>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Feelings of being misunderstood</span></span></li>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Thinking that we are entirely right and their entirely wrong</span></span></li>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Not reflecting on what the other is saying, but of our next argument</span></span></li>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Our only goal is to prove our point and be right</span></span></li>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Ignoring the other person to hurt feelings</span></span></li>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">and the list goes on!</span></span></li>\r\n</ul>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">Most will say that there is </span><span style=\"color: blue;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">missing or lacking communication, which is false</a></span></span><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">. Partners understand each other very well in theses situations, as they\'ve been repeating each other over and over again. Each of them could repeat by heart what their partner\'s arguments word for word. </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">They just don\'t agree with them</span></u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">. This is where the emotional gridlock plays a huge role. If one of them had to agree with the other, they would have to change who they are as a person or their perspective of themselves, which affects their sense of self. In other words, it\'s a battle of their integrity. </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">They are also avoiding at the same time making a decision about their situation. They are facing what we call a </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">2 choice dilemma</span></u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">: Having to choose between two opposing circumstances which obliges the loss of the advantages of the one that isn\'t chosen. So we can understand why each partner is holding on to their end of the blanket. </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>How Do We Get Out of The Emotional Gridlock</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">This is where things get really hard for the couple and when at least <u>one </u>partner needs to have a strong <span style=\"color: blue;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">4 points of balance</a></span> to get pass the dilemma that the couple is facing. It requires a lot of maturity, a capacity to self-confront, to accept half-truths, to avoid holding a grudge, to grow and change as a person. It\'s important not to mistake this for a compromise or a lack of integrity, but a complete change in the dynamic of the couple. It only takes one partner to do it and that is why it\'s actually so hard. It leaves the one that does change completely vulnerable, as they are openly admitting they didn\'t have the entire truth and they are losing their choice in the dilemma. They went beyond their emotions and saw further than their own needs. They took a chance to grow as a person and they grasp it, even though it could have backfired on them. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Emotional gridlock is the battle of the wills of a couple, of each individual\'s integrity and sense of self (identity). It takes a lot of courage for a person to come out of that in a way that they are not losing who they are, but becoming someone better. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Productive Conflicts</b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Romantic relationships have the capacity to bring the worse in people, but it also allows to bring the best in each partner as well. It\'s undeniable that staying with the same person for a long time is going to bring challenges. Each individual has choices that they can make. One of them is showing the best of themselves and growing in the process or they can stay stuck in their emotional gridlock and remain unsatisfied in their relationship. The choice seems obvious, but actually growing and redefining who you are is one of the hardest things a person can achieve in their lives. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Other related articles:</b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Redefine your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality Part 1</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Two Very Different Types of Intimacy Part 2</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How Intimacy Affects Sexual Desire Part 3</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The 4 Points of Balance Part 4</a></u></span></span>\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;\">\r\n</span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>', 'Emotional Gridlock', '', 'publish', 'open', 'open', '', 'emotional-gridlock', '', 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html\nhttp://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html', '2017-09-29 20:47:34', '2017-09-29 18:47:34', '', 0, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html', 0, 'post', '', 7);
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(291, 2, '2017-06-07 16:54:35', '2017-06-07 14:54:35', '&nbsp;\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><i><b>The underlying issue in couples*</b></i></span></span></span></h4>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Couples fight and it\'s always going to be that way, it\'s inevitable. It\'s not the most fun thing to do with the love of our life. We would all prefer that we all get along and we live happily ever after. Unfortunately and fortunately that is not how it works. People can\'t agree on everything especially when it\'s truly important to who we are and how we act. Our sense of self or commonly know as our identity plays a huge role in our romantic relationships. We can\'t always agree to disagree with our partner, because sometimes you only have one choice, you have to choose and you need to put aside the other choice. Sacrifices are needed in relationships and these tend to create lots of arguments in relationships. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Couples have conflicts on a regular basis and that is totally fine. What really matters is how you deal with them. It\'s not rare to find partners in a battle on a specific subject which neither of them wants to be wrong about or wants to let go of their point of view of the situation. They are both emotionally attached to their perception of the situation and each contradicts the other ones. This is called <b>emotional gridlock! </b><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">The symptoms of this are the following:</span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<ul>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\">Repetitive arguments</li>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">quickly get frustrated about a topic or argument</span></span></li>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Feelings of being misunderstood</span></span></li>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Thinking that we are entirely right and their entirely wrong</span></span></li>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Not reflecting on what the other is saying, but of our next argument</span></span></li>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Our only goal is to prove our point and be right</span></span></li>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Ignoring the other person to hurt feelings</span></span></li>\r\n 	<li lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">and the list goes on!</span></span></li>\r\n</ul>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-UGEs5b3ZShk/UbvOb_ikoUI/AAAAAAAAAKw/b2LPBrlkK7M/s1600/iStock_000019759343XSmall.jpg\"><img src=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-UGEs5b3ZShk/UbvOb_ikoUI/AAAAAAAAAKw/b2LPBrlkK7M/s320/iStock_000019759343XSmall.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"212\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: xx-small;\">What emotional gridlock can feel like sometimes</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-align: center;\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">Most will say that there is </span><span style=\"color: blue;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><a href=\"http://sexcoupletherapy.blogspot.ca/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">missing or lacking communication, which is false</a></span></span><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">. Partners understand each other very well in theses situations, as they\'ve been repeating each other over and over again. Each of them could repeat by heart what their partner\'s arguments word for word. </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">They just don\'t agree with them</span></u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">. This is where the emotional gridlock plays a huge role. If one of them had to agree with the other, they would have to change who they are as a person or their perspective of themselves, which affects their sense of self. In other words, it\'s a battle of their integrity. </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">They are also avoiding at the same time making a decision about their situation. They are facing what we call a </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">2 choice dilemma</span></u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">: Having to choose between two opposing circumstances which obliges the loss of the advantages of the one that isn\'t chosen. So we can understand why each partner is holding on to their end of the blanket. </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>How Do We Get Out of The Emotional Gridlock</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">This is where things get really hard for the couple and when at least <u>one </u>partner needs to have a strong <span style=\"color: blue;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">4 points of balance</a></span> to get pass the dilemma that the couple is facing. It requires a lot of maturity, a capacity to self-confront, to accept half-truths, to avoid holding a grudge, to grow and change as a person. It\'s important not to mistake this for a compromise or a lack of integrity, but a complete change in the dynamic of the couple. It only takes one partner to do it and that is why it\'s actually so hard. It leaves the one that does change completely vulnerable, as they are openly admitting they didn\'t have the entire truth and they are losing their choice in the dilemma. They went beyond their emotions and saw further than their own needs. They took a chance to grow as a person and they grasp it, even though it could have backfired on them. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Emotional gridlock is the battle of the wills of a couple, of each individual\'s integrity and sense of self (identity). It takes a lot of courage for a person to come out of that in a way that they are not losing who they are, but becoming someone better. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Productive Conflicts</b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Romantic relationships have the capacity to bring the worse in people, but it also allows to bring the best in each partner as well. It\'s undeniable that staying with the same person for a long time is going to bring challenges. Each individual has choices that they can make. One of them is showing the best of themselves and growing in the process or they can stay stuck in their emotional gridlock and remain unsatisfied in their relationship. The choice seems obvious, but actually growing and redefining who you are is one of the hardest things a person can achieve in their lives. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Other related articles:</b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Redefine your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality Part 1</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Two Very Different Types of Intimacy Part 2</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How Intimacy Affects Sexual Desire Part 3</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The 4 Points of Balance Part 4</a></u></span></span>\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;\">\r\n</span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>', 'Emotional Gridlock', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '58-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-06-07 16:54:35', '2017-06-07 14:54:35', '', 58, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/06/58-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0),
(59, 1, '2013-06-15 04:09:00', '2013-06-15 02:09:00', '&nbsp;\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b>The 4 Points of Balance*</b></span></span></h4>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Tolerating <span style=\"color: blue;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">self-validated intimacy</a></span> is hard for everyone. It obliges us to maintain a <u>strong sense of self</u>, to <u>self-sooth</u>, have a <u>grounded responses</u> and a <u>meaningful endurance</u>. Each of these 4 points allows a person to maintain balance in the relationship so they grow as an individual and as a partner. When one of these fail, <a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">other validated intimacy</a> takes place and conflicts eventually ensue. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Solid flexible self</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Our sense of self, has a huge impact on our ability to self-disclose personal and intimate information to our partner. It is the way we perceive ourselves in our identity. Who am I? What am I like? What are my values and beliefs? How do I want to be treated? What am I looking for in a partner and in sex? </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Some people have overly flexible selves which means they constantly change who they are depending on the context they are faced with. This is where other validated intimacy comes into play. These types of people will adapt to others so they don\'t feel rejected. They won\'t express what they really think or feel not to bother, upset or start a conflict with others. They are centered towards pleasing other people. Hence, they don\'t have an identity of their own. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">When it comes to sexuality, they won\'t discuss their sexual preferences, talk about sexual fantasies, show who they are sexually, because they don\'t really know or don\'t want other people to know. Quickly enough, sex becomes a routine and they won\'t open up on their possible sexual dissatisfaction. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">There is also the opposite of the continuum where people are rigid in the way they present themselves. They can\'t tolerate differences in their partners. They impose their way of thinking, acting and being. They perceive differences as a threat to their sense of self because it obliges them to reflect on themselves and possibly change their perceptions. This in itself is a huge difficulty to people who are rigid in their sense of self. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Someone who is balanced in this aspect has a good sense of who they are as individuals and are proud of who they are. At the same time they are capable of letting others in their world without feeling threatened. They have the capacity of self-reflection and confrontation and open up to differences and possibly change their perception of things. They are willing to explore new things and change and grow as a person. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Calm heart and calm mind</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Faced with an intimate context it is not always easy to deal with all the emotions that we are feeling. Our bodies react in all different kinds of ways and our feelings can be hurt in the process. This brings people to have all kinds of thoughts in their mind, which aren\'t always the nicest things to say. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">For example, when someone isn\'t entirely satisfied with the sex they\'ve been having and tell their partner. For one, it can be hard to say those things to the person they love and cherish, because they know that it will hurt them. Secondly the other has to deal with the fact that their sexual competencies aren\'t as good as they thought. This has an impact on their sense of self which might bring the person to become rigid or flexible towards the other partner. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">A person\'s capacity to self-sooth and calm themselves down allows them to tolerate the anxiety provoked during intense intimate moments with their partner. People who don\'t have that capacity either avoid intimacy all together so there won\'t be any conflicts or they become explosive when interacting with their partner, because they\'ve been hurt. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Grounded responses</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">In therapy, we hear many couples saying that their arguments turn in circles and never get resolved. It\'s not because there is <span style=\"color: blue;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">missing or lacking communication;</a></span><span style=\"color: black;\"> it\'s that the persons are not willing to agree with their partner. This leads to an </span><span style=\"color: blue;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">emotional gridlock</a> </span><span style=\"color: black;\">and the couple has unproductive arguments because they\'re avoiding the real issue. The more we become intimate with each other the more we realize that we have differences, which can be quite fundamental to someone\'s sense of self. </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">When couples fight about sexuality, for instance the frequency of sex; they are faced with 2 choices: </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><b>Having sex or not having sex</b></span><span style=\"color: black;\">. One partner wants it the other one doesn\'t. This is where a decision needs to be made, which most couples stall or avoid making entirely. You cannot </span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u>have sex </u></span><span style=\"color: black;\">and </span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u>not have it </u></span><span style=\"color: black;\">at the same time. It\'s one or the other! This is where most people lose their grounded response, because they want so badly what THEY want, they say almost anything to get it, even though it makes no sense, they scream and shout at each other or completely ignore their partners to send them the message that they don\'t care. </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">A <u>grounded response</u> is when a person takes the time to reflect on the situation before saying whatever goes through their minds. They were able to comfort themselves and are thinking of a <u>mature </u>response to give so that the conflict becomes a productive one. The person that has mastered this point of balance takes the time to listen to what the other has to say and gives a well reflected and grounded response to their partner. They are not seeking to be right, but to grow as a person in this dilemma and understand their partner better, while still maintaining their sense of self (Integrity).</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Meaningful Endurance</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">When faced with a conflict, partners have to decide if they are going to work it through or terminate the relationship because they are incompatible. Differences create strain between lovers, because it requires that we tolerate certain aspects that are not always pleasing to live with. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Depending on the type of dynamic that a couple has, some will avoid taboo subjects not to get into fights so not to threaten the relationship. There is a status quo that is established and nobody is willing to touch it, even though one or both partners are unhappy with how things are developing between them. For example, not telling a partner that sex is dull and needs a boost and enduring the lack of sexual satisfaction rather than dealing with the issue which entails getting out of our sexual comfort zone and become more intimate. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">The other possible reaction is that when faced with differences it immediately puts an end to the couple so that they don\'t have to face the uncomfortable interactions that would ensue if they were to deal with the sexually intimate issues. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Tolerating the anxiety that stems from self-validated intimacy is hard for women and men alike. There are times in long term relationships that are though and you just want to give up, pack your bags and go home. These times are when we test our limits, can learn to mature and grow as a person and as a couple. The anxiety of not knowing if you are going to get through this and that you may be <span style=\"color: blue;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/03/why-its-hard-to-truly-commit-to-our.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">wasting your time and part of your life</a></span> trying to work things out can break many couples up. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">People who have meaningful endurance give it their best shot. They self-confront, self-sooth and act in a mature way, all the while tolerating the anxiety, uncomfortable and difficult times that every long term couple needs to face one day or the other. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">\r\n</span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">\r\n</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span>\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">\r\n</span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>READ MORE ON: <u>Sexual Intimacy &amp; Sexual Desire</u></b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Redefine your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality Part 1</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Two Very Different Types of Intimacy Part 2</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How Intimacy Affects Sexual Desire Part 3</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u> </u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Other related articles:</b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/03/why-its-hard-to-truly-commit-to-our.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Why It\'s Truly Hard to Commit to Our Relationships</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Emotional Gridlock</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">A Lack of Sexual Desire is Good for Your Couple!</a></span></span></span></u></span></span></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Couple’s Communication Issues or Unable to Tolerate Intimacy?</a></span></span></span></span></span></h3>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; 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(60, 1, '2013-06-15 03:58:00', '2013-06-15 01:58:00', '&nbsp;\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b>How Intimacy Effects Our Sexual Desire*</b></span></span></h4>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b> </b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">When our relationship is based on <span style=\"color: #0084d1;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">other validated intimacy</a></span>, we inevitably hit an obstacle in our sexual maturity. If we are only willing to self-disclose a part of ourselves to our partner we\'re limiting the level of intimacy the couple can share. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Limiting our sexual maturity</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: #0084d1;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Sexual desire</a></span> in a long-term relationship can be affected by a number of elements in the dynamic of a couple. First and foremost sexual desire stays alive in couples who are capable of reinventing themselves, trying new things, experimenting sexual fantasies and introducing a different dynamic in their sex lives. It\'s also people who are not afraid to look silly, laugh and can tolerate sexual awkwardness. When our couple uses other validated intimacy, we\'re afraid to do any of those things because they might bring rejection or judgment on the part of the partner, which other validated couples avoid at all cost because that hurts.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Avoid stagnation</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Consequently, we find couples who have stagnated in their capacity to mature sexually and a routine is instated. Nothing kills sexual desire more than being able to predict every aspect of how we are going to have sex with someone. Sexual desire exudes when there is adventure, newness, surprise and strong emotions. Routine sex is good to make you feel comfortable and loved, but it lacks the capacity to excite and bring desire towards our partners. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Admire to desire</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Another aspect that impacts sexual desire is our capacity to tolerate vulnerabilities in ourselves and in our partner. A component of sexual desire is admiration towards the other. If there is a lack thereof, then little desire can exist between two people. How can couples be vulnerable in front of each other by admitting their mistakes, showing their issues and faults without killing the admiration they have for each other? </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Admitting our limits takes a lot of personal strength which is admirable in itself, but there is still a step further people need to go through. After putting ourselves in that vulnerable state, it\'s important to learn from it and grow as a human being and a partner. When we witness our lover struggling at becoming a better person, we can take pride and admire being with such a man or woman. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Get your sex appeal on!</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: #0084d1;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/relationship-patterns-and-seduction.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Seduction </a></span>is also an element that impacts sexual desire in couples. Most long-term couples tend to take for granted their partner after a while and they don\'t feel the need to seduce and flirt anymore. Seducing our partner is required if we want to keep the flames of passion between each other. Flirting allows the couple to have fun, laugh, play and sexualize their encounters, which grants the promise of sex in the near future. If we don\'t play the game, we can\'t expect to win the prize! </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">The downside of seducing our partner is that they may end up not wanting sex at the end, which can leave one partner frustrated or rejected at having put so much effort. People who <span style=\"background: transparent;\">cultivate </span>other validated intimacy will withdraw from flirting to avoid getting hurt again. Couples who are capable of validating themselves will try again and see it as a challenge to woo their partner next time. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Hence, intimacy is intricately related to the level of sexual desire that will be shared between partners. We need to heighten our intimacy by cultivating our sexual development, seducing our partner and growing as a person! </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>READ MORE  ON: <u>Sexual Intimacy &amp; Sexual Desire</u></b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Redefine your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality Part 1</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Two Very Different Types of Intimacy Part 2</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The 4 Points of Balance Part 4</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Other related articles:</b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/03/why-its-hard-to-truly-commit-to-our.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Why It\'s Truly Hard to Commit to Our Relationships</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Emotional Gridlock</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">A Lack of Sexual Desire is Good for Your Couple!</a></span></span></span></u></span></span></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Couple’s Communication Issues or Unable to Tolerate Intimacy?</a></span></span></span></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n\r\n<style type=\"text/css\">\r\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br />	/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />	   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br /></style>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"position: absolute; 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(61, 1, '2013-06-15 03:55:00', '2013-06-15 01:55:00', '&nbsp;\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b>Two Very Different Types of Intimacy*</b></span></span></h4>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b> </b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Intimacy and couple\'s dynamic</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Every couple is unique in the way they are intimate with each other. It is determined by each partner\'s individual experience and need for intimacy with their lover and also the dynamic that develops during the relationship. As we get to know each other better, we either appreciate the parts they are self-disclosing or find out things that we would have preferred not to know. This is where the couple dynamic with intimacy starts to form itself. When someone is self-disclosing to their partner, there is an inevitable reaction on both ends. The first reaction comes from the partner receiving the self-disclosure, which can be either acceptance or rejection of the new element that is being introduced. The second counter-reaction comes from the person that self-discloses, who then evaluates if it was a good or bad idea to share this intimate information with their lover. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Reciprocal Intimacy</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">This type of intimacy is what our society tends to promote in the media and amongst friends and family. It is the safe form of intimacy where we only self-disclose personal information that we know our partner will accept and not reject us (sexual fantasies, seducing in a different manner, proposing a new sexual style, etc.). We also expect the other to reciprocate immediately afterwards, so we don\'t put ourselves in too much of a vulnerable position with them.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> Sounds great at first glance. No one gets hurt, we don\'t have to be too vulnerable and it feels like an equal relationship; in other words SAFE. We also call this type of intimacy “other validated intimacy”, which means you are searching for validation from the other when you self-disclose. We can\'t BE who we truly are unless our partner accepts us that way. Hence, we hide behind this false image of who we are so that we don\'t feel rejected. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">On the other hand, we can easily see how in the long run this can become problematic. If we are only willing to divulge as much information as your partner is willing to accept with open arms, it comes to a point where the couple stagnates in their growth as individuals. If we are only willing to talk about issues that won\'t make us potentially feel rejection or hurt our partner, it leads to major conflicts in the couple never being addressed.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">For example, sex hasn\'t been the best lately, but we don\'t tell our partner to avoid hurting their feelings. On the same front, we don\'t try to change the sexual dynamic because we are afraid we\'ll be judged by our partner of our sexual preferences. We are afraid they\'ll reject us, laugh at us, or even humiliate us. This path inevitably leads to sexual boredom and a decrease in sexual desire for one or both partners, because everyone wants to play <span style=\"color: black;\"><u>SAFE</u></span><span style=\"color: black;\">in the couple</span>. Safety is not what creates sexual desire and erotism. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Self-Validated Intimacy</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">This form of intimacy is hard and requires a lot of self-soothing. It only takes one partner to be this way for it to work. This type allows a person to be vulnerable in front of their partner, show who they actually are sexually; quirks, issues, weirdness and funkiness included, without looking for approval and validation from the other. People who are capable of self-validated intimacy know who they are and proud of themselves. In the face of rejection they are capable of self-soothing and accept the differences between them and their partner. When they have something difficult to say to their partner, they can deal with the reaction and the distance it causes. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">Rejecting or being rejected is difficult for everyone, especially when it comes from a partner. It is a part of us or them that is not loved. It forces us to face the fact that we are not entirely lovable, sexy or competent lovers in all regards. People who validate themselves from others on most aspects have a really hard time with rejection. When they need to reject or feel rejected on one element of who they are, they generalize it to their whole person. They lack the capacity to self-sooth and confront themselves. They don\'t perceive it as an opportunity to grow as a person, but as a threat to their identity.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>READ MORE  ON: <u>Sexual Intimacy &amp; Sexual Desire</u></b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Redefine your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality Part 1</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How Intimacy Affects Sexual Desire Part 3</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The 4 Points of Balance Part 4</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; 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text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Couple’s Communication Issues or Unable to Tolerate Intimacy?</a></span></span></span></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n\r\n<style type=\"text/css\">\r\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br />	/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />	   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br /></style>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"position: absolute; 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(62, 1, '2013-06-15 03:51:00', '2013-06-15 01:51:00', '&nbsp;\r\n<h4 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><b>Redefine Your Couple\'s Dynamic in Sexuality*</b></span></span></h4>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"CENTER\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Intimacy and its Multiple Definitions</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">The concept has been defined in a multitude of different ways. Sometimes, it is used to describe two or more people having sexual activities together (e.g. «My husband and I were having an intimate moment last night»). It can also refer to someones nudity or private sexual activities such as masturbation (e.g. «I need my intimacy when I am changing in my room». «Masturbation is an intimate moment with ourselves»). It can even refer to genitalia (e.g. «Those are my intimate parts»). </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">What all of these have in common is </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">self-disclosure </span></u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">or lack thereof. When we share a part of ourselves with another person we are self-disclosing who we are. There are various types and degrees of intimacy such as emotional, sexual, professional, etc. We can show our naked body, divulge sexual fantasies dreams preferences and also share our feelings towards another person. For most people, </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">sexual intimacy </span></u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">is the hardest subject to disclose to someone else. Our sexuality is at the core of our personality as it shows our deepest fears, our strengths and vulnerability to truly demonstrate who we are as a person. </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>What Intimacy is <u>NOT</u>!</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">There is a misconception in our society that intimacy is </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">always </span></u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">fun, romantic and loving between partners. This is untrue! The more we get to know our partner, we start realizing that they do not only have good qualities and strengths, but also limits, quirks, vulnerabilities, emotional issues and sexual issues, etc. As much as we would want to believe that we love each and every part of our partner, we don\'t. Well, not in a long term relationship anyway. In fact, in short-term relationships we can\'t really know our partner because we haven\'t been with them long enough. We project and imagine who this person is, without knowing who they truly are in </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">reality</span></u><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">. </span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">Over </span></span><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">the course of a relationship, people will change as well. We are not static and immobile as people. We think, we evolve and change our minds. We change our minds as a matter of fact quite frequently. Therefore, intimacy is not only sharing a special moment where partners connect on a </span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">positive </span></u><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">and </span></span><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">profound </span></u><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">level. It\'s also getting to know our partner on levels that we don\'t necessarily appreciate, agree with or that validate our own perception of sex. Intimacy is also telling our partner when sex wasn\'t that good or that we don\'t desire them sexually anymore or we don\'t appreciate the way they touch and seduce us. </span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Unavoidable Conflicts</b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\">It is inevitable that we will find differences in the long run between ourselves and our partner. Sometimes these differences are just annoying; we can also hate them, find them to be a nuisance which interferes with our happiness in the couple and even reconsider if we still want to be with this person. It\'s impossible to find a partner that we get along with on everything we share together. Our sexual preferences, the type of sex we want, our sexual fantasies, the way we flirt and initiate sex may not align perfectly with our partners sexuality. </span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">This will inevitably bring conflicts in our relationships, which brings us to the </span><span style=\"color: #0084d1;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">choice to go through or avoid it entirely.</a></span></span><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">This is where intimacy comes into play in couples. People who don\'t have a strong «</span><span style=\"color: #0084d1;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"background: transparent;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">4 points of balance</a></span></span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"><span style=\"background: transparent;\">» </span></span></u></span><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">will perceive differences as threats to the stability of their couple. Partners will start avoiding self-disclosure to prevent feelings of rejection from the other partner or avoid hurting them. </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<a style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 16pt; line-height: 24px;\" href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sex therapist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a><a style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\" href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">l</a>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>\r\n</b></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>READ MORE : </b></span></span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-part-2.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Two Very Different Types of Intimacy Part 2</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-3.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">How Intimacy Affects Sexual Desire Part 3</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/sexual-intimacy-sexual-desire-part-4.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The 4 Points of Balance Part 4</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>Other related articles:</b></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/03/why-its-hard-to-truly-commit-to-our.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Why It\'s Truly Hard to Commit to Our Relationships</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/06/emotional-gridlock.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Emotional Gridlock</a></u></span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><u><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2013/01/a-lack-of-sexual-desire-is-good-for.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">A Lack of Sexual Desire is Good for Your Couple!</a></span></span></span></u></span></span></div>\r\n<h3 style=\"font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-style: normal;\"><a href=\"http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2012/12/couples-communication-issues-or-unable.html\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Couple’s Communication Issues or Unable to Tolerate Intimacy?</a></span></span></span></span></span></h3>\r\n<div lang=\"en-US\" style=\"font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: xx-small;\">* Inspired by the book Intimacy and Desire from David Schnarch</span></div>\r\n<!-- Begin MailChimp Signup Form -->\r\n\r\n<style type=\"text/css\">\r\n	#mc_embed_signup{background:#fff; clear:left; font:14px Helvetica,Arial,sans-serif; }<br />	/* Add your own MailChimp form style overrides in your site stylesheet or in this style block.<br />	   We recommend moving this block and the preceding CSS link to the HEAD of your HTML file. */<br /></style>\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup\"><form id=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" class=\"validate\" action=\"//sexcoupletherapy.us8.list-manage.com/subscribe/post?u=b99a753a12fded994c86ffc1d&amp;id=fd88d57b31\" method=\"post\" name=\"mc-embedded-subscribe-form\" novalidate=\"\" target=\"_blank\">\r\n<div id=\"mc_embed_signup_scroll\">\r\n<h2>Subscribe to our mailing list</h2>\r\n<div class=\"indicates-required\"><span class=\"asterisk\">*</span> indicates required</div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-EMAIL\">Email Address <span class=\"asterisk\">*</span>\r\n</label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-EMAIL\" class=\"required email\" name=\"EMAIL\" type=\"email\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-FNAME\">First Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-FNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"FNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div class=\"mc-field-group\"><label for=\"mce-LNAME\">Last Name </label>\r\n<input id=\"mce-LNAME\" class=\"\" name=\"LNAME\" type=\"text\" value=\"\" /></div>\r\n<div id=\"mce-responses\" class=\"clear\"></div>\r\n<!-- real people should not fill this in and expect good things - do not remove this or risk form bot signups-->\r\n<div style=\"position: absolute; 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(63, 1, '2013-03-27 22:11:00', '2013-03-27 21:11:00', '&nbsp;\r\n<h1 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #6fa8dc;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">How our Inevitable </span></span></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><b>Fear of Life </b></span></span></span><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: large;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">prevents us from commitment</span></span></span></span></span></h1>\r\n<div><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\">\r\n</b>\r\n<h3><b style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: large;\">Commitment &amp; Intimacy</b></h3>\r\n</div>\r\n<div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">Commitment in a relationship is not just hard for men, it is for everyone. When I say commitment, I\'m not just talking about getting married, being in a monogamous relationship, buying a house, having a dog and kids together. It has to do with commitment to yourself and to </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>life </b></span></span><span style=\"color: black; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif; font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">itself. It\'s being intimate with your partner on a profound level that few people achieve, yet everyone has the capacity.</span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> Whether your Christian, Muslim, Jewish, Buddhist, Atheist or Agnostic and you\'ve read the Bible or the Qu r’an a hundred times or that you believe in reincarnation or none of the above. No one REALLY knows for a fact what happens when we die. You can believe all you want, but you\'ll never be able to be 100% sure of the outcome. The only thing we are actually sure of is that we are born, we live and then we die. That is one of the reasons that people are afraid of </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">truly </span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">living. </span></span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\">Fear of Life</span></span></b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> True commitment to life is investing your entire self to making the most of the few years we have on Earth. It\'s feeling joy, sadness, anger, passion, love, having a good taste of what life has to offer us. You could think that it\'s an easy task to achieve for most, but think again. Since we only have one life to live that we are sure of, we could imagine that we would all want to be happy and enjoy it to the fullest. What most people don\'t want to admit in enjoying life to its fullest is that it comes with a huge risk...</span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">you lose it all </span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">when death comes knocking at your door. That\'s a hard feat for anyone to accept and go through. </span></span></span></span></span>\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\r\n</span></span></span></span></span>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\r\n</span></span></span></span></span>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-e4uXLJHSc70/UVNZA_H4_vI/AAAAAAAAAGo/J-F1fb-kAVI/s1600/557333_10152091522870015_18081991_n.jpg\"><img src=\"http://3.bp.blogspot.com/-e4uXLJHSc70/UVNZA_H4_vI/AAAAAAAAAGo/J-F1fb-kAVI/s320/557333_10152091522870015_18081991_n.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"240\" border=\"0\" /></a></div>\r\n<span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">\r\n</span></span></span></span></span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\">Commitment to your partner</span></span></b></span></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> What does commitment to your partner have to do with death or our fear of life? Commitment to a relationship is putting effort and hard work into building something with that person. These «  team projects  » that you co-create with your lover bring lots of joy, sometimes disappointments and at the end you feel a sense of accomplishment. You grow closer, more intimate and your feelings deepen for one another. The love you have for yourself, your partner and potentially your kids create a sense of fulfilment. Knowing that you may never know or feel that sensation again can be quite scary. It\'s quite understandable not to want to lose such a thing, </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">so better to never have it at all</span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">. Therefore, people escape from commitment to a partner not so much because of the hardships it sometimes entails, but of the happiness it can make us feel. </span></span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><b>How can I overcome this?</b></span></span></span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: bold; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\"> Some may want to know how you get passed your fear of life and commit to yourself, your partner and life! Unfortunately, there is no easy answer, because we all have to go through and passed our anxiety of death in our own way. Each of us has </span></span></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><u><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">chosen </span></u></span><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: none;\"><span style=\"font-weight: normal;\">a path to take and we have to live with the good and the bad of each of the situations.</span></span></span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\">\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; font-weight: normal; margin-bottom: 0cm; text-decoration: none;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: medium;\"> </span></span></span></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-family: Times;\"><a style=\"margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;\" href=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-2ADTVyZkc7Q/UVNZGcQGBjI/AAAAAAAAAG0/uL2iXRxLPYU/s1600/428164_10150743830001800_515151799_11579975_441050559_n.jpg\"><img src=\"http://4.bp.blogspot.com/-2ADTVyZkc7Q/UVNZGcQGBjI/AAAAAAAAAG0/uL2iXRxLPYU/s320/428164_10150743830001800_515151799_11579975_441050559_n.jpg\" width=\"320\" height=\"243\" border=\"0\" /></a></span></span></span>\r\n<span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">\r\n</span></span>\r\n\r\n<hr />\r\n\r\n<span style=\"color: black;\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">\r\n</span></span>\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"font-size: 21px; 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(64, 1, '2013-02-17 16:26:00', '2013-02-17 15:26:00', '<h4><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">with \"bang with your friends\"?</span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"> </span></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">What is it?</span></h3>\r\n<div><!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt;   Normal  0  0  1  586  3343  27  6  4105  11.1282     &lt;![endif]--><!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt;   0      0  0   &lt;![endif]--> <!--StartFragment-->\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">Social networks are part of our everyday activities in today\'s world. There are a number of ways we can meet new people, find a lover, go on dates or even find someone to have sex with. Another one of these came out lately and it is called \'<a href=\"http://www.bangwithfriends.com/\">\'Bang with your friends\'\'</a>. This tool allows you to <i><u>secretly</u></i></span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"> choose which of your friends on Facebook you would like to have sex with. If you end up with a match, then you are both advised of your sexual desire towards each other and it\'s up to you to choose to go through with it or not. How good or how bad of an idea is this new social (sexual) network tool?</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"> </span></div>\r\n<h3><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">Why use it?</span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">The first thing that can come to mind is that this is a great tool for people who are too shy to seduce some of their friends out of fear of rejection and potentially losing the friendship. It also allows fuelling our curiosity by finally confirming who secretly fantasizes about us in our social circle. Have you ever had doubts about someone wanting you sexually, but were never able to actually confirm your suspicions? Well, now you can with this tool. What could potentially go wrong with two consenting adults who have mutual sexual desire for each and end up finding out with \'\'Bang with your friends\'\'? Is it really different than having a one-night stand with a complete stranger we picked up at a bar. Some would even consider it better since you at least have some history with this person. Who knows, it might actually blossom into a full-blown romantic relationship. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3>What you need to consider before using it?</h3>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">Advantages aside, what are the underlying complications and considerations of using such a service? First off, you’re inevitably changing the dynamic of the relationship from friendship to friends with benefits, commonly know as \'\'fuck friends\'\'. Sharing a sexual experience with someone requires some form of intimacy that was not present in the previous dynamic. When you add sex to the mix, you’re getting to know your friend in a whole different way. Sexuality is for most people where their insecurities come out the most. Our sense of femininity and masculinity, body image, sexual performance, emotions, love, sexual fantasies, and much more all come into play when you literally and figuratively get naked with someone. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">There are many elements that need to be thought about when using this new service, that is so readily accessible. It\'s important to think about the reasons your using it. Are you looking for someone you just want to have sex with or a long-term relationship with a friend? How will this change the relationship? What is the other person looking for? How will each of you react when one of you gets another partner? How do you terminate this relationship and go back to being friends? </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">On another note, what drives people to use this service rather than trying their chances by sexually seducing the people they desire? Besides the fact that this is done behind closed doors and if the person doesn\'t share the same sexual desire you don\'t have to feel the rejection. But then again, you still get to feel it, because you didn\'t get a match. Therefore, you suffer in silence and you get to avoid the embarrassment. What do you do, if you do get a positive response, but you don\'t necessarily have the guts to actually go forward with it anymore?</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3>Short term vs. long term</h3>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">Such as it was stated earlier, this is great tool for people who have a hard time seducing, because they don\'t need to go through it all with this service. Then again, is it really helping them in the long run? If someone has a hard time with the risks that flirting always entails, how will they ever learn to cope with real time rejection, which no one can avoid in the dating scene. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">\'\'Bang with your friends\'\' has some advantages, but it also has its inconveniences that are more long term. Taking the time to reflect on the use of such a tool is a must before you start changing some of your friendship dynamics. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sexologist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<!--EndFragment--></div>', 'Would you have sex with your friends', '', 'publish', 'open', 'open', '', 'would-you-have-sex-with-your-friends', '', '', '2017-10-20 03:02:56', '2017-10-20 01:02:56', '', 0, 'http://sexcoupletherapy.agence360.co/2013/02/would-you-have-sex-with-your-friends.html', 0, 'post', '', 0),
(420, 2, '2017-10-20 03:02:56', '2017-10-20 01:02:56', '<h4><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">with \"bang with your friends\"?</span></h4>\r\n<div><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"> </span></div>\r\n<h3><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\">What is it?</span></h3>\r\n<div><!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt;   Normal  0  0  1  586  3343  27  6  4105  11.1282     &lt;![endif]--><!-- [if gte mso 9]&gt;   0      0  0   &lt;![endif]--> <!--StartFragment-->\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">Social networks are part of our everyday activities in today\'s world. There are a number of ways we can meet new people, find a lover, go on dates or even find someone to have sex with. Another one of these came out lately and it is called \'<a href=\"http://www.bangwithfriends.com/\">\'Bang with your friends\'\'</a>. This tool allows you to <i><u>secretly</u></i></span><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"> choose which of your friends on Facebook you would like to have sex with. If you end up with a match, then you are both advised of your sexual desire towards each other and it\'s up to you to choose to go through with it or not. How good or how bad of an idea is this new social (sexual) network tool?</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"> </span></div>\r\n<h3><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">Why use it?</span></h3>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">The first thing that can come to mind is that this is a great tool for people who are too shy to seduce some of their friends out of fear of rejection and potentially losing the friendship. It also allows fuelling our curiosity by finally confirming who secretly fantasizes about us in our social circle. Have you ever had doubts about someone wanting you sexually, but were never able to actually confirm your suspicions? Well, now you can with this tool. What could potentially go wrong with two consenting adults who have mutual sexual desire for each and end up finding out with \'\'Bang with your friends\'\'? Is it really different than having a one-night stand with a complete stranger we picked up at a bar. Some would even consider it better since you at least have some history with this person. Who knows, it might actually blossom into a full-blown romantic relationship. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3>What you need to consider before using it?</h3>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">Advantages aside, what are the underlying complications and considerations of using such a service? First off, you’re inevitably changing the dynamic of the relationship from friendship to friends with benefits, commonly know as \'\'fuck friends\'\'. Sharing a sexual experience with someone requires some form of intimacy that was not present in the previous dynamic. When you add sex to the mix, you’re getting to know your friend in a whole different way. Sexuality is for most people where their insecurities come out the most. Our sense of femininity and masculinity, body image, sexual performance, emotions, love, sexual fantasies, and much more all come into play when you literally and figuratively get naked with someone. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">There are many elements that need to be thought about when using this new service, that is so readily accessible. It\'s important to think about the reasons your using it. Are you looking for someone you just want to have sex with or a long-term relationship with a friend? How will this change the relationship? What is the other person looking for? How will each of you react when one of you gets another partner? How do you terminate this relationship and go back to being friends? </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"clear: both; text-align: center;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\"> </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">On another note, what drives people to use this service rather than trying their chances by sexually seducing the people they desire? Besides the fact that this is done behind closed doors and if the person doesn\'t share the same sexual desire you don\'t have to feel the rejection. But then again, you still get to feel it, because you didn\'t get a match. Therefore, you suffer in silence and you get to avoid the embarrassment. What do you do, if you do get a positive response, but you don\'t necessarily have the guts to actually go forward with it anymore?</span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<h3>Short term vs. long term</h3>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">Such as it was stated earlier, this is great tool for people who have a hard time seducing, because they don\'t need to go through it all with this service. Then again, is it really helping them in the long run? If someone has a hard time with the risks that flirting always entails, how will they ever learn to cope with real time rejection, which no one can avoid in the dating scene. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"><span lang=\"EN-CA\" style=\"font-family: Verdana;\">\'\'Bang with your friends\'\' has some advantages, but it also has its inconveniences that are more long term. Taking the time to reflect on the use of such a tool is a must before you start changing some of your friendship dynamics. </span></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\">\r\n\r\n\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\">\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\">Francois Renaud M.A.</span></span></div>\r\n<div lang=\"en-CA\" style=\"line-height: 24px; margin-bottom: 0cm;\" align=\"JUSTIFY\"><span style=\"font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;\"><span style=\"font-size: 16pt;\"><a href=\"http://www.sexcoupletherapy.com/\">Sexologist &amp; Psychotherapist Montreal</a></span></span></div>\r\n</div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"margin-bottom: 0in; text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<div style=\"text-align: justify;\"></div>\r\n<!--EndFragment--></div>', 'Would you have sex with your friends', '', 'inherit', 'closed', 'closed', '', '64-revision-v1', '', '', '2017-10-20 03:02:56', '2017-10-20 01:02:56', '', 64, 'http://montreal.sexcoupletherapy.com/2017/10/64-revision-v1.html', 0, 'revision', '', 0);
